Lost: Soulmate, reward if found.
Q. I became involved with a woman seperated from her husband. She was asked for a divorce from her husband and he told her to move on. She met me shortly after and we fell in love. We talked about marriage, having a family together, bought rings for ...
A. 12 November 2010: You scared her. And if a woman is going to be scared she whether be scared in familiar territory. Not scared meaning fearing for her life, but..as in smothered.. You scared her in that way. Soul-mates don't have hesitating feelings and they don't ... (read in full...)
Swinger wanting to be monogamous with me!
Q. ok this is gonna sound really weird but anyways. i met this guy a couple of months ago and we both hit it off. a few days later he told me that he was a member of swingers club i was like oh cool. it doesnt really bother me i was happy that he was h...
A. 12 November 2010: WOW!! I had to look around and think for a minute I felt like somebody was looking into my heart, and my soul! I'm going through this exact same thing. I think two people have met and know what both were searching for and have found it, in each ... (read in full...)
He puts on a condom when we're only making out?
Q. as soon as we start making out my boyfriend puts on a condom. i meen like straight straight away.can it be that he doesnt like blow jobs and just doesnt want to say so thats why? he likes it when i rub him he told me. or is it just because hes ...
A. 12 November 2010: He could have attended HIV awareness classes,or he just pays attention in class when the teacher is speaking on the importance of protecting yourself from unwanted diseases as well as unplanned pregnancy..It's rare , but you can become pregnant from ... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell me why he thinks he's hurting me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for six months and I love him to death. Everything was perfect and I couldn't ask for a better man. A few days before homecoming we got into a small arguement and he broke up with me because he said he doesn't ...
A. 9 November 2010: He has hurt you in ways you don't know, because you was NOT an willing participate. By that I'm saying he could have had an another girlfriend,said or did things that was derogatory towards you and or your character. Whatever the case may be he does ... (read in full...)
Do I cut it off completely or hang around as a friend and hide my feelings for her?
Q. I meet this girl at work. She was much younger 23 to my 42. We really hit it off. Unfortunately she was married to an abusive husband and needless to say things where complicated to a point where I finally walked from the drama. She has since ...
A. 7 November 2010: I see no need for YOU of all people to have any fear of uncertainties,in YOUR life. Stay focused. ... (read in full...)
Should my Brother-in-law have helped me dress?
Q. I am 24, and my sister's husband took me to a hospital for a minor procedure that involved anesthesia. When I was done, he came in to see me. The nurse came in and said I could go, but needed to get dressed. She assumed he was my husband, and ...
A. 6 November 2010: So did the Nurse! Just think of it that way if that will make you feel any better. I took care of my father when he had cancer he couldn't wash his body I had to his entire body,I'm much too mature to think about his privates in any way other then I ... (read in full...)
Do I cut it off completely or hang around as a friend and hide my feelings for her?
Q. I meet this girl at work. She was much younger 23 to my 42. We really hit it off. Unfortunately she was married to an abusive husband and needless to say things where complicated to a point where I finally walked from the drama. She has since ...
A. 6 November 2010: I think that you've always had a good head on your shoulders and I can't see you not coming out on top!! ... (read in full...)
He high fived me after sex and now is ignoring me at work
Q. Hi, Met guy really liked him his way younger then me though! We met through work.he liked me for bout 4 weeks, kept catching him major staring. Then I got speaking to him, through msn! I researched through friends who he was, as saw him in the same...
A. 5 November 2010: OOPS! I meant to say *blindfold* My bad.... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits?
Q. Alfredo has been one of my very good friends for a long time. But as you know female-male friendships are a lil hard keep. Eventually it happened, we had a lil too much to drink and we had sex... then it happened again.. and again.. We became s...
A. 5 November 2010: I had A friend who we were truly platonic friends, and one day he met a young woman and she was a little more advanced sexually then he was and so was I. We always talked about sex but never crossed the line. Until one day he called and said I'm not ... (read in full...)
He high fived me after sex and now is ignoring me at work
Q. Hi, Met guy really liked him his way younger then me though! We met through work.he liked me for bout 4 weeks, kept catching him major staring. Then I got speaking to him, through msn! I researched through friends who he was, as saw him in the same...
A. 5 November 2010: I think EVERY ONE gave EXCELLENT advice!!! So..you can blind yourself and pick out an agony Aunt's advice and come out a WINNER!!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been a major ass to me recently and I want to break up with him, but I'm scared I might be pregnant!
Q. Hey!So I'm a 14 year old girl that just recently lost her virginity. Since then I have had sex with my boyfriend quite a few times. But now I'm starting to become scared. All the times we have had sex we have never used a condom. I've researched a ...
A. 4 November 2010: Please talk to your parents. I made the mistake of not talking to mines, and I don't regret my daughter I love her with all my heart,however my life has been very hard! And if he's acting like that now, he will act that way if you tell him you might ... (read in full...)
He high fived me after sex and now is ignoring me at work
Q. Hi, Met guy really liked him his way younger then me though! We met through work.he liked me for bout 4 weeks, kept catching him major staring. Then I got speaking to him, through msn! I researched through friends who he was, as saw him in the same...
A. 4 November 2010: Ok... Here's what happened you was his challenge, either with himself or with his friends either way you was a challenge. nevertheless. And the high 5? Well that was his way of saying "THANKS!" Goal Accomplishment. It's the same as any other HIGH 5. ... (read in full...)
Is she confused or just plain upset that I didn't propose to her?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over five years. Last spring we moved in together, and things seemed fine. Three weeks ago I came home and she told me she wasn't happy and she didn't want to be with me any more, and she said she ...
A. 4 November 2010: Women say they want a hard working man. That put family first and that make sure he's prepared to take care of her before committing.And you did that.And if for some reason have we can't have children,we can get a "CAT" and he'll think of it as our ... (read in full...)
Is it selfish of me to want more when she says she wants just friendship?Or is she playing games with me?
Q. Hi, There are two parts to this question, but they are really both of the same question: 1) I have been friends with a girl for about a year. We started off as casual acquaintances, then got closer. She says I am a dear friend to her. She is ...
A. 4 November 2010: I'm at a point in my life where is imperative, that I stay focused. And I don't date, right now. I have met some very nice men,however I know when the the mind is made up but the heart has it's own plans,#KEMISTRY that no matter what "I" say say the ... (read in full...)
Do I cut it off completely or hang around as a friend and hide my feelings for her?
Q. I meet this girl at work. She was much younger 23 to my 42. We really hit it off. Unfortunately she was married to an abusive husband and needless to say things where complicated to a point where I finally walked from the drama. She has since ...
A. 4 November 2010: She's only doing to you what you "TAUGHT" her to do to you! We teach people by "example" how to treat us! The moment they step foot in our lives!! You said nothing about those men knocking at her door, that's her house, but, IT'S your life, that's ... (read in full...)
Strange email...
Q. I was checking my email when I saw a picture, it says this person was searching for you - it was a 31 year old from my city, the email is under my husband's name, should I question this or just leave this alone?...
A. 4 November 2010: The picture could be an Old class mate!!! I look them up all the time!!!... (read in full...)
My husband just told me he has a child to someone else!
Q. I' ve been married for 10 years, have know, him for 16 years. We were separated for 3 years, well recently my husband said he might have another child, he had said this before while we were arguing for years, but when I tried to talk about it he ...
A. 2 November 2010: Yes. There is a way for you to find out on your your own it's called " PATIENCE" it will come in your mail in the form of certified mail call "CHILD SUPPORT" And in that the in envelope will be a letter telling the both of you (Because your his ... (read in full...)
Very small penis, now I don't fancy him!
Q. I'm in a bit of a cuffuffle. I started talking to a lovely guy a few weeks ago, we have been on 3 dates and I stayed at his house last night. I'm 21 he's 31. We ended up getting naked and feeling each other. I noticed that when his penis is e...
A. 2 November 2010: I can't see the BIG deal with not wanting a guy because his penis is small! If a man can use his short "TONGUE" and get the JOB DONE then SURELY,a SMALL PENIS when used correctly will get the job done! BUT,I GUESS IT'S "DIFFERENT STOKES FOR ... (read in full...)
He's watching porn... is he a player? Am I too ugly for him?
Q. Hi everybody. I need you to judge me. My boyfriend said I'm too jealous. We been together for 3years on and off. I always check on his stuff. Like his cell phone, computer. I always see what he been watching on the internet. I found out last pas...
A. 1 November 2010: I LOVE the way dirtball broke it all the way down for you! There's nothing I can say. All I can do is tip my hat to dirtball for his Well Spoken Words.~No Watered Advice Here!... (read in full...)
Is the only way to move on to forget about your ex completely?
Q. I miss my ex a lot. I miss his smiles, his hugs, his stories, his everything. I know he has moved on. I know he would be happier with someone else. He has told me many times what he doesn't like about me. I wish I could be the person he wants to be ...
A. 1 November 2010: It's IMPOSSIBLE to FORGET about somebody that you loved as much as loved him. However it's imperative, That you that move on.! I know right now it may seem like it's no way you can see YOU with out HIM! But..You must See YOU with HIM! That's the ... (read in full...)
Should I hang in there? I don't want to be played games with...
Q. I met a man at church and he will wink at me and we always look into each other eyes. last sunday i went up to him while he was sitting down and said good morning to him. he had a big smile on his face and he pulled my head down next to his. after ...
A. 1 November 2010: Now, It sounds like to me you're trying to find EVERY TYPE of excuse to not follow my advice so far I've counted 6 or more!..You want hear some? Here they go..1st you said, Maybe it his Mother-in -law? You even had me on that guilt trip with you ... (read in full...)
Should I hang in there? I don't want to be played games with...
Q. I met a man at church and he will wink at me and we always look into each other eyes. last sunday i went up to him while he was sitting down and said good morning to him. he had a big smile on his face and he pulled my head down next to his. after ...
A. 1 November 2010: Jmtmj, Is right on the money with his advice! I bet this guy has been out of the dating game a long time. However, contrary what you most people seem to believe! Old dogs can be taught new tricks! IJS!... (read in full...)
We won't be talking as often... how do I handle this situation?
Q. My friend, "Jane," and I have been best friends for 7 years now. Her boyfriend and I go to the same school while she goes to a different school. She had a barn dance last weekend and her bf was unable to go, so she invited me. We were drinking ...
A. 31 October 2010: It's hard for us to see the REAL meaning of the If "The shoe was other the other foot" Or when people say "What would you do?" We never know what we would truly do until we confronted face to face with that situation. She was the one who was in ... (read in full...)
Should I hang in there? I don't want to be played games with...
Q. I met a man at church and he will wink at me and we always look into each other eyes. last sunday i went up to him while he was sitting down and said good morning to him. he had a big smile on his face and he pulled my head down next to his. after ...
A. 31 October 2010: I don’t wanna forget the present is a gift..
And I don’t wanna take for granted the time you may have here with me.. because Lord only knows another day is not really guaranteed #ALICIAKEYES, I know how how it is to lose somebody you love deep... (read in full...)
I just lost the love of my life... how do I get over him?
Q. I just lost the love of my life I'm so sad. I can't believe he said we should go our own way. I feel dead, my heart is broken. I really love him. How do I get over him? ...
A. 31 October 2010: You're so...VERY!!! Welcome. ... (read in full...)
We are both married - do his 'friendly' kisses mean anything?
Q. I am a married 40 year old woman. I am attracted to a male married friend whose wife is also my friend. Our famlies are very close and we all meet up regularly. I have never let this man know about my feelings and have never acted on them. We have ...
A. 31 October 2010: Yes. Start by forgiving him for the affair. That's a start. You did mention you had counseling, but you did feel the need to bring it back up, I feel it's still some unresolved resentments, you can start with writing down "I" statements and going to ... (read in full...)
How much baggage is too much baggage?
Q. How much baggage is too much, should it matter anyway? Am I to swallow my pride and move on. How do I stop thinking of the negative ? Ive been with my girlfriend for just over a year now. Prior to that I was in a long term relationship straig...
A. 31 October 2010: I like that! The one time where "don't ask, don't tell" makes sense."~QUIRKLADY, No regrets!!! will go right up in there with that saying too! If you don't ask you won't regret it! As you can see! Now..Let's not leave out old Jack Nicholson! When he ... (read in full...)
Wife had emotional affair with coworker... how to win her back?
Q. I have been with my wife for seven years. Through a lot of those years i was an alchoholic and addicted to pain pills and she was a "good girl" so to speak. She has always been there for me through all my screw ups... (trust me... i have had some ...
A. 31 October 2010: Yes, you certainly has cleared things up! And one of my Favorite lines is "YOU TEACH HOW TO TREAT YOU" Somewhere early on,in the beginning of that your relationship, "you" taught her it was ok for her to talk to in that way, Now maybe because of ... (read in full...)
I just lost the love of my life... how do I get over him?
Q. I just lost the love of my life I'm so sad. I can't believe he said we should go our own way. I feel dead, my heart is broken. I really love him. How do I get over him? ...
A. 31 October 2010: Now, To answer your question on how to over him. All I can say to is the same thing I said to my grand daughter, Which is: 1.) Never,try to replace him, he's unique, he can't be replaced.Stay busy.
2.)Don't call him,if he told you it's over then... (read in full...)
I just lost the love of my life... how do I get over him?
Q. I just lost the love of my life I'm so sad. I can't believe he said we should go our own way. I feel dead, my heart is broken. I really love him. How do I get over him? ...
A. 31 October 2010: I have a 13yr.old grand daughter going through her first love break-up,as well. So..When I seen your question I had to grab it and just send you a really (((BIG HUG))) Did you get it? Smile* It'll it better..You feel like he's the "LOVE THE OF YOUR ... (read in full...)
He's jealous because of the sexual things I did with my ex!
Q. i have a question... my boyfriend of 3 years is jealous of the fact that i gave my ex boyfriend oral sex and he ejaculated in my mouth, and ive been with him for 3 years and he has not done it 2 me. first of all my ex boyfriend treated me like a ...
A. 31 October 2010: I think Odds Has SPOKEN! And what GREAT words has he spoken I'll SAY! I AGREE! Nothing I can ADD! No Watered Down Advice Here! ... (read in full...)
He says he will call me right back and does not...smh...why do men do that?
Q. Why does he sometimes say "stay by the phone, imma call you right back," and does not??? I admit it is annoying. What should I do in that situation?...
A. 30 October 2010: Have you ever heard of the Phrase " He's just shooting his regular?" That's when a man is doing what he normally does,on a regular basis. And in this case, he lies on a REGULAR BASIS! Now, I think you knew that. What is your real question? Should ... (read in full...)
His friends don't like me and want us broken up! Advice?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 months and everything is perfect.....except his friends. His friends don't like me because they think he's different when he's with me. But my boyfriend is the one who always wants to be with me and we ...
A. 30 October 2010: I know what to do! Here's a little "STRENGTHENING~EXERCISE" That works to build up a MAN'S COURAGE,(Other than going to see the Wizard up in OZ) Now, This might take several weeks, before he's stand-up to his friends, so...don't rush him. Here goes: ... (read in full...)
We are both married - do his 'friendly' kisses mean anything?
Q. I am a married 40 year old woman. I am attracted to a male married friend whose wife is also my friend. Our famlies are very close and we all meet up regularly. I have never let this man know about my feelings and have never acted on them. We have ...
A. 30 October 2010: I'm smiling the THE WORLDS BIGGEST SMILE! It's cool CaringGuy! I know you Care! ... (read in full...)
Is my logic here correct?
Q. Recently I has a conversation with the man I've been involved with for quite some time. The topic was as to why he disappears for extended periods of time for no apparent reason. The end result was him telling me that when things got too emotiona...
A. 30 October 2010: The last comment he made was that he wouldn't be taking any MORE extended "vacations" because it was too "unhealthy" for him...." I believe wholeheartedly this GUY IS A ADDICT! And he has come to believe, that his love for you is far better than the ... (read in full...)
Wife had emotional affair with coworker... how to win her back?
Q. I have been with my wife for seven years. Through a lot of those years i was an alchoholic and addicted to pain pills and she was a "good girl" so to speak. She has always been there for me through all my screw ups... (trust me... i have had some ...
A. 30 October 2010: For most of that 7 years she put up with you! Don't you think that she deserve the ACTUAL title of WIFE? When that woman has stayed by your side through-out your drug and alcohol dependency problems?(As you have stated)AND She has her own unresolved ... (read in full...)
We're twins but the guys think my shorter sister is more attractive
Q. I am 5'8" and my twin sister is two inches shorter than I am. It seems like all the guys think that she is more attractive. Is it because she is shorter than me?...
A. 30 October 2010: I REALLY Like the answer Odds gave you! I thought it was so... Cool! And I'm speaking to from a Short Woman's view. I get plenty attention: But mostly unwnted attention! I can do without 75% of it! I like short men! But tall men Like me! That's how ... (read in full...)
Why can't she look me in the eyes?
Q. So theres this girl who before used to look me in the eye for a long period of time, like we were the only ones in the room and seemed so into me, but now she cant seem to look at me in the eye and never for a more than a second, however she seem...
A. 30 October 2010: She seems to me you have found someone, and she would like to get to know you a lot better. And maybe she can no longer look you in the eye. Us women do that, when we meet somebody and they bring out that little girl out in us. Because, we're too ... (read in full...)
Why can't she look me in the eyes?
Q. So theres this girl who before used to look me in the eye for a long period of time, like we were the only ones in the room and seemed so into me, but now she cant seem to look at me in the eye and never for a more than a second, however she seem...
A. 30 October 2010: I can't type fast enough! I'm afraid the words will escape my heart! And my emotions will run with them! When she first met you she fell in love! AWWWWW!!!! I will always remember. When that day happened!!! Let me keep typing!! *. SHE'S IN-LOVE! And ... (read in full...)
We are both married - do his 'friendly' kisses mean anything?
Q. I am a married 40 year old woman. I am attracted to a male married friend whose wife is also my friend. Our famlies are very close and we all meet up regularly. I have never let this man know about my feelings and have never acted on them. We have ...
A. 30 October 2010: Caring guy, I agree!!! Yes, he just want SEX!!!!... (read in full...)
We are both married - do his 'friendly' kisses mean anything?
Q. I am a married 40 year old woman. I am attracted to a male married friend whose wife is also my friend. Our famlies are very close and we all meet up regularly. I have never let this man know about my feelings and have never acted on them. We have ...
A. 30 October 2010: Sorry, Caring Guy that's not true! I did advised her in an MUCH EARLIER POST,Here's my quote "You're at a vulnerable stage in your life right now"~ And I went ON say "(Trust me people talk, he "HEARD" something) and hold back your little "feelings" ... (read in full...)
We are both married - do his 'friendly' kisses mean anything?
Q. I am a married 40 year old woman. I am attracted to a male married friend whose wife is also my friend. Our famlies are very close and we all meet up regularly. I have never let this man know about my feelings and have never acted on them. We have ...
A. 30 October 2010: Sorry, Caring Guy!!! I beg to to differ! We are allowed to do that, Right? IF, We can prove what you're not saying is not the truth? Fair I would say!!! I did say in an MUCH EARLIER REPLY And I RE-quote "You're at a VULNERABLE stage in your life ... (read in full...)
We are both married - do his 'friendly' kisses mean anything?
Q. I am a married 40 year old woman. I am attracted to a male married friend whose wife is also my friend. Our famlies are very close and we all meet up regularly. I have never let this man know about my feelings and have never acted on them. We have ...
A. 29 October 2010: I feel you have forgiven him but you have some unresolved resentments there, you spoke of the affair and then you said it happen while you were pregnant w/your second child.There is a constant reminder of his affair,when you see your second ... (read in full...)
We are both married - do his 'friendly' kisses mean anything?
Q. I am a married 40 year old woman. I am attracted to a male married friend whose wife is also my friend. Our famlies are very close and we all meet up regularly. I have never let this man know about my feelings and have never acted on them. We have ...
A. 29 October 2010: It's been said "You can never recover the occasion after the loss" The Word after it's said" The Stone after it's throw" Blab,blab,blab...YES YOU CAN! People do it all the time!!! I've heard The Phrase "I'll take that back" Refereeing to something ... (read in full...)
We are both married - do his 'friendly' kisses mean anything?
Q. I am a married 40 year old woman. I am attracted to a male married friend whose wife is also my friend. Our famlies are very close and we all meet up regularly. I have never let this man know about my feelings and have never acted on them. We have ...
A. 29 October 2010: Yes, It still qualify as over-stepping his boundaries. WHY? The KISSES moved from one place which the MAJORITY would agree to be considered an simple act of friends greeting or departing. Once he "MOVED' THOSE LIPS of his to your lips the WORLD ... (read in full...)
We are both married - do his 'friendly' kisses mean anything?
Q. I am a married 40 year old woman. I am attracted to a male married friend whose wife is also my friend. Our famlies are very close and we all meet up regularly. I have never let this man know about my feelings and have never acted on them. We have ...
A. 29 October 2010: Men are misery magnets! Or maybe RUMOR has it! Regardless to whatever reason he has for overstepping boundaries with you he was WAYYYY OUT OF LINE! And you're at a vulnerable stage in your life right now, as you stated "your marriage is not as GOOD" ... (read in full...)
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