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Is my friend avoiding me or is she really sick?

Q.   Is my friend avoiding me or is she really sick? OK. I keep asking my friend to hang out with me and she keep saying she is so sick. Then when I text her she tells me she went shopping, to church, to choir practice, to get her hair done, to her sis...

A.   13 January 2011: I don't like the sound of this. Perhaps she needs money and wants you to pay and that's the only reason why she invited her? If she asks you to foot the bill, then you'll know where you stand. She definitely does not sound sick and I'm curious why ... (read in full...)

Do I have ED? I'm only 17!

Q.   Recently i haven't been able to get erections as big as i used to! i used to be able to get big withought trying. I still get hard enough to masturbate but im seriously freaking out. Do i have ED? I'm only 17! My girlfriend noticed a difference ...

A.   13 January 2011: While I'm a female and have no idea about the male anatomy, my guess is if you masturbated more often than is considered normal, then maybe it's because of that. For women, if we masturbate too often and use vibrators on the clit, the clit can sort ... (read in full...)

What's the best way to support my girlfriend after she was raped and hospitalized?

Q.   hello everyone, i seriously need your help. my girlfriend is in hospital for over a week now, some guy tried to rape her and she got physically and mentally hurt. It's really hard typing this but i don't know what to do, i wanna support her, i wanna ...

A.   8 January 2011: Wow, that's really rough. I'm sorry for her. All you can do is be there for her and listen to her if she wants to talk about it. Just let her know that you're by her side. There may be some trust issues she sees regarding you, but don't believe this ... (read in full...)

I don't want to go to my husband's father's funeral because the women he had an affair with will be there, is this wrong?

Q.   My husband has been having an affair with a friend of his family. This has been going on for a while and although my husband is sorry I am still trying to come to terms with it. This lady is well liked by his family and I have never met her. My ...

A.   8 January 2011: Listen to sweet-thing - I agree with her totally.... (read in full...)

I'm so terrified of getting pregnant it's ruining my sex life

Q.   Ever since i've become sexually active, (about 2 years) i have had a huge "phobia" i guess you could call it, of getting pregnant. I'm on birth control and take it like i'm supposed to but once i have the 7 day break to have my period, i get ex...

A.   8 January 2011: As long as you take your birth control daily and at the same time every day, you should be fine. There's a minimal risk of getting pregnant while on BC if you take it correctly, and that's only if you're taking antibiotics at the same time - ... (read in full...)

Husband is sharing a room with a friend during a business trip, feeling uncomfortable about it

Q.   Hi, my husband is in another contry doing some bussines.. in this moment he is traveling with some friends that I met before. I talked with him today and asked about his friends, how they are doing...etc.. he told me the hotel right now is ver...

A.   6 January 2011: I don't like the sound of this - especially if he has been unusually sneaky with his phone and stuff recently. An idea - if you are a close friend to one of the gay guys, why not ask him if you and he can switch rooms? Yes I'm sure he'd be a lit... (read in full...)

My fiancee wont let me leave the home unless I have a baby sitter! ! Should I cancel the wedding?

Q.   Ok, here's the thing. My fiancee and I have been together on and off for 4 years. we have a 1 year old and I have a 6 year old. My fiancee has a problem with parenting. He wants to be dad when its convenient for him. dont get me wrong, he is a good ...

A.   3 January 2011: The two of you must sit down and have an honest talk. Something is eating at him that is the reason why he won't look after your daughter when you're out. Maybe deep down he's afraid he'll screw up or something? Or maybe he's just not "daddy" ... (read in full...)

He didn't get me anything for Christmas! Does that mean he's not into me?

Q.   My boyfriend didn't get me anything for Christmas. We've only been dating a month. He is visiting family overseas right now so I sent him a present. He knew I was giving him something but still didn't get me anything. Should I take this to mean ...

A.   24 December 2010: Dating for a month is a very short period of time. If I was in your shoes and was just dating a man for just a month, I'd probably get him a card and MAYBE a small gift, but certainly nothing elaborate. You're just getting to know each other; ... (read in full...)

I suffer my uninterested husband, I want more romance in my life

Q.   i have been married for almost 30 years. my husband never, never , never initiate romance, sex or anything. he never makes me feel special. he never takes me away or really talks to me . mind you, we do go places and do things, but only if and IF, i ...

A.   24 December 2010: Sorry to say this, but if you've tried going to counseling to him and making special, romantic dinners for him and it doesn't do anything, then there's nothing else to do. To make counseling successful to get that romance back into your lives, both ... (read in full...)

Birthday blues...

Q.   My bf of almost one year didn't bother to give me so much as a card for my birthday. He did take me to dinner, and this isn't a money issue. I went all out for his birthday six months ago. I still can't get over feeling really hurt, should I ask ...

A.   17 December 2010: Maybe he didn't like you going "all out" on his birthday, felt uncomfortable? The two of you have only been together for nearly a year, so that's experiencing each other's birthdays once. Men can be very nonchalant about most things and what they ... (read in full...)

She broke it off with me because of my problems in the bedroom...

Q.   my ex-girlfriend broke up with me six months ago over my erectile dysfunction/uncertainty in the bedroom. Is there anything I can do? christmas card, her birthday in a few months, etc. I'm heartbroken, we were great together, and i just wish i ...

A.   17 December 2010: Totally agree with dirtball. It sounds like the two of you didn't try alternatives to help you with your ED and she just left as it was the easier solution in her opinion. Maybe a Christmas card, but keep it friend-like - don't try to ask her back ... (read in full...)

I cannot love him, even although we're married... Help!

Q.   I have been married for the last 12 years, have wonderful 2 kids. My husband is a good man. We belong to different cultures. It was a difficult for me to adjust but I knew what I was getting into. I fell out of love with him a long time back. I ...

A.   17 December 2010: Sounds like something has happened to you; deep inside that you can't pin-point what exactly. It sounds like deep down inside you love him but something has just started changing. Try talking to your husband about this and perhaps try couples' ... (read in full...)

I have developed a phobia of driving!

Q.   Hi aunts and uncles! Please can someone help. Since I passed my driving test 4 months ago I've developed a driving phobia. I'm a nervous person anyway and get panic attacks but I was fine driving with my instructor. When I passed me ...

A.   13 December 2010: Hi, I'm like you, where I don't like to drive, but I have to to go to work and make a living. I had what you'd call a traumatic experience when I was younger (you don't want to hear about it; i'd bore you to tears!), but needless to say i get these ... (read in full...)

Mom said she would throw me out the house if I ever fell pregnant... and I just found out I AM!!!

Q.   I am 15 and pregnant. My boyfriend and I had sex with him and the condom fell off. So I got scared and took a pregnancy test. I turned out to be pregnant. I have not told my mom yet because the last time we talked she told me if I get pregnant I ...

A.   10 December 2010: You must tell your mother right away. Yes she'll feel ashamed and upset and sad and angry all at once, but right away is better than not saying anything and your mother wondering why you're increasing in weight! You can't hide pregnancy. Your mom ... (read in full...)

Should I take break from my girlfriend..to date others?

Q.   Hello guys, me and my GF have been going out for 6 months now, and things have been going great. We have had no fights or problems, everythings gone smoothly. We have sex when we can (live with parents)( we both were each others first). This is my ...

A.   25 November 2010: Unless she shocks the crap out of me and she agrees to have an "open relationship", if you go dating other girls, you are in for a serious fight with your current gf. Don't do it - it's tempting I'm sure to "test the waters" but if you love this ... (read in full...)

How can I get my boyfriend to break my hymen without it hurting?

Q.   Hey im sixteen years old. i have never trusted a boy to do anything with my vagina before but now i do. and he did try not tht long ago and he sort of just rubbed and nothing went inside cos it really hurt wen he tries to this has happened twice now ...

A.   15 November 2010: The two of you need to do foreplay and lots of it! He can't just stick his penis (or even his finger!) in there right away cause it hurts a lot. You need a lot of foreplay to lube yourself up so that when it is time for him to penetrate you, it will ... (read in full...)

What is the deal with women and high heels??

Q.   I really wanna know the answer to this question especially from females - Do you females really like wearing sexy high heeled shoes or do you do it only for attention. I have heard of shoe fetish but I dont know how far it is true. Does it also have ...

A.   15 November 2010: I only wear high heels on special occasions. I have high arches in my feet and they hurt my feet. I prefer flats or shoes with a small heel.... (read in full...)

Retroactive jealousy and small penis paranoia

Q.   i believe i have two issues that combine to ruin my life and my relationship. a relationship with someone that needs me more than I have ever been needed - she is so sweet and so beautiful - she has no one else to turn to or to be loved by but her ...

A.   11 November 2010: I think she does love you. And I also think the reason she said that is because all women know that a man's penis is his "holy grail" - and she didn't want to hurt your feelings, so she said you were the biggest she had encountered. Don't grill he... (read in full...)

Boys get erections, so what happens to girls?

Q.   i know boys get erections but what do girls get? ...

A.   3 November 2010: Not sure what you're asking. if you're talking about what happens to a girl when she hits puberty, she menstruates; also called getting her period. Once a month of joyous fun! If you're talking about the sexual side of a female, then girls ju... (read in full...)

Airports new "feel you up" measure is crossing the lines!

Q.   ok. who was watching cnn this morning? airports are bringing in some new security measures and its getting personal. i watched (on cnn) an employee run her hand between and right under a female passengers breasts. they touch your butt and quickly ...

A.   29 October 2010: I agree with some people on here. Yes, Kenj - some people have to ruin it for everybody. How about the man that had explosives in his shoes. For that, now we have to take our shoes off. And I agree with the female anon from Michigan that, while I ... (read in full...)

I'm scared to death of his penis!

Q.   i've been with my boyfriend for a little while now, and everything seems so perfect, he's rubbed me a bit down there, and so have i, but i could never rub him bare! i am scared of his penis for some reason and its so hard, he asked if i wanted to ...

A.   25 October 2010: There's nothing wrong with you; you're just nowhere near ready for anything like that. Don't do anything you're going to regret doing!... (read in full...)

Biggest age gap you've ever seen?!

Q.   Hi, ok. are u sitting down people? I seriously need a word of advice..i've fallen in love. madly, deeply inlove. And this man is in love with me, but we have to keep our relationship secret because we are afraid of what people might think. We ...

A.   24 October 2010: That's kind of harsh, female anon. Probably some is true, but still pretty harsh. Chances are, the OP is mature for her age - I know I am and I think that is a big reason why the man I'm with and I have a lot in common and get along so well. He's ... (read in full...)

Biggest age gap you've ever seen?!

Q.   Hi, ok. are u sitting down people? I seriously need a word of advice..i've fallen in love. madly, deeply inlove. And this man is in love with me, but we have to keep our relationship secret because we are afraid of what people might think. We ...

A.   24 October 2010: I am in your exact same position. I am in love with a man who is 40 years my senior; I'm 27. And I love this man to death. He's my soulmate and I can't picture my life with another man, nor do I want another man. We also keep our relationship secret ... (read in full...)

How to overcome social anxiety?

Q.   How does one overcome anxiety from socializing with others?...

A.   19 October 2010: As one who is very shy when talking to people, I know where you're coming from. I would say, if you're trying to socialize with, say, your work department, start small. Try socializing with one person, then start socializing with your new friend's... (read in full...)

What constitutes actually losing your virginity?

Q.   There are many questions posted about losing virginity on this board? But I want to know exactly what it means by losing virginity. (1)Penetration of the penis into the vagina, with the result that the woman's hymen is broken. For both the mal...

A.   16 October 2010: I vote for #1. And I agree, that the hymen does not have to be broken for a woman to lose her virginity. Masturbating with dildos will do that.... (read in full...)

Did the pill suddenly make my period lighter?

Q.   I started the microgynon 30 pill last night, i followed the instructions and started on the first day of my period, this morning i noticed i was bleeding as much, cos i usually bleed a lot at night, is it because of the pill? or is there something ...

A.   9 October 2010: I don't think the pill can work THAT quickly, but what do I know? What I do know is I have been taking, I think it's called Gianvi (a generic brand of Yaz) and my periods are pretty much non-existent! It's so great, but when I got my first pe... (read in full...)

What do women like/dislike about getting it in the face?

Q.   So I'm with a girlfriend who loves to make me come. She swallows, which is amazing in itself, but she wants me to come other places if I want. I would like to try coming in her face, well, really more like her open mouth, but I've always thought ...

A.   25 September 2010: I, personally, would like a man to cum anywhere on my body, but I never want it in the face. I don't really see it as degrading; I just don't want it in my eyes!... (read in full...)

Blood on my "toy" is this normal?

Q.   Hey, lately when im masterbateing i notice blood on the toy is that normal to happen? At first i thought it was me starting my period but i found it wasnt that, so then i thought it was cause im a virgin but i dont think its that any more cause it ...

A.   11 September 2010: Since you use the term "lately" I assume it's not your hymen breaking. There have been some instances where I'll get so into it that I pump the dildo pretty hard and I get rather sore in there and there's some bleeding. If that sounds like wha... (read in full...)

How soon is too soon to get over someone?

Q.   How soon is too soon to get over someone? I *just* got out of my first serious relationship (and we almost made it to our 1 year anniversary). Right now I'm feeling hurt and confused, but I'm wondering how long is it okay to be mopey? And when is it ...

A.   11 September 2010: tennisstar has the time frame about right - about a month or so I'd say. It DOES help a lot that the two of you are not going to the same school. My good friend that I eventually developed feelings for went to the same school as me, but thankfully ... (read in full...)

Is this a mid life crisis or should I leave my wife for her?

Q.   Hi, I have been married to a wonderful woman for 20 years who I still think I love. Back in January I reconnected with an old girlfriend (who is unhappily married) on Facebook. We've been emailing one another and even have met for lunch a couple o...

A.   11 September 2010: This sounds like a mid-life crisis to me. You're chatting with an old girlfriend (a no-no) and just as I expected, you're getting feelings for her again. You're probably remembering all the good times the two of you had, etc. If you truly love you... (read in full...)

Is it natural to NOT breathe for periods of time?

Q.   i know this may sound a little stupid but, iv recently noticed that sometimes i dont breath at all. its not like im holding my breath with blown up cheeks or something; it tends to happen when i am deeply focused on something or im thinking deep on ...

A.   1 September 2010: I've had this happen to me, too. I'll be deep in thought about something, really focusing, and I'll notice my breathing is out of breath and I've realized that I hadn't really been breathing for a second or two. Unless if you feel light-headed or ... (read in full...)

Is my younger brother curious?

Q.   Is it cute or is it funny if your younger brother wants to always give you a massage? My brother is 14. If I am just sitting around he likes to sit by me. It's kind of creepy. But I know boys can act weird sometimes but is it normal they he ...

A.   1 September 2010: At that age, your brother is a walking hormone. Don't ever be embarrassed to just tell him "stop" or "I don't like you doing that" and if he keeps doing it, move to another place in the room to sit or tell your parents.... (read in full...)

Married and falling in love online

Q.   Hi, I am a happily married 40+ man and few weeks ago i met a woman online also happily married. we are falling madly in love to each other both knowing this is a dead end story. my question is should we end this straight away or keep chatting and ...

A.   22 August 2010: OP: don't let female anon and spiderweb get you down. Good luck with your situation, follow your heart and I hope you make the right decision :)... (read in full...)

Why do people keep photos of their ex?

Q.   Why do people keep photos of their ex'? I girl i've been seeing for almost a year keep photos albums of her ex' on her bookshelf in the living room. There must be hundreds of them. Should i be freaking out here? She gets angry if i keep anything ...

A.   21 August 2010: Do you know how many exes she has had in her life? It sounds like she may have a self-esteem issue, where she's afraid that if you have pictures of your exes that you'll go back to them and leave her in the dust or something. The pictures of her ... (read in full...)

Married and falling in love online

Q.   Hi, I am a happily married 40+ man and few weeks ago i met a woman online also happily married. we are falling madly in love to each other both knowing this is a dead end story. my question is should we end this straight away or keep chatting and ...

A.   21 August 2010: Two questions here: 1) Do you love your wife very much? Can you picture your life without her? If you said yes to these questions then stop the online romance before you ruin your marriage. 2) Is the woman you're talking to who she says she is?... (read in full...)

My wife won't let me touch her!

Q.   My wife won't let me even touch her anymore. Several months ago I became aware of resentment stemming for isolated episodes during our 14 years of marriage when she thought I was insensitive and uncaring. The worst one was my not being present ...

A.   7 August 2010: Sounds like a race you can't win, sorry. As much of an effort you are doing, going to counseling, etc., it will be all for nothing unless she starts going with you or starts making a contribution herself. You can move Heaven and earth but if she ... (read in full...)

Need Help With Possible Anorexia...

Q.   Hey everyone, how are you? I'd like to thank you all on your help on everything else. They've all been very encouraging, rational answers that have either made me feel better or have helped. So, again: my sincerest gratitude to all of you. Thank ...

A.   31 July 2010: Doesn't sound like you're anorexic, but going by your height and weight, you sound normal to me. I'm 4'11" and weigh about 100 lbs and have been told my doctor that I'm a normal weight for all the bigger I am.... (read in full...)

I love a man that died 3 years before I was born

Q.   See, there's this guy. I'm in love with him, but nobody understands it, not even myself, actually. Some say I'm too young to fall in love, I just find guys beautiful, but for the first time on my small life I can say I'm in love... I never thought ...

A.   30 July 2010: Love cannot happen without meeting people. There has to be a connection between the two people. What you're feeling is just infatuation. Just forget about him and move on with your life.... (read in full...)

How can I make our first time special?

Q.   Hey, I'm a virgin and my boyfriend isn't and i know that it will hurt my 1st time but i want it to be special i dont want him to remember it as me just laying there doing nothing! I want to give him a lot of pleasure! and why do guys say virg...

A.   28 July 2010: It doesn't always hurt the first time - mine didn't. The key for it to not hurt for you is lots of foreplay so that you're nice and wet down there, so it's easier for him to get it in. No, or little, foreplay, and it's gonna hurt!! My guess wh... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my crazy neighbor?

Q.   why is he (my neighbour) a complete psycho ok guys heres my story . i have a nasty neighbour who shouts abuse and like intimidates , bad mouths me and my family . it all began before i was born . basically he was rascist towards are ind...

A.   27 July 2010: I'd call the police, but who knows what happens. My grandparents live with a real jerk, similar to your neighbor, they called the police and the crazy woman BIT the policeman! For whatever reason, they didn't send her off to jail....probably scared ... (read in full...)

Where and how should I meet up with the older man I'm falling for?

Q.   Hi. I'm a 17 year old girl from the uk. I have been online dating since o was 16 because I felt like no one who actually knew me would ever want to get with me. I lost my virginity at 15 to a boy who was 19 and I haven't had sex since.  About ...

A.   27 July 2010: First of all, are you under age? In the US, legal adult is 18. I agree with the other posters here. I say trust your gut and if you want to meet up with him, meet him in a PUBLIC place - with LOTS of people around. That way, if you feel uncomfor... (read in full...)

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