I have developed feelings for my 14 year old student, how do I forget about this and get over him?
Q. I am a teacher. First of all, I would like to state that I am 27 and have *never* had a crush on anyone younger than me! I also know that what I'm about to write makes me a pedophile, so I am asking you not to call me names; I deserve them all. Tha...
A. 16 March 2010: you need to try and focus to attraction towards someone of your own age maybe another teacher.if something happens here you could be in a lot of trouble and can kiss goodbye to your career.id say stay as far away from this child as possible and dont ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty for cheating on my husband?
Q. I have been with my husband for 4 years but it seems like more. His job keeps him away from home for days at a time. I understand that He needs to provide for our children and don't get me wrong i dont want him to be all over me but i do need ...
A. 16 March 2010: people cheat when something is lacking in a relationship such as affection however if i was you id naturally feel guilty about this but i wouldnt end my relationship based on this fact id try and work out my problems with my partner explain that you ... (read in full...)
Why does sex hurt in some positions but not others?
Q. Hello me and my boyfriend and I away for school so im not really sexual till he comes in town. So my question is when he was here and we had sex he had me on the sofa with me leaning back and my butt a little off the sofa and when he went in it ...
A. 16 March 2010: sometimes sex can be uncomfortable in certain positions you just need to find what is comfortable for you and tell him if it is hurting you... (read in full...)
He broke up with me and says he just wants to be friends, but is sending mixed signals.
Q. I was dating a man for 3 months, we both are separated with children and things progressed fast. Both said "I love yous" and began talking about future plans, etc. Both know we were perfect for one another. The separation with his wife was ...
A. 16 March 2010: you need to be honest with him and tell him that if your not going to work out youd rather no now rather than living your life with hope ask him to be honest with you on what he really wants.its sounds to me that he has strong feelings for you but ... (read in full...)
Is my husband cheating or am I overreacting?
Q. My husband and i been married for a little over 2 months... this past weekend i stayed home and he went to south carolina for some game thing.... we started fighting saturday bout little things... well we made up sunday when he got home... i decided ...
A. 16 March 2010: to be honest you dont really know the facts of whats going on maybe you should sit down with your husband and let him know that you have seen these texts and wondered what they were all about as you understand there from a girl he once used to sleep ... (read in full...)
Do you think he may like me more than a best buddy?
Q. hey there! okay, so I started going to this college, and that was last october. The first day I met this guy, lets call him Joey. Joey and I became fast friends, and I got a little crush on him. well time went by and we got closer and closer...as ...
A. 16 March 2010: to me he sounds interested in you a bit more than friends.to be honest though i think maybe you should tell him how you feel about him he might give you the same response back its better to be honest rather than sitting there wondering all the time... (read in full...)
I feel humilated coz my ex is telling everyone we had sex in a park!
Q. I was dating a guy, and I broke up with him on account of the fact that he cheated on me with one of my friends. When I broke up with him , I stopped talking to him for a while but we became friends again after some time. So later we met up at a ...
A. 16 March 2010: Im sorry to hear about what has happened and how its affecting you but listen people talk about things (gossip) they hear about other people whether it be true or not and they will even pick on you about it but soon enough there will be different ... (read in full...)
My ex is now going out with my best friend.
Q. I went out with a guy for a month or so and because of silly reasons we broke up, he is now going out with my bestfriend and i have recently realised i still love him and have very strong feelings for him. i cry myself to sleep everynight and i dont ...
A. 16 March 2010: you ex has obviously moved on and being with him for a month or so isnt very long.i think the only reason you want him back is because you know your bestfriend is with him and because he has moved on you dont like it.there is nothing you can apart ... (read in full...)
So happy one minute - arguing the next!
Q. Right..I have been 'seeing' (a term which I hate) a guy for over a year now and when were happy, we are so happy, but when its bad...its so bad! He cant 'commit' properly, whcih I understand as in the past, I have had a few problems which have ...
A. 16 March 2010: maybe the fact that he wont commit is causing a barrier for you and him.everyone has there ups and downs in relationships but rather than lashing out try and sit down and talk through the problems you have together as arguing isnt going to solve the ... (read in full...)
I want to let go of the man I am having an affair with, but I am obsessed with him.
Q. Dear Cupid, Iam a married women for 3 years and we have a good relationship, i love my husband and care for him, but i meet i man 1 year ago and fell inlove with him. we been keeping our relationship very secret and he also had a gf for so many y...
A. 16 March 2010: You have to consider how this affair will affect others around you if they found out e.g your husband and his girlfriend.I understand that you have fallen for this man but take yourself back to when and why you decided to go ahead with this affair ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out? Is this email good enough?
Q. hi im 17 years old and for the ast id say 2/3/4 months i have been speaking and texting a girl that i have met at college. i really really like her more than ive liked any girls in the past actualy she is the first girl ive kindov fallen in love ...
A. 14 March 2010: i think if you want to ask her out you should do it in person rather than email as shel see it as if you hiding behind a computer girls like guys that show confidence i no the thought of rejection is scary however she might suprise you... (read in full...)
What can I do about his controlling father?
Q. My boyfriends dad seriously controls his life. He's 18 and we can't sleep in the same bed and his dad controls weather we hang or not.. What should I do ...
A. 14 March 2010: while this guy lives under his fathers house he needs to respect his fathers rules theres nothing you can really do accept from encourage this guy to stand up to his dad... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get over him. What can I do?
Q. I really like this guy. He's a really close friend of mine, we talk all the time. We text every weekday and usually at like 9 for a few hours and then we both go to bed. Loads of girls fancy him, he could get anyone he wanted too. He always tells me ...
A. 14 March 2010: you have explained to him how you feel but he didnt give you the response you wanted at the time therefore you told him you was joking around.if he really liked you in that way then he would have told you how he felt when you told him i think you ... (read in full...)
She contacts her guy friends non stop. How do I deal with this annoying habit?
Q. Ok, I dated this Girl back in highschool. And of course highschool being what it is in todays world i was cheated on. Well life goes on and here i am. We dated and once she graduated She moved Down state to me. We got engaged, Once she got bac...
A. 14 March 2010: being in a relationship you have to learn to trust her and you need to give her the freedom to be friends with both sexes whether that be more male friends or more female friends.you should tell her that you dont mind her having guy friends but she ... (read in full...)
Stuck between a contract and the love of my life.
Q. I need help, I'm stuck between the devil and the deep blue sea because I am in the course of getting refered for bipolar disorder and one of the problems it causes with me is mood swings which cause me to go into a verbal rage i'm never violent, and ...
A. 14 March 2010: id say contact the courts and ask if you would breach your conditions if you were to send her a letter rather than going ahead behind the courts backs.if it is ok by the courts then id say send the letter admit that your actions were wrong tell her ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want me anymore.
Q. Hello every one ,I have some problems with my husband, he doesn't want to come home anymore .We had a big fight, and he left me alone in the house for 2 days and didn't give any phone calls. After that fight, he make me a ticket ,and he want me ...
A. 14 March 2010: if you love him and want to work things out then try and talk to him and tell him that this is not what you want and you want to be in a happy relationship with him.however to me it sounds like he has made up his mind that the marriage is over so ... (read in full...)
Any worries with anal sex.
Q. I am 26 and have been with my partner for 8 years, for the past few years we have often been having anal sex as well, although I was apprehensive about it at first and thought it was a bit wrong I do enjoy it, I have mentioned it to a few friends ...
A. 14 March 2010: alot of people in this world do anal sex gay men for example and as far as i know its perfectly safe.however it could loosen the muscles but i dont think you can do any damage ... (read in full...)
Graduated and now engaged to my former teacher. How do I tell the world?
Q. In a nutshell, my junior year of high school I had an intense "crush" on my English teacher. My senior year I didn't have him as a teacher but we still talked every day. Towards the end of the year things seemed weird between us. He was upset a lot ...
A. 14 March 2010: tell your family you need to talk to them sit them down and be very adult about it.tell them that you need them to be supportive of you and your decisions in life whether they turn out to be mistakes or not and that although they wont be happy you ... (read in full...)
Birth control pill's effectiveness.
Q. hey agony aunts and uncles. i recently sent in this question but for some reason it didnt get posted so im going to try again lol! im on the pill microgynon 30 at the moment, my boyfriend and i have been having sex for nearly 2 months now. i started ...
A. 14 March 2010: the pill is effective as long as you take it correctly however its not 100% sure to stop you from falling pregnant because all it takes is for you to be ill and the pill might not work or even if you miss your pill you could fall pregnant best thing ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend leaves me behind far to often.
Q. I really just need someone to talk to...but heres my question! its spring break and ive stayed home from the beach for a couple days cause ive become sick! My boyfriend who i thought would come over and take care of me decided hey im gonna go to ...
A. 14 March 2010: his thinking about himself being young and a guy all they really think about is going out and having fun so the fact that your ill his thinking he has the chance to get out there rather than staying with you if you want him to stay with you, you ... (read in full...)
Should we get back together? Does she want me back?
Q. I lied to my ex a month ago that's why we broke up we decided to be friends hung out a few time at first Just friend. We made a few drunken mistakes here and there and fooled around every time she get drunk she tells me I love you and trust to get ...
A. 14 March 2010: ok they say the truth about feelings come out when you get drunk but you need to be 100% sure why not tell her how you feel towards her and ask if there is any chance she would consider getting back together if she says no then you really need to ... (read in full...)
How can I cope with everything that is going on in my life right now?
Q. im 15 and a girl who said she was my bestfriend going out with da boy i personally tole her myself i like; nd my dad is in jail; my b/f nd I are on and off, but we know we love each other. my other suppose to be bestfriend spreaded a rumor a/b me. ...
A. 14 March 2010: a baby wont solve your problems will probably make them worse because you wouldnt see your friends as much anyway plus it wouldnt stop people talking.you cant help that your dad is in jail also why is it such a big deal that your friend is going out ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and friend have admitted wanting to have sex with each other. Am I over reacting to their attraction?
Q. Basically, my boyfriend wants to sleep with one of my very good friends. I wouldn't mind if that was it, because she is extremely beautiful, annoyingly so actually.. but it's the fact that he said that as soon as he saw her, he made a mental note to ...
A. 12 March 2010: the only person your boyfriend should want to sleep with is you ok so guys in relationships find other girls attractive but they dont act on it or give the impression to their partners that they are prepared to act on it thatd just kill my self ... (read in full...)
My mom is very condescending about my relationship with my boyfriend. Is she being mean or do I need to lighten up?
Q. So my mom is very condescending about my relationship with my boyfriend. I’m 20, he’s 22, we’ve been dating for 10 months and we’re both virgins. My mom and I are pretty close, but we have more of a friend relationship than a mother/daughter ...
A. 12 March 2010: she obviously doesnt mean to be horrible towards you and isnt getting the idea that what she is saying in genuinely upsetting you.you need to tell her that the odd joke is fine but when she keeps bringing up the same thing it makes you feel insecure ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I have hurt his feelings and his manhood- though isn't that better than lying there and faking it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a fantastic relationship, we've been together almost 2 years and I genuinely couldn't be happier. My problem actually came just last night, when we were about to make love, and before I had a chance to blink, he was in...
A. 12 March 2010: maybe you shouldnt have got angry and stormed upstairs it mite have really hurt his feelings as he probably wasnt expecting you to say anything of the kind but i think when he gets home maybe apologise for the way you spoke to him but explain to him ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I want foreplay without making it sound like I am saying he does not know how to please a woman?
Q. My current BF is my first serious relationship. I was a virgin before I met him and he wasn't. His experience though consisted of two short term GF's (2-3 months each) and two one night stands. Even though I didn't enter this relationship wit...
A. 12 March 2010: tell him that you like to get in a certain mood before having sex to set the atmosphere to make it a bit more special when it comes to sex just ask him to try some foreplay to make it easier for you when his about to penetrate you as sometimes you ... (read in full...)
Stuck for First Date Ideas.. help!!
Q. *OP's own title* Right! I really need your help on this one :/ This boy and me have been talking recently. We've been getting to know each other really well. He doesn't go to the same school as me, but shares the same school bus. He seems really...
A. 12 March 2010: how about cinema,bowling,iceskating something like that.id say dont let his ex girlfriend stop you from going where you want to go if you want to go to town then just go its none of her business what her ex gets up to or what you get up to shes not ... (read in full...)
What relatives are my boyfriend and I on the family tree?
Q. if my grandmother and my boyfriends grandmother are first cousins, what relation are we?...
A. 12 March 2010: distant cousins its makes you like 3rd cousins... (read in full...)
He found out I have a boyfriend and wants to move on. How can I make him believe I would not go back if I left my partner?
Q. Ive been feeling like this for the past couple of months and i need some advice. ive been dating this guy for almost 3 1/2 yrs. And right now its all going downhill but he doesnt know....... he thinks everything is okay and normal. Anyways when i...
A. 12 March 2010: if your not happy with your partner then you shouldnt be with him at all so id say start there and end the relationship.with this other guy i dont blame him for thinking you might go back to your boyfriend but if his not willing to give it ago then ... (read in full...)
I don't like the feeling of being second best to his deceased wife.
Q. I've been dating a widower for over 2 years now. He rarely tells me that he love me unless he's had a few. He takes lovely cards to his wife's grave for birthdays and christmas and this is the type of things he writes ....happy birthday sweetheart, ...
A. 12 March 2010: it takes time to get over someone you loved dearly who has passed away its not his fault he feels this way but if you cant handle this id say move on... (read in full...)
My girlfriends periods only last two days! Is there something wrong?
Q. My girlfriend and I were talking recently and she told me that her periods only last 2 days and are always light. Does this mean she is less fertile or could have problems conceiving? She is 32. I have never heard of girls having such short, ligh...
A. 12 March 2010: i have periods that last two days and i dont have problems conceiving i have a two yr old and one on the way i dont think it is anything to worry about every women is different... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on me now I have an STD! Should I warn the girl he cheated with?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me and and after I found out I went to the Dr. Now I have an STD!! this was a 2 year relationship and I know who it is he cheated on me with. I don't know her personally but she works by my house, should I warn her? I found ...
A. 12 March 2010: have you not thought maybe you got the std not from your boyfriend but from her you never no she might of have the std past it onto him who past it on to you.if was you id suggest your boyfriend tell her as you dont need the aggrovation for yourself ... (read in full...)
How can I get him away from his ex girl friend?
Q. i have been going steady with a guy younger then me for the past 3 months.and he is one year younger thenme.forme age doesnt matters.i truly love him.he is 16 and i m 17..but i guess that his ex girlhas interfered in our relationship for the past ...
A. 12 March 2010: i no you have feelings for this guy but its obvious he isnt over his ex as he admits to having feelings for her if he wanted to be with you then why is he trying to involve himself in her life.his ex obviously wants him in some kind of way otherwise ... (read in full...)
She makes me so happy at times in my miserable life, but her controlling ways are starting to drive me insane. What should I do?
Q. Hey, I've been with my girlfriend for a long time, nearly a year. It was awesome at first, even though it is a long distance relationship. Recently though, she has gotten more controlling. I am in a Deathcore band with a dew of my friends who I am ...
A. 12 March 2010: a controlled relationship by your partner wont do you any favours you need to let her know she can give all the threats she wants but you will do as you please with your life even if that does mean growing your hair for example.you cant let her ... (read in full...)
I thought it would be true love for ever, but now I am not so sure.
Q. Ok so i have been with my current girlfriend for a combined total for almost four years now, im 18 and a senior in highschool and we meet a little bit before freshman year. my gf and i have had some very rough times and have only once split up and ...
A. 12 March 2010: when being with someone for a long period of time sometimes you get the feeling that the relationship is dying you need to find something to spice it up and make it a bit more exciting try doing new things together find out how she feels the ... (read in full...)
First time sex hurt so much we could not go through with it and now I am afraid to try again. How can we overcome this?
Q. So i recently tried to have sex for the first time, and it didn't work out at all. I was ready and willing, my boyfriend and i were foreplayin like for hours, and actually i wasnt nervous at all, the problem was that my vaginal opening was too small ...
A. 12 March 2010: maybe try some lubrication next time might make it a little easier.what you are going through is perfectly normal sex for the first time is very painful and does take some time before being able to get it right in.when i lost my virginity it took ... (read in full...)
He cheated, I cried, he apologized ...but I could hear him giggling on the phone!
Q. me and him had relationship for 3months.. we met at church. he had a affair with another girl from same school. immediately i broke out with him through text message. he said sorry,let's talk about this,clingy for few days first i tried to ignor...
A. 12 March 2010: its perfectly normal to cry when finding out that someone you was with cheated on you but i wouldnt give this guy the time of day he obviously doesnt care about your feelings and isnt sorry for what he has done i wouldnt change your church just try ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him like a good Christian for cheating on me, or tell him to hit the road?
Q. I just got a boyfriend not even a month ago. He was sweet, respectful, nice, and never pushed me on anything. It was the night of my 19th birthday when I got a text message from my boyfriend's ex. She claims that I should be careful and that my ...
A. 12 March 2010: if i was you id run for the hills if he has a background for cheating and has cheated on you already and yourve barely been together a month he obviously doesnt have much respect for you otherwise he would have told you if he felt really bad about ... (read in full...)
Are there any men who don't only want sex?
Q. Are there any men that don't only want sex? My boyfriend told me that every guy on the campus(at our college) is driven mainly by sex. Honestly, it's a little disgusting to me...And I guess I'm just losing a little bit of faith in "good" guys if ...
A. 12 March 2010: dont get me wrong there are plenty of guys out there especially ones in school/college/university that just want sex but there are good guys about that want a relationship and to show you compassion but they are quite hard to come across at ... (read in full...)
She often doubts my love for her and thinks I am going to leave her everytime we fight. Is his normal behavior?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for over 9 months now and we get along well usually. I really love her and she loves me too but there is one problem. Every once in a while, she doubts my love for her. She sometimes gets mad at me for some reason and ...
A. 12 March 2010: she is reacting reasonably normal like she told you she does have some trusting issues and i dont doubt that you love each other but maybe you should try and show her a little more affection just so she knows 100% that you do love her im not saying ... (read in full...)
My crush on my teacher who doesn't see my good qualities, is keeping me from dating guys that do...how do I get over this crush?
Q. I have had a crush on my teacher for a year or so, and every day I look for an excuse to stay in his classroom. It's odd because some days we seem to have interesting discussions, and other days we just do our own work. From time to time I see him ...
A. 12 March 2010: a crush takes time to pass but it does help if you try and focus your attention on other guys even if you dont like them you may grow to like them and it will help you get over your crush.your teacher may look at you but not in a crush way teaching ... (read in full...)
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