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How do I get this relationship moving along?
Q. So I just started seeing this girl and I can't really read whats going on in her head and I'm not really sure where to expect things to go. We've gone out on 3 dates so far, due to logistics we can only see each other on the weekends, I've s...
A. 29 November 2009: It's not wrong that you're upset that she might not have been a virgin...that's just how you feel.
Whether she was a virgin before you or not, it shouldn't really affect your relationship with her...she had a life before you came along. I assume y... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this messed up relationship?
Q. im not sure what to do every time i try to distance myself from this boy and get over him somehow we end up messing with each other again. i want 2 leave him alone but somehow i feel like i cant. i dont want to be in a messed up relationship but ...
A. 14 October 2009: You say that you can't distance yourself from him and get over him. Guess what? You definitely can but you don't want to. By messing around do you mean you end up having sex with him? And how does he make you happy exactly? He gets to 'mess around' ... (read in full...)
The guy I was dating dumped me after we had sex!
Q. I am really hurting--but I know I have to go on and forget this. I just don't know how. I was dating a man for two months and really fell for him. I cared about him very much and he told me he was very attracted to and interested in me. One ...
A. 13 October 2009: I just read your second post and it sounds like you're doing it tough. I think him being a family friend, and not just a guy you met randomly, makes this even tougher for you. I know that none of us can say that we know exactly what you're going ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to initiate physical contact?
Q. Ok, wow....so I just typed and submitted an entire ''question,'' all for it to tell me i wasn't logged in when i had already logged in....uuugh! So, I will make this one much more brief and as to the point as I can! I am almost 31, a single ...
A. 12 October 2009: Wow, I used to be like that a long time ago, so I'll speak from personal experience.
There are 3 things that could be at play here:
1. She's either had a really bad experience in the past and is very cautious, or
2. She could be inexp... (read in full...)
The guy I was dating dumped me after we had sex!
Q. I am really hurting--but I know I have to go on and forget this. I just don't know how. I was dating a man for two months and really fell for him. I cared about him very much and he told me he was very attracted to and interested in me. One ...
A. 12 October 2009: Whatever you do, please don't blame yourself. If he dumped you the way he did after you had sex with him, he was going to do it anyway, whether you waited another week or a month to sleep with him. I think that if he genuinely cared about you and ... (read in full...)
Dumped by a man who wanted to marry me!
Q. I have just been dumped by a man who told me he wanted to marry me. He said he wanted to marry me and then I told him I thought he was just using me for sex and money. He had stood me up several times and was worried I was being used again (by y...
A. 12 October 2009: Him telling you he wanted to marry you means absolutely nothing when you consider his actions...he stood you up, he dumped you out of the blue, he asked you for money for alcohol and cigarettes...who cares what he says. You need to believe 10% of ... (read in full...)
How do I find a girlfriend without having to go out?
Q. I'm at university and hate "going out". I seriously hate it, but I do it anyway so that people don't think I'm a hermit. I was at a big party, and our group split up all around the club. I felt retarded since I hate clubs and paid to get in, so I ...
A. 9 October 2009: There are a million reason she didn't want to pursue things, I doubt very much that it had a lot to do with you. You don't know her, she could have a boyfriend, she could be this and that, who knows. If you're that interested in this particular girl ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a woman to ask a man out?
Q. I have another question, is it wrong for woman to ask man out on a date? Does it start a cycle of a woman taking the male role in the relationship?...
A. 9 October 2009: I completely agree with Ask oldersister. Although it's not 'wrong' I don't think it puts you, as the woman, in a good position for building a relationship. When a man asks you out you know that he's interested and has made the effort to ask you. ... (read in full...)
During sex I decided it wasnt right..was that rape?
Q. I met up with this guy and concented to sex...then during sex I decided this wasnt right and asked him repeatedly to stop....he didnt, I even tried moving but I wasnt strong enough, when it was all over I just let it go and stayed the night....I ...
A. 8 October 2009: Even though you consented to begin with, you withdrew that consent and he kept going and therefore, legally speaking, it could be rape. What do you want to do about it? If you want to press charges you need to see a lawyer, tell them everything that ... (read in full...)
I'm dating an extremely busy guy, what do you think, should I just let him go?
Q. The situation is this: I'm dating an extremely busy guy, who has a lot of things going on in his life right now. I don't really know what to "call" our situation. He kissed me on the head (I don't know what this means. People claim that it's ...
A. 8 October 2009: You say you're dating but then you don't actually see him or talk to him often...are you actually dating or is that what you think? Anyway, you are right when you say that if people want to make the time they will. If he was genuinely wanting to ... (read in full...)
I don't want anything to do with him, but what are his motives?
Q. My ex is confusing me. We have broken up for a year exactly. I never initiate any communication....but always reply...short answers but I do. The last 3 months he's been writing more and more...after that...he asked if i was going to see a band we ...
A. 8 October 2009: And I forgot to add: he doesn't want you or to start over with you, he's contacting you for his own selfish needs, to make himself feel good, to know that you're still there and to know that he has the power over you. Don't let him do this to ... (read in full...)
I don't want anything to do with him, but what are his motives?
Q. My ex is confusing me. We have broken up for a year exactly. I never initiate any communication....but always reply...short answers but I do. The last 3 months he's been writing more and more...after that...he asked if i was going to see a band we ...
A. 8 October 2009: Aha, so you still want him don't you? That's why it matters so much to you to know what he wants. He's confusing you because he can. He texts you and you reply so of course he's going to continue...and who knows why, but I can assure you that ... (read in full...)
How much rejection must I go through before striking gold?
Q. I'm beginning to think I suck when it comes to dealing with women. Lately, i feel like every time I show any interest in a woman it never works out. Which is odd to me considering how everyone always tells me I'm funny and good looking. So inspired ...
A. 8 October 2009: Dating and relationships are a numbers game. Some people meet one or two others and get into a relationship/dating with the third person they meet. For others, they can go through dozens of dates and still be single and looking. What you have ... (read in full...)
Met on the net should we date
Q. Hey, I just came across this site and I thought I just put my question out there. Oh and this is a Long Distance Relationship Question. I live in the US and she lives in Canada (555 mile[996 km] separation) I'm going to tell the story and then a...
A. 8 October 2009: I think it's absolutely fine the way you met. It really makes no difference if you met her online or while out shopping. I know there are dangers in meeting people you first met online but if you take the precautions you have already, you should be ... (read in full...)
How can I make him feel appreciated and cared for without having sex?
Q. Hi I recently met a guy and we went out a 3 times. I asked him if he is interested and he said yes. He asked me the same and I answered yes. He told me that I did not show him that. I was surprised becuase I thought I had showed him enough. ...
A. 8 October 2009: When he told you that you didn't 'show' him that you were interested, did you ask him what he meant? I don't want to assume too much but there are guys out there that will make you feel guilty for not being physically intimate with them. Don't let ... (read in full...)
Do you think if I'm patient she will realize I'm the right guy for her?
Q. Im head over heels in love with this girl who lives on the same dorm floor. I spend about 4-5 hours a day with her. We talk about everything... her relationships with her family, how high school was, sports, books, music, movies, literally everythi...
A. 8 October 2009: You are so cute…I can feel your excitement through the computer screen :)
Anyway, what should you do now? Hmmm…well, did she say anything else after she told you they broke up? Did she say it like she really wanted you to know they broke up or wa... (read in full...)
How do I get this relationship moving along?
Q. So I just started seeing this girl and I can't really read whats going on in her head and I'm not really sure where to expect things to go. We've gone out on 3 dates so far, due to logistics we can only see each other on the weekends, I've s...
A. 7 October 2009: She sounds like me. I don't call and text all the time as I find that's suffocating. I also move slow in terms of physical intimacy because I need to know a guy well before I let him touch me...it's a respect thing. And none of this means she's a ... (read in full...)
Do you think if I'm patient she will realize I'm the right guy for her?
Q. Im head over heels in love with this girl who lives on the same dorm floor. I spend about 4-5 hours a day with her. We talk about everything... her relationships with her family, how high school was, sports, books, music, movies, literally everythi...
A. 7 October 2009: I don't think you messed anything up by telling her how you felt. If anything, it's a good thing you did tell her. She now knows and can choose to do what she wishes with that information. If you are willing to wait things out, be friends with her, ... (read in full...)
Do you think if I'm patient she will realize I'm the right guy for her?
Q. Im head over heels in love with this girl who lives on the same dorm floor. I spend about 4-5 hours a day with her. We talk about everything... her relationships with her family, how high school was, sports, books, music, movies, literally everythi...
A. 7 October 2009: No one can tell you what can happen here...the whole thing is a risk. She enjoys the time she spends with you and perhaps she needs someone like you around but that could be all there is to it. For some reason I don't really think you'll be the guy ... (read in full...)
He has the urge to try other girls?
Q. I need advice... I asked my boyfriend (we've been on bad terms since he left for some reason) if he has the urge to try out other girls (since I'm his first, trying not to count the girl he got drunk/cheated with) He said 'eh kinda, but it's ...
A. 7 October 2009: If I was you I would really have been offended by this. Where's his respect for you? I don't know if he'll do anything about this but just saying it to you tells me that he doesn't value your relationship as much as you do.
So why did he leave? Y... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to propose?
Q. I am 22 years old and i have been in a relationship with my 25 boyfriend for almost 5years what can i do to try and get him to propose. we always talk about the future, but i dont think that he is going to propose at least no tome in the near ...
A. 7 October 2009: If you have to 'get him' to propose what is the point? He needs to love you enough to want to propose to you. Think about it, if you have to make him do something (i.e. he doesn't do it on his own) how long do you think it will last?
It's been 5 y... (read in full...)
I think he uses me for oral sex
Q. i have been dating this guy for 6months now. and i really like him. I dont feel tho that he feels the same way. it some times feels like he only meets up wit me for oral sex. how do i stop this and make him actually love me? should i stop all ...
A. 7 October 2009: If you think that something's wrong then it probably is. If you've been dating him for 6 months I wouldn't just cut contact with him, it's childish. I would talk to him, tell him how you feel and see what he says and does after that. If he is only ... (read in full...)
All this chemistry but never been out on a date!
Q. Ok, I need some perspective on this, as I am in far too deep emotionally, and I have fallen for him hook line and sinker. I really like him, I think he is an incredible man, but am I just bashing my head against a wall with this?: We ema...
A. 6 October 2009: Do what charlie p tells you to do...tell the guy how you feel. You have two choices here, tell him and you'll find out once and for all if he feels the same, or you don't tell him and continue to suffer, obsess and go insane. You say you don't know ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he likes me when he acts jealous?
Q. Hello Before I dated a guy once and that was all. We did not meet again. Now I am dating the same guy and today we went out for together (this is our second date) and he asked me some questions like when was your last boyfriend, and how long did...
A. 2 October 2009: I think his questions are more of a reflection of his personality than his feelings for you. I don't doubt that he's interested in you, since you've been out with the guy, but be very careful in assessing his level of interest based on the jealousy ... (read in full...)
All this chemistry but never been out on a date!
Q. Ok, I need some perspective on this, as I am in far too deep emotionally, and I have fallen for him hook line and sinker. I really like him, I think he is an incredible man, but am I just bashing my head against a wall with this?: We ema...
A. 1 October 2009: Have you ever kissed him? Been physically intimate with him? At this point I can see how you would fall for him but I think you need to make a decision on what to do here so as not to waste anymore time.
The way I see it, if a guy is interest... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex
Q. My ex bf broke up with me and hurt me really bad during the relationship. He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex. I wouldnt have sex with him because I didnt feel he respected me and I had a feeling in my gut that he was ...
A. 1 October 2009: I am so glad you didn't give in to him, be proud of yourself for that. You are right to say that he only wanted sex from you, because that is really the only thing he wanted. From what you've said I don't think he treated you that well while you ... (read in full...)
Am I going to have to make the first move since he's shy?
Q. I am working a 4 month internship at a place, and there is a guy there that i see daily, and occassionally work with. i'm pretty sure he's interested, he's always very friendly and smiling, i've caught him staring in the morning meetings and he ...
A. 30 September 2009: If I was you I seriously wouldn't do or say a thing. You're an intern, you're there to help your career, not ruin it by getting involved with a work colleague. If you want to let him know I would do it after your internship ends.
Another thing, m... (read in full...)
Is this a sign I should just let him go?
Q. My Boyfriend of almost 4 years told me yesterday that he needs a break because he has not slept with any other girl. He said if I don't want to wait than we can break up. I don't know what to do. I know he loves me more than anything else and on ...
A. 30 September 2009: "I know he loves me more than anything else" - Sorry to say hun but he doesn't love you, not even a bit. I can't believe that he would even tell you this, the amount of disrespect he has shown you here should be enough to make you run for the hills. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop worrying about him breaking my heart?
Q. Okay, so I'm completely head over heels inlove with this guy, we have only been dating for 4 months(I know its not that long of a time) but I can't help how I feel about him. Not to long ago he broke up with me :/ it devastaded me! But then he ...
A. 24 September 2009: I think your fear has a lot to do with the fact that he broke up with you once. I don't blame you for being worried. What you have to try and tell yourself is that what is meant to be will be, and there is absolutely no point in worrying now ... (read in full...)
Guy I dated just txt me a month after not talking to me
Q. Hi everyone, im just really confused about this guy i went out with a few times, just wanted some advice. So this guy ive known since highschool started talking to me on facebook. We talked for a few weeks and he asked me out for dinner. So i wen...
A. 14 September 2009: The way I see it, he was somewhat interested in you but then something 'better' came up so he forgot about you. Now that something has fallen through he's come back to try things with you. Do you like him? Do you want more from him? It's not a good ... (read in full...)
He's making excuses and I'm sick of it! How can I tell him this without ruining anything?
Q. okay so this guy and i like eachother, we aren't dating because he doesn't want to rush...we have had these feelings for about a month! we have already had sex twice...i feel like this is going nowhere and that i am wasting my time...i don't want ...
A. 11 August 2009: I was going to write some lengthy answer but Rifraf says it all.
And what are you doing having sex at your age anyway?
You need to have some self respect, this guy surely has none for you. You need to let him go, learn from this mistake and... (read in full...)
He dumped me because apparently, I didn't communicate enough! Is this a good enough reason?
Q. I'm not quiet sure of what my question is but was hoping some people can shed some light on this scenario so i can understand things better to move on. recently a boyfriend of 3 1/2 months broke it off with me, out of the blue. it has been the best...
A. 11 August 2009: The reason he gave you is a total lie, and he's trying to make himself feel better for hurting you by blaming you for the end of the relationship. I think that for whatever reason he just lost feelings for you. Perhaps the first 3.5 months he was ... (read in full...)
Am I overanalyzing, or is he really just not that into me?
Q. you know the movie/book "he's just not that into you?" well I'm kinda thinking thats the case for my situation, but maybe I'm just overthinking/analyzing it after watching the film/reading quotes from the book. First off- I like that he's t...
A. 11 August 2009: To tell you the truth I don't think he's too crazy about you. If he was he would make the effort to see you, broke or not, or at least talk to you more.
I don't think you made a mistake in asking him out first. That didn't change how he felt. If... (read in full...)
Why is he confusing me??
Q. Well, I am confused about his guy. I signed up for yahoo personals, and out of 160 matches, he was the only one that caught my interest. turns out, he messaged me first! i was so excited, thinking he must be interested. we exchanged 2 emails thru ...
A. 23 June 2009: Anything could have happened but the way I see it he has cooled off for some reason. The fact that he's not that keen anymore should tell you that he isn't interested anymore. Sure he told you all those things but I have learned from too many ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman sits on your lap?
Q. I was sitting on a chair recently at a ramp party, and this girl sits on my lap. And she said she did it because her feet hurts. There are a few chairs. She proceeds to give a compliment like "your hair is hot." So, instead of trying to 'agree...
A. 18 May 2009: She wants you duh!! Whether she wants casual fun or something more, only time will tell. But, if I wanted more than just casual fun I wouldn't start things by sitting in a guy's lap. What sort of a reputation does she have? If she's a bit 'wild' t... (read in full...)
Telling a girl you want to be in a serious relationship
Q. how do you tell a girl you want to be in a serious relationship with her? she told me that she likes me, and she kissed me when we were together last, but she also said that she's never had a serious boyfriend, that she's always been used (i don't ...
A. 12 May 2009: As a girl who feels like she's been 'used' in the past, I can tell you that this girl might have trust issues and you telling her what you want won't really make much difference. If I was you I wouldn't necessarily tell her this straight out. I ... (read in full...)
We dated, made out to a point, he now seems disinterested, what do you think?
Q. I posted about this situation before but now more things have happened and I’m trying to get over it but I’m doubting myself big time. I started seeing a guy who was two weeks earlier dumped by his girlfriend (she’d found someone else and was che...
A. 6 May 2009: thanks Star :)... (read in full...)
We dated, made out to a point, he now seems disinterested, what do you think?
Q. I posted about this situation before but now more things have happened and I’m trying to get over it but I’m doubting myself big time. I started seeing a guy who was two weeks earlier dumped by his girlfriend (she’d found someone else and was che...
A. 5 May 2009: thanks so much Star. I was doubting myself but your answer made me feel better. in case you read my update, this guy's since messaged me apologizing for not getting back to me. i don't even know if i should respond, what do you think? thanks again! ... (read in full...)
Dating over two years, left without a word, should I let him go or find out why?
Q. What does it mean when a guy you been dating for 2 years and couple of weeks left without saying goodbye? Should i let him go or find out?...
A. 4 May 2009: I've been in this situation too many times to remember...they just drop off the face of the earth. It's really hurtful to know that after such a long time he didn't have the respect and decency for you to say something, even if it was an excuse.
... (read in full...)
Why would he be like this now? Why say yes, give me his number and seem all set and then just back off? Was he ever interested?
Q. I have known this guy for 10 years and we went to school together. We always flirted, got on really well and went to the school dance together but nothing ever happened between us. After school ended we only saw each other a few times at parties and ...
A. 11 October 2008: Thanks for the answer but if you read the question, I gave him my number first and then he gave me his. The reason I asked him to hang out is because he tried to ask me out in the past but I wasn't that interested. So this time I figured that if I ... (read in full...)
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