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How do I tell her without offending her about her wiping issue?

Q.   Hi I just started dating a new girl . The sex is great and we both oral fixated me giving and her getting . There is one problem she wants her anus licked which I usually enjoy doing but there is a problem with this she has a wiping problem back ...

A.   1 July 2014: Buy her an enema. Wiping isn’t enough, washing isn’t enough. An enema will do the job. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Do guys really find squirting to be a turn-on, or was my partner just too polite to say it grossed him out?

Q.   I'm in my mid 20's and I've known I was a squirter since I was about 19/20 due to masturbation. But despite having a couple of sexual partners and previously being married, I have never felt comfortable enough to squirt with any partner despite ...

A.   26 March 2014: Dear, don't try to fix something that's not broke. I find most men love women that squirt, the wetter the better!... (read in full...)

We were close friends until I told him how I felt, now he has cut contact with me.

Q.   Been close friends with this guy for over 3 years; friend, confidant, etc. He was widowed over 2 years ago, and in the past year, we became close as he was ill and i was helping out etc. Long story short, too much contact, too much sharing, I fell ...

A.   30 July 2013: He's not interested in that project! The best advice I have received, in my life came from my Aunt, She said "Sweetheart, if you're not number one in any relationship, that you put your all into, then REFUSE to be number two! Step out of their line ... (read in full...)

We were close friends until I told him how I felt, now he has cut contact with me.

Q.   Been close friends with this guy for over 3 years; friend, confidant, etc. He was widowed over 2 years ago, and in the past year, we became close as he was ill and i was helping out etc. Long story short, too much contact, too much sharing, I fell ...

A.   28 July 2013: Let sleeping dogs lie... #That's all.... (read in full...)

He doesn't want a relationship but I do. Should I end things?

Q.   Hello, advice desperately needed! Firstly before everyone says it I know I am an idiot for getting myself into this situation but I've fallen for a guy who doesn't want a relationship. We have been 'seeing each other' for about 5 months now - by ...

A.   28 July 2013: Absolutely... Get out of that relationship! It's times when our mind says one thing but our hearts has it's own plans. As human beings we don't want to be alone, he want a relationship, just not with you. If you stay he'll meet someone and ... (read in full...)

He doesn't want me! How can I get him to change his mind?

Q.   i want to be his girlfriend but he's not ready for a new relationship right now. i don't want no one else i want only him what can i do to make him change his mind and say yes i want you to be my girl before this year end ...

A.   23 November 2011: I don't need more info. I need you to realize he don't want you. But, guess what? It's somebody else out there that will love and adore you! Sorry, but that person isn't him. Think of it as; it's his lost. ... (read in full...)

My husand used to abuse me, but has stopped...Is this real change?

Q.   Its been 7 months since my husband has been verbally or physically abusive to me or anyone else. He says he is changing,and has been on meds for the last 7 months. we have been together for almost 6 years. At the 4 1/2 yr mark is when he bacame ...

A.   2 March 2011: Yes, it’s possible for people to change. He changed in a negative way now he’s changing for the better. That’s proof people change. People have a tendency to think a person can’t change for the better. He’s on medication now, he had some issues he ... (read in full...)

I can't convince her to leave her husband.

Q.   I am having trouble coping with the guilt I feel about the relationship my girlfriend and I have. She is married and has been married for 8 years, her and I have been seeing each other for 3 years and I can seriously say I love that women. When...

A.   1 March 2011: When a woman or man leaves their spouse for another, all the other person has is a man or woman that cheats on their spouse! ijs! Wake-up! You deserve better than that, you need to sit back and ask yourself "Why am I putting myself through this ... (read in full...)

My friend told me all men are really gay!

Q.   Are all men GAY??? A guy who once had sex with another guy said to me that all men are gay, and that they just wont admit it, that they don't actually want women they just want to get off or have babies? He said stuff like they think the vagina...

A.   27 February 2011: WOW! I've heard of some very strange things in my life, this is by far the strangest! If all men are gay, I sure can't tell it! ijs! Don't allow your friend to take up any more space in your head,that's an really crazy accusation. SMH!... (read in full...)

I can't stand my family and friends derogatory remarks regarding my girlfriend's weight...

Q.   I've begun seeing a girl I care deeply for. We get along great and are friends as well. The only problem is I can't stand my family and friends dirogitory remarks reguarding her weight. I'll admit in the past I really wouldn't date a bigger g...

A.   25 February 2011: That's easy; Sit them down and tell them how you feel. Also tell them that as you said " I've aged I came to my senses and want to persue my own happiness" With or without them. The choice is theres. If they can't accept her and stop the remarks ... (read in full...)

It makes me sick to think about my husband going on a work trip with a female co-worker. How do I cope?

Q.   I hate being jealous, but I don't know how to change! I absolutely admire people who never get jealous. How do they do it? My husband will be traveling out of town next month with a female co-worker and I'm trying to be cool about it, but it is ...

A.   25 February 2011: That's a part of life. Men and women travel all the time on business. Because she's a woman doesn't mean she's his type of woman. I have a friend who is insecure about her man,and every time a woman comes near him, she freak out. I'll tell you like ... (read in full...)

Have I pushed her into this other guy's arms by refusing to be friends with her after the break up?

Q.   My girlfriend of two years recently separated after living together for 5 months. She immediately began dating a coworker that she had been spending a lot of time with. It's now been two months and they are still together. She tells me she still lo...

A.   25 February 2011: You can't push anybody to where they don't want to be. ijs!... (read in full...)

Husband cheated with multiple women...I am struggling and need input.

Q.   I found out almost 2 years ago my husband was on internet dating sites behind my back for 6 years and met with some of the women for sex. I am having a difficult time still trying to get past this. I've been to marriage counselling, personal ...

A.   25 February 2011: Inexcusable. If he was unhappy then he should have put that energy he put into other women into his marriage. Don't buy that. He's just trying to do just what he's doing;making you feel guilty about his crap. Life is too short to stay in a ... (read in full...)

My partner has cheated on me, given me STD's, beaten me, and threatened me. I fear for the life of my children and I. What should I do?

Q.   How best do I sort the storm I feel I’m stuck in? I've been involved in a very strained on-again off-again relationship for nearly nine years. We have children together and I've also endured a miscarriage (as a result of a beating) to this man. ...

A.   25 February 2011: WOW! This sound like a scary movie! SMH! It’s like being between a rock and a hard place. Well, I would go under a witness protection program and get him and his bully buddies locked up! You said if you left your country you would be arrested if you ... (read in full...)

For those who have herpes, how did your partner react when you told them? I need support.

Q.   I have herpes type 1 and 2 and would like to know if other people have it and how their partners react when they tell them. I never have outbreaks I just had a blood test that showed I was positive, after having 1 lesion about 4 years ago. So many ...

A.   23 February 2011: You seem to be a very positive person, I wish you well! ... (read in full...)

Am I asking for trouble if I sent naked photos of myself?

Q.   okay, so recently i had a girl i know ask me to send her pictures of myself naked. i do have a great body and am not shy but refrained as i am not interested in her and dont want to give her the wrong impression. that being said i now have an urge ...

A.   22 February 2011: There's nothing perverted about sending nude pics of yourself, I know a lot people who does it. But...be careful, you could end up on some nude web site without your consent. As far as the girl you're not interested in,wanting a nude pic, don't do ... (read in full...)

My parents are so disapproving of my promise ring.

Q.   On Valentine's Day, my boyfriend presented me with a promise ring. We've been together since my senior year of high school, and I will be 20 shortly. We want to get engaged and then married someday, but I want to finish my college education first. ...

A.   22 February 2011: You have to stop living for your parents, you love him and that's what matter. If you allow them to stop you from wearing the ring then they will feel you never loved him. Prove them wrong! Wear your ring! ... (read in full...)

I had a threesome and feel guilty about it

Q.   So I was out having a good time with my friends at a bar, and I just happened to see some guys I used to know (not super close but I have known them for years) so anyways things lead to things and we end up having a threesome. I feel horrible about ...

A.   22 February 2011: You can't change what you did! That's a fact! Did you enjoy yourself? If so, then that's the best way to get over! You enjoyed yourself and now life goes on. Learn from your mistakes and don't do it again.... (read in full...)

How can I be there for him without getting his hopes up

Q.   I was with a guy a while ago for about 4 months we got on well and seemed fine, but he then told me that his ex girlfriend was going to have his child. This was too much for me and I broke it off with him, lately we've been back talking and its all ...

A.   22 February 2011: Don’t let him talk you into being with him because he’s unstable, offer him advice when he need it, and keep your distance. If he does something stupid, OH WELL! That’s not your problem. Recommend him to a mental health agency and let them help him. ... (read in full...)

Getting over forbidden fantasies?

Q.   I am married. My relationship with my husband is comfortable. Almost too comfortable. We only have sexual contact a couple times a year. We never fight about anything and have a very strong platonic relationship. People who don't know us think ...

A.   22 February 2011: You’ve tried to get your husband to desire you, he has already told you “You’re not a sexual creature” Now, it’s up to you to make up in your mind if you’re willing to settle for that type of non-sexual relationship, and weigh the outcome of you ... (read in full...)

She won't open up to me about how she feels about our problems

Q.   Me and my girlfriend been dating for about 9 months and the only problem is that when something happens between us she just does not want to talk about it. Even if its something very silly she gets angry easily and says its a fight and for me to ...

A.   21 February 2011: I too tend to hold back my feelings and choose not to deal with certain situations at a drop of a dime. Some women rather process their emotions instead of speaking with too much emotion later to regret it. It's her personality to not speak with... (read in full...)

I caught my boyfriend cheating on me by the fake profile that I created. Where do I go from here?

Q.   I have recently found out that my boyfriend has been cheating on me having cyber sex on skype with random girls on the internet. I did this by creating a fake facebook and pretending to be another girl. I know that this is wrong, but I was already ...

A.   21 February 2011: Well if you tell him and he makes you feel terrible this time, can you blame him? It’s not hard for you to get his attention, since it’s you who’s pretending to be another girl, after-all he likes you! So, why wouldn’t he like “Her”? She is you! ... (read in full...)

Does it seem like he's just not that into me?

Q.   Confused? What went wrong? I met a guy online about 8 months ago. He lives out of town but comes into town for business and we have seen each other about 4 times. The last time was christmas. Although, our relationship has been a bit of a yo-yo, ...

A.   21 February 2011: My thoughts on that is this; It doesn’t matter how busy a person is they will find time to call or text someone they’re interested in. The fact he sent you a sweet card, was a nice jester, but it could mean; I know you’re into me, and the least I ... (read in full...)

For those who have herpes, how did your partner react when you told them? I need support.

Q.   I have herpes type 1 and 2 and would like to know if other people have it and how their partners react when they tell them. I never have outbreaks I just had a blood test that showed I was positive, after having 1 lesion about 4 years ago. So many ...

A.   21 February 2011: I’m dating a man that’s HIV+ so, that’s a little bit scarier then herpes today. Some people would be relieved to “JUST” have herpes. He told me, I did my research, and now I know more about it then he does! I find that with his friends he has met ... (read in full...)

My parents let my younger sister get away with things, and I end up in trouble! What should I do?

Q.   I have a younger sibling who is constantly getting on my nerves. What really bothers me is her attitude. For example just recently our parents said if we get hungry we should eat the leftovers we had in the fridge and nothing else. So not 30 minutes ...

A.   21 February 2011: It goes back to the dinosaur days that parents have their pick of the litter. My mom put me out at 17 because my sister and I were arguing over her sleeping with my boyfriend. 20years went by; I never forgave my mom for that. And 2 weeks before my ... (read in full...)

Would you be upset if your fiance didn't give you a Valentine and a birthday gift in the same week?

Q.   If your fiancée doesn’t give you a Valentine or a birthday present (Feb. 17th) after 6 years would you be upset? I have spent months taking care of him after his cancer treatment. I would have loved a card, but he just calls me names....

A.   21 February 2011: ABSOLUTELY! I would have been totally upset! I could understand the Valentines Day, but not the Birthday. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't like oral sex because of the taste. What can I do?

Q.   My boyfriend has only "gone down" on me once, and it was for about ten seconds. He had talked for a while about how the idea turns him on a lot. After those ten seconds, he never really said anything or did it again. He randomly told me while we ...

A.   21 February 2011: Stop swallowing his cum! Tell him it don't taste good. That's fair! He'll straighten up and fly right! Also tell him, that you never liked the taste of his cum but you do it because you love him. Try adding some whip-cream or candy sucker's if he ... (read in full...)

My husband hasn't had sex with me since getting our genitals pierced recently. He stills masturbates and I feel unwanted!

Q.   My husband and I got our genitals pierced 3 weeks ago. He says that he is too sore to make love to me, but he will go and masturbate in the bathroom 4 times a day. We used to make love 5 to 6 times a day before the piercings. I miss him so much, but ...

A.   21 February 2011: Get rid of the piercings! That should solve your issue! If it doesn't, then it's the thought of someone else seeing your vagina that might bother him, meaning the person who pierced you. If that's the case, he needs to grow up! ijs! ... (read in full...)

I have a large labia. Is that unattractive?

Q.   This is kind of embarrassing for me, but I am very self-concious about my vagina. I have a rather large labia and fear that men would find it unattractive. Though I've never had sex, I've been sexually involved with a couple of guys in other ways ...

A.   21 February 2011: You said it all when you said " I don't want to have sex until I'm sure I'm with the right person" The right person will love you and your large labia. ... (read in full...)

Why hasn't she cut everybody off? Is she cheating on ne?

Q.   Ive been with my girl for about 6mos. we decided to move together. now im able to see that alot of her old flings still text and call. at first i didnt mind her talking to guys, but now she hides the fact that dudes call and text her. she admitted ...

A.   21 February 2011: Don’t force her to lie to you. That’s exactly what you’re doing! Your relationship is fairly new, and the going through her phone is a NO-NO! You have no evidence of her cheating. She likes the attention! Honestly, when a woman meets a man that ... (read in full...)

I miss her everyday and want nothing more than be a family again

Q.   I've been in love with my xwife for over 3 years. We are divorced. When I try to come forward she says Im crazy or scewed up. she wants nothing with me. We have a child of 3 years old together. I miss her everyday and want nothing more than be a ...

A.   21 February 2011: Respect her wishes and move on. She feels you’re crazy because you’re acting crazy! Only crazy people want someone who wants nothing to do with them. Ijs! ... (read in full...)

He loves another, and I want to support him despite loving him

Q.   It seems too common a trap, I know, but I've completely fallen for a guy who loves someone else. I apologize now for the length. He is not from America, and the girl he loves is back home. He dated her for a long time and proposed several ...

A.   21 February 2011: No matter how sincere you are you’ll always find yourself on the hurt end of this relationship. Once she comes to America, he’s going to put his all into his relationship, in his mind she will eventually fall in-love with him, therefore you need to ... (read in full...)

Still living with my ex, now I've had a dream about him, what does it mean?

Q.   I had this dream last night that I was lying in bed. I woke up from my bed and went into my home office and opened the door leading into the backyard. I noticed that the deck was gone and it looked like someone was starting to build a bridge ...

A.   17 February 2011: I had to read that dream again! And Yeah, it's scary! I don't see it as the two of you getting back together, it's a sign he can be leading you to somewhere you not too sure you want to go! And handing you a tree branch! Now, you know people who ... (read in full...)

She teases and flirts with me, and occasionally we touch each other. So, why did she call me her toy?

Q.   This girl and I are friends. We tease, flirt and even physically touch each other. One day, we were flirting a bit and well she said "You are my toy". I know she likes to joke around a lot, but I don't get why she said that. I am not sure how I f...

A.   16 February 2011: I think she's telling you,"You excite me! I like how I can control you, I like you until I get bored, and find another toy" Like we did as kids" IJS! ... (read in full...)

Walked on and lied to...

Q.   My gf and I recently got into an argument... we have been dating for three years and we have been arguing alot lately... she said during our last argument that she could do anything... (lying a lot lately)... and I would come crawling back to her... ...

A.   8 February 2011: Shock her! LEAVE HER! You don't deserve that! You have to remain a man at all times! Don't allow her to make you anything less! Find a honest woman you can trust! GOOD LUCK! ... (read in full...)

Why cant't I distinguish between love and sex?

Q.   Hi all, I have a question. Please can you enlighten me on this.I have had a series of bad relationships with emotionally abusive men. I know this is to do with my self esteem which I am currently working on by going to see a therapist every week, ...

A.   8 February 2011: Besides your #LOWSELFESTEEM. You’re getting what you want which is SEX, not caring about what you have to go through to get, which is sad! Once you learn to love yourself all this will change.Abusive men are very good at "picking" women who will be ... (read in full...)

I'm acting on my fetish with other women -- should I keep it a secret?

Q.   I am a male in my 40,s with a foot fetish. I am becoming more obsessed with this and now even pay local ladies to enjoy their feet. I do this even though i have an understanding fiance who lets me enjoy and play with her feet. It is somewhat ...

A.   2 February 2011: I think you need to first STOP! And if you can't stay STOPPED, then tell her. Because you will know you're addicted to feet! She need to know BEFORE she becomes your what you habits are. I sure wouldn't want my man TOUCHING another woman's ANYTHING! ... (read in full...)

How do I persuade my boyfriend to perform oral sex on me?

Q.   How do i convince or persuade my boyfriend to perform oral sex on me,i have talked about it a couple of times but he said that he is not comfortable with it.What else do i do cause i really enjoy oral,moreover he doesnt last long during sex and i ...

A.   31 January 2011: You can lead a horse to water BUT...You can't make him drink! He's not into it! You need a sex toy that's call an Electric Tongue! It's GREAT! ... (read in full...)

She says sex is all I care about!

Q.   I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 ...

A.   27 January 2011: That's a GREAT decision, I hate that you may have to go your own way,but life is too short not to have someone who want you in ALL WAYS! But, remember her friendship will always be there.... (read in full...)

She says sex is all I care about!

Q.   I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 ...

A.   25 January 2011: Yes,there's something else you can do. Continue to NOT HAVE SEX. Some people just don't think sex is that important,and I would suggest that you stop trying to having sex with her but ask out of concern,what is bothering her that she's not in the ... (read in full...)

She says sex is all I care about!

Q.   I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 ...

A.   25 January 2011:  Well you sound like you do know the there's that possibility that she might no longer be attracted to you, in a sexual way. That's good that you know that, but don't let her control your life to the point where you don't date or see other peop... (read in full...)

She says sex is all I care about!

Q.   I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 ...

A.   25 January 2011: And you still consider her your GIRLFRIEND? Well,if all you think is SEX, she sure don't care about your thoughts! ijs! I feel maybe you should ask her if there's something about the sex she don't like,and maybe she just want a FRIENDSHIP and not ... (read in full...)

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