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writes:help! two months ago i met a guy X. he grew massively on to me. i considered him as family thats how close we were. we had sex and everything. then he introduced me to his mate Y. i started seein Y cuz X left for holiday to sort out his LDR. X kept ignoring me and was rude while i contacted him. after a couple of night outs me and Y became very close friends and told me that X is a PUA (Pick Up Artist). i dont trust X anymore. was it right that Y told me this fact? is Y also playin a game? as u can tell i cant trust anyone anymore..advice plz. Reply to this Question
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reader, DLover  +, writes (29 July 2009):
Being a PUA or not is only a question of your level of skills at picking up women. You can have good intentions, you can have bad intention, but every man wants to have sucess with women and somewhat looks foward to increase his sucess rates with the women he wants. To resume: the fact that X is a PUA doesn't garantee he is bad mannered. Take it as a compliment that over all the women he could get, he did pick YOU.I think Y knows exactly how women feel by PUAs and might be playing this card to steal you away from X (Y might just as well be a PUA too). Between close guy friends, we sometimes discuss Pick Up stuff, so Y might be as good or even better PUA than X.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Sometimes guys have more insight than we do on the reading of a guy. But sometimes guys have an alterior motive. If he is truly x's friend then it wasn't very friend like to have sai that about him. So, I think you would be wise to look at the situation for what it is and make up your own opinions about what is going on.
If x is not away working out a LDR then I guess he kind of is a little bit of a player if he was having a relationship (sexual) with you. So, if it were me, x would be out of the picture. But be careful with y, he could be just swooping in for the kill because my guess is your self esteem is a little of kilter right now.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 maybe Y generally cares about you and doesnt want u to get hurt but then maybe he is telling you because he wants to get close to you.either way yourl probably never find out but X wont be happy to know that you are now seeing Y so be prepared for that also watch out for Y as in some cases friends are very much alike and he could be the same as X but not necessarily jus be aware
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