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Do girlfriends discuss their lovers in detail?
Q. Another post had me wondering... when you girls talk about your BF's to fairly close or very close friends, what is the limit on discussion? Do you just say things like "he's great in bed" "he's very tender", or do most women go into more detail ...
A. 14 July 2010: I agree with raiders and think it depends on how she sees you. I'm in a serious relationship and I've never, and would never, share intimate details about my BF to anyone. That's between me and him. I respect him too much to share those things abo... (read in full...)
Do you think she's interested in being more than friends with him?
Q. My boyfriend has a college major that requires him to work in groups for projects very frequently. Someone often in his group is his best female friend. I don't care that they work together in groups, but it always seems like she's trying to take ...
A. 12 July 2010: I think she's at least a little interested. No one goes to so much effort if they don't want something. I don't however think that her motivations or whether she wants him or not is what should concern you.
What I think you should be worried ... (read in full...)
Hard to move on from a fling!
Q. im finding it hard to move on from a fling, who is very rude and disrespectful towards me. he ignored my txts and my calls tells me to f***off. but when he wants something he calls me and expects me to drop what im doing to see him. im emotionally ...
A. 7 July 2010: Best thing to do is next time he calls, texts, etc just ignore him. He loves it when he gets your attention, and that's what he feeds of.
As someone else said, unattach yourself from him? How? Realize that he's being rude, disrespectful and that... (read in full...)
Relationship with a married man who doesn't leave his wife
Q. I met a man online. He is still married, but she has moved out of the home. They run a business together and to date they still draw from the same money pot. I have told him from the beginning that my values want a legal separation and/or divorce, ...
A. 7 July 2010: You tell him one thing and do another. What will he believe? Your actions over your words of course. If you really believed in those values you wouldn't still be with him a year later.
You should leave. He's not going to change and he'll keep str... (read in full...)
I'm not experienced at dating and don't understand this guy
Q. I am very inexperienced when it comes to dating. I fell in love with a guy who told me he loved me and was interested in me for several years (we work together and met a few years ago). On the first date he told me I was a woman of his dreams and ...
A. 6 July 2010: You know what? The best thing for you to do, and the hardest, is to cut this man out of your life. You may not have much dating experience but you do know when someone is not making you feel good about yourself.
He made a rule that you should n... (read in full...)
I just want to know what to think....does he care?
Q. This Question is regarding an affair i am having with a married man,no judgements please.This affair has gone on for over 10yrs,we are both in our 60's now all children are grown up and married. What i am trying to work out is does this man have any...
A. 6 July 2010: I think that he does care about you but not in the way you want to be cared about.
He has the best of both worlds. He has you for companionship, sex, friendship and all that. His wife is the mother of his children and provides him with the soci... (read in full...)
He refused to add me on Facebook, then made everything private, but still texts me!
Q. A boy who has asked me out (we have been out once so far)has refused to add me on facebook, and since I sent my request has made everything private. This is odd right? Is he hiding something from me or am I just being paranoid? He still texts me ...
A. 6 July 2010: A friend of mine started dating a guy who refused to add her on FB for a long time. A month into their 'relationship' he broke it off with her and then added her on FB. Guess what she found out from his profile? He had a girlfriend the whole time he ... (read in full...)
What's the deal? Is he using me or are there feelings there?
Q. Okay so I've been talking to this guy for about four months. We get along great, he's a couple years older than me and has tons more experience. I'm still a virgin and this guy was only my second kiss. He says he doesn't want a relationship because ...
A. 29 June 2010: Thanks for updating us on the situation :)
I just wanted to say that you should not be ashamed of anything. What you should be is proud that you realized that he was no good early on, that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you won'... (read in full...)
Time keeps passing, but no Prince Charming yet
Q. I'm 21 years old already. I have never had a boyfriend before, and never been kissed. The thing is that I have never fallen in love. I wish to fall in love and I try to, but it just does not happen to me. I find some guys at school cute but don't ...
A. 28 June 2010: You are still very young. I got my first proper boyfriend when I was 26.
I think that you need to stop worrying, enjoy life and being single. Enjoy being able to do what you want to do and when you want to do it. In 20 years time when you've s... (read in full...)
What's the deal? Is he using me or are there feelings there?
Q. Okay so I've been talking to this guy for about four months. We get along great, he's a couple years older than me and has tons more experience. I'm still a virgin and this guy was only my second kiss. He says he doesn't want a relationship because ...
A. 28 June 2010: I don't think you've been dumb. You've stopped to think about the situation and that shows your maturity.
I'm glad you're seeing through his bs, and good on you for wanting to stand up for yourself and not let him use you.
I think you should... (read in full...)
How long am I supposed to date her before I ask her to be my girlfriend?
Q. I met this girl at uni about a week ago. I was lost and asked her for help, and then we talked for a bit. She was really beautiful, and I was kind of surprised that she was talking to me. Stupidly, I didn't ask for her number or anything, just ...
A. 28 June 2010: Have you been on a proper date with her?
If not, I would ask her out on a date first, see how that goes first. If it goes well, ask her out again. Start building a relationship before you bring up the girlfriend talk.
You need to gauge her int... (read in full...)
What's the deal? Is he using me or are there feelings there?
Q. Okay so I've been talking to this guy for about four months. We get along great, he's a couple years older than me and has tons more experience. I'm still a virgin and this guy was only my second kiss. He says he doesn't want a relationship because ...
A. 28 June 2010: He's not after a relationship, he's only after sex. Whenever a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship but still wants to see you to fool around it means you're good for that stuff only. Don't be that girl.
Any time you do girlfriend type of ... (read in full...)
Regretting an awkward text!
Q. Hello, right, I recently came out of a rather abusive long term relationship. Just as the end (a few months ago) I met a man who I have now met up with a few times. He has textedit me every at since we met and has always seemed keen, sometime...
A. 28 June 2010: If I was you I wouldn't text him again. He knows you're interested and if he wants to he'll be in touch. I think you've done enough...there's no need to text more and try to explain.
But if you simply cannot stand the silence, do what CaringGu... (read in full...)
What are the thoughts on being involved with someone who isn't single?
Q. Is she into me? Hi there, thought id gather some people's (objective) opinions in a matter. This really cute girl at my work has only started work here for a few months now. When we first spoke she seemed to give off the vibe that eithe...
A. 15 June 2010: From a girl's point of view, I'd say that she's flirting with you because you're attractive to her and you give her attention. It doesn't have to mean anything more than that.
But it could, we just don't know enough about her and her situatio... (read in full...)
Splitting the bill on a first date?
Q. I was on a first date with this guy and we went to see a movie, then had dinner at a Chinese restaurant. We're both students. He is a year older than me. So, he bought the movie tickets online, then announced the price out loud - "so it's 22.50 f...
A. 14 June 2010: If HE asked YOU out then he should have paid, no questions asked. I assume he's about your age, and unless you're his first date ever, I'd expect that he'd know the deal.
But let me give you a different slant on this. You ask if you did anything... (read in full...)
I'm not a lesbian so why am I upset that my lesbian friend now has a b/f?
Q. I am a girl, and as far as I know I'm not a lesbian. But, I know this girl, who does happen to be a lesbian. When I first met her I thought she was really pretty, but as I got to know her better I started to actually be attracted to her...and we'd ...
A. 3 June 2010: Argh...I wrote 'putting down your thoughts on paper." Sorry wasn't mean to say that but I think you get my point. :)... (read in full...)
I'm not a lesbian so why am I upset that my lesbian friend now has a b/f?
Q. I am a girl, and as far as I know I'm not a lesbian. But, I know this girl, who does happen to be a lesbian. When I first met her I thought she was really pretty, but as I got to know her better I started to actually be attracted to her...and we'd ...
A. 3 June 2010: Glad we could help somewhat. I read your response and you say it feels good to put your thoughts down on paper. Perhaps try writing about this and see if you can figure it out by doing that. It helps me sometimes. You can always do it on a computer ... (read in full...)
I'm not a lesbian so why am I upset that my lesbian friend now has a b/f?
Q. I am a girl, and as far as I know I'm not a lesbian. But, I know this girl, who does happen to be a lesbian. When I first met her I thought she was really pretty, but as I got to know her better I started to actually be attracted to her...and we'd ...
A. 2 June 2010: You are upset because you thought she liked you and now she's gone off and gotten a boyfriend which to you sounds like she's saying "I didn't actually like you.' It doesn't have to mean that you're lesbian.
I think your ego is a little bruised ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to test if a guy is interested in me?
Q. What's the best way to test if a guy is interested in me? in a subtle manner! so that if he isn't, i can walk away without a dented ego!?...
A. 1 June 2010: Do you know him? Do you talk to him? If so, next time you're talking mention a movie/play/band you'd love to see but say that your friends don't want to go with you...see if he'll volunteer to come with you. That way you don't have to ask and if he ... (read in full...)
Do you think my relationship is healthy?
Q. i'm with my boyfriend 8 months now and were very happy together, we've never had a fight yet do you's think my relationship is healthy? my friend keeps saying to me its weird we haven't had a fight she fights with her boyfriend all the time, me and ...
A. 31 May 2010: I don't think that constant fighting is a sign of a good relationship. If your relationship is working, don't worry what your friend is telling you. Perhaps she wishes that she had it as good as you :)
I've been with my BF for close to a year and... (read in full...)
Should I be friends and see what happens?
Q. hey. There is a guy i go to school with that i've been knowing for a bit but it has always been a hi and bye type of thing.He is 20 years old and im 18. Until a month and a half ago when my girl and i went to a club and i bumped into him there. We ...
A. 28 May 2010: I don't think he wants exclusivity with you...so unfortunately there's not much you can do to get that. You've slept with him already, he doesn't want a relationship so basically he's got what he wanted.
He seems to want to keep sleeping with you... (read in full...)
Was distance really an issue or was he just letting me down easily?
Q. Last September I met a guy online and we had a real connection, we chatted for 3 months- just flirting, but I really developed an intense connection with him. He even asked me out, but then for some reason it never happened. We lived far apart, and ...
A. 28 May 2010: I completely agree with YouWish and Laura1318. I don't think distance was the deciding factor but it may have influenced him. Like YouWish said, he was probably chatting to a few women online and in the end settled for someone he clicked with more ... (read in full...)
I miss my ex, but there is a new guy in my life, should I give him a chance or clear things up with my ex first?
Q. Long story short, my ex-bf broke up with me almost 2 months ago. I miss him terribly. He wants to remain friends with me on skype and whenever he logs on and I am online tries to talk to me, but there are no other signs of him wanting me back (one ...
A. 25 May 2010: First ask yourself why you want to date the new guy? Are you on the rebound and only looking for attention and affection? Don't use the new guy like that.
You still seem to be hung up on your ex, and staying in contact with him is not helping ... (read in full...)
I cannot help but feel that I blew it somehow with a man?
Q. You cannot help how you feel. I guess I am looking for confirmation that I did the right thing. But I still feel lousy. I met a man online - we went to dinner for the 1st time in mid April. We had a good time and I really felt a connection. And ...
A. 19 May 2010: You might feel crappy about this now, and that's understandable, but I think that you didn't blow anything.
You did the absolute right thing and you did what you were comfortable in doing.
You say 'I feel like if he really liked me things ... (read in full...)
Was dating a brilliant guy, then his ex came back...
Q. After bumping into a friend if a friend a couple of times on nights out, I finally agreed to go on a date with him. We had a great time and really clicked. He kept in contact and we went out a couple more times. I then went on holiday for a couple ...
A. 17 May 2010: I think he's too invested in her to give you the attention you want. You've rightly pointed out that they've got more history than you and him.
What I can sense through reading your post is that you have made yourself too available to him. He'... (read in full...)
Why does it take longer for him to respond to certain texts?
Q. Hi all, My boyfriend always replies to text messages really quickly when they are business or funny. but as soon as i say something like 'i've missed you' or similar it always takes up to an hour for him to reply. he always gives an excuse l...
A. 17 May 2010: If everything else in your relationship is fine then don't put so much importance on this. I'll take a wild guess here but I think he's not that comfortable with putting those words in a text, it's just the way some people are.
I don't think yo... (read in full...)
What do you do with a hairy tummy?
Q. Quick question to the ladies my girlfriend has hair on her belly - do all girls get this and do you shave it off?? ...
A. 11 May 2010: Some girls do, especially if they're dark haired...which makes it more noticeable. I wouldn't shave it off. Depilatory creams don't work on some girls. She could also try bleaching the hair as it will blend in with her skin and you won't be able to ... (read in full...)
Two great relationships, who to choose?
Q. Well, I'm in a little dilemma. About 10 months ago, I was dating this really, really, I mean REALLY nice guy. He was a great boyfriend, and our relationship was great. Thing is, by the time I met him, he had already signed up to go overseas and stud...
A. 11 May 2010: We often romanticise the past but what you're forgetting is that your ex is a different person now. Sure you might still hit it off but I wouldn't expect things to be the same as before...and I think that's what you're hoping for. You also never ... (read in full...)
For the guys: Would it put you off if girl made you wait for sex?
Q. This is mainly a question for guys (sorry girls) I have only ever had one boyfriend who I was in a long relationship with. I have only ever slept with one guy. I am now recently single. My views on sex are somewhat old fashioned - in that I dont w...
A. 10 May 2010: I'm not a guy but I'd like to offer my 2c here.
The right kind of guy will never be put off by this. As the anonymous writer said, sticking to what you believe in and what you're comfortable in doing will weed out a lot of guys you don't want any... (read in full...)
What do I have to do to convince military boyfriend to stay with me even when he is deployed abroad?
Q. We met about a month ago through an online dating site and hit off instantly soon after we met. Well, about a week after we started dating, he got the news that he may be deploying in December, but back then, it was only a 50:50 chance. A few mor...
A. 10 May 2010: You probably won't like my answer but to be honest with you this guy cannot be 'convinced' to get into a relationship. No one can. And you don't need to convince a man to be with you...if he doesn't want to be with you of his own free will then ... (read in full...)
Is he playing me? Or afraid of getting involved?
Q. Ok, I need advice on this situation. A guy I work with asked me out, we hung out a few times - got coffee/shopped etc talked a lot, it led to hand holding after about four dates. We now meet for food and drinks, at least twice a week,this has ...
A. 7 May 2010: I don't know if he's deliberately out to play you but I can tell you that he's not genuine. If he was, he'd want to make it known that you're dating and that you're off the market. Instead he's getting company and physical closeness without ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get lucky during the first date?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to get lucky with a woman the first time meeting them? I mean i am on dating sites and when i decide to go meet a girl and wether we go for drinks or play pool, or just hang out it seems like they always make the first move. ...
A. 5 May 2010: No, you're not destined to be a piece of mean if you don't want to. So the girls make the move, they kiss you and you end up in bed...do these girls drag you to bed against your will? You're a willing participant here aren't you.
Do you want thi... (read in full...)
I told g/f I'd be home at 7, but came home 2 hours later. I screwed up!
Q. I've been dating my girl friend seriously for about a month. Last night I told her I was on the way home from the bar with the guys at 7pm. Long story short I didn't show up till 9pm. She had told me she was cooking dinner for me and seemed ...
A. 5 May 2010: Can you remember why it took you 2 hours to get home? Tell her that.
If I was her and I'd cooked dinner and was expecting you around 7ish, I'd be p***** off too! Did you call her within those two hours to say you'd be late?
If you didn't call ... (read in full...)
B/f hasn't even tried to have sex with me!
Q. me and my bf are happy in love but he hasn't made a pass or even tried to have sex with me i have said it to him he just said its not u its me i asked him is he gone of me he said no im just as lovely from the first day he met me and i wont try it ...
A. 3 May 2010: To tell you the truth that's a bit strange. 'It's not you it's me' what the hell is that supposed to mean?
You're in a BF/GF relationship, physical intimacy is part of it I think. What else does he refuse to do? Do you get intimate at all? Doe... (read in full...)
He really wanted my number but now he hasn't called!
Q. Guys i realy need your help.I meet this guy last month and he seemed intrested in me. Well we didnt exchange number because i acted like im in a hurry, i realy didnt want 2sim desparet and all. He seems shy he didnt realy say much, he just asked me ...
A. 3 May 2010: He's not that interested. If he was, he would have called. Perhaps someone else got his attention during the time you didn't see him or maybe he changed his mind. Bottom line is, he would have called if he wanted to.
Should you call him? Sure, go... (read in full...)
He's been told that checking out other women is hurtful but he still does it
Q. Why do married men say there not checking out other women while there with there wife, and she the wife see's it and says it hurts her. But he says its not true. And then when she says something about it he makes her feel bad for saying anything...
A. 3 May 2010: If he's your husband he's with you for a reason...because he loves you. Men, and women, like to look...we're all visual creatures. Just because he looks at other women doesn't mean he's not in love with you. He tells you he's not doing it because he ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty sure he's still seeing someone else but he denies it
Q. Ok so I have been kind of seeing this guy for a while. We've been really good friends for a while now, and recently it's developed into more. We've kissed and stuff but that's all, he's asked me on a date but we've not been on it yet. I just want ...
A. 3 May 2010: He's hurt you once, and he can do it again. I'm glad that you're taking things slow and not wanting to get into anything without a committment from him.
You say that what he's doing with her (if he in fact is doing anything) is not cheating... (read in full...)
Men: Would you have treated a woman like this?
Q. I when out with this guy from work with his friends. We when to a couple of bars and a sushi place. We really hit it off. He bought me drinks that night. He stayed the night over at my place. We did not have sex but pretty close. The next ...
A. 3 May 2010: The guy's an asshole, he only wanted a piece...and you need to forget the whole thing, be happy you didn't sleep with him. It's quite useless wondering about him. He's not worth thinking about.... (read in full...)
He's offering to fly me over to meet him but I'm afraid to do it!
Q. Hello, I'm a 20-year-old student from the UK and I'm currently nearing the end of my first year at University. For the past three years I've become close friends with a guy from the US via an online videogame that I've been playing since th...
A. 3 May 2010: This is not an easy situation to be in. Even though you've talked to him for a while and you've seen pictures, nothing beats getting to know someone in person. You have both presented the best versions of yourselves to each other and to truly know ... (read in full...)
Her attitude is that boyfriends are too much work!
Q. so, this girl, we are best friends. we pretty much tell eachother everything. i love her, she loves me, and we care alot about eachother. well, stuff has been changing between us. we like eachother and we both know bc we have talked about it....
A. 3 May 2010: Her saying that she doesn't want a boyfriend right now is just an excuse. If I liked a guy enough to want him to be my boyfriend I would never say I don't want a boyfriend right now.
And her getting jealous...it doesn't mean that she likes yo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants a break after 6 years for no explained reason. Help
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years. We have had a long distance relationship(the 1st 4 yrs we were 3 hrs away) then 5th yr he moved to Europe for school and we decided to stay together. I loved to europe to to join school as well. Now this ...
A. 30 April 2010: There are many reasons he could be acting like this. Perhaps his experiences in living and studying abroad have changed him and he doesn't feel the same way he did before.
He says that he sees you in his future...I'd take a look at those words tw... (read in full...)
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