We got caught on camera having sex! What should I do now?
Q. omg im so embarressed,my grandparents own this truck stop and i kinda forgot that we had eight cameras that show the whole yard well me and boyfeiend didnt want to get caught so we went under the truck and had sex well now everyone one who works at ...
A. 1 September 2009: i can understand your boyfriends concerns and can imagine how embarassing it must be for you but what has happened has happened and there is nothing you can do about it in time itl blow over... (read in full...)
Why can't he spend his time with me? Should I stay or go?
Q. i have date with this guy for some time. However, he is really lack of time to spend with me. The last time we went out was about 2 weeks ago, and last friday i texted him ask him out on next sunday, but he didnt reply until today (tuesday). For th...
A. 1 September 2009: stop contacting him and let him come to you if he doesnt he isnt right for you.concentrate on your life instead of involving it around him... (read in full...)
Communication problems with my ex. Should I contact him or let him contact me?
Q. I am scared to communicate to my ex,coz we never bloke up as per say,it was just my ex just stopped to communicate to me all of a sudden with no explaination,tried to call and sms but he never responded to any of that later I also stopped ...
A. 1 September 2009: i understand that you still love him but maybe the feeling isnt mutual as he isnt making much effort.i think you should continue with your life and look for other men who will show an interest in you and love you for who you are.maybe he is in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has premature ejaculation problems, and a small penis. Should I break up with him?
Q. Girls: does your boyfriend have premature ejaculation? Mine (who is 25) only last seconds in bed, in fact sometimes he's cum before I've taken his shorts down (I can feel the wet through his pants) or even as I'm putting it in - its depressing and ...
A. 1 September 2009: you need to come up with some ways for him to control himself there are exercises and more options maybe he should see a doctor.you obviously dated him because you had a connection and was nothing to do with how he was in bed at that time however ... (read in full...)
He punched and body slammed me several times... but he was drunk!
Q. My husband of two years seem so perfect for me until we moved together in 2005 he choked, body slammed and punched me several times but only when he was drunk. I saw the signs but still married him in 2007 because he said he would stop drinking. ...
A. 1 September 2009: My mother always said to me if a man ever hits you get out of the relationship straight away no matter how you feel for him because he will always do it again because he knows he can. I have always followed my mothers advice and it seems to be ... (read in full...)
Married man dilemma!
Q. Hello, Whenever I heard of stories of women falling in love with married men, I always used to say to myself that this is never going to happen to me. But right now I am faced with the truth that I do have feelings for a married man. Well, I cannot...
A. 1 September 2009: Hey, I think maybe try and keep your distance but if that is impossible ask to speak with him in private and let him know that you have feelings for him. He is married and maybe happy so best not to try and wreck the marriage but it might be a ... (read in full...)
What do you think they want and what would you do?
Q. Ok, this is really weird-my boyfriend didn't seem like the obsessive type, he didn't txt me every 5 seconds or anything like that, but about 3 years ago we had this fight and he hit me and left marks-a few days after that I noticed him standing ...
A. 21 August 2009: to be honest this seems to me like abuse they are trying to scare you and i would be careful if i was you as something might be being planned you need to get professional advice or a injunction against the guy as he is stalking you talk to your ... (read in full...)
Should I confront him and ask why he cut contact?
Q. This guy and I went in several dates together. We go to the same school. we are both in college. We kissed twice and did not have sex. Everything was fine until he just completely stopped calling me or texting me. I tried to text him once only, he ...
A. 21 August 2009: just come out with it say you deserve an explanation for why he cut you off and has now stopped talking to you. maybe his not as nice as you thought, maybe he has another girlfriend or maybe he just isnt attracted or interested in you whatever the ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents he's going to be living with me! They scare me!
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for 7 months now. It would be an understatement to say that we moved way too fast. He moved in with me, and we weren't even seeing each other for a month. Before that, I spent every day and every night with him. He ...
A. 21 August 2009: your an adult and should be allowed to make your own decisions and mistakes i no you may feel like your taking the mick as they are paying towards the place but is there no way your boyfriend can contribute towards the place aswell to show he isnt ... (read in full...)
What do I do when my daughters are being sexually molested!
Q. i dont know what to do when a father is sexually molesting my two daughters. [Moderator note: more information would be helpful for the aunts to give advice.]...
A. 21 August 2009: support your daughters and get the police involved that guy deserves to be behind bars... (read in full...)
Could the gunk on the comforter be semen? How can I get it tested?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have found white, milky hard gunk all over my comforter. I suspect my spouse and cleaning lady had oral sex. You see my spouse and I have had no sex of any kind -not even oral sex for 3 years or more. When he drinks alcohol, he ...
A. 21 August 2009: leave if your not happy find someone that can satisfy you in all aspects.usually if you suspect cheating 95% of the time they are dont worry about getting it tested i mean what else is it going to be on your comforter... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake?
Q. I was seeing a guy (not officially) for 4 and a half months. For the past month I'd been arranging everything, initiating most contact, whereas before he did everything. Last friday he told me he wanted to take a step back and he didnt know if ...
A. 21 August 2009: if he doesnt seem bothered that you have ended things then he really isnt worth it.he was probably looking for some no strings attached sex but when it started to get a bit more serious like turning into a relationship he prob got worried maybe ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble trusting him and it hurts me to see that he has a kid with another girl! Help please.
Q. I am having trouble forgetting about my boyfriends past?. well its kinda long story we went out 3 years ago, and he had a girl pregnant but I didn't kno till like days later, but he kept telling me that they weren't going out so we were still ...
A. 21 August 2009: i know its hard but he cheated on you thats just disrespectfull and not only once either his a liar and a cheater and they never change so id have my guards up if i were you. it will be alot harder knowing that he has a child by another girl as she ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is attracted to her friend's boyfriend. How would you deal with this?
Q. Hey folks, could you help me out? I think it's a common thing to sense that your girlfriend (or significant other) is attracted to someone other than yourself, that's just normal, but how do you deal with it when the guy she's attracted to is ...
A. 21 August 2009: i should imagine it wouldnt be a good feeling to know that your girlfriend is attracted to someone else which is so obvious to see. maybe you should ask her how she really feels about you and why she acts this way around this guy as it makes you ... (read in full...)
The hardest decision I've ever made
Q. Kind of a long story but I really need some objective advice...I was dating a guy for almost 2 years and then we got engaged and moved in together everything was fine for about 6 months then sort of fell apart. He ended up leaving me and I was so ...
A. 21 August 2009: i dont understand why you would take back the guy that left you in the first place did he have a reason for leaving you the first time?maybe scared to commit or another women maybe?i think you should be with the other guy personally i mean the one ... (read in full...)
I have no enthusiasm to see my girlfriend! What's wrong with me?
Q. I no longer feel enthusiastic about seeing my girlfriend. We haven't been together all that long, but in the early stages she was a lot of fun. Unfortunately, she's gotten very clingy. She wants to see me every day. I'm flattered, but if I say no, ...
A. 21 August 2009: because she has become clingy its making you naturally back off, no one wants to be in an obsessive relationship you need to continue keeping you life and the relationship seperate otherwise it will not work. i think maybe she is becoming clingy ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with someone who only seems interested when you back off from them?
Q. how do you deal with someone who constantly makes excuses for their behaviour as though they are trying to test just how far they can push you? Example, they didnt email you back for a week as they said they didnt check their emails, or they dont ...
A. 20 August 2009: maybe not insecure but just doesnt know how to treat you properly sounds to me like you deserve better however ignoring someone is probably one of the worst things which is why they contact you back treating someone mean keeps them keen.you need to ... (read in full...)
Questions about sex and dating from a lovesick virgin...
Q. i have 3 questions. first say there is a girl who wants to have sex with me and i want to also, how do we consent i'm 15 male but i want to be ready when the situiaion comes up. second there is this girl i've know since i was 9 and i like her a...
A. 20 August 2009: you both have to be the legal age to consent to sex otherwise you could get yourself into trouble. you have loads of time for sex.you probably have a crush on this girl but you will move forward also dont worry so much about your appearance when ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm turning lesbian!
Q. okay im 13 and i feel like im turning lesbian i have a boy friend but i really really want a girl friend ive been feeling this way for a very long time and i love kissing girls so please help me...
A. 20 August 2009: maybe you are bisexual however it takes time to realise what you prefer maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship you need to know who you are before you can share a relationship with someone else... (read in full...)
Are they just friends or is he cheating?
Q. Ive been with my fiance for 6months. He's worked with a woman for the last 5years and i was under the impression that they were just good friends. She left his workplace approx 3 months ago. I looked at his text messages last week to find that he'...
A. 20 August 2009: sounds to me like his cheating as he seems to be lying about speaking with her and he isnt talking to her whilst being at home.plus that text catwomen outfit how does he no she has one???in my opinion thats cheating however there are no facts of ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of something I don't really want to be in?
Q. I met my girlfriend about six years ago and we've been together coming up 5 years now I think, but I feel like I've lost interest in the relationship. I don't know, cause she's a nice and lovely person. But things just keep coming up, like ...
A. 20 August 2009: because you have been together for quite some time you are likely to loose interest and get bored but its one of these things you either get through or you break up. if i was you i take the time to think about this i mean 5 years is a long time and ... (read in full...)
If I have an abortion,will I go to hell?
Q. Mod note] Two questions condensed. Hi,im 23 and a single mom,been seeing this lad for 5months now and his treated me better than anybody ever has,an i really am happy with him,the only thing is his only 20,i have my own house with my 2year old son,...
A. 20 August 2009: you should start by being honest with your parents obviously they cant expect every person you get with to be violent. your boyfriend seems quite keen for the baby and in my opinion so do you but no one can tell you what to do in this case its ... (read in full...)
He keeps telling me he doesn't have a girlfriend but I KNOW he does!
Q. Ok well about 3 months ago i started a new job in an office. I met loads of great new people and i loved it. i still love it. i met this one guy in particular, we'll call him robert. I didn't notice him at first, he's not particularly ama...
A. 18 August 2009: he wants the best of both worlds i should think someone at work as a fling and his got his girlfriend at home to give him what he wants to.he may not be happy in his relationship but just cant seem to give it up.i think going for a drink with him as ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but he still comes to my place for sex
Q. so my boyfriend and i broke up about two weeks ago.. but he still comes over my house once in a while and we have sex.. we know we still love each other but i dont think its rite wat we r doing.. wat do you guys think?!...
A. 18 August 2009: if you broke up you shouldnt still be sleeping together as it gives wrong impression to both you and him.if you love eachother and are still sleeping together then why did the relationship end?maybe you should tell him that you are not prepared to ... (read in full...)
14, pregnant, what do I say to my mom?
Q. ok well hi everyone. Im really scarred to tell my parents im 14 and pregnant. I has sex for the first time with my boyfriend of 6 months and the condom broke on August 8th, today which is 9 days later I had implantation bleeding. The past few days ...
A. 18 August 2009: ok to me it doesnt matter how old you are when you fall pregnant and have to tell your parents its always hard.i fell pregnant at 18 and my family didnt take it well at all now im 21 having my second child and still they didnt take it very well. ... (read in full...)
16 and pregnant
Q. I don't know wat 2 do should i tell my mom and dad who do i tell help me...
A. 18 August 2009: your mom and dad with be dissappointed with you maybe angry so it will take a little getting used to for them so you need to understand that if they shout yourl have to listen and accept it.depending on what you want you should tell your parents ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to confide in my sister?
Q. I think my sister has seriously thought about killing my husband. My husband is not a good person, and the more i confide in her, i think it just makes her angerier, and if he was gone it really would be better for me and the children. He isn't ...
A. 18 August 2009: you should talk to your husband about your concerns not your sister shel make things harder for you to deal with although she may be looking out for you at the same time because she cares it could put more unecessary stress on your plate.if things ... (read in full...)
He seems insensitive - should I dump him?
Q. Hi - I have been with my boyfriend 3 years but I am worrying we are just not compatible because every now and then he says the most insensitive things. Just one example which plays on my mind and still upsets me was before Xmas my 92 year old ...
A. 18 August 2009: only you can make the decision on whether to dump him or not i mean can you see yourself being with him for a long time and being happy?if not its best to end it.have you spoken to him about his comments?... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to tell him of the abuse in my past in case I'll be seen as "too much work"
Q. I have just started seeing a guy that I like so much, but i'm held back by two things. I was sexually abused for years as a kid which made me really shy and scared about sex. My last boyfriend -the first I had truly slept with - complain...
A. 18 August 2009: the first guy you was with obviously wasnt caring about anyone elses feelings but his own and it seems to me he only cared about having a good time in bed.if you are comfortable with your partner now and you love him and tell him in confidence i ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheating on me and having girls send me messages
Q. I have boyfriend so he cheating on me, the worse thing that girls has my he send me sms and insult me tell me that he does'snt love me and that thing hurt me so bad and my boyfriend he still busy with this girl and i love him so much. What should I ...
A. 18 August 2009: have some respect for yourself to end the relationship if he is cheating on you now he will never stop.he likes the best of both worlds that fact that he has two different girls he can go to, he wants to keep hold of you incase he looses the other ... (read in full...)
People think I"m gay but I"m not!
Q. I got a qestion i like women alot and im completly attracted to them, i consider my self to be pretty masculine im not into sports much but i like MMA and working out and video games. I dont watch football or basket ball i like sports i can play. ...
A. 18 August 2009: people may think your gay as you dont really show much interest in women as your so interested in something that is passionate to you maybe you should take the time to start dating.there isnt really a reaction you should take when people ask if your ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I'm brave enough to break up with him
Q. I am in a dilemma. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now...long time! I do love him and most of the time everything is perfect...however every few weeks we have arguments about random things and I get so many doubts about our ...
A. 18 August 2009: maybe you should tell him that you want a break from the relationship for a little while as you need some time to yourself that way you can see whether u prefer being in a relationship or not.i was with my ex for 4 years exactly, started dating when ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 31 July 2009: if something was distressing her it was obviously going to take her a long time to tell you if she cheated she could have jus not told you at all but the fact is she trusted and confided in you.if i was you id ask the question what was she doing ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to confess my feelings in case I lose him as a friend!
Q. Dear Cupid, Well i posted my situation before. Well for the one's who dont know my situation, its the following: I have a situation. I have been liking this boy for over 3 years but I have never gotten the guts to tell him how i felt. When he ...
A. 31 July 2009: he probably sees you as a good understanding friend and by the sounds of it he isnt completely over his ex gf maybe give him a bit more time i mean you have waited 3 yrs i sure a little more wouldnt hurt when he seems generally happy jus take him to ... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been seening each other now for a year and two months. this whole month of july him and i just argue, fight, not speak to each other and all that, and its starting to become a daily thing. why is that? am i doinq something ...
A. 31 July 2009: every relationship goes through a bad patch it just depends on whether or not your able to get through it or not id suggest talking to him about both of your problems be completely honest and try and resolve the problems... (read in full...)
How do I get past this block and break up with my boyfriend?
Q. okay. i have been with this guy for a little more then a year now, and i have wanted to break up with him for a while now. i havent liked him for months, but i can't break up with him for some strange reason. now i have asked some of my friends ab...
A. 31 July 2009: maybe you just dont want to hurt him or that you feel in some sense that if you do break it off with him yourl regret it.however if you arent happy break it to your bf and explain you need some time to think and go on a break just do it before you ... (read in full...)
How can I make my girlfriend fall in live with me again?
Q. out relationship is just three months old and she is scared because she thinks i dont love her and i would dump her when i finished my schooling. i have tryed to make her to understand that i wouldnt leave her, but she just made up her mind on the ...
A. 31 July 2009: she scared of getting hurt which is very understandable however you cant make someone love you.she obviously still has feelings for you which is why she isnt replying to your sms or anything as she is trying to get over you maybe you need to ... (read in full...)
She's up late at night doing who knows what? Is this a sign she is cheating?
Q. My gf says am not payin her any attention and that one day i would regret it...now ever since we met i have been there for her emotinally and all the rest of it and lately i've realised that she 's up late at nights doing god knows what. dear read...
A. 31 July 2009: the only reason girls cheat is because they feel unloved or there is a lack of affection or they just arent happy so there is a chance your gf could be looking else where ut i wouldnt jump to conclusions but she has given you a warning in some way ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I would like to have a threesome. Is this healthy for our relationship?
Q. my gf and i were discussing our sexual fantacies and we both realised that we both would like to have a threesome but with each of us present when it goes down i would like to know if this is healthy for our relationship...
A. 31 July 2009: its perfectly healthy if you both agree to it however it could cause some problems afterwards as your gf might think you are doing more to the other person than her so if you do go ahead with it id say make it equal make your gf feel wanted and ... (read in full...)
Does he still like me?
Q. Hi,im 14 and iv really liked this guy since 6th grade.He's a year senior to me.Were in the same school and he happened to add me on msn and thats how we became good friends.After getting to know each other..he asked me out...but his friends who are ...
A. 31 July 2009: to be honest id just move on i mean its a bit unfair keep getting with you and then breaking up with you, dont you think you deserve better than that? if he asks you out again play hard to get, make it difficult for him so that way he realises that ... (read in full...)
Confused and need closure!
Q. My query is in relation to a girl i met a couple of months ago. She is over 4 years older than me and i am 26. I know that she was married a few years ago but her then husband left her for another woman, this does not bother me in the slightest, ...
A. 31 July 2009: maybe you should contact her and ask her what has changed between the both of you ask if you've done something wrong or if she is going through a bad patch and want to talk about it... (read in full...)
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