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I am 12 and I want to have sex without being caught

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Question - (9 August 2007) 40 Answers - (Newest, 24 May 2008)
A male United States age 18-21, anonymous writes:

iam 12 and want sex i just moved dont know any body. Who can i have sex with and not get caught?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008):

i want to have sex to i love lesbians but you should wait till your 13 then give soome hardcore sex and you wont get caught if you do it in he/shes house

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008):

DON'T DO IT

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008):

Hey dude I'm 12 too. I am a girl and i have started my

peirid, so i'm to afraid to have sex now. If you meet a girl you really like and want to have sex with her she my not want to have yet. So you dry hump. Dry humping is when you sex but with your clouths on. Most people do it in thier underwere, but I would keep you jeans on. Your partner may still get pregnent if you don't.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008):

umm... you're 12... you want to have sex with someone you don't know! Im sorry, wait! You don't have sex at 12 with someone you don't know!!!

Without being caught... up at his or her house, in the park in the bushes LOL! I dunno, think of it! It's a stupid question! Don't do it!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008):

i think u should just mastyrbate or something cause 12 is pretty young and u dont want to do something u will regret

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008):

you are only 12, so try and meeet new friends.

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A female reader, chloe lin United Kingdom +, writes (29 December 2007):

You're not necessarily too young to have sex at 12. I did, I enjoyed it and have never regretted it. But the question worries me a bit. You might be old enough but not grown up enough.

Chloe Lin (now 17)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007):

you are way to young find some pics to help youre cravings or just trust me when i say youre way to young and its stupid!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007):

You should really try to wait until you are much older. You might think you are ready but when your about to have sex with someone you will realize that your not ready for something that big in your life. You should never have sex just to have sex, you should be in a relationship and you really love that person before you have sex with them.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007):

if your 12 you shouldnt really be having sex at that age, you should really wait till your a bit older say 16 n over which is still young. im 12 too and have a big sexual appetite but the stuff ive read kinda said that if your body isnt ready sex might be difficult i think you should just wait till your older and then it will be enjoyable.

jen.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007):

heeeyy, 12 is way 2young 2be havin sex, wait till your older and found the one. Just play with yourself and try deep masturbation and toys.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007):

wait till ur a bit older

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007):

you are to young to have sex i am 12 to and if you have sex then you may make a baby and not be ready

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007):

i want sex 2 but with my teacher icant help it.i av 2 many hormones

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007):

Dude, come on you're too young too have sex.Furthermore, there isn't any way to have sex without being caught unless you wanted to get caught intentionally.But if you really want to have sex, get a whore but don't forget about protection, we may not know what those whore might be carrying in their blood.Take my advice, my friend Jethro had sex at 15 and he got caught red-handed and was sent to the police station for investigation which could happen to you if you do it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007):

hey iam ... to and you are wayyy to young to have sex you wana bew a dad go ahead i bet you dont even care what these ppl think bbut if youwana you can have it wiht me when your older

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007):

I am in a simmilar predicament as you (which is how I came to be here if you take my meaning) so I know what you're feeling. Here are some tips that may help:

* Wait until your older. I'm 16 and STILL waiting.

* If it's another guy you want to have sex with, wait until you live on your own. It'll be much easier with your family out of your hair.

* Look for pics on the internet to help your cravings

* Don't be ashamed about sex fantacies. Just keep them secret from your family.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007):

dude your to young to have sex. You don,t want to have sex become a father don,t want to be a father and then bail out on the mother that would be bad. save your self for when you know that the time has come.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007):

heyy. im 12 too and i am thinking about the same thing. listen, i know ur probobly looking at all these answers and going "yea whatever thats what they all say". but u need to give it a second thought. it used to ba all i ever thought about, (and i wanted to do it with my 13 year old boyfriend) and he wanted to do it too. but i guess we both realized its stupid. first of all, we knew we'd get caught. second, IT WILL NOT BE AN ENJOYABLE EXPERIENCE AT ALL. in fact, IT WILL HURT. after doig reaserch, i found out sex will not feel good untill ur 18, which is when im planning to do it if im ready (me and my boyfriend already agreed on it). we also have agreed TO USE PROTECTION. i know that the only time i will ever have sex without a condom or without birth control will be when i want to get pregnant.

seriously, it is normal for ppl our age to want sex. but what we really want is the pleasure of it. that or the guy. both can be obtained. for now, masturbate. and as for the guy, i find a kiss (which i havent had with this boyfriend yet) or cuddling much more pleasurable. remember that the slightest tuch can bring the most wonderful feelings. so u can go pretty far basicaly, but not ALL the way ;)

the bottom line is, sex is ment to be pleasurable. enjoyable. and i cant wait till that day when i do it with a guy i truly love. but i will make sure i REALLY love him. but i can wait. im not ready yet. neither are you. seriously. i will pray for you. please do NOT have sex. im not criticizing u or yelling at you, but im doing you a favor by telling you this stuff. so think before you do. and make the right decision. good luck =]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007):

I dont think so girl. i just turned 13 and i was thinking about it to.but u got to think do you really know the guy ok. i've tried but im sort of a scaredy cat. just wait girl atleast to 15 or 16.- Diamond

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007):

all i can say is that you should be carefull and be sure your boyfriend always uses a condom and that i should be your boyfriend. i will be gentle.

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A female reader, amber nuttall United Kingdom +, writes (14 August 2007):

Don't bother having sex yet.

Sex is not good at a young age, it will deffinetly put you off it!

Wait until your much older.

Thats my advice.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007):

i agree with other posts here but then again i had sex at twelve so do what feels right but be safe. some people mature way faster than others

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A male reader, Chippy334 United States +, writes (13 August 2007):

Chippy334 agony auntDude I can tell you now that it's not worth it. Wait until you're MUCH older. I'm 17 and I am still a virgin. wait it's worth it trust me.

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A female reader, hotstuff United States +, writes (12 August 2007):

hotstuff agony auntIf you are that desparate then I say go for it as long as you know what you are doing and can except the consequences. But if you are not ready and are just doing it to be cool...STOP....that is not cool! It means you have no self respect! Remember if you do you never can take it back so make sure it is what you want to do, and make sure you do it with someone your age!

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A female reader, GoddamnedROCKSTAR United States +, writes (11 August 2007):

GoddamnedROCKSTAR agony auntWell doll. Seems you've gotten a lot of people saying not to do it, and I agree, but they're not adressing the full thing. You want to explore your body, masturbate. Sex isn't really necessary if you want to feel good.

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A female reader, sister in christ United States +, writes (10 August 2007):

sister in christ agony auntHey!

you are far too young to even be thinking about sex. Go hang out with friends, get involved in an activity or something. God does not want you to have sex until you are married. Sex is a gift from God to MARRIED couples. Get a boyfriend and kiss him, but don't go any further than that. And your 12, someone would find out since you have to get driven everywhere you want to go and all the parties you go to are probably gonna be supervised by an adult. So there is no way to have sex this young and not get caught.

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A female reader, dont_worry United States +, writes (10 August 2007):

dont_worry agony auntyou are just a kid, so have fun! and by fun i dont mean sex,because it comes with a lot of responsabilities that you are not ready for.

so get out that sick idea of your head, and play with friends, i dont know maybe some sport, or something

and if you are that desperate then get a girlfriend

at 12 i must tell you that with kisses youll be more than satisfied! haha so try to do that.

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A female reader, puzzled Ireland +, writes (10 August 2007):

puzzled agony aunthey chicken.

Well Ive loved plenty times in my life and always made new friends, Im sure u can too. Your 12 u have all the time in the world to have sex. Your also underage and shouldnt even be thinking about sex. I honestly think u should wait till yer older and meet some one you love and trust before you rush into anyting. take my advice honestly.

Frm pUzZlEd!! xxx

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A male reader, Peterk5699 United Kingdom +, writes (10 August 2007):

Peterk5699 agony auntYou are much too young to have sex. Wait another 4 years and find the one you want to lose your virginity to. Virginity is meant to be a precious thing and it's not something you should regret losing which is why some people (the amount is getting smaller) wish to wait. Be the smart one and wait for the right person to lose it with.

Learn to masturbate and be patient. Sex isn't everything.

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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (9 August 2007):

birdynumnums agony auntHi Honey,

I'm so sorry that you are lonely and don't know anyone yet in your new neighbourhood. I don't think that you should even consider having sex with some stranger just because you are lonely. You shouldn't give away your body just to make friends! Sex is best when you are older and in a loving relationship. I have heard young girls wanting to have sex and wanting to make babies because they are lonely and want someone to love, but this is NOT a cure for loneliness. Having a baby is hard work and a full-time job! I know that it is hard to get to know people when you move, but trust in your family and ask for their help in joining a few new things in the neighbourhood to make friends and meet new people. Please don't have sex until you are ready - when you are older and love the person you are with. You shouldn't consider having sex it until you know all about sexual diseases, birth control and how to always use a condom, every single time.

Please, Go and talk with your Mom about how lonely you are. I know that she will do her best to help you make new friends in your new house.

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A male reader, Andy00 United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2007):

Andy00 agony auntKid, I'm not sure if people are reading a little too much into what you're reading, but either way, you've got it ALL wrong.

Sex is something you should have with somebody you love, not with somebody you don't know just for the sake of it. Don't fall down that road.

You're much too young to be having Sex, and you clearly have some growing up to do before you understand the right way to go about having it. In the mean time, like a lot of people have suggested; Learn how to masturbate. Think of it as a training process, that you can use to find out how to make Sex better when you have it. Do this for a about 4/5 years, and THEN you can start thinking about having Sex. Maybe by then you will actually have somebody you care about to have it with.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2007):

duskyrowe agony auntWhen I was 12 sex never came into the equation. You are far too young to have sex, it involves a lot of emotional as well as physical baggage, (if thats the right word). Anyway if you do wanna get physical take up a sport that you enjoy most at your local club or after school activities. Leave the sexual activities to grown ups,who are mature enough to deal with their physical as well as emotional aspects. Too many kids nowadays wanna grow up too fast, wait another few years, when you are more mature to handle a reltionship with a girl, it will make it more special and well worth the wait too. Take care hun

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

Oh my gosh you're 12 your body hasn't even developed properly yet. You have plenty of time to have sex and it's not even legal!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

your hand!! That's it. If you're thinking about raping a girl, you will get into huge trouble, so don't even let it cross your thoughts.

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A male reader, XSuperMan United States +, writes (9 August 2007):

XSuperMan agony auntIt sounds like you used to, at the last place you lived. Please stop. You're scaring all us parents that don't need to raise 2-kids. You and your baby, from the girl you get in trouble.

Not to mention posting something like that is just going to get dirty old mens attentions.

BE CAREFUL

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (9 August 2007):

eyeswideopen agony auntYourself.

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A female reader, chrissy32789 United States +, writes (9 August 2007):

chrissy32789 agony auntYou are to young to be having sex but i am not here to judge anyone. but there is a lot more to sex then you think, its prolly not what you think it is, you will not really enjoy it at your age, and now a days it is easey to get stds, hiv, and aids, by someone. Plus do you want to be a dad? you go sneaking around to have sex with someone you may be in a hurry or worried and you forget to put a condom on or it riped you are screwed you are going to be a dad at 12 yrs old. Trust me it is a lot better when you dont have to sneak.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

hi i see your problem but your a bit younge to be doing this anyway so i suggest you rethink but if you are serious and want to do this join a club to get to know ppl but i suggest you dont have sex at your age ...x

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A female reader, skye United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2007):

skye agony auntYou are far too young to have sex. The law says so. Anyone who would have sex with you would be breaking the law and would go to prison.

Sex should be between two people who care for eachother deeply and it is a natural expression of those feelings. So it should not be with someone you have just met and have to hide; and certainly not at your tender age!

You will meet someone when you are older who you want to share sex with. Believe me, that will be much a much better experience than what you propose for now.

Be safe,

Skye

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