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No contact for 2 months then I get a message; Merry Christmas. I love you. What does this mean?

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Question - (25 December 2007) 12 Answers - (Newest, 4 February 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I broke up with my bf almost 2 months ago, but he wanted to remain friends...we just basically needed a break, but he slowly lost contact with me and began ignoring me...then he moved in with his new gf...its Christmas and I haven't heard from him in almost a month...but today he text me to say "merry christmas...I love you. Always.

What does this mean?

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A male reader, Somethingeasy United States +, writes (4 February 2008):

Somethingeasy agony auntSadly to say, that whatever you guys had, can not happen again. It is a memory thats it. IF it was meant to be it would be. Sounds like this guy doesnt know what to do wt himself.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008):

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We spoke on the phone about two weeks after this message and it involved a lot of argueing.. He said he would alwas love me, but we have no future together and he thinks it would be best if we didn't keep in contact anymore...we didn't talk for several weeks, but then he text me recently saying how he was visiting the place where we had our first kiss and how amazin it was...he also sad how we have the best memories....I don't know what to think. Is he just toying with my emotions? or being friendly? Why would he tell me that he never wants to see me again, but then reminds me of how great we had it?

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A female reader, elsie United Kingdom +, writes (2 January 2008):

elsie agony auntdont read anymore into it.just throw the message away and clean it out of your head.i know the feeling when your worried or down you look at the message and read so much more into it than is there.the main thought that springs to my mind is action speaks louder than words and that can be applied to just about any aspect of a relationship.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007):

it just means that he still loves u as a friend! my ex bf does that alot so its a common thing!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007):

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He emailed me today and was really rude and cold...he said I had no more ties to him. I guess he text meant nothing.

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A female reader, Minelisse Puerto Rico +, writes (26 December 2007):

Minelisse agony auntLet the new year bring you new experiences and a new love! Life is full of possibilities, choose to smile, have fun and love your family and friends. Happy holidays in these difficult times!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007):

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Our two year anniversary would have been on New Years...

It's just hard to move on you know...we were planning on getting married and having kids, traveling. He gave me a promise ring once...its the past though right..

But its easier to see where he is coming from after I listen you your advice, because when it is just me here..and I here from him...I feel like he is toying with my emotions...but now I can see that its just a time of reflection for him...

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A female reader, juliemc United Kingdom +, writes (26 December 2007):

Hi,

Maybe this guy has just found out about your new relationship, and has realised what could have been.

Christmas and the prospect of the forthcoming New Year can be sometimes a time for reflection, and maybe regrets from his point of view.

It shouldn't take the festive season to make anyone realise how much you mean to them, they should feel the same every day.

Also the fact he moved in with his new gf that soon, player springs to mind maybe...you deserve better so move on hunni, one day you'll find someone who appreciates you at all times.

Good luck for the future,

Hope this helps.

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A male reader, Somethingeasy United States +, writes (26 December 2007):

Somethingeasy agony auntIts probally a message to let you know that he still cares for you as a friend. Nothing more.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (26 December 2007):

kenny agony auntI think he maybe he felt bad about the way things ended between the pair of you, and ignoring you. I think he just wanted to say merry Christmas, and to tell you that you will always hold a special place in his heart at this festive time of year. But as Minelisse says, look back to you relationship, reflect, and learn. Put this relationship down to experience and move on with you life.

All the best x

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A female reader, truly_unique New Zealand +, writes (26 December 2007):

i agree with minelisse.

He could possibly just miss your company and just wanted to let you know that he stil respects you as a person

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A female reader, Minelisse Puerto Rico +, writes (26 December 2007):

Minelisse agony auntI think it means he appreciates you as a person and appreciates the relationship you had. He though of you and wanted to let you know.

He moved in with someone else after just 2 months of a breakup. Sometimes life has a way of taking out of our lives whatever is not serving its purpose anymore!

Look back to your relationship, reflect and learn, then move on. Sequels almost never top the original version and that relationship (with the two of you) has already ended!

Best of lucks!

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