She is away in a foreign country and I'm scared she is cheating.
Q. Firstly, a bit of background about my SO and how we met: I visited China about 1 year ago and met a nice tour guide. At the time she told me she was living with her cousin (later I found out she was still living with her ex but they weren't getting ...
A. 19 February 2010: Well, after reading the title, my first thought was "for long distance relationships to work, there MUST be trust" but then after reading your backstory, now I'm not so sure about your girl. The moodiness can be lots of things - stress, PMS, PMDD ... (read in full...)
Is this what younger girls are like these days??
Q. Can some of you please explain the mind set of today's young women in their early 20's? I am in my mid-30's and have recently entered the dating scene. Although I am 35, I am in great physical condition and most people say I look 25. I married my...
A. 18 February 2010: Well I am 26 but am considered (and consider myself!) more mature for my age, so what those girls did, I would never dream of doing, especially on a first date! Not really sure what else to add there except I can't image ALL girls in their early 20s ... (read in full...)
Should you marry a guy who is not your type?
Q. Should you marry guy if he is not really your type and he is trying to be who you want to be with?...
A. 18 February 2010: Not really sure what you're asking - is he trying to make you something he wants you to be? Marriage is a very serious decision - one not to be taken lightly. You should marry someone that you love with all your heart and can put his needs ahead of ... (read in full...)
How can I be hot with small boobs?
Q. How can I be hot with small boobs? I have small boobs, wide hips and a small waist. I think it's a very feminine looking body. But guys still drool more over busty women! I don't get it, boobs are only fat. I've seen guys drooling over women with ...
A. 18 February 2010: Breast size does not matter - not all men love women with big boobs. But if it does bother you, you can try certain bras that are meant to raise your bust line and make you look bigger.... (read in full...)
Is this spotting, or was something hurt during sex? I'm starting to worry!
Q. Hi everyone, I need advice please. I'm 18 and I lost my virginity to my boyfriend about 2 months ago. Very soon after, I went for my first visit to the gynecologist. My tests turned out fine and I was put on birth control. I have had quite a f...
A. 13 February 2010: I went through the same thing - it takes a couple months for your body to get accustomed to the pills. One time I was having two spotting sessions in one month and this was after 3 months (the amount of time you're told that if things don't get ... (read in full...)
Do I send my ex a Valentine's card?
Q. Hi, I'm looking for some advice on whether to send my ex a Valentine's card. We were together 9 years, lived together for 7 years, but finally split up September 2009 after coming to a stuttering end when I found out he was 'messing around' with a ...
A. 13 February 2010: No, do not send him a Valentine's Day card, nor contact him ever. Sorry, that's blunt, but the guy has cheated on you twice and has apologized both times. What makes you think if the two of you get back together again (or get married, per his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not like me to smile at anyone.
Q. my boyfriend doesn't like it when i smile at people and he told me that he doesnt like it and he always fight with me so help me what should i do? ...
A. 10 February 2010: Oh, I'm sorry - I misread you; I thought you meant he doesn't like smiling at people. I agree with the others, get away from this guy. Who doesn't like people smiling at others?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not like me to smile at anyone.
Q. my boyfriend doesn't like it when i smile at people and he told me that he doesnt like it and he always fight with me so help me what should i do? ...
A. 10 February 2010: Pick your fights - this isn't that important as to constantly fight and put stress on your relationship. Maybe every now and then you could politely say something like "are you having a good time?" But do it sporadically. Or maybe just bluntly ask ... (read in full...)
I am starting to think sex is gross and want to turn Vanilla.
Q. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing, but I'm starting to think sex is GROSS, for the first time since I experienced it a little more than ten years ago, I am not coming from an 'oh, I've been with so many people and done so many...
A. 10 February 2010: Ok, I may be only 26 but sometimes I feel so out of touch with reality....what's it mean to turn vanilla?... (read in full...)
Could it be? A...Soulmate?
Q. Hi, I'm Kajimaru, and I wanted to ask a question. There is a boy who I am interested in. Lets call him 'Tatsuno'. Tatsuno has everything in common with me. Even before I knew him, there was always his name in my mind...His real name, of course. So, ...
A. 10 February 2010: I think he does like you, but you guys are way too young to be considered "soul mates."... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to make friends in high school
Q. iv started high school and things havent gone very well for me. My biggest problem is making new friends. I had "best friends" in middle school who were horrible to me and im no longer their friend. and now im trying to become friends with new ...
A. 9 February 2010: Just give them time. Entering a new school in 6th grade, I only knew one girl coming in and she was a neighbor. I had to start from scratch, literally, in making new friends. And while I was by far not the most popular kid in the class or wasn't in ... (read in full...)
Public situations making me ill!
Q. I hope someone can help me please.... My work involve dealing with people on a day to day basis, which is fine but there is a problem. I cannot stand up and talk infront of a crowd. When there is a workshop or training, i'll be there fine, bu...
A. 9 February 2010: Sounds like you have some serious stage fright and your headaches are like you know you're about to go stand up in front of people, so you have almost like an anxiety attack?
I am exactly like you - hate, hate, HATE getting up in front of people..... (read in full...)
I'm worried she is losing too much weight for him
Q. Well my best friend started dating a family friend a couple of months ago. My friend over heard them talking and we found out her boyfriend called her fat or something like that or had to lose weight. Well she is now on a diet is doing a lot of ...
A. 6 February 2010: Ugh, NOBODY should change just to please somebody. This sounds very worrying. You say there is no counselor but is there a school nurse? Surely there is someone similar to that where you can talk to about this?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is taking another girl to the prom
Q. My boyfriend is a year above me, so i can't go to his prom. He's told me that he's taking another girl and I really really don't like it. I've told him but he keeps reassuring me that it's 'not a real date' but I still don't want him to. He knows I ...
A. 6 February 2010: If you guys have admitted to calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend, then this is not acceptable. I don't care if it isn't "a real date," this isn't right. Talk to him about it.... (read in full...)
He is a horrible abusive man but I cant let go of him
Q. I can't let go of this abusive, horrible man. He has such a hold on me! I love him a lot, I don't why but I love him so deeply and I just can't let go. If he apologizes and wants me back, I just can't seem to resist. I still see more pros than cons ...
A. 6 February 2010: You need to get out of such a relationship where the man does not respect and controls you. You sound like every other woman who is in an abusive relationship - you don't want to leave because either a) you don't want to be alone, or b) you're ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband wear his wedding ring?
Q. My new husband is always forgetting his wedding ring. It drives me crazy and a little offended as well. I asked him if he doesn't want to wear it and why, he says that thats not it and I don't believe him. Why do you think he doesn't wear it?...
A. 2 February 2010: I agree with the others that rings get in the way of doing work. While I'm not married, on several occasions I have gotten rings for Christmas from family or friends and have tried to wear. I would only last about three days before I'd get annoyed. ... (read in full...)
How can I score girls who are 8's and 9's?
Q. SO recently ive been working out as hard as possible for football and ive been running but for some reason i am not getting cut and im starting track today, and i was wondering how i can get what i want so i can score 8s and 9s (girls) cause ive ...
A. 2 February 2010: I'm totally with CaringGuy here - we females are human beings, not numbers! ... (read in full...)
Long-distance, is it really worth the wait?
Q. Long story short- we met a few months before college. Everything seemed perfect, until it was time to leave. We've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now. Finding a good time to visit eachother is rare. Half of the time plans ...
A. 30 January 2010: LDRs are very difficult to maintain - have to have complete trust with one another and definitely the times you mentioned about feeling jealous seeing couples together. But if you love this man so much and can't stop thinking about him - and he is ... (read in full...)
He's gone really clingy all of a sudden and I feel hemmed in, what do I do?
Q. I've been dating someone for about 8 weeks, the first 4 weeks were brilliant, we get on really well, we talk alot, laugh and joke, enjoy alot of the same things...But then he started showing a really needy side, constantly asking me if we were ok, ...
A. 30 January 2010: You absolutely must talk to him, tell him how you feel - that you love him but you feel rather smothered. If you don't communicate, he will never know and continue to be clingy and your relationship will fail.... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the frustrations of being an older virgin?
Q. I need some help here, as I am beginning to drive myself nuts with self doubt and insecurities. I am 26, and a virgin, and I feel so lonley, miserable, deprressed and frustrated, I cannot describe how horrible it feels. Everywhere I look, t...
A. 29 January 2010: Hey, I was - and am - exactly in your shoes and it shouldn't get you down.
I am also a 26-year old virgin, but I am proud to be one. Don't get me wrong, I can't wait to experience sex with the man I love, but I'm not willing to rush into it just ... (read in full...)
I can't buy anything. What can I use to masturbate?
Q. I cant buy anything so what can I use to masterbate. I dont want a dildo or vibrator. Also dont tell me anything that can hurt me in some way. Thanks!...
A. 26 January 2010: Before I bought a dildo, I used an electric toothbrush on my clit and my fingers in my hole. The only other thing I ever used to work as a dildo was a peeled banana - wrap it in seran wrap so you don't get squished banana inside you and cause you ... (read in full...)
I thought my feet were firmly planted on the ground and then ... I fell in love
Q. I am a college student (sophomore in my undergrad). I'm 18 going on 19 this year, and I am extremely mature, proffessional, and intelligent for my age. i'm level headed and care about my future a lot. I'm not trying to sound cocky here at all, just ...
A. 26 January 2010: I know how you feel. I was also very concerned about my studies and quite frankly didn't allow for relationships or "hanging out" (I graduated from undergrad 3, going on 4, years ago...holy crap, has it been that long?)
Have you ever talked t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't touch me ..............
Q. how can i get my boyfriend to touch me.i wonder if he is cheating on me and am i teh problem...
A. 26 January 2010: Talk to him! Talking is the best solution here; he may not notice anything is wrong if you don't speak up and tell him how you feel.
I would highly doubt he is cheating on you, but you know more specifics than I. Try being touchy and cuddly w... (read in full...)
Being single sucks!
Q. im 14 and my gf broke up with me not too long ago, its middle school so thats to be expected, but i miss having someone to hug and kiss and just relax with. the thing is she was my first girlfriend and we were only together for about a week, so im ...
A. 24 January 2010: Do you have a friend who is in a relationship? You say your confidence is almost non-existent, so maybe you guys can double-date? You with that girl from algebra class? It's more fun that way and a better option starting out; not as much pressure on ... (read in full...)
Which is the better buy - Fujifilm or Panasonic camera's?
Q. Hi, i recently asked a question about a fujifilm camera for my gf, but now am wondering if a fujifilm or a panasonic would be a better buy? ANy suggestions would be most welcome, Many thanks...
A. 23 January 2010: Hi,
I'm not too familiar with Panasonic, so I'd go with Fujifilm. I also really like their film, too. But you know her better than I, so just go with your heart. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I want my married lover to leave her husband for me
Q. I am having an affair with a married woman. If you are reading and feel the need to tell me to stop or find someone who is not married, you can keep your comments to yourself because I don't care. We are both crazy in love for one another. She ...
A. 23 January 2010: Yes, you're doing the right thing in giving her some space to think. I know it hurts, but her alone time gives her a chance to decide what she wants to do.
What she needs to do is decide who she wants to be with and in a hurry, so she's not leav... (read in full...)
My husband seems to have taken a fancy to my breast milk!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have a 4 month old son. My husband has always been a "boob man". And could spend hours of forplay on my boobs. Normally it doesn't bother me but lately he has tried a new thing and it worries me. A ...
A. 21 January 2010: I may be entirely wrong about this as I'm not married nor have never been pregnant, but: with your husband drinking the milk, doesn't breast milk kind of change to go along with the baby? So if your husband is drinking the milk, he's kind of ... (read in full...)
Being single sucks!
Q. im 14 and my gf broke up with me not too long ago, its middle school so thats to be expected, but i miss having someone to hug and kiss and just relax with. the thing is she was my first girlfriend and we were only together for about a week, so im ...
A. 21 January 2010: Sorry about your breakup. Are you sure you're not just thinking of this girl in your class as like a rebound? You miss having someone around and immediately want to be with someone else. Be careful there....... (read in full...)
Older man or younger guy?
Q. I am soon turning 26 and would like to make some stable,serious choices concerning my life. I have been dating an older man aged 54 for 4 years. I was eventually tired of a distant relationship etc and decided to break things off.We split a y...
A. 21 January 2010: It is easy for you to love the older man more than the younger one because you were with the older guy for a longer time and got to know him more. The younger guy relationship, as you said, went pretty fast.
Long distance relationships are diff... (read in full...)
Do I have to look like a model to keep the sex alive?
Q. My husband does not seem to be attracted to me anymore.He does not say it ,but he never touching me or looks at me sexy... Now he is very polite guy, and kind.He is not rude with me, but I just see our sex life dead. I did put on weight over the ...
A. 21 January 2010: No, you don't have to look like a model - it's all about inner beauty. Do YOU feel sexy and beautiful?
In terms of your husband not looking at you sexily anymore, try something different for a change. Have a romantic dinner, candlelight, etc. Cud... (read in full...)
Can guys fall in love with girls who have scars on their bodies?
Q. Can you guys fall in love with a girl with scars on her body? burns, insect bites, injuries and other types of scars. Can you guys stay, love and be with a girl with those? Does it matter?...
A. 16 January 2010: Wait, I got my answer backwards - I meant to say that if he CARES about scars or birthmarks or whatever, then he obviously cares more about physical appearance rather than natural, inner beauty. Sorry. I'm sure you knew what I meant, lol!... (read in full...)
My crush found out I like her - not from me. What do I do??
Q. recently i told my friend the girl i liked in confidence, then he's told someone, and they told someone etc. and sure as it gets, she found out. i don't know how she reacted because i just found out on the bus back from school, but i don't know what ...
A. 16 January 2010: It's time to come clean. Talk to her in private (not on the bus where others are around, nor in the halls at school when students are walking past, but in private). Just tell her how you feel. You'll regret it if you don't and she'll feel kind of ... (read in full...)
Can guys fall in love with girls who have scars on their bodies?
Q. Can you guys fall in love with a girl with scars on her body? burns, insect bites, injuries and other types of scars. Can you guys stay, love and be with a girl with those? Does it matter?...
A. 16 January 2010: CaringGuy's got it right - that should be a warning sign right away if you're with the right man or not. If he doesn't care for scars or birthmarks or burns or whatever is on your skin, then he obviously cares more about physical features than your ... (read in full...)
Is my belly button sticking out because I'm pregnant?
Q. Is there any other reason why a woman's belly button would stick out? I just recently noticed that my belly button has slowly started moving outward. I don't feel pregnant or look pregnant. I have a 6 month old who I breast feed, so isn't it ...
A. 11 January 2010: I don't know about a bellybutton that slowly is starting to stick out, but mine has always stuck out cause I had a billiruben problem when I was born.... (read in full...)
What can I do for cramps besides pain meds and heating pads?
Q. What do I do for cramps besides taking pain medications and using a heat pad? My period comes tomorrow and I can already tell the cramps will be bad. Also I dont have time in between classes to change my tampon and most of my teachers dont let...
A. 9 December 2009: Not too long ago, I finally went on the pill after several horrible months of pain and torture. Four months later, I talked to my doc about something that didn't sound right and she told me the pill wasn't strong enough and I am now starting a new ... (read in full...)
I am a virgin being tempted by a sex addict yet wanting to resist
Q. Dear Cupid, I am an eighteen-year-old female virgin who does not intend to have sex until her wedding night. While I do not have a purity ring (I think I'm getting one for Christmas, though), I do have kind of a purity symbol--I write the word p...
A. 8 December 2009: First of all, kudos for you wanting to stay a virgin til you're married. You don't find too many anymore (I'm a virgin, too).
I honestly think you should part ways with this guy, even as a friend. It's just too complicated. You guys broke up, and ... (read in full...)
Why are guys so interested in breasts?
Q. Why are guys so interested in breasts. I have to live with them and why are they so special. My boyfriend is always talking about them and he even gave them a nickname. I get a little uncomfortable sometimes and at others i love it. I always think ...
A. 8 December 2009: I don't really know - I'll go with CaringGuy that it's cause men don't have them. Probably why some women are so fascinated by penises.
I haven't experienced it, but I am willing to bet that having a man suck on your breasts and specific... (read in full...)
What can I do for cramps besides pain meds and heating pads?
Q. What do I do for cramps besides taking pain medications and using a heat pad? My period comes tomorrow and I can already tell the cramps will be bad. Also I dont have time in between classes to change my tampon and most of my teachers dont let...
A. 8 December 2009: While I've never tried it myself, I hear yoga and exercising in general works.
If you wear a school uniform and it's light in color, wear shorts or something underneath. If you just wear normal clothes, obviously wear something dark. That's w... (read in full...)
If a guy is shy but really likes you, does he treat you differently from everyone else?
Q. You know when a guy really likes you but seems too shy to do anything or awkard about it for some reason, is it normal for him to just not treat you the same and sort of of treat you like his other friends like... not ingoring but he sort of ...
A. 8 December 2009: When a shy guy is with his friends, if he tells a joke, he'll immediately look at you and your reaction; that's a good sign he likes you. Also, if he's with his friends and you're off to the side or something, if he's talking and suddenly all his ... (read in full...)
My friends poke fun at my being a virgin!
Q. Hi, let me tell you about my situation, im a 21 yo virgin and my last boyfriend was when i was like 15. and i currently dont have a boyfriend and it doesnt look like its gonna change any time soon. its really taking its toll on me, cause i dont...
A. 3 December 2009: I just happened to read Lexie's response after posting mine (silly me) and one part is definitely true: don't go looking for a boyfriend. I did that several times with no luck. The saying is true that love comes when you least expect it!... (read in full...)
My friends poke fun at my being a virgin!
Q. Hi, let me tell you about my situation, im a 21 yo virgin and my last boyfriend was when i was like 15. and i currently dont have a boyfriend and it doesnt look like its gonna change any time soon. its really taking its toll on me, cause i dont...
A. 3 December 2009: You're too hard on yourself - you're still very young and you'll find Mr. Right.
But I was like you, rarely ever had a boyfriend (one and I'm 26!) and was depressed I'd never find love. I dreaded Valentine's Day - seeing all my friends with the... (read in full...)
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