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writes:hey everyone, i'm on my friend's account, so i'm not 16. i am 14, and a freshman in high school. Let me set the scenes here: i started dating a sophomore in august, and we fell in love almost instantly. I fell for his 'badboy' black-clothes, killer-interests style. Just for a mental image, he resembles jacob kogan, the actor. Okay, so even though my boyfriend is somewhat cruel and arcane to others, he's very sweet to me. the problem is that lately he's become overprotective. he glares at my guy friends, and becomes furious with anyone who touches or hugs me. sometimes im afraid he'll beat them up after school. he also seems to want a very serious relationship with me; when he kisses me i feel like he is suddenly a grown man. the relationship just feels too mature. i dont want to hurt his feelings, but how can i tell him it's moving too fast?
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (18 December 2010):
If he really loved you and you completely trust him, you would be able to tell him straight that you think it's going to fast and he would accept it and slow down for you. If he doesn't do this or you feel you don't trust him enough to tell him straight I think you should break up with him (to be honest he doesn't sound the nicest guy anyway) because if there's no trust your relationship will never go very far. I hope this helps and good luck.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (18 December 2010):
Actions speak louder than words. He seems like a very violent, controlling person by nature which could lead to problems in the future. Even though he's sweet to you, how he treats others should be very important to you, because that's a glimpse into the person they really are; the person they are when they aren't trying to impress someone.
You should definitely tell him things are a little too intense. If he cares he should be more than willing to slow things down. But if he continues to show aggressive behavior, I'd suggest second guessing the whole relationship.
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reader, LoveWiz +, writes (18 December 2010):
 Umm... Reality check; If he really loved you, he would understand you needed personal space and other relationships. This could become abusive, and that is never a situation you want to end up in. Tell him it is moving way to fast. yvonica is right; he should respect you and your values.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): thats kind of abusive girl sorry to tell you that... i guess that doesnt help though... just go on a nice date with him get him all happy and tell him to take a step back and go a little slower and maybe tell him that you arent interested in your guy friends at all... i dont really know what to say except tell him to back off a little bit
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reader, yvonica +, writes (17 December 2010):
 by the way... i had that problem so i started dating younger guys... least two years younger... im not saying do the same thing in highschool i was a late bloomer... there was hardly any guys who where a virgin anymore. i was 16 and dated a guy who was 14... he was perfect and never pressured me or moved to fast.
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reader, yvonica +, writes (17 December 2010):
Well just be a were he may be nice and sweet to you know but he does show signs of being abusive in the future... more things might come about like how he want you to dress and talk to... and i dont think his feelings should be hurt if you tell him you guys are moving to fast. Its your body do what you feel is right for yourself and tell him you guys are moving to fast sexually. Even if you guys never had sex but you are afraid it will comt to that and your not ready. He should be able to respect that.I dont want to discaourage you and say he might be abusive i could be wrong but you should be allowed to hug your friends and spend time with them to. its not like your married and you are also very young.
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