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female
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30-35,
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writes:This is kind of embarrassing for me, but I am very self-concious about my vagina. I have a rather large labia and fear that men would find it unattractive. Though I've never had sex, I've been sexually involved with a couple of guys in other ways and I've never let them look at my vagina. While they've felt me there before, they never said anything about it, both good or bad.With the way beautiful women are portrayed in the media- to have perfectly tight areas, I just feel ugly. I'm almost 18, and because of my personal values I don't want to have sex until I'm sure I'm with the right person, but I just don't want to hide who I am when that time comes.I know this is an awkward topic, but I would like some insight from a guy's point of view. Is my situation unattractive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): Please stop worrying! All bodies and genitals are different. Most real men find them all fascinating - it's hard wired into us. When somebody loves you, the brain does a funny thing and you become a picture of perfect beauty to them. Here's a guy secret - most of us are worried that something is strange about our bodies, too.
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reader, H..17  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 No I like a real vagina so don't u worry ur vagina is beautiful my ex girl friend had the same fear and when we had sex I had a better orgasm because the labia was bigger and it turned Me on because it feels so nice so belive me use it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): Personally, I love large labias. I think they are extremely sexy. I wouldn't worry about it at all if I were you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): PLEASE do not use the air-brushed and photoshoped "women" that are shown in the media to determine what a normal HEALTHY body looks like.
I've never seen an ugly labia (and I've seen plenty!). Are they different? YES, never seen 2 that we the same. I've been with women who had large lips, medium and one had virtually none at all (and she had an overly tight vagina that made having sex seriously hard for her- not good).
A few years ago, an author put out a book of sketches of real women's vulvas to help them see what other (real women) really looked like. Sadly, I can't find the name of it now, but see if you can find it, or a web site that shows REAL women.
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reader, Nime +, writes (21 February 2011):
 "With the way beautiful women are portrayed in the media- to have perfectly tight areas"
If you're referring to porn, many of the women in professional porn have cosmetic surgery done to their private areas, from vastly reducing the size of the labia and correcting asymmetrical features (labiaplasty), to bleaching the dark area around the anus that everybody naturally has, and so forth. There are also women in porn with large labia that hang out and men like that too.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself to look 'perfect'; most men know that the perfect look isn't real and in fact most men I know aren't too fond of the look of the synthetic, plastic looking vagina that has been reduced to a tiny pink slit thanks to surgery and photoshopping nowadays. It's not sexy because it's not organic or real looking. You have nothing to worry about when it comes to your labia, just carry yourself with confidence.
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (21 February 2011):
 You said it all when you said " I don't want to have sex until I'm sure I'm with the right person" The right person will love you and your large labia.
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reader, sam44  +, writes (21 February 2011):
im a guy and i dont mind at all, if you find a guy who has a problem with that, get rid of him quicker that a lightning.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): It doesn't matter if your labia is slightly larger. What your man will want is tighter vaginal muscles. There isn't anything to make the labia smaller. You don't have to worry about pleasing your man. He shouldn't find it a visual turn off.
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reader, Thisdizzle +, writes (21 February 2011):
According to your values, by the time he gets to it, it should be a none-issue. If not, you filtered out another douche who wasn't good enough for you.
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (21 February 2011):
 I know i'm not a guy. But I have the same problem, and theres a site that really helped me.
It's called sexy labia, it's NSFW. But it has a message board, with tons of girls saying the same thing as this, and guys saying how much they love big labia. It saved my self esteem.
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