Is it normal for a man in his forties to have a sex drive this high?
Q. Is it normal for men to have the same sex drive in their forties that they experienced in their twenties? I'm in my mid forties involved with a lovely woman who commented about my high sex drive and being very sexual, but not in a vulgar, ...
A. 31 July 2011: Hmm, I wonder if you afraid if you lock yourself into a marriage/solid commitment you would feel panicked if the sex died down. Flirting is fine, but if you are seeking out the "sex potential" while you are in a monagamous relationship..it becomes ... (read in full...)
How can I improve my attention span when studying?
Q. I can't be attentive in my study.when i start studying i frequently lose my attention.after reading for so many times i forget what i read the previous day.how can i complete my studies in due time with proper attention? ...
A. 29 July 2011: In addition to the awesome advice Chigirl gave!
*Keep a small notebook to write down words or concepts you are familiar with to research later.
In my studies, I would get easily distrated with info that was "sandwiched" in other paragraphs... (read in full...)
Depressed boyfriend now he has quit drinking and I'm not sure how to help him.....
Q. Hi. My boyfriend recently quit drinking, about 2 weeks ago. Since then it’s been an up-down rollercoaster with him, and I just don’t know how to help him. He’s been depressed, irritable, overall moody. And since most of his friends drink, it’s been ...
A. 29 July 2011: He was probably ALWAYS depressed, but the booze just helped him cope better with it. Drinking is a way to detach from your environment, your feelings, your sad thoughts.
Now that his glass is empty, he has to THINK on the stuff that has been cov... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man in his forties to have a sex drive this high?
Q. Is it normal for men to have the same sex drive in their forties that they experienced in their twenties? I'm in my mid forties involved with a lovely woman who commented about my high sex drive and being very sexual, but not in a vulgar, ...
A. 29 July 2011: Sex drives come in ALL shapes and sizes. It is only normal to have one!
So, if your partner is ok with the level of affection you seek and give...what was the question again?
Will you ever get past the phase? The sexual phase in a relat... (read in full...)
Should I feel ok about my fiance telling me to put on some weight?
Q. should i feel ok about my fiance telling me to put on some weight and try do something about it or should i let her deal with my nature of being skinny? really like her but being under lot of pressure by her. is it right that skinny and not skinny ...
A. 29 July 2011: Have you been to a Doctor or some other health related professional to discuss your weight with? Do YOU feel you are underweight?
If you are naturally very thin, and not doing anything obsessive to stay so slim, then he needs to accept you just... (read in full...)
How come it's much harder for a man to to find someone to cheat with?
Q. Statistics show that the number of both attached men and women that cheat on their significant other are about equal. If this is true, how come it's much harder for a man to meet a woman to cheat with than it is for a woman to find a man to do the ...
A. 29 July 2011: Laughs. DO you have a link on these "statistics"?
I agree with person12345, most people do not decide "I think I will go shopping for someone to cheat with today. Oh darn, the store is closed."
Cheating happens BECAUSE opportunity pres... (read in full...)
Is he finally realising what he lost or is the jealous dog coming out?
Q. Its been three months since we broke up, maybe more, which is a good sign since i stopped counting the days. I feel im at that point where, yes im thinking about them still, but they aren't my only thought. So i began to move on, i have been gettin...
A. 29 July 2011: That sounds like one big, dysfunctional relationship.
Leave it alone and leave it behind you. ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty for lying so much to my ex, help me get rid of this guilt
Q. My girlfriend dumped me one year ago. We remained together for two years. It was long distance relationship with occasional meeting here and there. When I looked back into that relationship, I felt guilty and ashamed for lying with her about my job ...
A. 29 July 2011: All you can do is apologize to her, not expecting anything from her, and NOW leading your life with honesty and integrity.
... (read in full...)
I'm 33.....time to be an adult! Any ideas?
Q. Ok. I'm a 33 yr old male. I have no children. I currently am single. Here's what I have learned about myself in the past 6 months after the woman of my dreams walked all over me. I was 23 and thought to myself there has to be more enjoyment in life ...
A. 29 July 2011: I am wondering what your idea of stress is, since you work in a stressful field:)
Have you lacked a social life? How about plugging into some social groups in your church? How about signing up for a Christian dating site and seeing who you meet... (read in full...)
Should I stay in this relationship even if it is only for friendship and the occasional hookup? Do my son and his father need to know about him?
Q. I am a 43 y.o. woman divorced for about 4 months. I started seeing a guy in January, but it has been an on and off dating thing. He has potential, but I don't feel like getting into a strongly committed relationship yet. We date, go out, have sex ...
A. 29 July 2011: Hi there, well I am a 42 yr old single, divorced Mom of two teenagers.
I have a few rules for myself when it comes to dating.
*I do not introduce my kids to a man-unless he is a SERIOUS bf. (Committed, Monagamous relationship) S... (read in full...)
My lover and me are both trapped in loveless marriages and are hopelessly in love with each other...and now I think I'm pregnant with his baby
Q. Hi, I was wondering if I could get advice any would be appreciated. Where to start... I have been with my current Partner since I was 18 years old we met in college. We became best friends and fell in love we know we are soul mates... this i...
A. 29 July 2011: Secrets will be revealed eventually.
So, if you are pregnant, you are going to pass the baby off as your husbands even if you do not know for sure.
Women have tried this since the beginning of time. Some succeed, some fail.
Most fail to ke... (read in full...)
I feel that I'm taken for granted and undervalued. My boyfriend has all the benefits whilst I don't get the one promise that I want!
Q. Hi everyone, please help! When i first met my bf he seemed so overwhelmed with love - as is typical i expect. Anyway over three years on, been living together for two +, he has waivered between talking like he wants to marry and have kids and acti...
A. 29 July 2011: "Why buy the cow...." is a common phrase used in a situation like this, but I am going to give you another to consider...
"Why buy the pig for just a little sausage?".
Since he already has everything valuable, then you need to remove that. ... (read in full...)
Would you be embarrassed if your husband did this?
Q. Would you be embarrassed if your husband did this? I was invited to a cosmetic party along with another friend. All participated have their husbands and kids there because we all knew each other. My husband also went along. Important info:...
A. 29 July 2011: He had a right to his opinion, but the WAY he expressed it in public was downright childish and mean!
He could have discreetly told you how he felt later at home and you could have canceled your own salesparty at your discretion.
I think he ow... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to achieve orgasm through vaginal sex?
Q. Hi guys, i am a 21 year old female. iv been with my boyfriend about 6 months and we have been having sex for a few months now. iv had previuos sexual partners before him. but one thing thats really been bothering my boyfriend is that he can't ...
A. 29 July 2011: It is all about stimulation.
I first reccommend since you can orgasm via oral..start off that way and before you reach your orgasm your bf needs to penetrate you.
Most women climax more easily if they are on top. This puts you in control o... (read in full...)
Husband caught playing "sexual chicken" now what?
Q. I've been married to my husband for over a year. Two months ago I found a sexually explicit text on his phone (I wasn't snooping, it displayed the text when I plugged his phone in the charger. You can bet I snooped after that, though). It was from a ...
A. 29 July 2011: So sorry this is going on.
My ex husband did this with me. Years later, I understand that my entire marriage was not a lie, but my husband was not honest. He also blamed me for his choices.
You need to let him know that your trust is broken,... (read in full...)
Why did he move on so fast after he said he wanted to be single?
Q. I was dating this guy for a little while not that long then he broke up with me saying i became too clingy and that he doesn't want to be with anyone for a while but it has been two days i called him and he had someone over and he hung up in my ...
A. 29 July 2011: It is a way to avoid talking about why he wanted to break up.
It SUCKS but it shows that you are better off without the guy.
Best Wishes.
... (read in full...)
Fiance made a rather unexpected confession...he slept with an ex in the early stage of our relationship.....
Q. My fiance has made a rather unexpected confession: one of his ex-girlfriends was actually a one night stand AND he slept with her during our early relationship stage (after our 2nd, or 3rd date). I normally wouldn't be upset over this. I do ...
A. 28 July 2011: You were not yet a couple when this happened and you are not doubting the sincerity of his feelings for during that stage?
I believe people are capable to have strong feelings for someone and yet still have sex with another person.
I can s... (read in full...)
Can two completely different people work it out and stay together? Or is this a lost cause?
Q. I'm confused. I've been with my bf for 3 years.we live together. He's a great guy and would make a great father/husband. However lately we've been fighting because I'm ready to have a baby and he's not.(i'm 28, he's 30). we argue about money because ...
A. 28 July 2011: If you do not have the same CORE values as a couple, you will not make it.
You should be balanced with what you both cherish.
In your case, you are both OFF balance with key issues.
*You are not on the same page about having a baby NOW.
... (read in full...)
I really want to hook up with her and maybe be her friend! Help me!
Q. There's this girl who lives at my sister in-law's place, she is probally at the age I am, she started to live there few weeks ago, she didn't grew up there she is only a relative, her purpose of coming to live there is to look after and stay with ...
A. 28 July 2011: Hook up means different things in different cultures.
No one here can give you a chance to talk to her, you will have to make your own path and get to know her.... (read in full...)
I need your opinion on wedding invitation protocol.
Q. I need your opinion on wedding invitation protocol. My wife has this male friend, who for a short time was her boyfriend, and they still stayed friends, even now. When my wife and I got married 3 years ago, we invited him (big of me I know), but ...
A. 28 July 2011: What horrible manners of those "friends".
Your wife is married and SHOULD have been honored by using the name she chooses to go by. YOU are not her bf for God's sake, you are her HUSBAND.
What they did was EXTREMELY rude. I would acknowledg... (read in full...)
Should I tell my fiancée I kissed a girl at my bachelor party?
Q. Hi, one creepy loser here. I'm getting married at the end of August and had my bachelor party last weekend. To cut a long story short I got extremely drunk at the party and kissed another girl. It lasted less than a few seconds and nothing more...
A. 28 July 2011: You have not spoiled your wedding day. The vows you will make SHOULD be joyful and sincere. Are you happy to give your life, your fidelity and your future kisses to your soon to be wife? Then time to readjust your attitude.
It is not the end of t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's tattoo of his ex wife's name on his neck - is it unreasonable of me to want it removed or covered?
Q. I'm 29 and he is 37. We have been together for just over 3 months but i'm already in love like never before. He was with his ex for about 12 years and a few years ago got her name tattooed on his neck in large letters. He has said he thought they ...
A. 28 July 2011: Yep, you are being unreasonable and immature.
First, it is HIS body and his choice. Not yours.
Removal is time consuming, painful, and costly!
If you love him, then he is not damaged good or branded.
You are the one with the problem and... (read in full...)
I'm not a leech!
Q. I'm in a 5 year relationship with my bf and two kids a 16 month old and a 3 year old, living together in his house. We have been having tough times since we only have one income, he works and i stay at home with the kids. I have been looking for a ...
A. 28 July 2011: It seems like you are in an abusive situation with a very unhappy man. Are the children HIS children?
You are going to have to come up with a plan. I would suggest looking into schools where you can get retrained in something to get OUT. You mig... (read in full...)
It's very difficult and hard to get over him when I see him every day!
Q. I was with a a man for 18 months but we ended the relationship 8 weeks ago. A week after we split up he told me that he missed me but it was never acted on. Initially I didnt want to stay friends even though we work together and i knew id see him ...
A. 28 July 2011: You would not be ignoring his texts to be rude or play games with his head. You have a reason. HIS texts are playing with YOUR head, because you feel used in the meanwhile.
Try not responding to his texts. Just TRY. Eventually he will get bore... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's mother too clingy or am I being over sensitive??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now, he's 20 and I'm 18. He's just about to start his third year at University and I'm about to start my first University year in the same city. He's an only child, and his parents had him quite la...
A. 28 July 2011: I absolutely think that your should tell your bf that his Mother tried to get you to break up with him.
Do not shelter him from your thoughts, but be careful about what battles you choose to fight.
It is also a warning flag if your bf gets ... (read in full...)
I want to get back with my ex, but he continues to test me by dating other people...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating since April 2010. it has always been a little rough because we are quite different and we would fight quite a lot. About two months ago a friend of mine just moved back into the area and her and decided to hang...
A. 28 July 2011: If your ex bf really wanted YOU, he would be with you. He would not be hanging out with other "just a friend" like that. Sorry, but NO one drives 4 hrs to just meet a friend they met on a dating site. (With the PURPOSE Of dating someone!!) I bet he ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's mother too clingy or am I being over sensitive??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now, he's 20 and I'm 18. He's just about to start his third year at University and I'm about to start my first University year in the same city. He's an only child, and his parents had him quite la...
A. 27 July 2011: Oh no. You have a clingy, over-controlling Mother there of course! Do not worry about HER as long as your BF stands up for the two of you. Im curious, does your BF know that his Mother asked you to break up with him?... (read in full...)
Is my bf spending too much time with his ex?
Q. Is my boyfriend spending too much time with his Ex? They have been divorced for 11 years and they have a 19 year old daughter. She is a wonderful girl, they did a great job of raising her. I am also divorced, with grown sons living away from home ...
A. 27 July 2011: I do not see any harm in your bf spending time with the ex and his daughter at Xmas time, but if YOU are a fixed part of his life, and are not with YOUR family members, it would be considerate and courteous to invite you along.
If you bf has a he... (read in full...)
Will he catch my genital warts?
Q. Hi me in my boyfriend had sex twice with condoms. And I have genital warts. Will he catch it, even though we use condoms ?...
A. 27 July 2011: It is transfered by skin on skin contact when your public areas touch.
He needs to know that you have warts. You do not necessarily need to have an outbreak or visible bumps to be contagious.
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I get him off, but he doesn't seem like he wants to get me off. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend, who is 21 and without any previous sexual experiences, and I (20 and having already had one sexual partner) have started becoming sexually active just within the past few weeks. I just started giving him blow jobs within the last week. ...
A. 27 July 2011: You are showing him a whole new world dear. I doubt he is being a butthead, he is probably a bit immature and feels awkward, not realizing that girls in real life are not like the porns.
In porns, the women are all focused on pleasuring a man an... (read in full...)
If this guy is serious about meeting me, is it reasonable for me to ask to meet him half-way?
Q. Hi Readers, I need some advice please. I have been in contact with a guy in Sydney over the last 2 and a half years. The contact to be honest has mainly involved pics and phone sex, a little bit of chat about life etc although to begin with he di...
A. 27 July 2011: If he is financially so well off and he knows you are NOT, then he should be making his way out to YOU if he is serious (and putting himself up in a hotel).
Or, he should be meeting halfway where the two of you have your OWN room and take care of ... (read in full...)
Is this a possible date? Could a relationship come from this?
Q. How's everyone doing. I'm 18 yrs old and live in the US. For about 4-6wks I've been/ met this girl who at first I wasn't much attracted to both physically and personality wise. And in the first week or so of meeting her my feelings for her started ...
A. 27 July 2011: A date with two little sisters tagging along? Um, no thats not a date. That is a get together with a friend.
You had a nice time. Develop a friendship first and do not think what it is becoming.
If you want a date, which is really touchy wi... (read in full...)
Is my bf spending too much time with his ex?
Q. Is my boyfriend spending too much time with his Ex? They have been divorced for 11 years and they have a 19 year old daughter. She is a wonderful girl, they did a great job of raising her. I am also divorced, with grown sons living away from home ...
A. 27 July 2011: As a divorced mom of two teens, I do spend a lot of time with the ex. I would be fine not spending ANY time with him, but our kids ask and want Mom and Dad to support them at different events.
I am ok with those times,and my ex is not currentl... (read in full...)
Horny guy is testing my sexual willpower!!
Q. Dear cupid, he is 30 years old and I am 28 years old. We met for a conference, flirted for a six weeks and we are going different paths because the conference ends in a fortnight. He is cute and turns me on with his stares. Problem is he is very ...
A. 27 July 2011: Feel like being used for your first time by a relatively random stranger?
Or would you rather develop a relationship with someone who respects you beyond sex?
You are a grown up dear. The choice is yours. Make a smart one.... (read in full...)
Husband won't talk to me except to criticize, and I am at my breaking point.
Q. My husband is bi-polar and a manic depressant. He refuses to talk to me about anything. He will small talk about something someone else does. when we use to talk about problems, he would and does always make it about him only and its all my f...
A. 27 July 2011: If you can, get yourself into some counseling with a marriage therapist. Even if he will not go, a counselor can guide you thru your thoughts and feelings, help you sort out your options and a plan for the next steps.
So sorry this is happenin... (read in full...)
I want to get back with my ex, but he continues to test me by dating other people...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating since April 2010. it has always been a little rough because we are quite different and we would fight quite a lot. About two months ago a friend of mine just moved back into the area and her and decided to hang...
A. 27 July 2011: Sorry, your EX boyfriend, is now stringing you along and messing with your head.
Any man who really wanted you in his life would NOT play headgames with you and he would have accepted your apology.
He is dating other people and encourages you t... (read in full...)
Happened eleven years ago & I am fuming over a stripper, should I let it go??
Q. i just found out after 11 years, that the stripper cut my soon to be husbands clothes off of him while three of his "friends" (one was his brother and "best man") held him down!! then she had them lay him on the floor while she "danced" over the top ...
A. 26 July 2011: Take it only to your husband. No one else owes you the truth.
If the questions in your mind are intefering with your marriage NOW, then yes...talk to him about how *IF* he was unfaithful to you prior to marriage it's messing with your head.
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When a man takes longer with sex, does that mean he has had sex recently??
Q. my boyfriend lives away and we see each other ever weekend, when we have sex he usely comes quick, last weekend i had sex with him and he toke longer than normal, i do trust him but i have heard that when a man takes longer it can mean they have ...
A. 26 July 2011: Nope. ... (read in full...)
Does sex feel the same for a man no matter what woman he's with?
Q. Not long ago I read a question asked by a man, if sex for women was different with different men. He then went on to say that sex for a man is in general the same no matter the woman he is with. So, it doesn't matter if a woman is good in bed or n...
A. 26 July 2011: I would say THAT man who said that is telling you that HE percieves no difference. Sex is the same for HIM, no matter who it is.
I suspect he is pretty shallow, selfish, and focused on just his own release if his experiences are the same results ... (read in full...)
If your fella cheated and left but still said he cared and looked out for you, what would you think?
Q. If your fella cheated on you and then got into a relationship with her, but months later is telling you that he is looking out for you and still cares about you what would you make of it? I do not want him back at all as I believe I deserve better ...
A. 26 July 2011: My first question would be (if this was said to me)
Exactly how are you looking out for me?
I have had something similiar happen where a cheater told me he still cared for me. I said "Thanks, but Im no longer interested. You should have care... (read in full...)
My fiance's butt stinks....how do I tell him?
Q. I have been dating my fiance for four years now. And theres this small little issue that KILLS me, and grosses me out and i dont know how to tell him without it hurting his feelings. I'm really embarassed to talk about this, but...something needs to ...
A. 26 July 2011: Stop "playfully" telling him.
Come out and directly tell him that his hygiene offends you and you are turned off sexually.
If he still does nothing about it...put up with it or break up with him.
... (read in full...)
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