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If he's not into me why is he talking to me? Help me understand!
Q. I went out on a blind date 10 days ago. It went pretty well and I think we both had a good time. I've talked to him online almost every day since then. He also asked me to watch a movie with him one night, but I was busy. I had a five night ...
A. 3 February 2010: I agree with Keyshantasy...he may not be that interested anymore. He seems to want to go out but keeps saying maybe and won't give you a definite time. I think the ship may have sailed on this one. On the other hand, he might have other issues going ... (read in full...)
Girls pester me for sex and I do it to be nice.
Q. I am an 18 year old guy..I guess I'm kinda attractive..maybe..my only problem is that girls keep pestering me for sex.once a girl told me she would stop disturbing me if we had sex and i agreed so that was it. I am not a sex freak though i 've had ...
A. 1 February 2010: Being nice...please. You're having sex because you want to and because it makes you feel good about yourself. If you don't want to do it, then don't.
If you enjoy it then keep doing it. I'd just be careful about STI's and other problems numerous... (read in full...)
If he's not into me why is he talking to me? Help me understand!
Q. I went out on a blind date 10 days ago. It went pretty well and I think we both had a good time. I've talked to him online almost every day since then. He also asked me to watch a movie with him one night, but I was busy. I had a five night ...
A. 1 February 2010: He's into you...he's asked you out several times already. Once you were busy and the other times he didn't want to be rejected so all he did was ask when you'd get together in hopes you'd say 'I'm free Fri night at 7pm.'
Since he keeps talking ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to revenge on an ex that has treated you so badly?
Q. What is the best revenge I could give my ex. For 3 years, he has treated me badly, dumped me, cheated and come back, I forgive him, still treat him so nice and he turns around, humilate me and treat me bad. What could be the best revenge I could do ...
A. 29 January 2010: Go and live your life and ignore him. You need to show him that he's worthless to you...and ignorance is the best way to do that. The best revenge is to show that he doesn't matter anymore, that you don't care.
If you spend your time trying t... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but he seems interested in me..
Q. OKay I have recently moved to europe for a year. I went into a popular bar here and I saw someone that worked there. I was immediately captivated by him. so then i couldnt stop thinking about him.. I went in there again and a friend that is from ...
A. 29 January 2010: This is what he thinks:
"This hot American girl wants me...but I have a gf...but it doesn't matter...this girl is here only for a short time and why not have some fun with her...my gf will never know and I will be able to brag about getting ... (read in full...)
He slept with his ex. Should I dump him?
Q. My new boyfriend told me that he has slept with his ex girlfriend..should i countinue the relationship? i dont really know him well enough, but i like him.....
A. 29 January 2010: By continuing the relationship all you will be telling him is that it's ok to sleep with other people while he's with you. How will that make you feel?
If you continue you can be sure that there won't be any respect in the relation... (read in full...)
Why doesn't sex feel good the way people say it should?
Q. when i have sex, it doesnt feeel as good as its described. for some reason, it feeels goood but in a way, hurts. i've done it with only one guy and i lost it this month. why doesnt it feeel like people say?...
A. 28 January 2010: I agree with MissKin...you're too young!
It will hurt the first few times. I also think that being inexperienced, and I also assume you were with an inexperienced guy, has a lot to do with it. Additionally, if you're not emotionally ready for it, ... (read in full...)
He didn't respond to my texts! what went wrong?
Q. I met a man online we had two very nice dates in the same weekend. I asked him if he liked me on our first outing he said yes a lot staright away I said I did too. We hugged and cuddeled a bit both times we saw each other, and I mean just hugged - ...
A. 26 January 2010: He changed his mind, he met someone else, he decided he wasn't that interested, he was dating three other women and decided he was more into one of them...and on and on the list goes.
If I've learned anything it's not to think about these things t... (read in full...)
Why do you think my husband wants me to colour my hair different?
Q. My new husband asked me to change my hair color. Why do you suppose he wanted me to look different?...
A. 26 January 2010: He's probably got a thing for women with the hair colour he asked you to go with.
I have a thing for blond men...my BF has brown hair...I wouldn't mind him with some blonde highlights :)
You could always ask...he's your husband after al... (read in full...)
Things were great and as soon as we had sex things changed!
Q. I hope I'm not just avoiding what I already know, but I just want to make sure I'm not over reacting or letting my emotions get the best of me. Ive been dating this guy for about two months. Its a little wierd though because we met over the holidays ...
A. 26 January 2010: When I started reading this, it really freaked me out. Word for word, up until the bit where you slept with him, was exactly what happened to me a few months ago. Are you sure you're not in Australia? lol
I don't think you need to text, call or ... (read in full...)
How do I get a date with him after he cancelled on me?
Q. Hey How do i try and get with a guy that i was close to going on a date with then he cancelled and asked to go another time but it never happened? We had been speaking lots for about 3/4 months and he started metioning he'd like to get to know me m...
A. 24 January 2010: He's not that interested...it's best to let this one go. Even if you get a date, I doubt it will go anywhere. If he was really interested he'd be chasing you. ... (read in full...)
She wont do what I want sexually, should I break up with her?
Q. Hello, I'd appreciate if it were girls who answered my question, it's not that guys don't have good advice to offer me but it's just that I'd prefer a girl's advice on this one. (Although if you're a guy and really think your piece of advice would ...
A. 22 January 2010: I think she's inexperienced and uncomfortable. If oral and what else have you are more important to you than her, then sure, break it off. I would have thought that at the 6 month mark you'd have deeper feelings for her and you'd want to be patient ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to not have a boyfriend at 14? A friend in my class has had 45!
Q. Just wondering if its normal to be kinda frigid at 14? It's just that I have seen girls my age who have gone past the whole "shy" thing and are dating boys whenever they feel like.Theres a girl in my year who' had over 45 boyfriends. I ha...
A. 22 January 2010: If you keep going the way you are, and not like the girl with 45 boyfriends, in 10 years time, YOU will be the woman all men want...and she won't. Trust me...I speak from experience :)
And at 14, boyfriends are one of the last things you should b... (read in full...)
I'm the new girlfriend around all of his friends
Q. So my boyfriend is taking me to a party. ALL of his friends will be there (boys and girls) and I won't know a soul (okay, I'll know one guy). Now, I tend to be socially awkward sometimes, I'll probably be very quiet and reserved, cuz I don't really ...
A. 20 January 2010: Don't overthink this too much, and don't bring a friend. What you should realize is that his past relationship doesn't matter, YOU are with him now and he wants to be with YOU. His friends like and respect him and they will show you the same ... (read in full...)
I am profoundly hurt over her behavior!
Q. My boyfriend proposed recently and gave me a beautiful ring. We have been together for over 6 years and we are very happy. I called my best gf's first and the one that I thought was my very best friend, said she was at a bar and too drunk to talk. ...
A. 19 January 2010: You haven't done anything wrong...let her come to you. If she cares for you that much, she shouldn't be treating you like this.
You think that she's doing this for you...like she wants the best for you. I hope you don't take this the wrong wa... (read in full...)
How do I tell the fiancee of the man I want that he cheated on her with me?
Q. A guy I have been sleeping with for 3 years gave me some beautiful jewelry for Christmas, sapphire necklace and earrings. He has a girlfriend, but was questioning their relationship, I thought this is a sign he wanted to be with me instead of her. I ...
A. 19 January 2010: Ask yourself one question...what will telling her achieve for you? The most you will get is either her not believing you, or she will believe you and you will be disliked by him and her.
You're hurt and you want to get back at him but in the end,... (read in full...)
I hardly see him but I can't get him out of my head
Q. Ive had a thing for this guy for almost two years, off and on. recently, i realized my mistake in suppressing my thoughts of him and have come to the conclusion that i could seriously love him. i cant say im in love yet, but i honestly feel like one ...
A. 18 January 2010: I think you're in love with a fantasy. I know you say that you're not in love yet but it seems like you're really wishing for this to grow into love. Having read your question, I assume that you don't know this man that well. You can't love someone ... (read in full...)
She left me because she wanted to 'grow' as a person
Q. My first post here.. sorry for making it sooo long.. Everything was perfect and I was the happiest bf ever We would say "I Love You" and we are the type of people that don't toss around "I Love You" like if it was nothing. We would talk...
A. 14 January 2010: Coming from a girl, I know what she's trying to say. Although you were a great boyfriend, and I'm sure a great person too, she doesn't think you're the one. I think she's done a lot of thinking and she's realized that she can't see a future with you ... (read in full...)
I am a lonely single girl, wanting to know where to go to meet straight singles
Q. I'm 26 and have never had a serious boyfriend. I've been on dates and for the first time, I casually dated a guy for 8 months! He did not want to commit, but I'd like to count this as something. I am cute, young, funny, smart, interesting, ...
A. 14 January 2010: I was in your situation a while ago. I'd like to think of myself as attractive and succesful but I was having so much trouble meeting quality men and sometimes I settled for less and dated jerks.
I don't think you need to go anywhere specific... (read in full...)
Why won't my ex answer my questions about who he's seeing?
Q. I split with my boyfriend last month after 2 years together. I thought as we had mutually decided that our relationship wasn't working, I would ask him if there was someone else as by then I thought I might as well ask him (he had been distant, ...
A. 14 January 2010: He's not answering you because it's none of your business. You two are not together anymore, and if you've remained friends it doesn't mean he has to tell you anything he doesn't want to. You guys are no longer in a relationship and he doesn't owe ... (read in full...)
Phone dropped in toilet...
Q. This isn't really a relationship question but I gotta ask. My boyfriend was texting me one day, supposedly while he was using the restroom and he dropped his phone in the toilet(I know, nasty.) well, he got it to work, he used a hair dryer to dry it ...
A. 13 January 2010: Ask oldersister...haha, that was great!
But seriously...he needs to get a new phone. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be his "rebound" girl
Q. am i gonna be a rebound...? ok this guy and his gf broke ul like last year. or maybe two years ago cause he cheated on her with his ex. i use to be attracted to him wen we were younger but the feelings faded. then summer 2008 me and him were ...
A. 12 January 2010: He's cheated before and he's still got ex-gf issues. If you want drama and a broken heart then go for it. If you want a proper relationship and a caring guy, then look for someone else. I don't think it's a matter of being the rebound...it's a ... (read in full...)
Ladies, here's something for you. I want your opinions on this?
Q. Is it true that you girls will never forget or always feel something for the guy that you "never got"? The one that you knew you loved but he never asked you to be in a relationship. Do you still think about him even after you're in a new ...
A. 11 January 2010: I might remember him but I don't dwell on it or want him back. If I wasn't good enough for him then he sure wasn't good enough for me.... (read in full...)
Who makes the first move after a date?
Q. Hi, to make along story short i had a date with i guy a few days ago. We used to work together years ago but i havent seen him since until then. I'm not all that good with dating etiquette so i dont know if i should be the first to talk to him ...
A. 11 January 2010: In the end it shouldn't matter that much who makes the first move after a date, but I've always found that if you wait and let the guy ask you on a second date you will be in a better position to know just how interested he is.
You can always s... (read in full...)
Mixed Signals? Blowing hot and cold? What is this guy doing?
Q. Okay, I'll try to keep the story as brief as possible. I am an 18 year old girl and I work at a pharmacy and when I take my lunch/dinner breaks I go next door to a bistro. The guys there are all very nice, and the owner frequently visits us and we ...
A. 10 January 2010: I also need to add that all the little things he does can mean something or they can mean nothing. We don't know the guy and so we can't read his actions. You don't know him either and what to you could mean he's sending you signals could mean ... (read in full...)
Mixed Signals? Blowing hot and cold? What is this guy doing?
Q. Okay, I'll try to keep the story as brief as possible. I am an 18 year old girl and I work at a pharmacy and when I take my lunch/dinner breaks I go next door to a bistro. The guys there are all very nice, and the owner frequently visits us and we ...
A. 10 January 2010: You are so overthinking all this. You have all these questions that none of us on here can answer. You like the guy and it seems you're thinking about him all the time.
Here's some advice. If you want him, then go and get him. Make a plan to suss ... (read in full...)
Scared of commitment or just being used?
Q. I've been sleeping with the same guy for 2 years and have fallen in love with him. But he won't commit to a relationship. I'm not sure if it's because I have a child or that he's just not ready. Do I give up and move on? or keep holding on hoping ...
A. 8 January 2010: It's not because you have a child and it's definitely not because he's not ready. It's because to him you're not 'it' and he's getting what he wants without giving anything in return. I know that sounds harsh but that's the way it is.
And w... (read in full...)
Another notch in his bedpost?
Q. Hi. Not sure how to begin, but here it goes. I'm in a relationship that has been going great. But since i found out that my bf isn't a virgin and i am, i find myself 'holding back'. I've always imagined losing myself to the one i love, a virgin a...
A. 7 January 2010: It sounds like you haven't been with your boyfriend long enough. You're not ready to have sex with him and that's ok. I think you're holding back in fear that he will leave you as soon as you've had sex with him. The fact that he's had previous ... (read in full...)
How important is saying 'I love you'?
Q. Hi I'm looking for some advice. My story is a little long winded! My boyfriend and I had been together for a few months shy of a year when suddenly he ended things. His reason being he felt panicked as he is turning 30 (I'm 25) and that he is not r...
A. 4 January 2010: CaringGuy is absolutely correct, actions always speak louder than words. Words are nice but mean nothing when the actions say otherwise.
This man left you once because he 'panicked.' Whether it's a problem he has with himself or the whole relation... (read in full...)
Could he really be in love with me after only 2 weeks?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 weeks now and tonight during sex (he was about to finish) he said my name, took a long pause and said "i love you." i responded by laughing saying "no you dont." and that its only been a couple weeks. he ...
A. 4 January 2010: I highly doubt he loves you at this point (and he did say this during sex) but he does seem to like you a lot. Don't worry about how you reacted...it was normal and it shows that you're not naive.
What you have to do is give things more time...s... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend touch me?
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 18. I've been with him for 6 months, and I'm completely in love with him. He's my first "real" relationship, as in the first that didn't revolve around sex. He cooks for me all the time, he keeps me entertained every ...
A. 4 January 2010: I find it really weird that an 18 year old guy has not touched his girlfriend within the 6 months you've been together. Something is definitely up and you need to find out what it is before you get emotionally involved even more. This is not normal ... (read in full...)
Does he want a second date?
Q. I am so nervous about this that I can't sleep. I went out with a really sweet guy who I really like a lot, but I'm afraid that he doesn't like me as much as I like him. We had a great conversation and lots of flirting, but nothing more tha...
A. 3 January 2010: Don't worry at all that there was no more than a hug at the end of the first date. My boyfriend didn't kiss me properly until the fourth date! It's these kinds of guys that are worth it. My boyfriend also didn't ask me out on a second date straight ... (read in full...)
No contact since Monday night, what's up with him.
Q. Alright, well I met a guy online. We have been talking back and forth for about a month. This has involved texting, emailing, and talking on the phone. We had made plans to do something this past Sunday together. Unfortunately, Sunday morning I ...
A. 17 December 2009: You met him online and haven't met him in person yet. You don't know anything about him, and no one here can tell you what's up with him. We could all go on a wild goose chase wondering and speculating about this man but chances are, no one will ... (read in full...)
Second date confusion!
Q. Had a great date over a week ago with a guy met on net..he made all the right moves added me as a friend on FB etc (i wouldnt have so early on as it tells you so much about people and you can see what the other is doing all the time!). The date was ...
A. 14 December 2009: You don't know him at all and what else he has going on in his life...so analyzing things this early on won't help you, it will just confuse you more.
Don't get hung up on the fact that he said all the rights things, alluded to future plans an... (read in full...)
Why does she sign her emails this way?
Q. There's a girl I like who I've been exchanging emails with. She always responds the same day I send an email and sometimes it takes me a week to write back because these are long emails and I am busy. At the bottoms of her emails she started ...
A. 11 December 2009: I agree with everyone on here...especially pinktopaz.
If you keep up this week long delay in responding, she'll find someone else. I wouldn't hang around for someone who takes a week to write back...I'd just assume he wasn't that interest... (read in full...)
My husband abused my daughter, she won't prosecute! Can I?
Q. SORRY FOR JUMPING IN ON YOUR TOPIC BUT i need advice as hitting my head on brick walls and getting no further i have a 24 year old married daughter who has just spoken up after 13 years of child abuse from her step father she never ever ...
A. 11 December 2009: I really think you need to go see a lawyer. I'm a lawyer in Australia and your system works somewhat differently than ours. I do think that it may be difficult to do anything about this without her input.
Is she ok now? Has the abuse left any... (read in full...)
Busy? Or just not that into me?
Q. I can't tell if this guy is interested or not? He says he's busy (he's a Dr, we're both late 20s). I met him through friends just over a month ago but people have been trying to set us up for months, saying he has seen me around, been asking abou...
A. 10 December 2009: You don't have to wait or let it go...just go out and meet other guys. This guy is lukewarm about you...you want a guy who's hot for you. You seem to be an option to him...don't ever be an option.
He sounds somewhat interested but not enough f... (read in full...)
Should I send him a text or just wait and see?
Q. I met a guy about a month and a half ago online through a dating website. He was on TDY when we started sending emails back and forth. We did this back and forth about a 1 and 1/2 and I didn't hear from him for about 2 weeks after that. I assumed ...
A. 10 December 2009: I think you've made it quite clear that you're interested in more. Sit back and let him come to you. Don't text him...I think you've done enough so far. I almost feel like you made much more effort for this date to go ahead than he did. So now, it's ... (read in full...)
She assumed my help was a barter for sex and I'm a bit insulted. Should I explain or let it go?
Q. I am a strong swimmer. The other day our sports club went snorkelling at a nearby reef. One of the new club members, a girl, was struggling and I stuck around to help her get the hang of snorkelling and to make sure she didn't end up in danger. She ...
A. 8 December 2009: You don't need to cover old ground again unless she makes a move or mentions something again. Then tell her you're not interested. Don't say you're not interested in a relationship...she probably won't think that's a no.
What's interest... (read in full...)
He asks me for my movements but then doesn't act on the information!
Q. I met this guy last Friday and he got my number. We hung out again Saturday night. I live about 45 minutes away from him and I'm in college. Monday I came home for Thanksgiving break. He told me to tell him when I got into town. I did... two nights ...
A. 3 December 2009: rhythmandblues2 is correct...you just met him.
You're treating this guy as a boyfriend, and he's not. Even a boyfriend would perhaps be overwhelmed at all this attention. Guys (and girls to some extent) don't like to be this involved when you firs... (read in full...)
My friends poke fun at my being a virgin!
Q. Hi, let me tell you about my situation, im a 21 yo virgin and my last boyfriend was when i was like 15. and i currently dont have a boyfriend and it doesnt look like its gonna change any time soon. its really taking its toll on me, cause i dont...
A. 3 December 2009: You make it sound like your virginity is a curse. It's NOT. Sure, it's a part of you but don't let it define you.
Your friends are immature and don't see to care about your feelings if all they can do is make fun of you.
You have done well s... (read in full...)
Do I keep on seeing where this goes, even if he is taken? Or do I just let him go?
Q. I went on a non-date with a good friend of mine from high school, who happens to have a girlfriend who he's been with for quite awhile. Nothing happened between the two of us but the very little that did happen, his girlfriend would not be happy ...
A. 2 December 2009: If you keep hanging out with him while he's with someone else you could get really hurt. Your feelings will grow but you won't be able to act on it knowing he's got a girlfriend.
How long have they been together? Don't pay attention to what he ... (read in full...)
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