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Boyfriend is infertile... is there away for us to have a child together?

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Question - (9 August 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 9 August 2009)
A female United States age 41-50, *eeazyl writes:

my botfriend is sterile. hes 24, im 39. weve been together for 4 and a half yrs. how can he go about having a child? he doesnt want me to be artificialed inceminated. is there any way to get his sperm cell count back? i dont know why hes stewril. he was sexually abused by his father when he was 5 to 7 yrs. of age, and i think thats when it happened. so i dont know at this point if its possible for him and i to be able to fix this and have a child. what do we do?

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (9 August 2009):

LazyGuy agony auntWho says he is sterile? And what has sexual abuse got to do with it?

Get a doctors opinion.

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A male reader, twistedelm United States +, writes (9 August 2009):

Forgive me but I am going to try to answer your question with very little emotional feelings involved in this. I am a guy and your boyfriend is a guy and us guys have been taught to not show certain emotions; this does not mean we dont know what they are. (I am not a doctor). Your question: OK; some ideas and suggestions first. Sterile guys can be caused by many things. For example/ some guys who get an erection can only get the lubrication fluid up for say the first 5 minutes of pre--sex activities. This might be caused by a low blood pressure problem or the lack of the ability to concentrate on the males part. If the male has been tested at a hospital and his sperm count is low; I would ask how low is it? Is there any sperm there? I have read that a tiny amount of sperm can have 100/000 sperm like in a drop of fluid. I have a reason for saying these things. For an example: If it was me/ And I had some problem getting the sperm out of me; I would ask a doctor if there is any other way to get my sperm out of me? Maybe a transplant of sorts/ just an idea. To me sperm is sort of like a hormone and hormones are made by our bodys. IF your sperm doesnt exist; and you are against artificial (cause of high cost or religion values)-all thats left is adoption (in most states you have to have a broad income to qualify). I dont want to give you false-hope and a smart person would check even me out for some of the ideas ive offered here. But whatever your choice is; it will cost money and some of your time. Still and all; raising children is the best thing you can ever do. Take Care.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2009):

These are questions that only a doctor can answer.

Go and see one and get your boyfriend checked out.

If you want a child though, you are facing your biological clock.

You may have to decide which is more important to you: Having a child, or having your boyfriend.

Good Luck!! xx

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A male reader, Jason32477 United States +, writes (9 August 2009):

Jason32477 agony aunt I don`t know anyway to raise a sperm count,but if I was sterile I would get my father or one of my brothers to donate the sperm for use.Maybe you could suggest that as an option for him to consider.

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