He's calling me less often, and I'm not feeling the connection
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and he has started calling me less and it's driving me crazy! It began during my exam period (it's been 2 months now). He claims he was giving me space to do my own thing and that he's busy too...
A. 16 June 2011: "Just to clarify, yes, I have been acting rather needy and take responsibility for that"
You really answered your own question.
You are bf and gf. You are not conjoined twins.
Relationships DO shift. You have been together almost a whole ... (read in full...)
Confused about someone I'm beginning to like
Q. Greetings dear cupid, i am a male and 20 years old. I am very confused about someone i am beginning to like. The other problem is i have a girlfriend as well. It all began when my sister got back in contact with her old childhood best friend n...
A. 16 June 2011: I would not break up with your current gf just because you have nice feelings for another girl.
You have TWO seperate issues here.
You break up with a gf when the relationship is not healthy and can not be fixed.
If you are really con... (read in full...)
Is my conscience is telling me to do something about my crush?
Q. For the past few weeks, I suddenly developed a crush on my class mate. I am especially attracted to his personality and how we share the same interests. This may sound out of the ordinary, but what made me notice him at first when we first met was...
A. 16 June 2011: Many people believe dreams are our conscience revealing desires and fears.
It sounds like a pleasant dream. How are things in reality? Have you spent time talking to him? Have you invited him for a meal or some entertainment?
Spend time wi... (read in full...)
He gets horny over my baby bump. Is this normal?
Q. hey. i am 4 months pregnant. i have been with my boyfriend for 12 months, however it is not his baby. he knows, he's accepted it (i think) and he forgave me for cheating on him. anyway, now i am starting to get a bump. this seems to send my boyfr...
A. 16 June 2011: I was not disturbed UNTIL you noted that he mentions the baby as PART of the sexual act/high.
Many men DO find the pregnant form arousing. Many are excited by the fact you had sex to get in that state and feel pregnant women are just sexy creature... (read in full...)
BF upset younger sister is having a baby. Anything I can say to help?
Q. Well I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 38. Yes I know it's a big age difference but we've been together for over a year and a half and he is the love of my life. He has an older sister, a younger sister and an older brother. Obviously his older siblings ...
A. 16 June 2011: He's upset because he's 38, never been married and has no children.
Well, he can not go back in time and make different choices and unless YOU are ready to make that commitment now, he can not move forward.
So, maybe he should let go of it (no... (read in full...)
Crush "technically single." What does this mean?
Q. There's this guy who I really like , thing is I fell for him before realizing he was taken.. He never spoke about his gf in group conversations or never hinted he was taken .. I've recently became his friend on fb and we chat sometimes about ...
A. 16 June 2011: It means the same as "Technically NOT available".
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
How do I help my fiance's wild sister?
Q. I need some advice, i don't know how to help this girl! I have known my fiance's little sister since she was 12. I am 20 now, and she is 16. Shes very wild, rude, and out of control. I have always been there for her, she comes to me for advice, ...
A. 16 June 2011: Call the police department and report her. Give them her parents names. In the US,depending on the state, the parents can be held responsible for their minor daughters issues.
You can also called CHILD PROTECTION SERVICES because her parents ... (read in full...)
Husband ignored me either on purpose or accidentally and refuses to take any blame for it
Q. My husband and I are at odds. He is very secure. He has led a life like James Bond while I raised his two children in a small town. He has recently connected emotionally/physically with his love in 2010 from 50 years as I passively watched it ...
A. 16 June 2011: I see something a little different.
Up until that event, you were happy and secure with your marriage, right?
I can understand how much it would be to be hurt/ignored, but as you mentioned you witnessed this passively. You could have stepped... (read in full...)
Is it possible that professionals cannot diagnose ED?
Q. Is it really possible not be able to diagnose, cause of sexual dysfunction by professionals? They say,they dont know... How common is that, that you go to the doctors and they say, well I don't know why do you have this problem. I have a longstand...
A. 16 June 2011: I work in the medical environment and know that Doctors can only look for something physical to cause ED.
Have you seen a SPECIALIST such as a UROLOGIST?
Are you in good health otherwise?
Talking to your wife about your concerns is THOUGHTF... (read in full...)
What should I do, husband doesn't want to give me any money
Q. I got married 2 months ago with this guy and we have a 2 month old baby. I was working for the last 5 years.He told me to stop working to take care of the baby. I spent my time cooped up in the house taking care of the baby, cooking, cleaning. He ...
A. 16 June 2011: Sophie, since you baby is so young, it is possible that you could be feeling some postpartum depression. If possible, talk to your Dr. about the signs.
You are in a very difficult decision, but what he is offering is far from equality. So, your... (read in full...)
What should I do, husband doesn't want to give me any money
Q. I got married 2 months ago with this guy and we have a 2 month old baby. I was working for the last 5 years.He told me to stop working to take care of the baby. I spent my time cooped up in the house taking care of the baby, cooking, cleaning. He ...
A. 15 June 2011: It sounds like you got married to someone without really knowing him.
There are different kinds of abuse. Witholding information and access to a joint account for necessities as a married couple is a form of abuse. He is controlling you.
... (read in full...)
How do you know if your boyfriend's ex is trying to get him back?
Q. how do you know if your boyfriends ex is trying to get him back?he always tells me when she has contacted him,and what they talked about.he said its never about them or love,just casual conversation.but-why is it important to have her in his ...
A. 15 June 2011: Do not be concerned with what SHE does. Be focused on HIS ACTIONS. Do you TRUST HIM?
Your greatest fears may be worse than the facts.
You are reacting to what "could" happen that reality. If you worry too much about their friendship-y... (read in full...)
My first date happens to be at a graduation ball. Any advice on what to wear etc?
Q. Okay I recently met this girl and our 1st date is on the 21st. I've been on several first dates before but this is no ordinary first date. Actually its the oddest first date I or anyone I know has experienced. Its her debs graduation ball....
A. 15 June 2011: Different Schools have different dress standards.
Ask your date if it is Formal. In most cases, a nice suit will do. If you get a corsage, go with a wrist corsage in WHITE. If you find out what color she is wearing to the Ball you can coor... (read in full...)
Still living with my ex, and have met someone new. Should I have sex with him? Will I regret it?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 6 years have split up but we are currently still living together as I dont want to chuck him out as we have a son, he is moving out in the next month. I love him with all my heart but, It wasnt working as he has anger issues ...
A. 15 June 2011: Have you and your ex ever TALKED about dating other people WHILE in your living arrangement?
No, you do not have to have sex with someone on the first date. It is NOT just up to him. What concerns me is that this sounds like a first meet and... (read in full...)
I found out he was married after 3 years, he thinks I will take him back! How do I make him see its over?
Q. I split from my ex a while back now because I suddenly had my eyes opened to what a nasty horrible dispicable selfish personn he is-found out after 3 years he is married amongst hundreds of other twisted lies. If I'm honest, I'm not sure if I'm over...
A. 15 June 2011: First, HUGS that you are hurting over this betrayal.
Good for you for doing the right thing and walking away from that deceitful mess.
You are going to HAVE to get the strength to file a police report if he continues the harrassment. It... (read in full...)
I left my wife for her and now she won't even respond to my calls!
Q. Recently I have been the one having the affair and it lasted 2 and a half years. The person in question is 15 years younger than me. She asked me so many times to leave my partner and child. I was unhappy at home but found it very difficult to leave ...
A. 15 June 2011: Wait, let me get this straight. You are upset at someone who made a pseudo committment to you, made plans for the future...because they had second thoughts and left you?
Kettle meet Pot. Pot meet Kettle. I believe you have the same surname ... (read in full...)
Is he not interested in me anymore? Does he really want to leave me?
Q. He's liked me for 6 months already. He once asked me to be his girlfriend. But I was not ready and I need to think carefully, I asked him to wait for me in 1 month. Actually I fell for him already, I'm just not ready for a relationship, to be called ...
A. 15 June 2011: Ask yourself this question, are you better off with or WITHOUT this man as your love interest?
If you KNOW you would be better off..tell him.
... (read in full...)
Love triangle with two brothers.......
Q. Not sure how to proceed. Two brothers, both my best friends. They didn't get along but for me, they would not fight so we could hang out together. We're all very laidback and flirty, always great times. About 9 months ago, the oldest brother and ...
A. 14 June 2011: Unfortunately, BLOOD is thicker than a chat log.
If you know there was no cybering, then you KNOW they are faked.
You really can not proove or convince anyone of anything. Their relationship will come before yours, even if the older brothe... (read in full...)
How do I know if I still love him, after all we've been through?
Q. How do I know if I still love him? I've been with my current boyfriend for just over two years. It's been rough, with him moving out of state for school, coming home breaking up with me, going back to school, and comeing home and getting back ...
A. 14 June 2011: It sounds like you were more in love with the IDEA/FANTASY of a relationship than the reality of it.
Now you have discovered you are not that compatible.
Relationships are NOT always going to be fun, they DO take work. Moving in together does... (read in full...)
Getting seriously mixed signals. What is up?
Q. Alright guys. I have a boyfriendish thing. We're currently on it's complicated. But this isn't about him. It's about one of my guy friends.. So we met at work. We hung out once and he ended up getting me to smoke weed for the first time with him...
A. 14 June 2011: Affection does not always equal relationship.
He LIKES you and he has made that clear. But, not ENOUGH to be your boyfriend.
Since he was jealous of the f*ck buddy, maybe he was hoping to be your "no strings attached" FWB?
If you want a r... (read in full...)
Multiple orgasms must be amazing - WHY don't women want to have sex all day?
Q. Ever since I was with my first "serious" girlfriend, I've envied womens' ability to have multiple orgasms. When she got going, she'd have one after another with only a few seconds (if that) in between for a couple minutes, I'd have my one "little" ...
A. 14 June 2011: *LAUGHING HYSTERICALLY
Every woman is different, but multiples are rare for most women.
Some women are Anaorgasmic (can feel pleasure, but not the peak and letdown). Some women can not at all.
Maybe the powers that be that designed us... (read in full...)
Will lube help?
Q. Hey there. So I've had sex before--several times. With a handful of different partners. My current partner and I have been struggling though. I often have to stop early and am sore afterward. He is very well endowed and it's getting hard. I ...
A. 14 June 2011: Yep, get one specifically for sexual intimacy. Look for ones that are silicone based which are longer lasting. One of the long lasting brands is called "WET".
Read the instructions, but you want to put it on HIM and where ever you feel sore fro... (read in full...)
Why did he lie to me about breaking up with her?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for like eight months. He has had a girlfriend for the whole time at first we weer just friends but then we started hanging out and flirting.he kept telling me that hé was going to break up with her. A little whilee ago ...
A. 14 June 2011: He has been CHEATING on his gf WITH YOU. So, he has been dishonest to his GF about where is heart has been.
If he can lie to her, his actual GF, then he can certainly lie to you about the status of THAT relationship.
Remember, if he can sneak ... (read in full...)
How can I rebuild my trust with her after I know she's cheated on me?
Q. Ok so I confronted my girlfriend about everything she's been doing and all her lies. She told me everything. She spilled her guts and now I know everything. I have a new issue that I would like help with..How can I rebuild my trust with her after I ...
A. 14 June 2011: There is no fast track to trust. You need TIME and she needs to be consistant in her faithful behavior and choices.
You need to be able to forgive her for the past and not punish her for what she has done.
There are going to be good days and... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years doesn't want to tell the mother of his children that I exist.
Q. My bf of 3 years will not tell the mother of his children that I exist. I find it very disrespectful. I'm on the verge of leaving, we only argue about this, the rest of the relationship is good, how can I explain how hurtful this is without ...
A. 14 June 2011: Added comment: Others have commented on something important. After there years of being involved with you it sounds like a committed realationship but he has not introduced you to the kids.
I would be asking HIM if he ever intends for you to m... (read in full...)
This time around, I want him to crawl back!
Q. Is there still hope that my ex and I will get back together even though its been almost 3 weeks? He has broken up with me so many times like every month for the past year or more! We have been together for 2 years! The first week of the break up I ...
A. 14 June 2011: Lacy, I think the point is that NO ONE can tell you IF he will come back OTHER than him.... (read in full...)
Trying to come to terms with being 3 months pregnant and getting hate texts from the father and his wife.
Q. i started meetin a fellow which i taught to be very nice. was seeing him for about two months when he told my sister that he would like to get me pregnant but for as i have 3 kids myself i felt like i had my lot and was in no way interested in havin ...
A. 14 June 2011: While I feel the Father of the baby and His wife said some very cruel and hurtful things...there is YOUR part bringing this on yourself dear.
You KNEW you were fooling around with a MARRIED MAN.
You did not want more children, but did not take... (read in full...)
Am I being too needy? Seems I initiate everything. He cancels dates. It unsettles me.
Q. I have been dating this guy for 2 months and we have just became a couple. It wasn't discussed we just have such a connection. Which is what drew him to approach me in the first place. He has 3 kids and a ex and its recent. Hes writing a book and ...
A. 14 June 2011: You might have better QUALITY time if you backed off on the all the frequency.
He does not need to contact you more, he already sees you and talks to you all week. You do all the work for him.
If he is in the middle of chaos and is tired a l... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she reply to a text or a facebook message? She talks to me in person!
Q. So, there's this girl I like. When she sees me at a party she'll come talk to me and give me a hug without me even attempting to talk to her, but if I text her or send her a message on Facebook she hardly ever replies. I can't figure out why she'd ...
A. 14 June 2011: Let it go. Facebook is a social network, not a social obligation. She respects you by keeping her responses REAL.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's daughter despises the fact that I moved in without consultation by her mother!
Q. I am 34 years old and my girlfriend is 48. She has 15 year old daughter that despises the fact that I moved in before my girlfriend consulted her daughter. Any advice to lighten the load?...
A. 14 June 2011: Since you and your gf already moved in, you are going to have to be a united team on APOLOGIZING to the daughter.
Mom was in the wrong for NOT notifying her daughter. It is not asking permission, but she did have a right to know BEFORE you move... (read in full...)
Why do I fall in love with every woman who shows me the least bit of attention?
Q. Hi im a 19y.o male. I have a question that may seem odd, but this has been on my mind for a while. to quote "eternal sunshine of the spotless mind" why do i fall in love with every woman who shows me the LEAST bit attention? I find this happening ...
A. 14 June 2011: Because attention makes us feel good.
How about coming up with standards for yourself that retrain your brain to what a real potential relationship is and what mere flirting is?
Flirting is excercise for the brain. No harm done. People do... (read in full...)
Sexy photos of me in a frame or on a t-shirt as a gift? Any low budget date ideas?
Q. would it be okay as a gift for my boyfriend of 9months to get some sexy photos done of me and either give him one really nice one in a frame or maybe get it printed on a tshirt or something? Does this sound like a good idea? If not what else might ...
A. 14 June 2011: Someone already mentioned it, but no sexy pics! Those can be used against you if the relationship does not work.
Many cities have free outdoor concerts, street festivals, etc....grab a homemade picnic and go out for a walk to a park with his favo... (read in full...)
My ex left abruptly, then completely shut me out. How do I get over him without any explanation or closure?
Q. How do you get over your ex and stop thinking about him? It is especially hard since he completely shut me out of his life and left abruptly with no contact. When I do try to contact him he doesn't pick up or respond to me. I'm not sure how to get ...
A. 14 June 2011: So sorry about this, it is by far one of the most abusive things a person can do.
You may not get answers, but you CAN take lessons from this.
First, share with a trusted friend, a family member, a clery member, a counselor, whom ever you ca... (read in full...)
Why did he text me wanting to meet up, after not hearing from him for weeks?
Q. There was this guy that i met one evening and he was such a gentlemen and one of the most decent guys i've met on a night out! He didn't grope me, put his hands on me or invade my personal space.. He was respectful and really funny! Anyways i did ...
A. 14 June 2011: Do not get your hopes up. I would ignore it. If he wants to talk with you, he should call and ask you on a proper date.
Last minute,"hey what you doing now?" texts are NON invites.
Texts are so "safe" for people nowadays, I really am supris... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years doesn't want to tell the mother of his children that I exist.
Q. My bf of 3 years will not tell the mother of his children that I exist. I find it very disrespectful. I'm on the verge of leaving, we only argue about this, the rest of the relationship is good, how can I explain how hurtful this is without ...
A. 14 June 2011: Why would she need to know you exist? Are you spending any time with her/his children?
If you have not been around the kids and do not plan to be...what is the issue? ... (read in full...)
I was giving my husband a blow job and my son walked in on us!!
Q. So.. I was having a rather pleasant time pleasuring my man... yes BJ ... we have been together 20 years - married for 14 and have 2 young children.. 2 and 5 yrs. We had not closed our door as we tend not too because we can generally hear o...
A. 14 June 2011: Step One...Do not Bring up the incident.
Step Two...If they ask, you were having Mommy and Daddy Time. Say no more.
Step Three...get a LOCK for your door and use it.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
This time around, I want him to crawl back!
Q. Is there still hope that my ex and I will get back together even though its been almost 3 weeks? He has broken up with me so many times like every month for the past year or more! We have been together for 2 years! The first week of the break up I ...
A. 14 June 2011: Well, since I do not have a crystal ball....
DO you want him to come back because you REALLY miss him and love him? Why do you WANT this person to come back?
... (read in full...)
I'm worried my girl doesn't care about me. I don't want her to dump me! I don't know what to do!
Q. I've been going out with this girl for 7 months and she still doesn't seem to care about me when I talk to her she doesn't seem to even take any notice and she's never out lately I don't know if it's me or there's something wrong I just want to sort ...
A. 14 June 2011: You can not make someone love you. Giving her a Green Dolphin was sweet and thoughtful, but that does not cause love or appreciation.
The only way you are going to get answers about what she is thinking or what she wants is if you ask her.
... (read in full...)
Will the move help me get over my teacher?
Q. I live in a city where almost everyone dreams of making it out. It's not exactly the best environment to grow up in but I did. Almost six years ago, while attending an all girls academy, I fell for someone who I thought would never mean as much to ...
A. 13 June 2011: Your teachers response was not cold. It was PROFESSIONAL to remove any emotion or trace that his feelings could be returned.
Darling, he is MARRIED and UNAVAILABLE. If you are still obsessed on him, figure out what charachterics drew you to h... (read in full...)
This time around, I want him to crawl back!
Q. Is there still hope that my ex and I will get back together even though its been almost 3 weeks? He has broken up with me so many times like every month for the past year or more! We have been together for 2 years! The first week of the break up I ...
A. 13 June 2011: Leave him alone and go occupy yourself with your own life.
Sometimes we get used to the unproductive drama of our own lives.
It is called a break up because something is broken.
If you ask yourself ONE question it should be
"What I really... (read in full...)
I suspect he's being used for money and I'm really worried about him!
Q. I don't understand what I've done wrong. I'm close friends with a guy an the other day he asked me to send an email for him which i did. I saw another which I shouldn't have and I basically got the idea that hes being played by a girl from the ...
A. 13 June 2011: Well, first of all, it is none of your business.
He is an adult, you already questioned him about it, and he denies it.
Let him deal with his own life. If he is truly being played, then he has to live with the consequences of it.
It is sad... (read in full...)
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