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writes:I would just appreciate opinions on the following: I was sitting alone in a venue in the early hours, when a girl sat near me and started talking to me. Which is quite unusual for a female to do at 2am. The normal thing they do is stand around giving signals if interested.Anyhow she was very interested in me with her questions and also told about herself. I did not ask for her number or ask her out, as I didn't find her that attractive. When we started talking, she told me she was waiting for a taxi in fifteen minutes time. When her taxi arrived, I asked if she would like a kiss. To which she responded "better not". I would like your opinion on why she didn't want to. Is it because she didn't want to get into an emotional attachment if there was no dating? Or could it be that all she wanted was a chat? She was fully sober Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2013): Maybe it works the other way. If she starts talking to you, she may think you're just being polite talking to her back and she would need you to show lots of interest before letting her guard down.
Whereas if you began chatting to her, you have already shown interest.
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (11 August 2013):
 It's possible that she is just a friendly person who didn't want to wait alone for her taxi. Don't assume that just because a woman approaches you it's because she's into you.
As for how you could have handled it, I wouldn't suggest asking a girl for a kiss so soon after meeting her. Moreover, you could have been showing the signals of disinterest since you didn't find her attractive, and she may have picked up on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2013): OP here. Ok, class of India, lets say I am "crazy and presumptuos" and all the rest and I agree it's not what usually happens. But... I can assure you it is very rare that a sober girl all by herself would approach a guy and start chatting to him-especially at that time of night. The only reason I can think of why she did this, is because she saw in me John Stamos(lol). I know that we can never know for sure, but do you think that had I asked for her number, she would have given it? I am just interested in your thoughts.Many times girls stand around giving signs of interest looking at me and then looking away and all sorts of other such things, even sometimes smiling. In my experience almost all are looking for an invitation. I would have thought that one who went a step further and actually did the talk initiating would be all the more so.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 August 2013):
 So, let me get this right...
It's 2am. There is a girl waiting for a taxi. She makes some chit chat. You don't find her attractive, ask her out or give her any indication that you're interested. FIFTEEN MINUTES into your chat, you assume that she wants to kiss you and wants emotional attachment?? And when she doesn't, you're surprised??
I'm sorry, but I wouldn't kiss some rando on the street after a couple minutes of chit chat. Not unless he was John Stamos, and had some ID to prove it. I think it was a little crazy and presumptuous to just assume that you're that amazing that some girl is dying to smooch you! You didn't find her attractive, who's to say that she found you attractive?
If you like a girl, you should ask for her number, or ask her out on a date, not ask her to kiss you when it is 2am after fifteen minutes of chatting on a street corner. That makes you look creepy and icky. I'm very sorry to say that, but it's true. Class it up, man! You're better than this!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 August 2013):
No offense, but it's a little odd to ask a girl if she wants a kiss just because she was talking to you. Some people are chatty. You weren't even attracted to her, so what does it really matter? She was probably just talking, doesn't know you, and maybe has a boyfriend or husband....women usually don't get emotionally attached over a kiss with a stranger.
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reader, llifton +, writes (11 August 2013):
 Lol people can have friendly chats ya know..
She was waiting for her cab and was passing the time. End of story.
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