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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for a year now a month ago we broke when he was told that i was cheating on him and i have tried talking to him but he keeps me off, the truth is that i cheated on him and i now feel i don't love this other guy its him that i want and i don't really know what to do because i don't really know what he's being told by his friends and what h says about me i need some advice Reply to this Question
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (8 August 2007):
Unfortunately it isn't all about what you want. You screwed up, big time. I wouldn't stay with you either. You have to use your head and not your hormones. You think you're in love with your boyfriend and then some other guy and then suddenly your boyfriend again.
If he isn't willing to talk to you, deal with it. Move on and learn from your mistake. That may sound a little harsh, but if you don't, you'll just make yourself crazy, and maybe depressed. Forgive yourself first, then remember to never try another relationship without ending a current one.
Maybe in time he will forgive you and maybe at that time you'll both be single and have a chance at being together again. But that is only a possible future.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Hi
He might never forgive you, no matter what you say to him.
I wouldnt if someone cheated, its just the way some of us are. Its still early days though so after a bit of time, the anger might subside in him.
Give him some time & space.
C xxxxx
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reader, jtaunton5410 +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Well sweetie,
We do all make mistakes and I know that a lot of our mistakes may sacrifice what we have. A lot of people believe the phrase "Once a cheater always a cheater". If it was just a one time thing that you will never do again then you should really try and talk to the man that you love and tell him that you wouldnt be trying to get him back so hard if you really didnt love him. Explain to him that you are willing to do anything for forgiveness. He may be very understandable and give you one more chance to be with him, but he also may not trust to be with you ever again. If that is the case then at least you learned for the next relationship, but if he does take you back then you really do need to prove to him in any way, shape or form, that you will do anything for him to make up for what happend. I hope everything works out for you.
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (7 August 2007):
 It's understandable that he doesn't want to be with you again - you cheated, which, in my books isn't the best thing to do.
You could try talking it through with him (Very cliche I know) but it's quite likely he doesn't want to speak with you at all.
Telling him you don't love the other guy and that you only love him might not get you far because it's unlikely that he'll believe you.
It looks like you're gonna have to move on cos it sounds unlikely he'll give you another chance. I know I probably wouldn't if my gf became unfaithful to me.
Hope this helped (even in a tiny bit)
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