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writes:HiIm 7 months pregnant and obviously a little hormonal occasionally!I have a very emotionally retarded husband anyway but now im pregnant i find it even harder to deal with.He's a very successful, business minded kind of guy so i guess he's very single minded to make the success he has made. This does have drawbacks as to me money isn't everything and I need him more than ever.He thinks i live the life of riley but I feel I don't really get anything from him emotionally. He never tells me how he feels, we NEVER have sex especially since I have got pregnant - his answer to this is first hes very tired and when you get used to not having something you kind of forget about it . . .(sex that is. im feeling so unloved, and on my own. Because he's so emotuionally retarded (due to his childhood) talking to him seems to get me nowhere. He loves me to pieces but I need more. I need him to give more of himself emotionally which for 6 years he just hasn't done.He's a lawyer so he always wangles his way out of EVERY situation and often sits on the fence about most things. We had a very difficult 5 years of dating as he was so awkward with his ways, but I do feel we have got quite far, but now I just feel totally unloved, unfancied and taken for granted.What should I do - we have had a row and havent spoken the whole weekend . . (not what you need when you are 7 months pregnant . .)any advice is welcome.Thanks
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 January 2008):
 If you want to talk again , one of you will have to come down to Earth . No matter who is right or wrong , one of you should apologize and settle this issue.
If he does not want to apologize, then you will have to do it. If you won't ,then the chasm will widen everyday and it would be hard to cross.
Living with a pregnant woman is not easy.Talk to him and tell him what you want from him . Be specific , so that he knows exactly what you want him to do for you.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (22 January 2008):
If you want to talk again , one of you will have to come down to Earth . No matter who is right or wrong , one of you should apologize and settle this issue.
If he does not want to apologize, then you will have to do it. If you won't ,then the chasm will widen everyday and it would be hard to cross.
Living with a pregnant woman is not easy.Talk to him and tell him what you want from him . Be specific , so that he knows exactly what you want him to do for you.
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (21 January 2008):
 On the sex side, it is most likely the idea of the baby being involved. Most guys fear that they will hurt it somehow. Either by pushing on your stomach during sex or pokeing it while doing penetration. And a lot of these men will not admit it.
But you just need to talk to him and try to get him to realize how much you need to feel loved and stil atractive. I almost dated a pregant girl once, and even tho she was pregnant i still found her as attractive as ever(she really hurt me so i gave up on her, and it had nothing to do with hormones), and im sure you are still also. You just need to get him to talk to you and tell him these things otherwise he just may be clueless to how you feel. Unless you tell us we may never know.
And yeah we do melt when your cry or show us affection, or look upset. The girl i was talking about could make me like putty in her hands when she was upset, i would give in to anything at that point. Im sure there are rare exeptions tho.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (21 January 2008):
 What is wrong with him? You are his 7 months pregnant wife! He probably has had not experience with pregnant woman besides avoiding them. Sit down and make him listen to what you have to say. Some men are extremely awkward but if you didn't love him, then why marry him? Ask him to spend more time with you. Ask him to be with you. Yes, he's doing a great job giving you financial support but you are in a very vulnerable state and you need to be reminded that you are still desirable and beautiful. You still need to be told that you are loved and he has to mean it when he says it. Just sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him.
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