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She says sex is all I care about!

Q.   I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 ...

A.   27 January 2011: That's a GREAT decision, I hate that you may have to go your own way,but life is too short not to have someone who want you in ALL WAYS! But, remember her friendship will always be there.... (read in full...)

She says sex is all I care about!

Q.   I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 ...

A.   25 January 2011: Yes,there's something else you can do. Continue to NOT HAVE SEX. Some people just don't think sex is that important,and I would suggest that you stop trying to having sex with her but ask out of concern,what is bothering her that she's not in the ... (read in full...)

She says sex is all I care about!

Q.   I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 ...

A.   25 January 2011:  Well you sound like you do know the there's that possibility that she might no longer be attracted to you, in a sexual way. That's good that you know that, but don't let her control your life to the point where you don't date or see other peop... (read in full...)

Should I just end it and let him go while it's not too late? Or give it a shot while doubting him?

Q.   I am 26 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. We are colleagues and we see each other almost 24/7. I think this is why we argue so much about little things. We constantly stay at home because we are so tired from work ...

A.   25 January 2011: I think it can never be your fault that he says things that hurt you, but it can also be the truth and the truth hurts. I also feel you have a lot of unresolved issues surrounding your dad's death and that can bring about abandonment issues so I ... (read in full...)

I feel like my mom's death was my fault......

Q.   my life is crazy, no-one seems to understand me either, my boyfriend thinks im a liar and my family wont see things in my point of view. i lost my mom 4 years ago and cant seem to let go. is that normal? id like to say nothing is wrong with me and ...

A.   25 January 2011: You need to know when your time here on earth is up, it's UP! I'm not sure if you know that you don't have the power to make a judgment call. It was her turn to go. We're all put on this earth for a short period and when, it’s over that's it. Now, ... (read in full...)

Is this wrong?

Q.   Hi, I just a question. You know that saying that a guy is never suppose to hit a girl? Well I have a friend who's dad hits her, my friend is 15 and she is to scared to tell any one. Her mom is always there when it happens and never says a...

A.   25 January 2011: I feel NO MAN SHOULD HIT A WOMAN! She's a young lady and almost a woman. If she's afraid to tell then she's being abused and he should be reported to child protective services. The mother is probably scared of him too. I think it's a thin line ... (read in full...)

My husband seems to be cheating on me...

Q.   i think my husband is cheating on me. he rarely makes love to me and is behaving in a suspicious way. he used to let me check his phone but refuses to let me near it lately. most of the time hes at home he will carry it around in his pocket which...

A.   25 January 2011: You're not being paranoid! The facts are there right in front of you. Now, what are you going to do is the question? Let me help you to decide. I know plenty of women who has had this feeling also, and did nothing about it,only later to end up with ... (read in full...)

He found out I was pregnant and he changed his phone number!

Q.   so me and my ex were together for over a year and lived together for about 7 months. He broke up with me a couple of times bc things were "too stressfull" him not working ect. We've been broken up for about 3 weeks now. The last thing we talked ...

A.   25 January 2011: That is a decision you need to make now without him. If you decide to have the baby,a changed number won't mean a thing to child support! They will find him. My concern is you now,do you want a baby at this time in your life? The chances are you ... (read in full...)

She says sex is all I care about!

Q.   I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 ...

A.   25 January 2011: And you still consider her your GIRLFRIEND? Well,if all you think is SEX, she sure don't care about your thoughts! ijs! I feel maybe you should ask her if there's something about the sex she don't like,and maybe she just want a FRIENDSHIP and not ... (read in full...)

How do I talk to her about her 'downstairs' hygiene without offending her?

Q.   I need some help. Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for seven months now and its going brilliantly. We see each other regularly, go out often and our sex life is very good. But there's an issue. I have noticed on occasion that he...

A.   24 January 2011: Some things soap and water can’t wash away. An antibiotic has to come into play! ijs! Ask her when was the last time she seen her GYN? And that should open the door for you to tell her gently about her odor, even suggest you will go w/her. ... (read in full...)

Hes my 1st in everything but hes cheated on me!

Q.   Hi I have been with my BF for over 17 yrs yes I have and 2 kids later he has ask for an 3 some and we did it then he went on his own with out me 3 yrs later we are still 2 gether should I stay with the guy he is my 1st in everthing...

A.   17 January 2011: You made your bed hard, now you have to lay in it! By agreeing to the 3some SMH! He did what MOST men do. That’s the “NORM” to go back, w/o us. He’ll use her for her and her “FREAKY FRIENDS” for his next 3some, and leave you out AGAIN! See, it’s ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to just carry on and pretend that there is nothing going on?

Q.   I'm 35 and friends with a 53 yr old guy who's married. We're really good friends, we completely trust and confide in each other, on the same wavelength etc. but we're strictly friends. Or were. Now I feel there's a slight tension between us. I will ...

A.   15 January 2011: I feel people go MUST in certain situations “Pretend as if nothing is happening” in order for nothing to happen! We know when that “Tension” is there and what it means, and it can be very uncomfortable. Nevertheless, the circumstances surrounding ... (read in full...)

Engaged, but I have always loved someone else.

Q.   I am 26 and currently engaged to a very lovely woman, but before I met her I was in love with another woman. the reason why i wasn't with the other woman is because she had been through a few heartbreaking relationships and was afraid that she would ...

A.   11 January 2011: I really feel no woman deserves to have walk down to aisle to a man that don’t love her. And you need to stop trying to get her to leave you because that may never happen, and you’ll find yourself in an unhappy marriage, married to a woman you’re ... (read in full...)

My mother needs to stop making me look like a pathetic role model in my kids eyes.

Q.   I'm not looking for pity but I feel like cow dunk.My mother's always putting her nose in my business but yesterday I couldn't take her insults anymore when she tried to make me out as a poor example of a mother to 4 kids. It started over dinner when ...

A.   10 January 2011: Once we become parents are decisions are not our own they become our families as well. It should matter. Your family is affected by what you are doing with your life I have to agree with your mother. You lead by example. You first need to control ... (read in full...)

I wonder if actions speak louder than words?

Q.   Lemme start off by saying I'm not trying to sound selfish or spoiled or anything alone those lines. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and I love him very much. He says he loves me but sometimes I wonder if actions so speak louder than words. ...

A.   10 January 2011: If you don't feel it in your HEART, and you're questioning his love for you based on his actions vs. his words. Then I say his love isn't meeting up to your standards. Is that wrong? I don't think so. If you don't set your standards, Who will you ... (read in full...)

I like my girlfriend's "natural scent". Is that weird?

Q.   I've noticed that I really like how my girlfriend smells. And I'm not talking perfume or deodorant, I mean her natural body scent. Like for instance when she's all sweaty after one of her soccer games I think she just smells amazingly sexy and ...

A.   10 January 2011: I don’t think its “WEIRD” most women don’t have that strong musty body odor, after playing sports like men and some men prefer to have that natural body scent. Those scents we give off during sex (Oral, in this case) are called: Pheromones which ... (read in full...)

I love her but don't want to be one of her sex slaves

Q.   Hi everyone, In short I know a girl who I care for and think I love, the problem is she is beautiful and younger and does not want to settle for any one man. She has a string of open relationships where she is sexually intimate with a few people. ...

A.   3 January 2011: No. I’m not going to fall "HEADS OVER HEELS' with someone who is careless with themselves. And having sex with several different people. You mentioned "She's not going to fall for just any man" BUT she will LAY for ANY huh? SMH... If you don't run ... (read in full...)

It just disgusts, saddens, and makes me depressed everytime I think about my girlfriend's past

Q.   So this is kind of a interesting situation. My girlfriend is 16 years old, and I am 18 years old. We have been in a steady relationship for about a year now. I have been having problems getting over her past. At one time, she got mixed into the w...

A.   28 December 2010: No matter how many times you tell her how proud you are of her! You can tell her this a MILLION times to that one time of downing her past and guess what we hear? The DOWNING!!! Because in order for us to have picked up a drug in the first place and ... (read in full...)

I feel like my husband and daughter are teamed up against me

Q.   My daughter wants to marry someone that I didn't approve of. I told my daughter my feelings and she was glad that I told her. The problem is now she can not saying hurtful things to me and has gained the sympathies of my husband. She will call ...

A.   28 December 2010: You must have forgotten what it feels like to be IN-LOVE Nothing you can say can turn her against him, even when he's wrong he's right in her eyes. When she came to you told her the "TRUTH" our daughters don't always want to hear the truth, when it ... (read in full...)

Should I tell dad that his new fiancee is the same girl I had sex with at a drunken frat party?

Q.   i met this really hot girl at a frat party and we got drunk and had sex. she was a year older and graduated a few months later so nothing after that happened. my parents got divorced a year later and when my dad started dating he got engaged with ...

A.   28 December 2010: Dear #STEPSON, I can’t just see how that can benefit your dad. He's happy, she’s happy. You're the only one that has a problem. Who’s to say he doesn't already know? She might have already told him! And when you tell him and he says “I know son" ... (read in full...)

DNA says I am not her father but she acknowledges me as if I'm her biological father

Q.   I am currently 57 years old. When I was in my early 20's I met a young woman. We spent time together and had relations, even though she had a man living in the same apartment with her at the time. After a short period of time (weeks) that man did ...

A.   28 December 2010: That little girl is no longer a little girl. She's a grown woman. And you know she's not your "daughter" if you choose to have her in your life as your step-daughter then take on that but with those memories of him popping up in your head every time ... (read in full...)

How many women actually orgasm during vaginal sex?

Q.   I've heard it's possible, but that it doesn't happen very often because it's hard to stimulate the clitoral complex this way. I've still never had sex, though I've orgasmed before through fingering, but I'm just wondering, are fingering and oral sex ...

A.   27 December 2010: It's hard for me but if the man has a high sex drive and can go for a long period then it can happen. And ORAL takes skills in order to have an orgasm! Fingering is great! So…I can see you truly enjoying yourself on that! Vaginal Orgasms are ... (read in full...)

Does he prefer the sex toys and and porn over me?

Q.   Ok so I've seen this posted before, but mine feels a little different. I know my boyfriend likes to jack off. Never botherd me. But we are going on almost 2 yrs and sex is fading. Maybe once a week. Now he has this fake vagina, that I got for him. ...

A.   27 December 2010: #GOODLOOKING! You being a good looking girl have nothing to do with this. He’s addicted to porn and that toy YOU gave him. I’m curious…Why did you buy him that toy, that you’re now pissed that he likes it? ijs. Men have dealt with women loving our ... (read in full...)

Shouldn't he pay for the toys?

Q.   My internet friend would like me to purchase a suction dido 10 inch, anal beads and anal butt plug to take with me on my holiday to see him and for me to use prior to my departure on Skype. I'm feeling hesitant considering I have never met him th...

A.   27 December 2010: I just shaking my head for real! I can't believe you would actually consider doing this! WOW! And NO!!! don't buy the toys and don't do the live sex. ... (read in full...)

He talks about sex all day but just goes to sleep when the lights are out.

Q.   My bf talks about having sex with me all day but when it's lights out he just falls asleep. Why?...

A.   27 December 2010: His talking is all HE need! Some people really get off on talking about sex. You have people who get of on Cyber sex, I think you talk too good to him. While you're looking forward to it, he has DONE something about it. Next time he want to talk ... (read in full...)

Who should tell my daughter what happened?

Q.   I'm a divorced dad who has a 20 year old daughter living with me. Let me make this short and to the point. Her long time friend who is 22 and in our life since she was 4 years old, propositioned me for sex. I denied her telling her I can't be with ...

A.   27 December 2010: You two are both adults. Therefore your daughter has no reason to be brought into it (If, the issue comes up at a later time, which, I doubt that it will) Handle it accordingly, by telling your daughter in front of her friend exactly what happened. ... (read in full...)

It just disgusts, saddens, and makes me depressed everytime I think about my girlfriend's past

Q.   So this is kind of a interesting situation. My girlfriend is 16 years old, and I am 18 years old. We have been in a steady relationship for about a year now. I have been having problems getting over her past. At one time, she got mixed into the w...

A.   27 December 2010: When I tried to change for other people other than myself it never would last long for the very reason you mentioned. They would throw it up in my face, and they would have me in tears. I too had drug problems alone with far more problems than she ... (read in full...)

Is it risky of me to do this no contact for a month knowing I want my BF and the relationship back?

Q.   ok so ive been with my bf for 4 years he cheated..he confessed it and told me that it made him realize how much me and the relationship meant to him and he was willing to prove to me how much he wanted this relationship and to earn my ...

A.   27 December 2010: Not communicating is never good. You set the time for one month, that’s a long time to just take “A MONTH OFF” from someone you love without talking about you needing this time. Its fine to take the time, my advice is to always communicate how you ... (read in full...)

Is it cheating to self masterbate in front of a massage parlor attendant?

Q.   Is it cheating to self masterbate in front of a massage parlor attendant? She offered to do it but I wasn't comfortable with letting her. She encouraged me to finish myself. I enjoyed the experience, but i'm feeling the guilt....

A.   24 December 2010: Absolutely! Whenever you mentally,emotionally and you now physically allow yourself to lose your self control by masturbating in front of this stranger. I feel you should go to wife and ask her to put on a show for you. Cheating don't have to be ... (read in full...)

Why am I not getting oral anymore?

Q.   Hey, my bf has recently stopped giving me oral sex. I am not sure why we have been together 11 months now and when we first started dating he told me it was his favorite thing to do. I asked him what his reason was he said idk I just don't ever feel ...

A.   24 December 2010: You're fine! Nothings wrong other then you spoiled him! ijs! UN-SPOIL him! And he will straighten up and fly right! LOL! ... (read in full...)

I lied to my boyfriend about getting raped and being pregnant and he wants me to help raise the baby!!!!

Q.   Okay, I'm 14. My boyfriend (who's 13) and I are really close, so we tell each other everything. One day, I saw him talking to his friend, who I SWEAR was hitting on him (she was touching him and everything)!! So I (obviously) got upset... I didn't ...

A.   24 December 2010: Well, I was going to pass this one up. And something just kept telling me to tell you my story. So...Here goes. I WAS raped, at the age of 12 and I DID get pregnant and had nobody I could go to tell that I had been raped. Not my mom, she was too ... (read in full...)

Why is it wrong for the woman to make a decision about marriage?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating about 2.5 years. We have a house together that we bought about a year ago. I have been ready for marriage since about our 2 year mark. I started discussing this with him a couple months ago. I know many people s...

A.   24 December 2010: I don't think what you're asking your boyfriend is unreasonable. And I also don't feel that in today's society women are frowned upon for brining up the subject of marriage. However, I do feel they're frown upon for staying in a relationship too ... (read in full...)

My children's father abandoned us, but his brother stepped in and saved the day.....is it wrong that we have fallen in love?

Q.   I am a single mother of two children. The father of my children abandoned us with nothing. No food, no money, and no secure shelter. When my children's father brother found out about the situation he provided us food and shelter. In this process we ...

A.   22 December 2010: Do what’s BEST for You and Your KIDS! Where was the FAMILY when the father left you w/o food and no secure shelter,with 2 kids? ijs! I agree with CaringGuy,Kids aren't stupid. Trust me the kids already know! It’s about when are you going to sit ... (read in full...)

Do men like lingerie or women naked?

Q.   So I got some realllly cute Lingerie at Victoria Secret to wear for my boyfriend the other day and I guess the thought never ran through my head but do guy's really enjoy lingerie or are most men just all for the full blown nakedness?...

A.   21 December 2010: They like to see you in it. BUT.. NOT LONG!!! I think the sexier and more away from your everyday "NORM" is what is the most EXCITING! ... (read in full...)

Our paranoia over each other has started to tear us apart!

Q.   How to deal with paranoia in relationships? Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 2 years and over the past year our paranoia over each other has started to tear us apart. We have both recognised it and want to work it out but just dont kn...

A.   21 December 2010: An addict is KNOWN to throw up the reverse psychology game on their partners. That’s what he is doing. He knows you have never cheated because your track record is clean. All they have to go on is our pass. Yours is not a cheating smudge on it, from ... (read in full...)

Is he referring to oral sex?

Q.   Hi, This is a question for the guys. If a guy says to a woman he wants to touch and lick you until you scream.Is he referring to oral sex? ...

A.   21 December 2010: ABSOLUTELY!... (read in full...)

Should I have sex with him so he can leave me alone?

Q.   Somebody plz help me. I made a stupid decision that can cost me my marriage. I'm ashamed,embarrassed, and feel like crap. I got myself involved with a man at my job who liked to do phone sex. He is older than I and married. It was fun at first ...

A.   18 December 2010: Should you have sex with him? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Why would you add fuel to this fire? He's committing a crime with your permission, Stop him. File a suit. I'm sure you're not the first and won't be the last woman he's done this to, he need to reported ... (read in full...)

Maybe this relationship isn't that perfect.

Q.   What do you do when you're in a relationship with someone who should be perfect for you. They're pretty much your own age, clever, funny and just generally lovely, but it's not enough, and you find yourself completely falling for someone else you ...

A.   17 December 2010: You’re at the age when we want something considered to be “Taboo” Something we should not have and our conscience tells us that! I didn’t listen, But I’m advising you, to (((LISTEN)))... (read in full...)

I don't want to watch my friend get hurt by this obvious player!

Q.   hello i was just wondering what everyones opinion on this guy would be.Its a man that my friend is somewhat talking to and we cant seem to figure him out. ill call him J. So for starters she is in a relationship and has been for the past three y...

A.   16 December 2010: Every "PLAYER" I've known played until they met their match. People change not just sometimes, but all the time. As far as him not meeting her a the club, that's her fault, for continuing to talk to him after that. And like dirtball said "Friends ... (read in full...)

Neither of us really understand what love is! Help!

Q.   I'm 19 and I used to be a bad person. I was raised by a single mother that never really cared about me because i was a mistake. I was shown no love growing up so I gave non. About 2 years ago I looked into this girls eyes and sense then she is all i ...

A.   15 December 2010: ABSOLUTELY!!! If a little was money instead of advice we was speaking of, and you was totally broke and somebody came alone and gave you One hundred dollars! You'll be a lot better then when they found you! Correct? LOL! Point well made! ijs! Thanks ... (read in full...)

Neither of us really understand what love is! Help!

Q.   I'm 19 and I used to be a bad person. I was raised by a single mother that never really cared about me because i was a mistake. I was shown no love growing up so I gave non. About 2 years ago I looked into this girls eyes and sense then she is all i ...

A.   14 December 2010: You’re absolutely right! NOT everybody is the same! Not everybody is seeking something in the future for doing a deed. You have to remember you do have trust issues that stems from your childhood. And it’s going to take some time before you learn ... (read in full...)

I love him and hate that I have to string him along so I won't lose him because of my garbage

Q.   Hi everybody.I've got myself in a crazy love situation that's making me feel guilty and miserable all at the same time. So here's what happening. I met this man last december when I went to visit my parents for a few weeks. I was trying to pump gas ...

A.   14 December 2010: You don’t have to tell me your “GARBAGE” for me to tell you that you need to be honest and up front with him so that he can make sure he’s willing to deal with your situation and not getting himself involved with something he’s not willing to ... (read in full...)

Neither of us really understand what love is! Help!

Q.   I'm 19 and I used to be a bad person. I was raised by a single mother that never really cared about me because i was a mistake. I was shown no love growing up so I gave non. About 2 years ago I looked into this girls eyes and sense then she is all i ...

A.   13 December 2010: I strongly believe there’s no such thing as a “MISTAKE” we all have a purpose here. It’s too bad we can’t pick our parents. We must find something positive out of everything single thing that happens to us! Even if that thing is we survived it! She ... (read in full...)

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