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writes:long story short, me and adam were best friends. we went out, he became an ass, we broke up. he realized what an asshole he had become, and he changed. he regained my trust and i have been going out with Adam for a few months now this year. We had been really good friends before and we dated. We had first started hanging out, nothing serious as we both still dated other people. During that time we got back to being best friends again and about three months ago we got serious with our relationship when he told me he has fallen in love with me. My parents have never allowed me to date, and even before they tried to stop me from seeing him. Im almost 18 now, and i know they have my best interests at heart but i am mature enough to make my own decisions. i do love him and i want to be with him. I also dont want to lie to my parents, but i feel like i have to becuase they would never accept it if they knew the truth. They think that by having a bf i will be less focused on my studies, when the truth is i have been doing pretty well this year at school. Im not sure if i should tell them or not, and if i am, how to approach it. I do not want to break it off with adam, but i dont want to lead a double life either when im lying to my parents and sneaking off to spend with my boyfriend, something i shouldnt be ashamed of.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (21 June 2009):
 It' always best to be honest about these things. You say you are almost 18 you need to prove to your parents that they can trust the decisions you now make about your own life. Just get them at the right time, tell them you need to talk to them. Let them know you have made a decision to see this guy and you won't let it interfere with your studies. Also let them know you know that they will always be there for you if you need them but they must trust you to make the right choices. They may blow a fuse but at least it will be all out in the open and you can then move on. I think it's always best to take the bull by the horn then you arent always worried about the day they would find out anyway. You seem settled and confident that this guy has changed, you just need to let them know not to worry about you, as most parents will worry about anything anyway no matter what you do. If he is the one for you then wild horses won't stop you seeing him. Hope this helps.
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