Confused and need closure!
Q. My query is in relation to a girl i met a couple of months ago. She is over 4 years older than me and i am 26. I know that she was married a few years ago but her then husband left her for another woman, this does not bother me in the slightest, ...
A. 31 July 2009: maybe you should contact her and ask her what has changed between the both of you ask if you've done something wrong or if she is going through a bad patch and want to talk about it... (read in full...)
I'm scared to leave in fear of living alone in a tiny rented flat for the rest of my life!
Q. I'm 35 and in a bit of an emotional mess. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend/partner for 10 years and while she seems happy, I'm not. She is 10 years older than I and this has never been a problem (and suits me as I don't want ...
A. 31 July 2009: to be honest if you cant tell your best friend how you feel then you cant be as good friends as you thought id tell her if i was you, she might generally be understanding or bit shocked but it might not end the friendship.with your current partner ... (read in full...)
I told my friend how I felt and now he has ended the friendship!
Q. i had a male friend of six years and fell in love with him and i told him this, he has now ended the friendship. What should i do?...
A. 31 July 2009: if he has ended the friendship then maybe he wasnt a good friend after all.forget about him and move on... (read in full...)
He did not reply to my last text and am now very worried, but I don't want to loose him...
Q. my three months boyfriend has started to make me wonder, i text him asking if there was a problem coz the last time we chatted he acted strange in the sense that usually he used to call me baby, honey , sweetheart and stuff like that but that last ...
A. 31 July 2009: when you speak to him you need to ask why he hasn't contacted you back and what is his problem tell him your concerns but you'll never sort anything out if you do not talk it'll eat you up inside cant you go round to his house and demand an ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable and does this guy deserve another chance?
Q. Here's the story. Eight months ago, I met a guy online. We were instantly attracted to each other, met up and quickly fell in love. We met during the Christmas holidays, but I was working abroad at the time. I eventually had to go back to work, but ...
A. 31 July 2009: maybe he is still in love with his ex gf and his using you to get over her.sounds to me like he isn't really bothered how he treats you or if you split but his using you to pass the time to get over his ex.when you split with someone you generally ... (read in full...)
How do I tell guys I'm not interested?
Q. I'm finding out there is a couple other guys who like me, but I know I am not attracted mentally or physically. I'm thinking this is because, I like Bob (code name) and I know he likes me so, I'm kind of putting other guys on hold for him. But I k...
A. 31 July 2009: thats a good way to put it.or literally just say you are not interested or you only see that person as a friend say you dont want to ruin your friendship... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is forcing me into something I don't believe in!
Q. I'm a bisexual female in an open relationship with a man. He is currently dating another woman and myself. We are all aware of each other and have even become friends, but not intimate at the same time. I went away to college, and the two decided ...
A. 31 July 2009: i think you are putting yourself down how can you allow a man you love to share you with someone else.why should he get the best of both worlds.if you dont trust the other woman or like her then you shouldnt participate in what he expects of you. ... (read in full...)
Help! I think my dad is having an affair!
Q. Am suspecting my dad is having an affair with a lady, about 2 months ago he had to go to another town for a contract that was awarded to him and comes home on weekend. I've not really been around though but last week when i came back from school he ...
A. 31 July 2009: they are just suspicions of yours and you have no facts if you spoke to your mother about it she might feel insecure and jump to conclusions and could cause a blow at your parents relationship which wouldn't be a good move. if you find out your da... (read in full...)
He keeps on running away from me but I know he still loves me!
Q. im a 18 yrs old girl..i have problems with my bf.okay....here's the story....my bf was being trapped by his own cousin, his cousin smashed his car windows and until now i don't even know what is the exact reason. This happens in a sudden and he ...
A. 31 July 2009: maybe tell him that you love him and cant be friends with him because it hurts too much.his listening to his family to try not to cause problems for himself but i generally think that he loves you too but is a little confused but until he gets over ... (read in full...)
I am fed up with being hung up on him!
Q. hi im 15 and new to this so please help. i was going out with this guy for about a year. but then he dumped me a year ago today. he didnt give a reason. im still in love with him. how do i get over him? please help:)...
A. 31 July 2009: it takes time to get over someone you have been with for a long time you just have to get out with your friends and start looking for someone else because the chances of you getting back with him is highly unlikely.maybe he thought you just didnt ... (read in full...)
When will I fall for my husband again?
Q. When will I fall for my husband again??? I got married to my husband 7 yrs ago and Im still not in love? I only got married cause I was profiside to marry him very stupid reason thats cause he knew the whole truth and didn't care. Actually when I w...
A. 31 July 2009: no matter what you do to try and be in love with him your heart isn't with him as much as you want it to be its not fair on you or your husband but u need to consider ending the relationship or staying with him and learning to accept it for the kids ... (read in full...)
Betrayed by the one I love most in this world! I need some advice :(
Q. Hello everyone, I feel used and betrayed ;_; I met this girl at work about a month ago and we got on like a house on fire; we have soooo many similarities it's like we're made for each other! Anyway, it's only been recently that I have st...
A. 31 July 2009: you cant do anything she obviously loves him as well as being scared of him so in a way she is scared to lose him she'll keep crawling back, with you there she likes the thought of having two guys but she wont do anything with you because she is ... (read in full...)
Everytime I hook up with my girlfriend I feel sick and I hurt "down there"!
Q. Ok I have a girlfriend right? And we hook up or cuddle or whatever you want to call it, and when we do it gets really intense but, I havent had sex with her yet. Shes had it before but Im still a virgin. Now the thing is a couple of hours after ...
A. 31 July 2009: maybe your sexually frustrated and want to have sex with her have u considered it... (read in full...)
What is the easiest way to dump someone you've been with for over two years?
Q. What is the easiest way to dump someone you've been with for over two years? I've tried before but I hate making people feel bad. You have no idea what it does to me. But I have to do it, I'm miserable. I do love him, but it's just not the same ...
A. 29 July 2009: Texting or phoning him to dump him is the easy way out and in some way disrespectful. You have to do it face to face. I mean it’ll upset him but he'll appreciate you seeing him when you do it. Just sit him down, don’t think about it and just say ... (read in full...)
14 years with my BF but I don't want sex anymore. Whats my problem?
Q. I don't care for having sex with my boyfriend no more. We've been together since I was 15 years old, now 29. I keep having these dreams about him having sex with someone else. I don't like for him to touch me or nothing. I started to go to the ...
A. 29 July 2009: The relationship could be fizzling out and you could be getting bored but don’t give up. Maybe you need relationship counseling if you want it to work. I’d say try and spice things up again with new positions and stuff like that. If that doesn’t ... (read in full...)
My BF broke up with me, should I stay and fight or come back later.
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me after a year of dating. We had a great relationship until the end when things got tense. I started pressuring him to go to the next level and the tension just snow balled. He says he's convinced in his heart and so...
A. 29 July 2009: Pressuring someone into the next step of a relationship tends to scare people away. Your bf is obviously scared of commitment and if he is adamant that you’ll be happier apart then maybe in time that will be true. You can’t force someone to be with ... (read in full...)
My controlling husband won't except that I don't love him anymore.
Q. I told my husband i don`t love him like i used to,the fact is that i love him but i`m not in love with him.I told him and he don`t accept what i said.We been together for 4 years we have a son 2 years old..i want to end the mariage,he is to ...
A. 29 July 2009: Well speak to your husband about your issues first and if you want to be with him in a happy relationship then maybe try marriage counseling. However, if not, he can’t control you and tell you what to do. You’re obviously the main carer of the child ... (read in full...)
He dosen't want marriage but I do, should I leave?
Q. Does it make any sense to end a great relationship over marriage? We have a great relationship. We have been together for 6 years and have a daughter. When we first started this relationship I asked his views on marrage, and made it very clear that ...
A. 29 July 2009: I’d say talk to your partner about what you want and see if you can compromise. If you don’t talk about it then you’ll never resolve anything. To be honest if you’re happy in your relationship then marriage shouldn’t really cross your mind. I know ... (read in full...)
My mum doesn't think that we make a good couple!
Q. So I was talking to my mum eariler and I asked if she thought me and my boyfriend made a good couple, just for something to say....and she looked abit shifty, and said no, not really. I was kind of shocked - we've been going out for about 10 month...
A. 29 July 2009: I don’t think that is true people with the exact same interests seem to clash whereas people with different interests can do things together as well as apart. Maybe your mother doesn’t approve but this is your life and who you choose to be with ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't know that I found out about his cheating, what should I do?
Q. My husband tells me he loves me but he has been texting this lady since 2008 up until now. I see the number on the phone bill but he doesn't know I know. What should I do?...
A. 29 July 2009: have you got any idea of what the texts say as it could be completely innocent although it does seem a little fishy?only you can decide whether you forgive and forget or whether you confront him about it and possibly loose your relationship.in your ... (read in full...)
A girl kissed my boyfriend, is this considered cheating?
Q. My boyfriend just told me that another girl kissed him.it happened 7 weeks ago.he was out and stayed in his friend's house,he went to bed in his friends house.later a girl came into the bed and turned to him and kissed him.she kissed him twice.he ...
A. 29 July 2009: he might just be telling you because he feels guilty but twisting the truth a little bit but without the proof yourl never no but its a good sign that he has told you about it so in that case i think he deserves that second chance but if it happens ... (read in full...)
Can you be in love with 2 people at the same time?
Q. Can you be in love with 2 people at the same time? I am just curious as to what others think about this....
A. 29 July 2009: i dont think you can example if you are in a relationship but are seeing someone else at the same time and you have strong feelings for both people you tend to be inlove with one of them but just love the other as a person and trying to realise that ... (read in full...)
Are these guys playing games with me? I don't know who to trust!
Q. help! two months ago i met a guy X. he grew massively on to me. i considered him as family thats how close we were. we had sex and everything. then he introduced me to his mate Y. i started seein Y cuz X left for holiday to sort out his LDR. X kept ...
A. 29 July 2009: maybe Y generally cares about you and doesnt want u to get hurt but then maybe he is telling you because he wants to get close to you.either way yourl probably never find out but X wont be happy to know that you are now seeing Y so be prepared for ... (read in full...)
The thought of my ex with another guy is bringing me to tears!
Q. this is gonna sound dead weird but ive split from my ex girlfriend 4 weeks ago and normally i get over relationships in no time but with this one we agreed to be good friends and went out today together with a few others - durin this time she harped ...
A. 29 July 2009: your not over her is there anyway u can get her back?it takes time to get over someone and seeing them all the time and being friends sometimes isnt the answer to get over that person maybe you should stay away for a while and when your able to get ... (read in full...)
Why not let me see the message? Why lie?
Q. Im am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 27. Before we got together he used to cheat on a girl he was seeing but changed when we got together. We have been together for just under a year and he hs never cheated on me and we have a really good ...
A. 28 July 2009: get rid of him u cant b sooo naive to think that he wouldnt cheat on ur wen he has cheated on every girl his been with ofcourse hes gonna do it to u.once and cheat always a cheat and whos to say he hasnt cheated on u hes done it enough times to be ... (read in full...)
Why no reply to my birthday text?
Q. an ex spends loads of time playing little games to get my attention, she cheated on me i walked away. It was hard but i never gave her any trouble. she suddenly thinks im seeing someone else (but im not)we eneded 18 month ago. Anyway i aim to be ...
A. 28 July 2009: shes probably going to be thinking oh he still cares cos he was obviously thinking about me to text me and he remembers my birthday u shouldnt have really done it.u need to forget about her and move on with ur life and she needs to do the same... (read in full...)
We were practically dating, and he told me he loved me. Now have those feelings just gone?
Q. I'm so heart broken. my best friend and I have always acted like we were dating. we practically were, we've just never ask each other out. he and I have been "together" since last september. I mean at first we both knew just never said our ...
A. 28 July 2009: to be honest he probably did have feelings for u but up until september he couldnt find out if there were genuine or not sometimes we think we like someone but then realise we dont feel as strongly as we thought we would.he probably thought about it ... (read in full...)
It seems like my boyfriend only wants sex, but I don't. How do I handle this?
Q. Okay I'm 15 and I'm still a virgin and I have a boyfriend that keeps asking for sex and Im not ready for that yet...I mean like I'm ready but I just want him to wait...because the longer he wait the better my reputation be at the end.I mean I like ...
A. 28 July 2009: to be honest with u his a 19 yr old boy and what do they want sex its number 1 on there agenda.if keeping ur virginity is such a big thing at this time and he cant understand that then his not worth it and hel end up hurting u.dont let anyone ... (read in full...)
I always feel depressed and insecure without my boyfriend around. How can I become more independent?
Q. I am always feeling depressed when I am not with my boyfriend, and I already know i am insecure about myself. What can I do to become more confident and dependent of myself?...
A. 28 July 2009: only you can make urself stronger i havent got alot of confidence and there used to be a time where i evolved my life around my bf but the way i look at it now is i went over 10 yrs without a bf when i was a child and handled things fine then so i ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with my boyfriend's childish behaviour, but I don't want to end things. What can I do?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now. In the past the problems we had were because I was obsessive and tended to get upset about a lot of things when I could have just let them go and been fine. My boyfriend has told me that ...
A. 28 July 2009: seems to me that because he isnt having a good time at home with having to look after his mother when his around you he wants to act childish instead of responsible as he obviously has to be quite adult and responsible when his mother is ... (read in full...)
The man I was dating has been cheating on me. What should I do if he contacts me?
Q. I'm so sad tonight. I have been dating this guy for 4 mths. we have met families. talk everyday. He actss like a boyfriend. Things didnt add up so I surprised him tonight by showing up at his house because this morning he texted saying he would call ...
A. 28 July 2009: atleast its 4 months rather than 4 years and now you no what a cheat he is and u dont deserve this.if he tries to call u should ignore it completely until he gets the message dont fall for his rubbish he was disrespectful of ur feelings.find urself ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between two people...and my fiance said he'd commit suicide if I left! How can I tell him I'm having second thoughts?
Q. my boyfriend and I were planning to get married this year, but for now he's far from from me( he's working in a far place). And i met a guy on my previous job and we had a mutual understanding, I found something in this guy that I never found from ...
A. 28 July 2009: ur bf is being selfish and trying to in some way trick u into the marriage.his obviously in some way depressed if hes getting suicidal thoughts but then he could b just usin that excuse to keep u dont let that affect your state of mind just tell ... (read in full...)
Why do I still miss my ex-fiance? It's been 7 months since the split and I have a new boyfriend!
Q. i miss my ex fiance. i dated him 3 years, in the beginning of coarse, the relationship is all good. i hear bout him sometimes, i seem like i dont care, but i care so much bout him. the last thing i heard is that hes on drugs, and hes being dumb. i ...
A. 28 July 2009: there was a reason why u got out of the relationship in the first place and whos to say if u get back in to tht relationship again it wont start over again.u was with him for a long time and obviously its going to take time to get over him i mean u ... (read in full...)
How can I move forward with my russian girlfriend... My ex won't stop harassing me!
Q. My ex-partner and I lived together for about 14 months. We had a foster child who I got along with very well and my partner showed signs of jeolousy. My partner began to become a control freak and eventually the foster child escaped. My partner ...
A. 28 July 2009: you can only cut her completely out of your life for a chance of happiness you found that job so u should continue on with it until u find something else.you ex is obviously meddling in ur life and trying to get u back by making things difficult for ... (read in full...)
He said he couldn't balance a relationship whilst getting his life on track. Should I wait for him until he does?
Q. A year ago I got out of a long term relationship and finally found a guy that made me happy. He was everything I wanted so I let all my barriers down and threw myself out there. We dated only for a couple weeks, spending every night together. I ...
A. 28 July 2009: however much you want it to work its not the right time.whats the point in putting ur life on hold for someone that might not come back to you mb for a few weeks months or yrs.i think u should move on... (read in full...)
I found out I have Herpes... is there anyone that's going to accept me now?
Q. I just found out I have herpes...got it from the last guy I was with and am not very happy. Been in bed all day depressed, crying. I feel like my life is over and nobody will ever accept me. I was already having a hard time dating and I feel like ...
A. 28 July 2009: ofcourse they will.there are ways of treating herpes just speak to your doctor.its not ur fault and ur not the only one.dont beat yourself up about it there are ppl in worser states.for instance i no someone who has genitial warts and herpes she got ... (read in full...)
He constantly makes up lies! Do you think he's cheating?
Q. I am in a long distance relashionship.I am a registered nurse with two children, uprooting my life is complicated.The person I am in the relashionship with lives at home with his Grandmother,works but is not really successful.When I first met him he ...
A. 28 July 2009: if you have lies and no trust in a relationship itl never work out.if he cant respect you enough to tell u where he is going rather than lying than u can do better.you need to think what is best for your children aswel as yourself.it doesnt matter ... (read in full...)
How do we tell our families that I'm pregnant?
Q. First off, I'm fifteen years old and pregnant. I just found out today. My boyfriend is sixteen years old and we have a pretty rocky relationship - but all is well for the most part. My question is I don't know how to tell my family and espec...
A. 28 July 2009: hi
i wish i could tell you the best way to tell your family but in all honesty it doesnt matter what way u tell them they will be dissapointed.your younger than me so things could be quite difficult in your case when i found out i was pregnant... (read in full...)
Despite seeing another girl my ex says he wants to be friends...Is he being genuine?
Q. Ex lover what does he want? A long distance ex lover who i was seeing for about a year and is older than me. We split mainly due to my nervousness around getting too close and the fact i wasnt able to see him much. So i told him best we went our...
A. 28 July 2009: to be honest it just sounds genuine to me hes with another women now you said so he must have moved on maybe he does want to be friends.if your wary stop talking to him full stop and dont allow the visits... (read in full...)
Please help me find a way to get over my ex!
Q. okay...so my ex has been horrible to me...and then things finally stoped...and it got soo bad my mom had to get involved...and so i miss him...and its been almost 2 yrs and im not completly over him or us...and i dont get what i miss about him...he ...
A. 28 July 2009: some times when you love some one it is really hard to get over them time is a great healer there is nothing you can really do to get over it just give it time.when a boy is mean to you it makes u want them more and i suppose in that sense it is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends mum tried it on with me! Should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. I'm in a rather uncomfortable situation and I don't have a clue how to handle it at all! It concerns my girlfriend's mother. She's what I can only describe as a "sex pest". I don't know any other way of describing her behaviour. When I first started ...
A. 27 July 2009: i think the best thing to do is sit your gf down and explain to her that u feel uncomfortable being left alone with her mother as you feel like she is trying it on with you.i think you should tell her exactly what her mother had said to you aswel as ... (read in full...)
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