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writes:ok so my boyfriend hit me and gave me a black eye and i dont know whether to leave him or not because i'm kind of scared of him. My dad keep asking me to tell him where he lives because he wants to go round there but i dont really want to tell him because i don't want him and my brother to get in trouble Should i tell dad where he lives or not? Should i leave my boyfriend? i know that if i do leave him he's going to keep coming round my house all the time ? Reply to this Question
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reader, notagain  +, writes (25 December 2010):
I know everyone says to just leave but if you love him, it is hard to do. Looking back, I should have left plenty of times. If I could do it again, I would just leave. I used to feel bad because I felt like I caused myself to get hit but talking to a counselor, I know that is not true. Was there violence in your home growing up? When there is, it makes violence seem normal but it is not. You need to be with someone that will respect you physically and emotionally. If not, then you need to leave. If you don't feel it's safe, you should get a restaining order.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): most def. u should leave him and yea let your dad and brother handle that situation cause that isnt cool not one bit and if he keep comeing around after you break it off then you should go to the police honestly
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reader, Illithid +, writes (25 December 2010):
 Not only are you forgiving your boyfriend for hitting you, you're even protecting him from your own family? What are you going to do next time he hits you? (And believe me, he WILL hit you again if this is how he acts when he's angry.)
Leave that guy. You're in danger every day you keep dating this loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): Leave him please and tell your father. Get a restraining order if you have too...but the abuse will only get worse....it could lead to death.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (25 December 2010):
Yes, you should leave him. I know it may be scary, but that's all the more reason to do so. It honestly can't be any worse than staying with him. As long as your dad and brother know about him, you shouldn't have to worry; it seems they are more than eager to look out for you.If you are really scared after you leave him and he makes threatening remarks to you in any way, then yes, tell your dad immediately so he can give him a stern talk. It sounds like this kid needs it.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 Yes you should leave him. If you are scared of him you should tell your dad where he lives, and you should ask your father to go with you to the police station to report the assault.
If you are worried he will come around to your house all the time and bother you, go live with your dad for a while.
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