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writes:how do i move on when im so madly deeply in love with my now x partner,i cry all the time,i cant eat,finding it impossible to sleep,cant even be bothered to feed my children,and i dont want to be with anybody else,he is my bestfriend and soulmate and he knows this.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (2 January 2008):
 If your life has had such a strong impact that you are not eating nor feeding your children, it is probable you need some professional help to aid you in getting through this rough times. Having said that, how long has it been? How long were you two together? Are these children product of your relationship with him?
Breaking up a relationship where you loved and felt loved is always difficult. Saying goodbye to your routines together or learning to cope with sleeping alone can be really hard, but you can find the strength and support to go through it! You just have to decide to. Make a plan, write what you will accomplish the next day. Wake up early, see the sun, do some exercise, decide to go on, look for support!! Life will go on, time will help you heal... Best of lucks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): focus on your kids. they are worth more than any man.
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reader, Cag Lee "Apollo" Adarma +, writes (2 January 2008):
 Hey female,
Couple of things;
1. PERSPECTIVE- this is very important to have in and out of a relationship. If your relationship was based on real things and your being as a person is founded in your OWN self-esteem, rather than one of co-dependency, it should not stop you loving and caring for your children. Maybe you said this to be dramatic, it was not it just sounded negligent. Either way perspective is important
2. REALISM- You might have to face the fact that you might never really get over it. When you love someone and they stop feeling the same way or come to their own personalisation that they never did, it feels like your living in some alternate reality where you float on your own and everyone elses looking in. That feeling of isolation from a communicable emotion is what is making you feel so dispondent. At this early stage the best thing to do is to stay busy and not wallow in your feelings. Go swimming, go jogging, go out with friends, go to karoke, do any fun, lame thing to get your mind back on the future and off the past.
3. 'HE KNOWS THIS'- sometimes the other person does 'know' that your feelings for them are strong and conciously or subconciously use this as a tool against you, from the way you have worded this it would seem that is happening in your case. They do not do this to be vindictive [maybe] but because we as ppl revel in adulation. The many other unspoken things that can't be communicated in the stress-filled conversation you two probably have are also the reason for your feeling of helplessness. All you can do is try and work out these things on your own, fortify your life with good things, look after yourself and your children and start learning to work under your own steam. It is difficult losing not only a confidant but a lover and a soulmate but you must find a way back.
Have a happy new and God Bless
The Cag
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): i know im young, but ive been there. well if your ex already has another partner, then hang in there. it took me a month or 2 to get over my boyfriend. but if hes single, try to get him back! you probably know how. im sure he/she has some weakness that you can take advantage of.
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