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I really like him, but I'm helping a friend to date him!
Q. I really am in like with this guy at work. He has so much in common with me in so many ways, I feel like we are perfect for each other. And I know he can see it... I can see it when he asks me certain questions, because he's trying to figure me ...
A. 3 February 2011: You like him, you think he likes you, but he's hanging out with some other girl and making out with her. Do you really think that he likes you that much?
Sure, she was there before you but if he really wanted you he'd have walked away from her... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to trust him again and be able to move past this without ending our relationship?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend since i was 16 years old and its been a few years now but when we first started dating, the night i lost my virginity to him i went through his cell phone afterward and found text messages to multiple girls in a sexual ...
A. 3 February 2011: I just saw your recent post. I don't think you should wait for anything. It's hard for you to let go and move on so you're trying desperately to give him another chance. Don't do it, be strong.
Why is he texting another girl? Just because it hasn'... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding/ignoring me because I wouldn't have sex with him?
Q. Just wanted to get a guy's perspective on this: I've been dating a guy for about 2 months, we seemed to get along, joke, talk about sports (yes I like sports), and he's been affectionate with me, however we haven't had sex. He's been dropping hi...
A. 3 February 2011: Yes, he's doing this because you have said no to sex. This guy isn't interested in a relationship with you. Even if you were to have sex with him he's already shown by his actions that sex is all he wants.
I dated a guy once and he was so affectio... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about these psychic readings of this breakup?
Q. Long story short, my guy broke up with me. I don't understand why, we seemed perfectly fine until he pulled the plug. We broke up Friday and we had a conversation this morning. He seemed really confused and hesitant over everything he ha...
A. 25 January 2011: Couldn't have said it better than Jmtmj.
The psychic thing is not real and they're just feeding your need for this relationship to continue. One useful thing you were told was to focus on yourself now.
People who have been hurt will cling onto ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to trust him again and be able to move past this without ending our relationship?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend since i was 16 years old and its been a few years now but when we first started dating, the night i lost my virginity to him i went through his cell phone afterward and found text messages to multiple girls in a sexual ...
A. 24 January 2011: The trust in this relationship was lost a long time ago. I don't think that you can get it back and I think that you know that. The hard part for you is accepting change, leaving someone you've been with for so long and going into the unknown.
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Why does my ex still call me so frequently?
Q. hi there. i was in a 5 year relationship that ended several years ago. we were best friends and she was my first love. i still consider her my best friend and she still calls me at least once a week to talk to me. i just found out from a friend ...
A. 24 January 2011: 5 years is a long time to be with someone. I'd imagine it would be very hard to cut all ties. You don't say exactly why you two broke up but the fact that you did break really means the relationship, at that time, was not working for some reason ... (read in full...)
To all Men Help What is this guys problem?
Q. Calling all guys late 20's to 30s im so confused and need some male advice or anyone that can relate to this feel free to help...thank you basically i have just returned from a trip to america with my friend i had a great time and defo needed ...
A. 11 January 2011: I'm not a guy but I'll give you my two cents.
You are too worked up over nothing. You're analysing a situation which he has probably forgotten by now.
This is what happened. He met a foreign girl who he liked the look of. For whatever reason ... (read in full...)
He's moving for work and doesn't want me with him
Q. Please help. I've been living with my bf for two years and things aren't good financially atm. He was made redundant a year ago and hasn't been able to find work. This has affected him badly and we've also been living literally hand to mouth. ...
A. 11 January 2011: Saying that he doesn't know if you'll still be his girlfriend and that he needs to build a future for himself before it's too late tells me he's already made up his mind as to the future of your relationship.
I understand that he is not in a gre... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is having a weird moment and now needs space!
Q. My boyfriend of 6mo says he wants to slow down, however continues giving mixed signals. He tells me he just wants to slow down and think about things. He broke-up with his girlfriend after 3yrs and started dating me in July. He still says he has ...
A. 10 January 2011: He's still dealing with his feelings for her, his feelings about their relationship, their break-up and the what ifs. I don't think he's with you a 100% but he's trying so hard to convince himself and you that he is. That's why he's like a yo-yo.
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Women who have a Facebook account turn me off. Am I alone on this?
Q. Am I the only guy in the world that won't give a girl who has a facebook acct my time of day no matter what? I can't stomach the site. It's foolish, ridiculous, petty and childish sorta like immature teenage mentality. I can understand teenagers ...
A. 6 January 2011: I think you're over generalizing. Just because someone has a FB account doesn't mean they're immature, like to gossip and so on. I have an account which I onlyuse to catch up on what's happening with family overseas and to promote my photography ... (read in full...)
How long have you waited for a lover to come back?
Q. I was recently dumped after a 3 month relationship and I was wondering how long some of you guys have waited for a lover to come back? Months, years? ...
A. 4 January 2011: I don't think 'waiting' for someone who dumped you is the best idea. I can't say I've waited as such, but I did hold out some hope they'd come back. Total waste of time. If someone has let you go, they have let you go for a reason, and you should ... (read in full...)
He uses me because he knows I like him. Is that abuse?
Q. Would you class this as abuse? A guy who only seems to talk to you when he wants sex. Who pretends he cares and likes you then once you've had sex he says you have to leave early in the morning because he's busy. You text him and he ignores it th...
A. 21 November 2010: I don't know if I'd call this emotional abuse or something else, the thing is, although he's not a nice guy and is not doing the right thing...YOU are letting him do it.
I don't mean to sound harsh and rude here but no self-respecting girl wou... (read in full...)
Should I be worrying about this sex stuff?
Q. well im 20 and a virgin and i wont be afraid to admit im nervous to have sex, mainly just scared that when we are going at it, ill be so nervous that ill hold myself back and not be able to climax :/ its not like im completely inexpereinced, i...
A. 19 November 2010: Most girls don't climax their first time due to a combination of inexperience, first time nerves, possibly pain and everything else that comes with losing your virginity.
Don't worry about not climaxing. It may actually take you a few times be... (read in full...)
Is 14 too old to have your first kiss?
Q. okk this sonds sooo stupid /: but im 14 and well ive never actually kissed a boy properly ( in which i mean tongue ) and i feel stupid because my bestfriend has and i feel stupid i dont want to be like a 40 yr old person and never kissed a guy lol ...
A. 15 November 2010: I think that 14 is TOO YOUNG to start kissing, using tongues, etc. If you start so young with kissing, next thing you know you'll be asking if 15 is too old to start having sex for the first time.
Hold up! You should be enjoying your time as a 14 ... (read in full...)
Why do some women feel the guy is ok to hear EVERYTHING about their past?
Q. We had a perfect relationship, until she started getting into details about her past.. I never asked for details, I just asked for a number of partners, and about her last serious relationship.. Why do women feel comfortable with some men to the ...
A. 14 November 2010: She says that there are two reasons she told you about her past, her feeling neglected and your own openess about your past.
I think the first reason is the motivation she needed to tell you, and the the second is her justification to tell you... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of these irrational fears?
Q. I have irrational fears of my boyfriend wanting to leave me, cheating on me, and looking at other women. He's never given me any reason to not trust him, would let me go through his phone at any given moment without question. These fears though are ...
A. 1 November 2010: This all comes from being insecure. And if you let this go on, it will drive him away. It's already started causing arguments between you two. You may need constant reassurance from him that he won't leave and that he won't cheat and this makes you ... (read in full...)
He never tells me what is bugging him!
Q. I love my bf so much we have been together for 3 months but when something is bugging him he doesnt tell me right away because he thinks itll start a fight and sometimes it does but that shouldnt matter if its important right? And it always is to ...
A. 28 October 2010: Some men don't go around telling their girlfriend what's bugging them. They may think that it's not important enough to tell you and many times they think that it's easier if they deal with it themselves.
In your case though, I think your BF doesn... (read in full...)
What should a guy do about hair down below?
Q. what exactly should a guy do with his pubic hair? i seem to have alot, although i'm not sure how much alot really is... Do any girls have some advice or suggestions?...
A. 28 October 2010: Trim it to a suitable lenght. You don't want a forest there but you also don't want to shave it off completely. My BF does trims and it looks good ;)... (read in full...)
What does it feel like to have someone you consider a life partner?
Q. What does it feel like to be with someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with and to have them want to be with you too?...
A. 28 October 2010: It feels like you're not alone, like there'll always be someone out there who truly cares about you and your wellbeing.
It feels comfortable and safe. You know there is someone to lean on, someone who will help you get through the good times an... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, and want to propose to her, but now I'm having doubts
Q. Hi all, I am madly in love with my girlfriend, I'll call Tracy, of nearly two years. I've been wanting to propose to her (she knows this), but lately, her actions have been giving me doubts. In a nutshell, I think she's is obsessed with th...
A. 26 October 2010: Sorry to say but this girl doesn't love you, she loves the idea of a big wedding. When I read the line 'how come she gets to be engaged, I want that!' I knew straight away what she was after.
I'm all for marriage with my boyfriend one day but I do... (read in full...)
I'm scared to death of his penis!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for a little while now, and everything seems so perfect, he's rubbed me a bit down there, and so have i, but i could never rub him bare! i am scared of his penis for some reason and its so hard, he asked if i wanted to ...
A. 25 October 2010: Yes, it's natural for a 13-15 year old. It's your subconscious telling you that you're not ready for these things. As someone else here said, stick to kissing for now. If you go further because he wants to and you're not psychologically ready, ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him yet, is he not interested?
Q. So I added this guy on facebook a few weeks ago because I thought he was cute. We have one mutual friend and thats how I found him was on her list. We started talking last week for a few days. When we were emailing each other back and forth he was ...
A. 19 October 2010: I'd say he's not interested, or not interested enough.
Sure, he was the one to ask you out and all that but if he hasn't followed up since then and made a time to see you, I'd say he's cooled off and is not longer hot on your trail.
What do... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't called me in days!
Q. my boyfriend hasnt been talking to me... i dont get why really though... a week or so ago he had surgury... he didnt talk to me for like 5 days befor that cuz he didnt want me to worry about him then he called me and told me he was doing ok... its ...
A. 19 October 2010: Have you called HIM?
He's been in hospital and had surgery...would it be so hard to call him and ask how he's doing? Maybe he's waiting for you to call to check on him...maybe he thinks that you don't care?
if he's your boyfriend, why d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to give my cats away!
Q. My boyfriend who wants to marry me, wants me to give away my 2 cats whom i love so much because the cat hair disgust him alot. He loves to spend the night with me, but isnt comfortable because of all the cat hair. Should I give them away? PS he laid ...
A. 19 October 2010: The person who asked what's more important to you, him or your cats, obviously doesn't get it. Pets are a huge part of our lives and they make us happy. But I'm not saying that the cats are more important than your partner.
What I'm saying i... (read in full...)
I need some advice for online dating.
Q. I'm interested in online dating, and want some advice as to how to go about it. Frankly, I am a novice to dating in general and would like some advice. Also, please don't post answers saying NOT to do online dating. ...
A. 14 October 2010: I met my now boyfriend online over a year ago :) Before him I talked to a lot of guys online and met a few others that didn't work out.
My advice is:
1. Don't have high expectations
Don't go on there expecting that the first man you meet w... (read in full...)
What was your best first date? I need ideas!
Q. what was the best first date you ever had? what made it so great and did you end up together? im just curious and looking for great date ideas!...
A. 14 October 2010: My boyfriend took me to dinner, then ice skating and then for dessert for our first date. The ice skating was so cheesy and it was just us and a bunch of kids on the rink but I got to talk to him and have a laugh at the same time.
But now that I t... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing or should I have stayed and tried harder?
Q. so I've been dating this guy on and off for about 2 yrs now and i left my finance for him . i realized while i was in engaged that i wasn't happy i just thought i was . when in reality my ex bf made me happy he always has .so i ended my 1 month ...
A. 12 October 2010: Yes, you did the right thing. Don't look back, keep going and stop wondering if what you did was the right thing.
Just as your ex-fiance was not right for you (you wouldn't have been involved with someone else if he was), this guy is also not righ... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits, ex or boyfriend?
Q. My ex and I were together for about 3 years..we broke up because he got a job offer overseas...whilst he was there, basically nothing changed, we still spoke everyday and shared everything. After a while as there was no indication that he wanted t ...
A. 8 October 2010: Mistake no. 1 - you are not in a relationship with him but you act like you are
Mistake no.2 - you are sleeping with him without being in a relationship
Sadly, he's done with you. It's your fault for still sticking around, hanging out with... (read in full...)
How should I reply my ex-girlfriend after her break-up ?
Q. My ex knows the worse thing she can do to me is to break up but she did it all the time. She decided, after one year relationship, to work in a different city. She broke up with me one month ago, then she changed mobile and didn't want to talk to me ...
A. 8 October 2010: She doesn't love you. She's probably lonely and needs validation from you. She just wants attention. If she broke up with you, changed her number and didn't want to talk to you anymore...that's it. There's nothing to it.
How do you stop her? You... (read in full...)
Is there any hope? He wants space!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend since may, we met hit it off right away and saw each other everyday. only 4 weeks after we met he had to move home to where his family was which is about 3 hours total on a train. i left the decision up to him about ...
A. 8 October 2010: To be honest with you, he will never change to meet your expectations and the way I see it, I don't think there's much of a chance of things changing for the good with this guy.
I think you deserve better than someone who is financially irrespon... (read in full...)
How do you KNOW if it's love?
Q. How do you know if its love? I have never been in love, I've had plenty of crushes, but that's not the same thing is it! Yet I have to admit to myself that I cannot get a certain man off my mind. Whenever we meet, he is always teasing me and I...
A. 6 October 2010: I don't think that you can truly love someone without knowing them very well. What you're describing is not love, it's more like infatuation, intense like, lust and so on.
I have to disagree with aunt honesty, what she describes is pure infatuat... (read in full...)
I want to move in together but he's dragging his feet about it!
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating a year and one month. We are both 24 living at home with parents. He moved up here from flordia to start fresh in a new place. I know everyone says this but we are very much in love and plan to be with each ...
A. 6 October 2010: Does your BF not want to move out with you, or not move out of his parents' home at all? There's a difference. If it's the first one, and he doesn't want to live with you, it means that he's not ready for that step in your relationship. Sure, you've ... (read in full...)
How do I change her demands to see me every single day without her going crazy?
Q. I have a gf of 10 months who i meet daily because she wants me to. If i dont then she starts those "i know u gettin bored of me" lines. The thing is its just not possible meetin every day in her house for more than 6 hours. its almost a live in ...
A. 23 September 2010: I think your GF is very insecure. I can totally understand why she's driving you crazy though.
Is she reasonable though? Does she want to listen to what you have to say?
If so, I would sit her down and tell her that if she keeps going the ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you are emotionally ready for sex?
Q. I'm 19 and just had a general question because I am running into this point of my life with having a wonderful boyfriend. How do you know when you are emotionally ready to have sex? Thanks for any answer!...
A. 14 September 2010: When you trust him a 110% and when you feel that if you do sleep with him you won't regret it.
When you know that he won't do anything to hurt you.
I think if you're still in doubt...don't do it. You'll know when you're ready without having t... (read in full...)
How do I let go of him...?
Q. How do I get over my ex boyfriend? He has made it clear that he doesn't want to be with me due to issues we've had in the past but everytime he looks at me, I know he still has strong feelings for me. And this is making it hard for me to let go. I ...
A. 6 September 2010: "He has made it clear that he doesn't want to be with me" - this is what he wants.
"everytime he looks at me, I know he still has strong feelings for me." - this is what you think he wants
He's been clear with what he wants, you're just havi... (read in full...)
How does an attractive girl know when a guy is sincere?
Q. okay well im a model/singer and tons of guys say im hot/beautiful and whtever... but how do i know if there playing me, uhm just sayn that to get me in bed you know.. and how can i find the rite guy? :(...
A. 5 August 2010: Simple, you don't get into bed with anyone until you are in a committed relationship and have spent enough time with the guy to know what his intentions with you are.
If all he's after is sex, he won't stick around for long. Only the genuine ... (read in full...)
How much patience do you dole out in a relationship before you become a doormat?
Q. I'm hoping folks can give me some perspective on my current relationship. I feel like I'm at a cross roads personally, and I don't know what to do. If I was to reduce it to a question, it would be: "Do I invest more energy in this relationship, or ...
A. 3 August 2010: Although I don't have an answer to your question, and I doubt that anyone can put time limits on something so unique to you or tell you how much is too much.
What I do sense here is a lack of communication between the two of you. You've invested... (read in full...)
Please try to explain her text message to me??
Q. What did my girlfriend mean by this? let me explain, so I was kind of clingy before, I have done really well since we had a discussion about it, I said I would not text no where near enough as I used to!, its been 3 days (we dont live together) ...
A. 2 August 2010: You shouldn't read anything into those messages, because there's no hidden meaning anywhere in them.
The way I see it is that even though she felt you texted a lot and were clingy before, the fact that you have stopped now and have tried to 'cont... (read in full...)
Is he really willling to wait for sex?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a month now. We fancied each other before he had the courage to ask me out. I have spent weekends with him and we seem to get on. Within a fortnight, he asked me to be his girlfriend. He has just asked me to meet some of ...
A. 16 July 2010: What does your gut instinct tell you? It's usually right.
He could be genuine and is willing to wait. Mt BF waited and was ok with it. When I asked why he was ok to wait he said that his relationship with me is more important than sex.
So this... (read in full...)
She gave intimate details about me to my whole social network of friends. How do I handle this?
Q. I'll make this short... I met this great girl and we hit it off. We had our first date a few weeks ago. It was all going well until we had sex - for some reason I couldn't perform, it wouldn't stay hard. She said it was okay, but the date ended ki...
A. 14 July 2010: She's not a great girl. It's obvious she saw nothing more in you than sex. And that's her problem, not yours.
I'd take strontiumdog's advice. Ignore all this, it will go away. Act like it does not matter to you and don't try to justify anything... (read in full...)
Do girlfriends discuss their lovers in detail?
Q. Another post had me wondering... when you girls talk about your BF's to fairly close or very close friends, what is the limit on discussion? Do you just say things like "he's great in bed" "he's very tender", or do most women go into more detail ...
A. 14 July 2010: I agree with raiders and think it depends on how she sees you. I'm in a serious relationship and I've never, and would never, share intimate details about my BF to anyone. That's between me and him. I respect him too much to share those things abo... (read in full...)
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