Neither of us really understand what love is! Help!
Q. I'm 19 and I used to be a bad person. I was raised by a single mother that never really cared about me because i was a mistake. I was shown no love growing up so I gave non. About 2 years ago I looked into this girls eyes and sense then she is all i ...
A. 15 December 2010: ABSOLUTELY!!! If a little was money instead of advice we was speaking of, and you was totally broke and somebody came alone and gave you One hundred dollars! You'll be a lot better then when they found you! Correct? LOL! Point well made! ijs! Thanks ... (read in full...)
Neither of us really understand what love is! Help!
Q. I'm 19 and I used to be a bad person. I was raised by a single mother that never really cared about me because i was a mistake. I was shown no love growing up so I gave non. About 2 years ago I looked into this girls eyes and sense then she is all i ...
A. 14 December 2010: You’re absolutely right! NOT everybody is the same! Not everybody is seeking something in the future for doing a deed. You have to remember you do have trust issues that stems from your childhood. And it’s going to take some time before you learn ... (read in full...)
I love him and hate that I have to string him along so I won't lose him because of my garbage
Q. Hi everybody.I've got myself in a crazy love situation that's making me feel guilty and miserable all at the same time. So here's what happening. I met this man last december when I went to visit my parents for a few weeks. I was trying to pump gas ...
A. 14 December 2010: You don’t have to tell me your “GARBAGE” for me to tell you that you need to be honest and up front with him so that he can make sure he’s willing to deal with your situation and not getting himself involved with something he’s not willing to ... (read in full...)
Neither of us really understand what love is! Help!
Q. I'm 19 and I used to be a bad person. I was raised by a single mother that never really cared about me because i was a mistake. I was shown no love growing up so I gave non. About 2 years ago I looked into this girls eyes and sense then she is all i ...
A. 13 December 2010: I strongly believe there’s no such thing as a “MISTAKE” we all have a purpose here. It’s too bad we can’t pick our parents. We must find something positive out of everything single thing that happens to us! Even if that thing is we survived it! She ... (read in full...)
I cant turn on my fiance! Is He sleeping with someone else?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together for about 6 years years, we have a three year old daughter, and im pregnant again. We split up awhile ago, and during that he slept with someone else. We are better now, and i have never been happier with him. but ...
A. 11 December 2010: HONESTY...I think another woman has nothing to do with you not being able
to turn him on. You mentioned you’re “Never been “HAPPIER” when our men are sleeping with another woman, WE ARE NOT HAPPY! Ijs! So that’s not it! He said he’s just “TIR... (read in full...)
Make out lessons needed!
Q. Ok my boyfriend and I have been dating for only 2 months, I really like him, he is really sweet, but my question is when we are I n his car or last week went to the movies, he starts getting really into me and kissing me and stroking my legs and ...
A. 10 December 2010: I'm HAPPY to hear from you!!! WOW! Thank you. And I hope things continue to go well with the two of you. Keep us Updated!!! I'm hoping this is one of those relationships that last FOREVER!I'm a "DIE-HEART ROMANTIC" So..we'll expect to hear a lot ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll treat him right?
Q. okay im 27 my ex is 28, we still live together and just had a baby.. from the day his ex which he has two kids with found out about me she has been bothering him non stop first asking numerous questions about me then reminding him about thier past ...
A. 9 December 2010: He’s responsible for his share of the rent regardless if he leaves or stay. Do I think it would be BAD if you asked him to stay until May? Is what you’re asking? I think it would put him in an uncomfortable position. He was man enough to come out ... (read in full...)
Does he still love his ex wife?
Q. I am in a muddle. I am an Australian girl just 25. I have been in a relationship with an older man for four years now, he is 42. I am worried he still loves his ex wife. He gives me every reason to be suspicious. he never talks to her infront of me, ...
A. 8 December 2010: If she refuses to pay for the divorce and he also refuse to GET the the divorce then what is left? You hanging.ijs! ... (read in full...)
Should I still be a part of my ex's daughter's life?
Q. Should I continue to be part of my ex daughter life if she left me. She said that we grew apart. I was always trying to help her get a head but she just wanted to stay where she was at. I asked her to marry me bought a house for us to live in she ...
A. 8 December 2010: You have to stand up to her. and stand FIRM on what you're willing to do and not do, as a Step father. Talk to your EX,and get a SOLID plan established with her concerning your step daughter,when you will pick her up, and what you're willing to do ... (read in full...)
Everyone says it's not right we're dating because she's under 18?
Q. Hey everyone, So my girlfriend is 17 years old and i'm 19. Everyone keeps saying that it's not right for us to be dating because she is under 18. I don't think it's a big deal but I was wondering what you all think. So do you think it's okay or is ...
A. 8 December 2010: MY GOD the girl is 17! NOT 13. NOT 15! She's almost 18!!! And what's the BIG deal? SMH! People always have something to say when they see other people HAPPY! I don't see anything wrong with it! Most YOUNG couples are 2 to 3 years apart in age. I ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll treat him right?
Q. okay im 27 my ex is 28, we still live together and just had a baby.. from the day his ex which he has two kids with found out about me she has been bothering him non stop first asking numerous questions about me then reminding him about thier past ...
A. 8 December 2010: It’s NOT easy!!! I’ve been where you are!!! Trust I’ve been there! You can’t allow him to continue to disrespect you. Tell him tonight NO more texting her in YOU HOME if it’s NOT ABOUT THE KIDS. IF he’s going to be your EX then NO SEX! That’s going ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll treat him right?
Q. okay im 27 my ex is 28, we still live together and just had a baby.. from the day his ex which he has two kids with found out about me she has been bothering him non stop first asking numerous questions about me then reminding him about thier past ...
A. 8 December 2010: It’s NOT easy!!! I’ve been where you are!!! Trust ME I’ve been there! You can’t allow him to continue to disrespect you. Tell him tonight NO more texting her in YOUR HOME if it’s NOT ABOUT THE KIDS. IF he’s going to be your EX then NO SEX! That’s ... (read in full...)
She likes him, but he likes me, and I like him. Did I mention we're all friends?
Q. My really good girl friend is in love with my best friend and he doesn't feel the same way.. because he likes me. i feel horrible because i like him back. my friend doesn't know. should i go out with him?...
A. 7 December 2010: You stated he's YOUR "BEST" FRIEND and she's a good friend friend. And not other way around. I would talk to her as Mjfbla suggested, it's hard to find relationships wheres he's your BEST FRIEND also! She will be hurt at first, but she'll be get ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll treat him right?
Q. okay im 27 my ex is 28, we still live together and just had a baby.. from the day his ex which he has two kids with found out about me she has been bothering him non stop first asking numerous questions about me then reminding him about thier past ...
A. 7 December 2010: Legally most states would call what you did an illegal eviction. I can’t tell you with a clear conscience putting him out after he paid his rent was the “RIGHT” thing to do, since you had already stated he was there due to “BILLS”. NOW!!! since he ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll treat him right?
Q. okay im 27 my ex is 28, we still live together and just had a baby.. from the day his ex which he has two kids with found out about me she has been bothering him non stop first asking numerous questions about me then reminding him about thier past ...
A. 7 December 2010: Legally most states would call what you did an illegal eviction. I can’t tell you with a clear conscience putting him out after he paid his rent was the “RIGHT” thing to do, since you had already stated he was there due to “BILLS”. NOW!!! since he ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend... or just friends???
Q. me and my 'bf' broke up a while ago however we still remain very close and hang out a lot. he still calls me baby or babe or mami etc all the time if we are out at the store he will lovingly graze my a$$ or grab me in some way... but in private h...
A. 7 December 2010: I can't you tell as a woman who has been where you are that I haven't felt as you feel. I would be lying! With that being said, I would have to admit you have won my heart! I have listened, I have waited for you to reply, and must admit I too had ... (read in full...)
I don't even want to have sex half the time!
Q. I constantly offer myself to my boyfriend and have sex with him whenever he wants. He loves me and really appreciates that about me, however I don't even want to do it half of the time. Theres something wrong with me, I don't know why I always try ...
A. 5 December 2010: I think you could be right! However I would need far more information to make my decision, and give better advice on this, normally when someone has fear of abandonment they also has had abandonment issues. Like the parents abandoned them. Or ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll treat him right?
Q. okay im 27 my ex is 28, we still live together and just had a baby.. from the day his ex which he has two kids with found out about me she has been bothering him non stop first asking numerous questions about me then reminding him about thier past ...
A. 5 December 2010: I wouldn't want him. You deserve somebody to call your own. He's there with in BODY only , his mind and heart is with her. LET him go! You mentioned that you told him to "Make it seem like I'm not really in the picture anymore and that I've moved ... (read in full...)
Make out lessons needed!
Q. Ok my boyfriend and I have been dating for only 2 months, I really like him, he is really sweet, but my question is when we are I n his car or last week went to the movies, he starts getting really into me and kissing me and stroking my legs and ...
A. 3 December 2010: Great.With that being said. I say this to you AGAIN when the time is right, I,and NOBODY else will need to tell you what to do, the first time you have sex, I just feel that's a BEAUTIFUL experience that should be between you and your boyfriend. You ... (read in full...)
We opened up and shared dark secrets, although his might have been better off left in the closet!
Q. Well, I am 19 years old. I have a wonderful boyfriend who is 21, and we have been dating for 2 years, and altogether I've known him for about 5 years. Recently we opened up and told "dark secrets" He told me about how he use to be friends with this ...
A. 3 December 2010: I feel this type of thing happen much more then we would like to admit! Plenty of men has had some type of sexual experiment with another male in SOME type of fashion! However they very seldom find somebody whom they can talk to about it. I was ... (read in full...)
How can I be more confident and feel more sexy?
Q. Any tips for confidence? hi I've started dating a guy and we have great sexual chemistry between us. Thing is I've rescently put on a bit of weight and with it lost a bit of confidence. any tips for having more confidence in my sexy self?..he m...
A. 3 December 2010: I too have felt the way you feel. It's NOT about what HE feels. At the end the day it's ABOUT you! Who "MUST" LOVE YOU?..NOT HIM! But... YOU? I'm responsible for loving ME. And no matter how times a MAN tells me how PRETTY I am, I need to FEEL it, ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend... or just friends???
Q. me and my 'bf' broke up a while ago however we still remain very close and hang out a lot. he still calls me baby or babe or mami etc all the time if we are out at the store he will lovingly graze my a$$ or grab me in some way... but in private h...
A. 3 December 2010: OK.So..You're saying you're going to "STAY SINGLE" REGARDLESS to what he says. And NOW...He calls you HIS LADY,Huh? Does that make you SINGLE? NO. That make you HIS... LADY Because you have NOT stopped him from putting a LABEL on YOU! You have to ... (read in full...)
My sex drive has gone through the roof! So much so that I am even considering an affair, what should I do?
Q. Dear forum I am coming to you for help as I there is no one else to turn to. I am 39 year old woman happily married for 13 years and a son.I love my husband dearly.My husband is the only man I have ever been with.The last couple of years my...
A. 2 December 2010: You're so..very welcome!!! My daughter is getting married Sept.12 2011. She's a virgin and so is her future husband! Both are 20. I showed them this post, and they were SO..happy to see this. Because it showed them, they can't take for granted ... (read in full...)
Make out lessons needed!
Q. Ok my boyfriend and I have been dating for only 2 months, I really like him, he is really sweet, but my question is when we are I n his car or last week went to the movies, he starts getting really into me and kissing me and stroking my legs and ...
A. 2 December 2010: When it's The RIGHT TIME it will come naturally NOBODY will have to tell you. Now it Not the time. Sorry. And your body is telling you it don't want to lose "IT" in a CAR or in the MOVIES!!! IJS.. Try dating a somebody who respect you a little more ... (read in full...)
I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years.
Q. I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years. I have never told anyone this and I have never acted upon my feelings. Recently I felt that he may have feelings for me too! He hasn't directly told me so or made a pass at me ...
A. 1 December 2010: I PERSONALLY would not express my feeling to all involved THOSE are your feelings you are the owner of those feelings solely.. And those two have nothing to do with how you FEEL..You need to control your emotions and know that he's HER husband and ... (read in full...)
My sex drive has gone through the roof! So much so that I am even considering an affair, what should I do?
Q. Dear forum I am coming to you for help as I there is no one else to turn to. I am 39 year old woman happily married for 13 years and a son.I love my husband dearly.My husband is the only man I have ever been with.The last couple of years my...
A. 1 December 2010: STOP the chatting NOW!!! And.. YES!!! Your husband thinks that you won't cheap because you have a clean track record! KEEP IT CLEAN! Keep his trust! Those sites are full of perverts HOPING and "PREYING" on women like you! DON'T don't it! It's ... (read in full...)
I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years.
Q. I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years. I have never told anyone this and I have never acted upon my feelings. Recently I felt that he may have feelings for me too! He hasn't directly told me so or made a pass at me ...
A. 30 November 2010: For 20 years you have controlled yourself!!! I don't see why 20 more years of controlling yourself should be a problem? He's off limits. Shes your BEST friend! I could never hurt my friend, no matter what my heart told me!!! Now is the time to ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend... or just friends???
Q. me and my 'bf' broke up a while ago however we still remain very close and hang out a lot. he still calls me baby or babe or mami etc all the time if we are out at the store he will lovingly graze my a$$ or grab me in some way... but in private h...
A. 30 November 2010: He does that in public, so that you will STAY single!!! He doesn't want to mislead his family, because he's probably bring other girls around them. And my advice to you would be to ask him to stop confusing you, I wouldn't ask for the label of "THE ... (read in full...)
We have totally different views on lying, who is right?
Q. How do I deal with this??? Me and my girlfriend are in mad love, and could probably make it if there weren't these issues. One is that we both have very different views on lying. I view lying as not very glamorous but a part of life, it...
A. 19 November 2010: There NO such as A FREE LIE, Somebody PAY for the lies you tell in LIFE and in this case it's HER! She's paying because YOU decided that to tell a LIE was harmless! Not TRUE! They harm Somebody, Somewhere! I feel to DECIDE what a person can and ... (read in full...)
Why has my friend started flirting with me? Is he just playing around?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for a long time now. I never in a million years would have thought he was interested in me until he started flirting with me. Him and I always talk about our relationships and everything. Recently, he started to ...
A. 19 November 2010: He could be too embarrassed to face you face to face, after all he did take this friendship to another level. Texting is NOTHING like the REAL thing! And maybe you should initiate a phone call, and see how that goes. And later maybe a date, it has ... (read in full...)
Why is she avoiding me?
Q. I know a girl and we dated for a couple of months. She moved then for no appearent reason stopped talking to me. Then i seen her around and she acts like she isn't avoiding me. Whats up with that? ...
A. 19 November 2010: She has moved on! I feel she could have talked to you, and let you know her plans. You did say for "No appearent reason" she left.Think about it a little longer and maybe you'll come up with THE reason! IJS. Sometimes we just have to roll with it! ... (read in full...)
Is my ex mentally ill and dangerous?
Q. why does my ex bf breakup, forget me for long time then out of the blue appear when i get a new bf and then disappears out of the blue when i forget about my new bf for him???? This happened 4 times. I know its part my fault but why does he keep ...
A. 19 November 2010: I'm totally with what "CaringGuy" said! ... (read in full...)
Wife says she's in love with both of us!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 33 year old who has been with the same woman for 14 years and been married for 7 of those years. I love this woman with everything I have. We have four children together and are very happy together. My question is, rec...
A. 18 November 2010: Never put up with that type of behavior! You don't deserve it! If she see can get away once she'll do it twice and then it's off to the races! No..don't allow NOBODY to do you that way! ijs.... (read in full...)
Is he having some ED problems? Or am I not attractive enough to him?
Q. Hi my boyfiend makes sure i enjoy sex and that i orgasm every time we have sex. as a matter of fact i had a relationship with a guy before and i never had an orgasm with him, i couldnt relax and i couldnt completely give in. but i loved the guy and ...
A. 18 November 2010: He does that as a POWER MOVE. He knows you don't truly appreciate him. It's his way of saying, "SEE WHAT YOU MISSING? Give me your all & you'll see all of ME" Call his BUFF! Give your ALL! ijs. ... (read in full...)
Is he having some ED problems? Or am I not attractive enough to him?
Q. Hi my boyfiend makes sure i enjoy sex and that i orgasm every time we have sex. as a matter of fact i had a relationship with a guy before and i never had an orgasm with him, i couldnt relax and i couldnt completely give in. but i loved the guy and ...
A. 18 November 2010: You mentioned if you "compare him to my ex", that's a NO,NO..never compare the new to the old sexually. Why? because he will feel it. You don't have say you're disappointed for disappointment to show up all over your body. If you want your ... (read in full...)
I know about one child out of wedlock but my husband may have another??
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 2 years. When we got married i knew he had a son. When he finally started getting his visitaion he was all excited and i was too because he finally gets to be part of his sons life. he goes down the park one ...
A. 17 November 2010: He's SELFISH, And being unfair! He cut you off from the visitation, that's WRONG or wrong! Either way you look at it's WRONG!!! He's may have another child or in the process of "MAKING" another one! Husband or NOT! Protect yourself from him! Go buy ... (read in full...)
This female friend of his is sticking her nose in where its not wanted! What can we do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. When we met for the first time, he was with a friend who was a girl, and she had made a comment to him that "he was going to marry me someday". Anyway, as much as that was a cute comment, I ...
A. 17 November 2010: Delete,HER! And too many people ALLOW fb, to run their relationships! I mean what has this world come to, that we can't or won't DELETE unnecessary people that bring negativity into our lives? Before Fb, people our age, just got rid those types! ... (read in full...)
Do I owe my ex another chance like my family thinks I do, or do I follow my heart?
Q. So my situation is this, I have been living in my parent's house with my boyfriend for five years. When my mother let him come to live at my house he and I were just friends, and had met online. He is from 3,000 miles away, and all of his family is ...
A. 17 November 2010: It comes a time in our lives when we cut the "APRON" strings. Now is that time for you. By that I'm saying as long as you ALLOW your family to control your life you're under their control. Take your life in your own hands! And you don't OWE him ... (read in full...)
Why would a person say "If I was not with my current boyfriend, I would have this other guy instead"?
Q. Its just a simple question, why would a person say "If I was not with my current boyfriend, I would have this other guy instead"? What does this show? Should I warn the boyfriend? This guy is my friend and I over heard this from a friend and worries ...
A. 17 November 2010: You're reading too deep into something thats NOTHING! ijs.... (read in full...)
I want to have closure to my relationship with this girl, but I don't know what to say to her!
Q. A girl I was with for a long time is moving very far away very soon. She has been with this other guy for over a year now, he is a total scumbag. She and I recently got into a fight, she deleted me on facebook, won't let me in her house, etc. I said ...
A. 17 November 2010: If you ever loved her, you will let her GO. She has moved on,and if the feeling you having is as you mentioned "jealous, I'm spiteful,& angry," All those are negative feelings, nowhere did you mention, REMORSE.You did say you did more things wrong, ... (read in full...)
Can polyamorous relationships really work in the long-run?
Q. Is there anyone out there in a successful polyamorous relationship? My wife and I recently fell in love with another woman and believe it or not I sometimes have jealousy issues over the time they spend with each other without me. they do have ...
A. 15 November 2010: I'm happy that you and I were able to "RELATE" because, I too have been there. The differences in my relationship was that he never had, the concern of all parties as you do. He was selfish! You said the right words when you said it's "The art of ... (read in full...)
Can polyamorous relationships really work in the long-run?
Q. Is there anyone out there in a successful polyamorous relationship? My wife and I recently fell in love with another woman and believe it or not I sometimes have jealousy issues over the time they spend with each other without me. they do have ...
A. 15 November 2010: ABSOLUTELY! If all parties just accept and play their part, then it can certainly work! Playing your part is where the confusion comes in. Getting a clear understanding where you exactly "FIT-IN", can be painful and bring on jealous emotions. ... (read in full...)
Lost: Soulmate, reward if found.
Q. I became involved with a woman seperated from her husband. She was asked for a divorce from her husband and he told her to move on. She met me shortly after and we fell in love. We talked about marriage, having a family together, bought rings for ...
A. 12 November 2010: You scared her. And if a woman is going to be scared she whether be scared in familiar territory. Not scared meaning fearing for her life, but..as in smothered.. You scared her in that way. Soul-mates don't have hesitating feelings and they don't ... (read in full...)
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