My friends poke fun at my being a virgin!
Q. Hi, let me tell you about my situation, im a 21 yo virgin and my last boyfriend was when i was like 15. and i currently dont have a boyfriend and it doesnt look like its gonna change any time soon. its really taking its toll on me, cause i dont...
A. 3 December 2009: I just happened to read Lexie's response after posting mine (silly me) and one part is definitely true: don't go looking for a boyfriend. I did that several times with no luck. The saying is true that love comes when you least expect it!... (read in full...)
My friends poke fun at my being a virgin!
Q. Hi, let me tell you about my situation, im a 21 yo virgin and my last boyfriend was when i was like 15. and i currently dont have a boyfriend and it doesnt look like its gonna change any time soon. its really taking its toll on me, cause i dont...
A. 3 December 2009: You're too hard on yourself - you're still very young and you'll find Mr. Right.
But I was like you, rarely ever had a boyfriend (one and I'm 26!) and was depressed I'd never find love. I dreaded Valentine's Day - seeing all my friends with the... (read in full...)
The thought of what my girlfriend does in her sleep keeps me awake
Q. For some reason this is really bothering me. I woke up the other night sleeping next to my girlfriend and i thought she was masturbating. Now i dont know for certain but the reasons i thought this were because the covers were slightly moving,...
A. 2 December 2009: I agree with oldersister - it may be restless leg syndrome. And if she is in fact masturbating, then what's the big deal? It's not like if she's in a relationship she has to stop pleasuring herself. Stop being so controlling.... (read in full...)
Sweet Sixteen and Never Been Kissed
Q. 16 year old girl and has never been kissed?! Why do I feel as if no guy does not like me in a way to want to get to know me? I can grind with a guy and he can get a boner, but no guy wants to get to know me? Why is it that I feel that no guy want...
A. 2 December 2009: It's ok, you just haven't found the right one yet. In 26 years I have only had one boyfriend - and that was in grade school - how sad is that? But I'm not sad though, I know the right one will come along. One piece of advice though, stop gri... (read in full...)
I don't believe pretty women with breasts make good wives!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, There's a song that goes "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.." Homely women aren't as sought after and they're not as likely to cheat on a husband or boyfriend. It so...
A. 2 December 2009: Listen to C. Grant - he knows what he's talking about!... (read in full...)
Sex has grown pointless to me. Do I need help?
Q. I'm wondering if this is normal or not. Everytime I get physical with a guy it never does anything for me. No amount of fingering, oral sex or sex in general feels good to me at all. I've never had an orgasm from someone else and it's just ...
A. 1 December 2009: What you need to do is have a nice talk with your guy. It sounds like you've had bad experiences in the past and it sort of has you spooked (for lack of a better word) for any future relationships.
Every man is different and the two of you must... (read in full...)
Is it normal to need a heating pad and darvacet for your period?
Q. my mom said she is gonna take me to a gynocologist next week when shes off. i thought i was off it this morning but i started again in 4th period. the only thing that helps is darvacet and a heating pad. is it normal????...
A. 25 November 2009: If you're asking if using a heating pad during your period is normal, yes it is. I get bad cramps and I find having the heating pad between my naval and butt - where the cramps are - really helps relieve them. I have also heard that taking a nice ... (read in full...)
Erections around guys!! Am I gay?
Q. Does getting erections more often around guys than girls mean I'm gay. Or am i getting all worked up about nothing...
A. 25 November 2009: Can you be more specific? Like is seeing a guy do something specific give you an erection? It's tough to tell cause at your age, it seems you can get an erection by the way the wind blows!... (read in full...)
What gave me this sudden, intense chill???
Q. In the middle of my last class I got this sudden intense feeling down below (which felt good) and it gave me a chill? Like a sudden very short chills. Although I did not do anything at all I was just talking to friend in the class (and when this ...
A. 20 November 2009: I agree with Sweety Pie that you probably just had a chill. Sometimes I get very strong chills that just shake my whole body for a split second.... (read in full...)
I bled after masturbating - what happened?
Q. some day before i did sex with my finger. my boyfriend see me on web cam and he told me how to do.i did that. he told me do it with pen so i take 2 pen and i did with pen.after sometime i get blood i dont know how its come. i am in tension and i ...
A. 20 November 2009: I agree with Honeypie completely - either use your fingers or use something that's specifically designed for masturbation, like a dildo. One question, though, which may help your bleeding question: what kind of pen did you use? Cause if you use... (read in full...)
Is it bad to talk to yourself?
Q. Is it bad to talk to yourself? I dont do it in public but if I'm by myself such as in the car driving I usaully talk to myself. The reason I do it is because I dont have nobody else to talk to all my friends that were always ears have babies now ...
A. 18 November 2009: No, it's not bad at all. I talk to myself all the time....wait, maybe I should say ALL the time - that sounds weird, lol. But especially if I'm nervous, I'll be more chatty than normal. Like if I'm driving in bad weather, I'll talk and it usua... (read in full...)
Since I found out I was pregnant he's changed...should I have an abortion so things get back to the way they were?
Q. how do i remain happy about being prego when he is so unhappy. he said that he will be okay just take time but i feel him slipping away from me. we dont talk like we use to we dont smile are snuggle. im wonder if i should kill my first child. like ...
A. 6 September 2009: First of all, I've always been against abortion, regardless of the circumstances, so not sure if my advice is the best. But what I can guarantee you is that if you do decide to get an abortion, hoping things will go back the way they were, they ... (read in full...)
How do I resist smoking at this festival and not be a kill-joy?
Q. Hi All I'd really appreciate some good advice. I'm 30 and I quit smoking 5 weeks ago, after being a smoker of cigarettes for 15 years. During this time I have quit so so many times it's unreal, and obviously I've never suceeded but this tim...
A. 17 August 2009: First of all, good for you for quitting! Unless if this festival is really important to you, I personally wouldn't go - if I had just stopped smoking and knew there were going to be a lot of smokers there, it would be very tempting. If you still ... (read in full...)
Jealous over walpaper?
Q. i came home from college today. i asked my mom to drop me off mu boyfriends house. he was excited to see me as i was to sew him. when we did see each other, we hugged and what not. not soon after, he found my cellphone wallpaper was of zac efron. i ...
A. 1 August 2009: Your boyfriend in my opinion is being very immature. So what if you have Zac Efron on your cellphone wallpaper or if you have posters of him in your bedroom or something? Everybody - male and female - has at least one celebrity crush...mine has ... (read in full...)
What is your meaning of life?
Q. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do. I thought maybe reading other people's raison d'etre might help me figure my own. So does anyone here know why you exist?...
A. 19 July 2009: You know, I've often heard a person ask this question: "what is the meaning of life" and I could never really think about what the meaning is for me.
I guess, first and foremost, is to be the best Christian I can be - to serve God and spread H... (read in full...)
Ladies: Experiences and suggestions with a mama's boy!
Q. I went tonight on a first date with this guy I chatted to sporadically over the years but never met before. All went well, he is the kind of 'boy- i thnk' who knows his own mind, a bit of a mummy's boy ( yes, i can spot them now'. but overalla ...
A. 19 July 2009: He sounds all right in my book. What he did about calling to make sure you got home ok is sweet and 20 minutes later isn't bad - after a first date is a little much, but I've heard worse. And he respected your boundaries when you said you weren't ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into a situation with a co-worker?
Q. i reserve conf rm space for nine men that work for a company that is owned by the company i work for. out of the nine men, there is one man that is always very nice to me. this man came to my office for a meeting a few wks ago. when he left my ...
A. 19 July 2009: It's way too early to tell. To say "it was good seeing you" may mean just that. If he continues to come out of his way to see you or to talk to you, then I'd say he may be interested, but for now, it's nothing more than co-worker to co-worker ... (read in full...)
Loneliness is a drag. Will I ever stop feeling like this?
Q. I am so desperately lonely that I just can't bear it anymore, and my heart is broken because I feel like my life is passing me by. I am in tears as I write this. I wish and wish I had someone to call or tlak to, but I feel like everyone has ...
A. 18 July 2009: I'm so sorry that you feel so down! All I can say is to bring your chin up and take these circumstances one at a time - trying to tackle having friends, love, your dreams, God, is impossible to handle at once. It's like if you wanted to clean your ... (read in full...)
Is it just human nature to cheat?
Q. Does anyone have a straight-forward, happy, long-lasting relationship these days? My Mum and Dad divorced when I was a teenager, and my bf has recently cheated on me (nothing physical, but exchanging flirty texts and phone calls with a girl from ...
A. 17 July 2009: I don't think it's possible for a couple to just skip through the tulips during their relationship...every couple has at least one difficult time.
It wasn't until I entered high school when I made friends with so many kids who had divorced... (read in full...)
I feel so lonely, I want to have more confidence and friends, please help!
Q. hi i need help. i feel so lonely all the time ive just come out of a very bad relationship and my self esteem is zilch-to be honest ive never had much im always so hard on myself , negative critical. i have only 1 good friend-that sounds terrib...
A. 17 July 2009: I'm sorry you feel that way. I was never lucky in the love department and hearing my friends all getting married and comparing their lives with mine, I, too got extremely jealous and sorry for myself.
If you can, try to mingle with some co-worke... (read in full...)
Need ideas for a night in that don't involve cooking or the bathtub!
Q. having problems with my partener and want to have a romantic nite in she does not like eating so cooking a meal is out and dont have bath in washroom any idea's would be great...
A. 17 July 2009: Satin, I was like you, "she doesn't like eating" - lol. Sorry! A massage is a good idea; you could watch a romantic movie together? There are lots of options you could do. ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or were his hurtful words as bad as it seems?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months and well it has so far been great! im 17 now, but when i was 11 i was raped twice by the same guy. this horrified me, and i havnt told anyone since! apart from my boyfriend, i didnt want to be rushed into sex, ...
A. 17 July 2009: I don't think you over-reacted at all! What he said to you was incredibly hurtful and uncaring. And i'm sorry that you were raped - it is something that never really goes away, so I don't blame you whatsoever how you reacted: you weren't ready and ... (read in full...)
Don't want to wait to have sex, but don't want to get pregnant.
Q. kay..i already made a post or whatever, but im gonna make another one. i really really love the guy im with and we haven't had sex yet. he says he'll wait for me as long as i need him to. the question is is if i can wait. i'm really ready. and i'm ...
A. 11 July 2009: Honey, you're way too young to have sex. You're 13-15 years old, meaning your body is still adjusting to puberty.
Just love your boyfriend and wait. He said he'd wait for you as long as you need to, sounding like a very understanding and loving b... (read in full...)
I keep worrying thinking something will happen to us
Q. Hi I am dating the girl of my dreams and she is my 1st girlfriend and i want her to be the only one because i believe in true love. But i constantly worry alot thinking this cannot happen something will happen to keep us apart and end up thinking i ...
A. 11 July 2009: Hi! You say this is your first girlfriend, so there's a bit of fear of the unkown going here. If you're a worrier and a doubter like I am, it's natural to get these thoughts racing around up there. Almost like the typical "cold feet" before a ... (read in full...)
My breasts are different sizes by about a cup, what can I do?
Q. Ever since I was about 16, my breasts have been different sizes. Now that I'm 19, they're still different. I'd say it's a good cup size difference, so it's obvious when I'm naked. Luckily, you can't really tell when I have a shirt on, although my ...
A. 11 July 2009: I can understand how this would upset you, but please don't. If boyfriend and you get along great, but he can't get over this miniscule fact, then it's his loss.
I had something somewhat similar where some men tend to look at the tiniest flaw in ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble coping with these images of the attack.
Q. hey .. im a 15 year old girl and i jus wana no if people think im strong and if im coping? i hav been attacked before! and for the second time i got attacked agen .. although i got away .. i saw my friend get stabbed .. i actually saw the knife g...
A. 8 July 2009: Aww, I'm so sorry. I don't know from personal experience but my brother, when walking home from school one day, witnessed a murder. He was extremely shaken up by it, told mom and dad and they helped him - for the longest time he did not want to go ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about not getting my period! I'm late but I'm also a virgin.
Q. I keep having "the feeling" i'm gonna get my period, but I don't..and it's 9 days late I think. Btw I am a virgin. And maybe it's a little cramps, but it's just the feeling I have when I have period but I don't have it so I'm worried..?...
A. 25 June 2009: I'm in my mid-20s and I have always had irregular periods. It's really annoying, actually, but nothing I can do. I, too, get cramps - some months worse than others - and some months it's a good week-long stretch of cramps before the period actually ... (read in full...)
British invasion in my head!
Q. I think I might be going mental! Ever since the Harry Potter series came to the US when I was only eight, I've been completely obsessed with not only the series and with my ultimate goal to move to England before I hit age twenty-five, but also with ...
A. 25 June 2009: I, too, am an American who just loves accents. Stick me in a room with a man with an accent and I just melt. And it doesn't even have to be a foreign accent: New England, southern, it doesn't matter.
Like JasonX, I didn't see any warning words in... (read in full...)
Wondering how people's 'first times' were?
Q. Okay so I've been awfully curious about how different first times having sex has gone. This isn't like an advice needed thing. I would just like to hear how male and female first times went. Did you regret it after? What made you feel like you were ...
A. 24 June 2009: I'm 25, almost 26, and still a virgin :)... (read in full...)
Was it rape or sex?
Q. okay so i was a virgin...i started talking to this guy he was gorgeous..whe had known eachther for a while and decided to go out and we ended up in his room. at first just teasin the making out but then he started pulling my jeans and i dit want to ...
A. 12 June 2009: The lines tend to get blurred with scenarios like this one, but to me, you were raped. Sex, to me, is when both people want to do it - you said yourself that he started pulling off your jeans and you didn't want to.
I'd talk to your mom or a tru... (read in full...)
Boyfriend in the army?
Q. well i have a problem is about me and my ex-boyfriend. well he is going to graduate this year and im going into my junior year. nd well he had broken up with me bcuz he had to go to the army nd well i dont know, bcuz we still have feelings but im ...
A. 13 May 2009: I have never been in such a situation, so can't give an answer based on experience, but I do know that when you love someone, there are always tests and obstacles throughout your relationship. This is a very difficult time. I have a good friend from ... (read in full...)
Why does sex hurt the first time?
Q. why does it hurt the first time you have sex? how do you know your ready? how do know when the right time is? how do you know he's ready, and not doing it to make you happy?...
A. 13 May 2009: Not always, but most of the time sex hurts the first time for a female cause that's when her hymen tears (the hymen kind of protects the vaginal hole). Sometimes there's bleeding and sometimes there's some discomfort but not for all females. If ... (read in full...)
Should I write him a note?
Q. Hey there! So there's this boy, he's only a year older than me (or so..) and I met him in my art class at the beginning of the semester. He now sits at my table with my two good friends and we have a lot of fun as a group. I like him, a lot, but...
A. 18 April 2009: I did the exact same thing in high school. There was a boy I really liked; we started out great friends. But I wrote him a note telling him how I truly felt about him and if he wanted to take our friendship to the next level. He wrote a note back to ... (read in full...)
How to control "it" when masturbating?
Q. When I masturbate for a few mins,like 1 or 2 mins..I cum..and sometimes my cum is few..but when I stop masturbating for like 1 month..I cum alot..why does this happen? and how can I control "IT" to not cum fast after 1 or 2 mins?...
A. 16 April 2009: My only guess is that when you masturbate often, like every day or many times a day, then your body is used to it and it still feels good but you do it regularly so your body is almost like expecting it. When you do it for the first time in a long ... (read in full...)
Every time I talk to him my face gets all red
Q. Hey everyone!! I need help umm....I am like really shy but I want to ask this guy out but every time I talk to him or anyone for that matter I glow bright crimson! And I studder it's humiliating! I mean I can't even answer a question in class ...
A. 2 April 2009: Hi hun, I know EXACTLY what you're feeling. I, too, am very shy and when I just say hi or even look at a guy I really like I turn a bright red. It is quite embarrassing and unfortunately there's nothing you can do about it. When you're about to ... (read in full...)
What does"take care"mean?
Q. I got in a lil argument with my bf he txt me 10 min later and said sorry i meant not disrespect take care.. does the "take care" mean hes breaking up with me?...
A. 2 April 2009: I've often wondered what the term "take care" meant, too. But mine is a different scenario than yours, eh4ad. There's a guy I like and we email each other quite a bit. The majority of his emails he'll end with "take care." I don't know if it's jus... (read in full...)
Hormonal changes in women during their period... quick poll!
Q. Quick poll: when a gal goes on her period: -Guys: does it happen that she can become difficult to deal with? As in, she's much shorter tempered and you can agitate her more easily? -Gals: do you tend to get short with people including your o...
A. 2 April 2009: I have noticed the older I get, the worse the cramping tends to be. I don't have a BF so can't answer that part, but I have on occasion snapped at my dad for no apparent reason while I was still living at home. He'd ask me something innoce... (read in full...)
To all the parents - how would you react if your daughter was dating a much older man?
Q. I really like this one guy and I honestly think he likes me back but we're both very shy so nobody has made a move. The problem is the age difference is quite high (34 years - yes, I know, but we get along so well). The age difference honestly ...
A. 22 March 2009: He is 34 years old than I am and, no, I am not "immensely attracted" to a child/parent relationship. I had a very nice childhood so I do not have any "daddy issues."... (read in full...)
What exactly is it that girls look for in a guy?
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and I was wondering what do most girls look for in a guy??? So this is mainly for girls but guys can answer too I guess and I'm not asking this so I can get a girl but I just want to know....
A. 19 March 2009: Yes, every girl is different as it's the same when a girl is told that every guy is different.
For me, personally, I like the sweet, sensitive, shy guy. Not loud or boisterous or obnoxious. Yes it's sweet when the guy tries to impress the girl, bu... (read in full...)
I lost my baby at 30 weeks and don't know how to restart my life...
Q. Hi everyone, I would appreciate any advice anyone has for me. Six months ago I lost my baby boy through miscarrage at 30 weeks, it was completely unexpected as most of the pregnancy had been fine. I had already bought all of the things for his ...
A. 18 March 2009: My heartfelt condolences to you and your fiance. That must be a terrible ordeal to have to go through. Your fiance is right - it's too soon. As difficult as it is, you need to forget (well, never completely, especially if you already had a na... (read in full...)
Married man pursuing young girl...
Q. There is this married man that keeps calling me. I don't understand why he wants to talk to me (he got my phone number through a friend) since we have nothing in common and the age level is too far apart. Well yes I do because he probably just wants ...
A. 15 March 2009: If it's your cell phone, I'd change numbers. This guy sounds like bad news and kudos for you to standing up for yourself. Then I'd change friends, since you said this older stranger got your number through a friend???
You need to do somethin... (read in full...)
Baby names...
Q. My bf and I were talking about baby names we want something unique and different but still cute. What do you think of the following names? BOYS: Flynn Owen (Owen is my bfs dad) Sloan Owen Makai (Ma-Ki) Owen Girls: Makenna Joy Arizona Jo...
A. 15 March 2009: I have personally always liked the name Geoffrey, so how about Geoffrey Owen??
For the ones you chose (of course it should be you and your bf's choice; not ours):
Flynn Owen
Makenna Joy (and I agree with a previous poster that I, too, am not ... (read in full...)
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