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I'm devastated to discover my crush wants to marry by the end of the year and obviously not to me!

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Question - (9 August 2013) 6 Answers - (Newest, 9 August 2013)
A female New Zealand age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I'm crying over and over and over :( I m in love with a guy and he also showed many signs that he likes me and I thought he'll ask me out one day.) But When I was talking with him today I realized something . He was talking about his marriage plans and was planning to get married by the end of the year and that his family is looking for a bride seriously . I was heart broken when I heard this. If he had liked me , he would have never told that. I rushed to my place and started crying . Still crying . Can you please help me how to handle this situation ?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2013):

Hi ,

It's me who posted this question ! Just now I found that some girl is in his life and since his parents are not accepting , he is planning for an arranged marriage ! So which means I have never ever been a part of his life ! It's more painful now ! How can I get over him and be friends again ! :(

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A female reader, MsSadie United States +, writes (9 August 2013):

MsSadie agony auntHe wants to get married by the end of the year, but isn't seeing anyone? How do you know that he didn't tell you that as a way of piquing your interest?

In the future, not to be harsh, but don't fall in love with someone that you're not officially dating. It's one thing to have a crush, but it's another to be mentally planning a future with someone with whom you aren't even in a relationship.

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A female reader, kellyO United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2013):

kellyO agony auntDear, tell him how you feel. what is the worst that can happen if you tell him. rejection? but at least you will know you tried. but if you don't him you can missing an opportunity here cos he might just feel the same.

hugs

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (9 August 2013):

chigirl agony auntTell him how you feel, it could be he doesn't realize you like him, or it could be that you are one of the women he'd like to marry. How do you feel about arranged marriages? Would you be ready to marry him that soon?

Tell him how you feel and talk about it. Don't assume this means he doesn't like you, he told you he wants to marry, and that there is NO ONE currently who has been "chosen" by neither him or his family. So the position is still open.

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A female reader, StephJayne United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2013):

StephJayne agony auntWould you be able to add more information to this please?

1, He wants to get married by the end of the year, does he have a girlfriend or partner?

2, His family is looking for a bride, are they trying to find someone for him to marry?

Thanks

SJ

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2013):

You said he showed signs that he feels the same. Maybe he told you as he thought you would say something. Tell him how you feel.

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