Tips on controlling my outburst during an orgasm
Q. okay, so here it goes. i am 13 and have recently started masturbating. i have orgasms every single time and its hard not to moan or sometimes scream with pleasure! i usually do it when my parents are asleep or when im by myself. do you know any...
A. 3 March 2010: Point taken, "q". but I am rather miffed at being blocked by DC and felt that they were being too controlling, if it's what members want.
But I agree with you about the safety of the young - it should be paramount.... (read in full...)
Why does it feel like I need to pee after I orgasm?
Q. After I have a orgasm from masturbating I feel like I have to pee, but I dont. Its this really intense sensation that I need to get something out of me, like pee, but I dont have to really pee. What could this be? PS And this happens after I have a...
A. 3 March 2010: Your urethral sponge, just behind your g-spot, is filling with ejaculate and if you let go, you will squirt!
Don't be afraid of it, it isn't pee but it will come out of your urethra (pee-hole) because it shares the same exit duct, but it will be ... (read in full...)
How much will anal sex hurt and is there a way to make it easier?
Q. Okay so here's the thing. I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend have had sex a couple times and done everything else exept anal. well we tried once and he couldn't get it in. He wants to try it again but when he first tried he said my ass hole is really ...
A. 2 March 2010: Yes, "anonymous reader", I can: but don't take my word for it, ask any doctor.... (read in full...)
How much will anal sex hurt and is there a way to make it easier?
Q. Okay so here's the thing. I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend have had sex a couple times and done everything else exept anal. well we tried once and he couldn't get it in. He wants to try it again but when he first tried he said my ass hole is really ...
A. 2 March 2010: Beware, young lady - you are doing too much, too quickly.
As has already been said, he must use a condom, not only to prevent the possible spread of disease but because the bacteria YOU have will do him no favours at all on his penis.
Please ... (read in full...)
We have sex about once every 2 months! What do I do?
Q. Where did my wife go? You could say my life is very typical, to an extreme! Before we got married, my wife did everything, unprovoked. I NEVER pushed sex on her at all. She went down on me in the back of a cab once, I never even asked or fl...
A. 2 March 2010: Aside from not having sex, are there any other forms of intimacy? Does she kiss you spontaneously? Cuddles?
If everything has gone, to be honest it won't be long before you go looking elsewhere for your affection.
It worried me when you thought ... (read in full...)
Should I ask if he wants a girlfriend or just sex?
Q. this guy that i met online we were chatting on msn. HIM: there are lot of hoes out there ME: i didnt know that HIM: you tell me ME: how would i know more like you tell me HIM: so your decent then? ME: well i dont sleep around so i'd like ...
A. 1 March 2010: If that is the sum total of his conversation, do you really need to ask?... (read in full...)
Questions about masturbation....
Q. Hello everybody, well i have a simple question i am 18 years old im still a virgin and well im starting to want to masturbate i already tried a little by rubbing my clit hard and fast but after like a min i get like literally hot like all over and i ...
A. 1 March 2010: Might I suggest that you follow my link.....
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/need-help-climaxing.html... (read in full...)
For my English project: Is it Affect or Effect?
Q. I know this isn't to do with relationships but i'm unsure of where else to ask. Basically, i'm doing a speech in english which I have chosen to do on the topic of judgment. My question is : would I entitle it 'the Affect of judgment' or 'the Effect ...
A. 1 March 2010: An easy way to remember.....Affect = Alter: Effect = Ensues.... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating if you sleep with a man but don't have sex?
Q. if a married woman just sleeps with a guy without having sex is that considered cheating??...
A. 1 March 2010: There may not have been a physical involvement, but was there an emotional one?
If so, you cheated.... (read in full...)
Why would he need pills for erectile dysfunction when he is away from home?
Q. My husband travels for business. When he returned from a recent trip, the two cialis pills in his pillbox were gone. Should I ask him what happened to them? He keeps a password on his phone and laptop so I can't check those. We've been married 32 ...
A. 1 March 2010: Perhaps he masturbates?... (read in full...)
Need help climaxing.
Q. I'm a 17 year old girl and I've been masturbating for a while now. I mean, I don't know if it's even considered that because all i do is rub my clit till "orgasm". I've just recently tried fingering myself. I only can use one finger because it's so ...
A. 1 March 2010: My apologies for repeating myself from a previous answer to a similar question, but I think you need to do this.....
Tonight, when you are alone and not likely to be disturbed, I want you to examine your pussy.
Closely.
Prop yourself up ... (read in full...)
If I don't have sex with my boyfriend will he go elsewhere?
Q. I'm afraid that if i dont have sex with my boyfriend he will go somewhere else.Help?...
A. 1 March 2010: So what if he does? Your ONLY consideration should be if it's truly what YOU want, bearing in mind that it is probably illegal in your State at your age, and for him too?
At worst, if found out, he could get a prison sentence because in law, you ... (read in full...)
My difficult boyfriend calls me and everyone else a 'loser'
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. Can you please help me! How do you define a 'loser'?? My BF calls me a 'loser' (we've been together for 5 years) and he also calls his exes and my friends 'losers'. It is really upsetting me because I don't feel as th...
A. 28 February 2010: It's rare that I would disagree with "CG", but in this case I do! He does not have "an inflated sense of self esteem"; quite the opposite.
People who denigrate all and sundry do so because they have such a poor view of their own self-worth that... (read in full...)
My wife wont share all my sexual fantasies and called me a bully
Q. My wife and I have been married for over 20 years. Sex life has been a bit hit and miss down through the years, mostly due to her low sex drive. Leading up to Christmas, we'd been arguing a bit and hadn't had sex for about 6 weeks. The argue...
A. 28 February 2010: I wonder if the rabbit is SO effective that it sends her into paroxysms of ecstasy that she doesn't want you to witness?
She could lose control so completely as to embarrass herself and would rather keep it private.
Otherwise, no idea, sorry.... (read in full...)
He tried to force himself on me. Am I over-reacting?
Q. I've been going out with this guy for a few weeks. he was really nice, opened doors for me, said sweet things, and seemed real cool. He seemed patient, didn't mind spending time with my family, and was real smart. he was older than me and seemed so ...
A. 27 February 2010: That was not only unforgivable but illegal. You have been subjected to a sexual assault JUST short of rape. Had you been a little less able to resist, i.e. less determined, or a little drunk and it would actually have BEEN rape. You need to cu... (read in full...)
Why do guys from council houses treat me so badly when I am nice to them?
Q. there was lot of guys i have likes from council houses but they seem treated me very badly and i am nice to them i am not not from council house area.but they guys i have like are they insulted and be little treated me badly some don,t want even to ...
A. 26 February 2010: People from council estates often have a different mind-set to others who have earned what they have - position, property, education and self-respect, etc.
It is largely because they are locked into a dependency culture with everything provided for ... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her age...
Q. In September i travelled to Thailand, and met a Thai girl who is 28 (im 22) and the chemistry was there right away i spent the 12 days of my holiday with her and fell in love. A lot of people get perceptions of thai girls who want money and move ...
A. 26 February 2010: Don't be so silly! Nothing about her has changed since you found out her true age; you still love her, and a 10-year gap is trivial. If you are that compatible and you think that you can spend the rest of your lives together, then do so.... (read in full...)
How do I get over Miranda?
Q. There was a girl (Miranda) that I briefly dated when I was 17. The relationship was emotional, but never turned physical because she decided that she was going to see her ex-boyfriend again so, like a dope, a let her go. We both moved on and saw ...
A. 26 February 2010: You MUST follow your heart; it has been telling you what to do all these years.
Contact her "for old times' sake" and see how she feels - you never know......... (read in full...)
My online guy says he loves me all the time, how can I know he's being sincere?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy I met online. I have met him in person and it's completely amazing how much we get a long. He said he loved me even before we met (talking for a few months, phone webcam) and I kind of took it with ...
A. 25 February 2010: "jc82" has hit it squarely on - do you know how much it costs to park even for a short time at London's airports? The pick-up/drop-off areas are very time constrained and require the car to be attended at all times, so he could not have accompan... (read in full...)
Can precum on fingers cause pregnancy through clothing?
Q. If precum (I think it was, it could have been rainwater) soaked very little through my pants and got on my fingers from readjusting myself, and I subsequently went on to rub my girlfriend from outside her panties and pants, is there a possibility ...
A. 25 February 2010: There is not a snowball's chance in hell of your girlfriend's being pregnant! Sperm cannot penetrate fabric, and if I read you correctly there were several barriers against which the most enterprising sperm would be defeated. Ignore "male anon... (read in full...)
My hairy arm really embarrass me and I feel that I have to cover them up...will anyone be attracted to me?
Q. Hi. I really need some help. Im 13 and I have really dark and hairy arms and always feel like i have to cover up. I also have never had a boyfirend so I always blame the arms. At school even in the summer when its baking hot i keep my blazer on ...
A. 25 February 2010: Like others, I am mystified as to why you can't wax, but as has already been suggested, depilatory creams are easy to obtain and use - Veet, Nair, etc.
But, why not Google "Sugar waxing"? Very many entries for you there, and this one in part... (read in full...)
I know rape is wrong and very bad...so why do I get turned on when my boyfriend says this?
Q. Hey. Some thing is really bugging me. Some times when me and my boyfriend are jokeing aroung he'll say hes going to rape me and i get turned on by that. I know rapeing is wrong and very bad so why would i get turned on by this when my boyfriend says ...
A. 22 February 2010: I know that you are neither alone nor odd, from what I have read on here and other sites - the number of ladies who mention rape fantasy is amazing!
Another recurrent theme was that of Daddy/Uncle/little girl. Generally, the ladies have no idea ... (read in full...)
Why the nagative image of Ginger Girls?
Q. Hiya, i'm a 16 year old, female, ginger and i want to know why do guys not like you for being ginger ? it's just a hair colour like blonde or brunette but why pick on the ginger, like i've got a boyfriend, but he's ginger - he's very hot by the way ...
A. 20 February 2010: Ah well, it's a tradition to pick those that are "different", especially in schools, and your hair colour is in the minority, so that makes you a target.
It didn't impede Chris Evans (more's the pity!) and it's nothing personal against you.
The... (read in full...)
He doesn't want love, he just wants sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We are both in our late 20's. One of my problems is that he wants to have sex all of the time but is not affectionate. His complaint is that our sex life has become boring. He wants to have ...
A. 20 February 2010: I am guessing that he watches porn? Nothing could be further from real life!
You know and he needs to be educated to the fact that sex starts in the mind long before the bedroom.
He needs to excite you in various ways, showing you attentio... (read in full...)
Is this really American culture? It hurts that he considers what I did in a picture 9 months ago as cheating
Q. Hi dearcupids! You always offer great advice, so here's a question for you. My boyfriend and I recently got into a fight about a picture that was taken of me. Now Im from a different country than him, he's American. In this picture I was at a party ...
A. 19 February 2010: He is being controlling; trying to manipulate you into being a submissive for him and you are doing nothing wrong.
Even though I am from the UK, I can detect bullshit from long range when I hear it!
Maybe you would like to reconsider your relation... (read in full...)
I have to kiss my sister-in-law in a play! Should I do it?
Q. hello aunty,I am stage actor..my last few plays have done well and I am on a rise..2 days back I was offered a play with the best director in the business..this is a romantic play where my sister-in-law(cousins wife) plays my love interest..she also ...
A. 19 February 2010: You are an actor - be professional and deal with it!... (read in full...)
My penis is growing, what should I do?
Q. Hello ladies and gentlemen, I'm kinda emberassed to ask this but my penis is getting large day by day and certainly i haven't take any pills to get it enlarged but i wonder if this is a deases or is it something that has to do with me? It's really ...
A. 17 February 2010: Whatever caused it, can I have some?
Pleeease!... (read in full...)
I have become increasingly concerned about her night time habits!
Q. I have been living with my finacee for 8 months. We enjoy sex 3 or more times a week. I always ensure she has an orgasm before there is any penetration as I tend not to last too long. I have become increasingly concerned about her night time habit...
A. 16 February 2010: "celiaaletta", she IS doing it behind his back! LOL.... (read in full...)
Male input would be useful. What makes the perfect woman?
Q. Not really a question. More of an investigation,just wondering what makes the perfect woman-not just looks wise but taking that into consideration. Please and thankyou :).. xx...
A. 15 February 2010: I already have the perfect girl and I'm not telling you anything in case you get SO jealous you want to steal her away from me!
But I'll drop a few hints: beautiful, clever, good conversationalist, wonderful sense of humour, kind, considerate, lovi... (read in full...)
Boys and sex. What is it these days?
Q. Why are boys SOO obsessive about sex? It's like a must have for them! I have been asked for it a couple of times, but I'm only 13. Im definitely not having sex until I'm at least 17 and I when I've found someone I love and trust to loose my ...
A. 15 February 2010: CG, you said it before me!
Yes, it's a rite of passage along with all of those things and it's happening at an ever earlier age.
I'm SO glad that you, the OP, have the sense to realise that sex isn't just a mechanical emotionless act but has a de... (read in full...)
He said I'm loose but I've NEVER had sex with anyone else! How can this be?
Q. okay so last night me and my boyfriend we just laying there cuddling and talking and he told me i was loose..... and he was serious... he said its the most noticeable when hes on top which is one of my favourite positions.... hes the only guy ive ...
A. 14 February 2010: Spot on, CG. All I would add is that maybe you were super-wet during sex and this SMALL boy slipped in too easily? When you are really old enogh for sex, go find a man with a decent-sized c**k and enjoy yourself!... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can keep a good flow of intimacy while putting on his condom?
Q. About a month ago, I gave up my birth control pills out of health concerns. My boyfriend was fine with it and we've basically just been orally satisfying one another - which really isn't the same. We've spoke about trying condoms, but we tried them ...
A. 13 February 2010: Now, you will have to ask the skilled ladies on here exactly how this is done, but I once had a g/f who would put a condom in her mouth and roll in on my erect penis from tip to root in one smooth action, and the feeling was SENSATIONAL!
C... (read in full...)
Was kissing my teacher on the cheek a bit too much?
Q. So, my teacher is like... more than a teacher to me. He is my mentor. He has done a lot for me and helped me so much in life situations and how I can deal with them. Because of that, he has made me a happier person than how I used to be (which was a ...
A. 13 February 2010: Female anon, that is very harsh and unwarranted. How can you ascribe bad motives from what the OP has written and how could the teacher "not allow" something that had already happened unexpectedly?
It would be wrong of him to follow it up with furt... (read in full...)
I had sex with a bodybuilder!
Q. Hi everyone ..thanks for reading , Im in a spot here and I really dont know what to do ! I had always wanted to go to bed with one of those really BIG body builder guys at the gym , just watching them always got me aroused . Then one...
A. 13 February 2010: Unacceptable reply from you, OP.
Imagine the outcry if the genders were reversed? The man would be pilloried for his actions as you thoroughly deserve to be.... (read in full...)
Was kissing my teacher on the cheek a bit too much?
Q. So, my teacher is like... more than a teacher to me. He is my mentor. He has done a lot for me and helped me so much in life situations and how I can deal with them. Because of that, he has made me a happier person than how I used to be (which was a ...
A. 13 February 2010: You were caught up in the moment, and I am sure he realised that. There is no need to reproach yourself as I'm sure he won't interpret it as a declaration of undying love, just a nice gesture from a grateful pupil, which is exactly what it was.
H... (read in full...)
I had sex with a bodybuilder!
Q. Hi everyone ..thanks for reading , Im in a spot here and I really dont know what to do ! I had always wanted to go to bed with one of those really BIG body builder guys at the gym , just watching them always got me aroused . Then one...
A. 13 February 2010: Do not use sex as a weapon; that's a mistake so many women make and it destroys relationships. You want it, but you are withholding it to punish him - reasonable?
And your reason for withholding? Because he doesn't believe your lies: why should he, ... (read in full...)
She has denied me sex until I pay for it!
Q. Have been in a relationship for four years now with a lady i do love soo much and ready to marry, she is 32 am 27, But she is so controlling, she doe's not like to be forced on doing things she has become miss independent, i lost my job recently and ...
A. 12 February 2010: Where is the love and passion in this relationship? Demanding that you pay for sex? Prostitutes do that, not loving partners, for whom sex - love making - should be the ultimate expression of their comittment to each other.
It will hurt you, no doub... (read in full...)
My penis slips out during sex, how can I stop this?
Q. So i know i have asked this question but i still feel like i didnt get a good answer. Me and my girlfriend are trying to have sex... we are both virgins so its kind of like going into this blindfolded. We get each other going i get her wet and ...
A. 11 February 2010: Get HER to read this, and you may join in where appropriate…..
Tonight, when you are alone and not likely to be disturbed, I want you to examine your pussy.
Closely.
Prop yourself up in bed, and part your legs but close your heels together. ... (read in full...)
I am not sexually compatible with my husband. How can I get him to stop being such a prude?
Q. (Mod Note - OP's own title) I can't say how glad I am to have found this site. I am a 28yo mother of three boys. I have always been very sexual. I can remember masturbating as early as 5 or 6. My first sexual incounter was with the little girl...
A. 10 February 2010: I was initially tempted to talk to you about several ways of bringing yourself off to maximum effect, but of course the major part of sex in a loving relationship is the intimacy and sharing, so going solo just won't do it.
If you are still in love... (read in full...)
I am so paranoid about having my period that I don't want to leave the house, cant concentrate at school, ...I even dream about it!
Q. Well my issue is that I feel like I'm the only girl in the world who is extremely paranoid of her period. It's always on my mind, because i'm always thinking about "well, what if i get it this day when i have to do this" and I also worry about it so ...
A. 10 February 2010: You don't say what pills you are taking at the moment, but have you considered birth cotrol pills? They aren't just to enable you to avoid pregnancy!... (read in full...)
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