He wants us to take a break but I want to work things out...
Q. So i have been with my boyfriend for about 11 months a year next week. He has done some things to me that i have not quite forgiven him for, i am happy to be with him but the thing is we fight a lot, mostly every day mostly on my part on little ...
A. 11 March 2010: well it all depends on what he did to you to be honest because if you cant forgive and forget then yourl never move forward and keep throwing what ever it is back in his face.you both need to have a talk about how you both are feeling and see if ... (read in full...)
How do I feel better about myself and stop thinking about my ex's new girlfriend?
Q. How do I feel better about myself? I get really depressed when I think of my ex's girlfriend. I feel I'm terrible, worthless. I am so depressed! Please tell me what to do?...
A. 11 March 2010: you obviously havent fully got over your ex yet so it abit of a blow thinking that he has moved on quicker than you.even if you are over your ex you still dont like the fact of them being happy with someone else and you always feel the need to find ... (read in full...)
My relationship just ended but I don't care..?
Q. My relationship of 2 months just ended about an hour ago. For some reason I am not at all upset. I don't know what to make of this. I was trying to make it work up until he decided it just wouldn't, but it was more because I was scared of being ...
A. 11 March 2010: two months isnt a long time to be with someone and maybe you didnt even love him so the whole loosing him thing wasnt a big issue as you could see yourself living without him if you know what i mean.when a couple split up people will usually get ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my girlfriend hitting me?
Q. My girlfriend has started hitting me lately when we argue. Any feedback on what I should do is much appreciated. We have been dating for over a year. We rarely fought during the first year. However, recently we have started fighting more. W...
A. 11 March 2010: she obviously has a short temper which she finds hard to control but have you ever thought maybe she has issues within the relationship like maybe because you are around each other alot she doesnt get the space she needs to get excited when she sees ... (read in full...)
Should I terminate my pregnancy for my boyfriend?
Q. im just 3 weeks pregnant and its the one thing i want most in the world. im 33 and was beginning to fear it would be too late for me. my partner wants me to terminate, weve discussed children and ive always been under the impression it would happen, ...
A. 11 March 2010: you shouldnt do something you dont want to do. someone once told me when my partner tried to get me to terminate that if i have atleast one doubt about abortion then i shouldnt go through with it as i will resent my partner and il regret it for the ... (read in full...)
I need to know what she is doing but she acts like she can do whatever she wants!
Q. Ive been going out with this girl for 7 months now, weve been friends since high school and hung out with the same friends for the past 3 years, we started dating 7 months ago, our relationship is pretty strong because she wanted to be taken by a ...
A. 11 March 2010: Yourve only been dating for 7 months and although you have been cheated on in the past that shouldnt affect your relationship with your girlfriend.if you dont have trust for someone the relationship will never work and you dont have the right to ... (read in full...)
Already in a relationship, but beginning to become attracted to someone else
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for four years. Recently, I feel like we've been drifting apart, but we still love each other. We've had our ups and downs, but lately it feels like more downs than ups. I think I'm starting to become attracted to a m...
A. 11 March 2010: its perfectly normal to find other people attractive and have crushes whilst in a long term relationship. i was with my ex for four years and had the same problem as you but you seem to act on your feelings to someone else if your not receiving what ... (read in full...)
We rarely have sex anymore....
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and I love him immensely. When we started out, sex was great for the first 3 to 4 months - we had sex often and we were able to please one another. And then... it got less frequent. That's ok - he's got a ...
A. 11 March 2010: honesty is the best policy.when you first start dating you always have more sex and as the relationship gets more settled you seem to have less sex but if you not satisfied you need to tell him that you feel insecure in the relationship because you ... (read in full...)
My g/f's ex is threatening to kill us!
Q. Hi, I have this huge issue my girlfriends ex keep hassling her and me saying he wont leave us alone and threatening to kills us...........But this ex was also a friend we expect to get married one day..........me and my girl pls advice on how to...
A. 7 October 2009: go to the police about harassment change your numbers so he cant get in contact with you... (read in full...)
How do I end this affair and just be friends?
Q. I hav known this guy like forever, we kinda dated som years ago jus a short time, but we always remain really good friends, we lost contact for a while an met each other again, since then he was married only january dis year an has a 2yr old son, ...
A. 7 October 2009: if you just come out and say that you want to just be friends with him as you dont see a connection.tell him you feel bad for what you did to your partner and even though things are going wrong with him you either want to sort things out with him or ... (read in full...)
I look great now - is that the only reason he wants to be with me?
Q. Hello, I'd love to hear your opinions. I'm 37 and have been divorced 5 years with three great kids. Since my divorce my self esteem has been pretty low and I ended up putting on 3 stone in weight. Two years ago I became friends with a man 8 years ...
A. 7 October 2009: maybe it just took time for him to ask you out but looking better around someone could attract them im sure he doesnt just like you because you have lost the weight as he was talking to you a hell of a lot for friends before hand take things slow ... (read in full...)
Could a woman please translate what she's telling me here?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 9 months and have grown to love her alot. We are opposites in some ways ( I'm a yuppie. She's a hippie) but our core values are the same. We both adore animals. We both love cooking and baking. We both see ...
A. 7 October 2009: maybe she has problems or issues that she feels she cant talk to you about because you wont understand or maybe take it the wrong way or maybe think shes stupid weird and youd wanna break up with her.to be honest you need to sit down with her and ... (read in full...)
I think I'm depressed, and my doctor won't help me. Help!
Q. Hi, I'm a 20 year old female and I believe I'm suffering from depression. I'm constantly tired and just don't want to get out of bed. I have no energy to do anything anymore and I'm beginnin to really hate my job (think this is making matters ...
A. 7 October 2009: im 21 and iv suffered with depression.You know you have it when you have trouble sleeping at night,lack of enthusiasm/energy and you feel as if your in a dark hole and cant get out you feel like your life will never get better and that it is going ... (read in full...)
He's mad at me...should I make first contact or let him do it?
Q. When your guy is really mad at you .... Do you think the no contact thing is the best way to go? is it best to wait for him to call even when you were at fault? (and you know he is angry) Or do you think you should call and push for resolut...
A. 7 October 2009: if i was you id give him some breathing space to calm down and then call or text just to say your terribly sorry and would like to talk over the issues you have together to try and resolve them.Tell him when his ready to contact you yourl talk and ... (read in full...)
Why did she keep this secret from me?
Q. I'm confused. Why would someone got out of their way to not mention a relationship? I've known someone for almost 2 years and 65% of that time she was actually with someone. She went out of her way to keep it a secret because she would always say ...
A. 7 October 2009: maybe she didnt want to hurt your feelings as she might of known the way you felt for her or possibly she was keeping her options open due to not being happy in her relationship and if something started with you both then keeping it a secret would ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate for a baby - is this man a suitable father or should I look elswhere?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now - I am 34, my boyfriend is 39 - we are in love and happy. However I would love to get married and have a family but, although he is very loving towards me, he doesn't talk about the future. He ...
A. 7 October 2009: I understand your needs for a child however, your partner by the sounds of things is laid back and doesnt see a family as important as you do at this moment in time. He doesn't really seem commited as you say he was with an ex for 5 years and never ... (read in full...)
Am I a horrible daughter?
Q. My mother is insane. She has some serious problems and feels the need to take it out on everyone around her. She is cruel and won't listen to anything I say. She recently screamed in my face as we were driving because I told her some of my frien...
A. 4 September 2009: your not doing anything wrong at all my mother was the same the whole of my life until i got fed up and said to my boyfriend at the time "i dont no how but i will get out of here" then i found out i was pregnant and moved out and ever since my ... (read in full...)
It was my boyfriends idea to have a threesome but he flipped out when me and the other guy started having sex!
Q. My bf of 4 years has been asking me for a 3 sum for a long time, I agreed to have a ffm 3 sum if he would have a mmf 3 sum for me. Since we thought that if we gave in first the other would back out we opted for a group thing with another ...
A. 4 September 2009: he probably didnt expect it to happen like that maybe he didnt want you to have sex with the other guy at all maybe he wanted to have sex with you and for the other guy to just kiss or touch you or maybe he only opted into this because he wanted 2 ... (read in full...)
Can I repair my relationship with my step sister?
Q. I have massive feeling of love for my step sister. We didn't grow up together and she is alot older than me. I have recently admited to her that i have a crush on her. She doesn't really seem to mind, but i feel arkward around her and i am scared to ...
A. 4 September 2009: start looking at other ppl instead of your step sister. you need to start talking to her normally as you would and things have got more chance of getting back to normal the longer you leave it the harder it will be... (read in full...)
He found out I spoke to his friend and he hates me talking to other people, now he wont call me!
Q. He dont like me talking to anyone apart from him but i spoke with his friend he found it out. Now he is angry on me. He is not calling me now? What to do?...
A. 4 September 2009: you can talk to who you like your not something to be controlled if he wont call you dont call him and when you finally do get in contact with him explain you will not be controlled and you will speak to who you want and do what you want and if he ... (read in full...)
I want her back in my life. Its so sad to throw it away
Q. i need help. i have been married for 9 months now and my wife left me last week. we have been arguing for months about silly matters and managed to resolve them but recently things started to get worse. the past 4 weeks we have had breaks, slept at ...
A. 4 September 2009: explain to her that you dont want to end the marriage over things that you can try and sort out.maybe have a break for a little while and then act as if you were dating take her out and spoil her if shel let you dont give him... (read in full...)
I need reassurance that I'm NOT pregnant!
Q. Hi, i hope you can reassure me that i'm not pregnant because it really is the last thing i need right now. I had unprotected sex 3rd July, and i was getting ALOT of signs of pregnancy, even to what i thought was implantation bleeding (light ...
A. 4 September 2009: if you had a period then its quite unlikely that your not pregnant sometimes when you worry about this and are subconciously stressed you can miss a period or get your period late.if your still worried take a test if it is negative then you shouldnt ... (read in full...)
I want our relationship to go back to the way it was
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years and recently things between us are really confusing. when i call to his we jst sit and watch tv, or eat. we rarely talk and when we do its about nothing, jst basic conversation. when i try talk to him ...
A. 4 September 2009: show him your making the effort to look for a job. 6 years is a long time to be with someone and maybe his getting bored or the love is fizzling out or maybe his taking an interest in other women which could be why he isnt interested in sex dont ... (read in full...)
Will I be alone for a very long time?
Q. Hello Well i wrote about m previous experience on here about my first time experience in a brothel (first time ever) and what it taught me.... that i want a slow meaningful relationship with a girl (as i know for sure i dont want just sex as i kn...
A. 4 September 2009: you wont be lonely forever you just have to give it time get to know girls before asking them about their views on relationships or finding out whether they are interested.dont worry if they laugh about you going to the gym atleast your getting into ... (read in full...)
I think my teacher might be interested but if I screw things up I still have to have him for 1.5 years!
Q. ok, i´m 20 (people think i´m a bit older cause i look older and i´m very mature) i´m a good looking woman and i´m interested in a guy that is 35 and single (he is totally single so that´s not a issue here) and he gives class in 2 of my classes in ...
A. 4 September 2009: ok drop hints your interested also but dont tell too many people what you are doing incase it gets out and he hears about it because then itl be awkward just drop hints like eye contact smiling and slight flirting and maybe see what he does he might ... (read in full...)
Parent's marriage on the rocks and its breaking my heart!
Q. I have growing concerns over my family. My parents are going through a rough patch in their marriage. The problems seem to be mostly financial. We're encountering some money problems and their taking their toll, particularly on my mother. Mum is ...
A. 4 September 2009: either your parents will sort it out or they wont and theres nothing you could possibly do to sort that out you need to concentrate on your own life eventually it will all sort itself out... (read in full...)
Slip sliding away...
Q. i keep slipping out during sex or when g/f is on top she carnt really move up and down as out he pops despite her being tight.when we start im ok pushing into her but when i pull back thats when the problem starts I have just over 5 inches and my ...
A. 4 September 2009: try not coming out as much staying close to her body helps with this theres nothing wrong with you you just need to experiment... (read in full...)
Married & bored, wife will only do 2 things!
Q. im married. and my sex life is boring. am and my wife are young(under 25). and she doesnt want to try new things. i told her its boring time and time again. i say lets go to the sex store and look for something new. hey turn this was lets try this ...
A. 4 September 2009: if you keep telling her the sex is boring its going to give her no confidence to try other things.you need to sit down and talk to her about why she wont try new things.take her out, spoil her treat her as if you were just getting together and dont ... (read in full...)
B/f & I fight all the time, it becomes physical
Q. My boyfriend and I always had a fight because of misunderstandings. We used to yell and speak out harsh words and insults to each other until now. Our relationship stayed long for one year and nine months now, but we still fight ang it seems like ...
A. 4 September 2009: its not good being in a physical relationship and although you feel like you need one and another your better off apart until you can sort your problems out separately or get some councilling... (read in full...)
How can I show my daughter that her fiance is an ass?
Q. My daughter is 23 and has been dating "Jason" 25, since high school.I always looked at him as a good kid,a little inmature but figured he would grow up to be a respectful guy. Three weeks ago my daughter came home in tears saying that she she found ...
A. 4 September 2009: I would let her make her own mistakes and just be there for her as he will obviously will hurt her, once a cheat always a cheat but as much as you try to convince her she deserves better the more shel try to prove you wrong about him and stay with ... (read in full...)
Why was my ex so nasty to me?
Q. I am so fed up at the minute and can't understand why my ex is being so nasty to me. We recently split up after an arguement and never spoke about it afterwards. About two weeks before we split up someone had left a voice mail on my phone telling me ...
A. 4 September 2009: I think he probably did play away and didnt want you to know which is why he became defensive.id try and move on with your life if i was you and not talk to him... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents his real age?
Q. Hey everyone, well this is a straight forward question. My bf and i are in love, there's no other way of saying it. Though we have not yet met each others parents. But I have told my mum and dad that he is 16 but he's really 19. I am nearly 1...
A. 4 September 2009: I'd wait until your 16 before telling you parents however if you cant hide it I'dd tell your mother that your not sleeping together and you lied to her about his age she'll be angry but she should be able to understand that your being grown up about ... (read in full...)
How can I stop picking fights and holding grudges against him?
Q. this is a very long story n i dont mean to bore anyone so i guess the shortest way of saying it is this: i met a guy 4 years ago, he was a friend from the beginning and the more we hung out the more friends we became, but for some reason i felt th...
A. 4 September 2009: I think you still have something for him but you dont want him to know that, and when you see him with other girls you dont like it, its almost like "i dont want him but i dont want anyone else to have him" which most girls go through so they ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to approach him and why is he behaving like this?
Q. Hey everyone. I really like this guy I’ve been speaking to on the internet for a while. We speak every day online and get on well. I see him a lot more now coz we go to the same college. He’s a really shy guy and he’s told me that he has trouble w...
A. 4 September 2009: He probably really likes you too but is just painfully shy towards girls and he probably ignores you because he is scared that if he talks to you yourl think his a weirdo or that it might be uncomfortable. Maybe you should tell him that he should ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my feelings for him?
Q. Okay, there's this boy at my school that at a time I REALLY liked. I gave him a rose for valentine's day and a candy cane for christmas. Of course i signed both anonymous, due to the chicken that I am. Everyone told me he found out who it was ...
A. 4 September 2009: You need to get over the embarassment that he knows it was you. unfortunately i dont think he feels the same way you do, otherwise he would have asked you out or came and spoke to you. its just a crush and youll get over it in time. theres nothing ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's interested? If so tips please?!
Q. I'm currently a senior student at school and today I've been noticing glances from this cute guy in my class. About 6 times actually in a 30 min period. He sometime kept looking at me but sometimes quickly looked away. When I laugh he would look at ...
A. 4 September 2009: dont try so much to acknowledge signs i mean they could be nothing at the end of the day if he likes you he'll come talk to you if not then nothing will happen.if you like him yourself id say go talk to him see if you can get to know him, he might ... (read in full...)
Should I be greatful that she cut ties with me?
Q. I am 35 year old married man with kids. I had a really close friendship with a woman with whom I worked for about 5 years and she recently left the company. Our relationship was very intense in that it even got to the point in the last 6 months ...
A. 4 September 2009: Its probably a blessing in disguise that she has cut contact i mean shes ina relationship your in a relationship and no matter how much you felt for eachother it was just lust and you could have hurt alot of people like your family friends maybe. ... (read in full...)
I feel used all the time, how can I fix this?
Q. I am dating a man whom i love. He says he feels the same way for me. We have been dating for 3 months now. He at first acted like i was the only woman on earth for him. He treated me so nice, and all that. Now as i know him, his true colors are ...
A. 4 September 2009: You cant really fix it now his got used to treating you this way and your probably used to being treated like this however much you dont like it. He'll never change unless he wants to maybe you should really think about whether or not the ... (read in full...)
He wants to meet for sex, should I?
Q. I'm not sure what I am doing, I keep blowing hot and cold with this guy who I really like. We have known each other for a few years, never dated but we used to work together, we have kissed a few times, he wanted more but I said not at work but ...
A. 4 September 2009: dont tell him that you lack confidence it will just put him off! to be honest do you just want no strings sex with him i mean you said you really like him why not get into a relationship. if your worried just tell the guy that your not up for sex ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me, should I wait for him?
Q. I'm really at a loss right now. My bf has broken up with me, but I'm not sure if it'll be permanent. It all started when we agreed to get an apartment together, so I picked up a second job to pay for school and get ready for the apartment. ...
A. 4 September 2009: he could have said it in the heat of the moment because he was angry but i would have thought if hed had regretted it he would have contacted you by now however he probably doesnt want to be a hypicrit by contacting you maybe.or in the worst case he ... (read in full...)
We got caught on camera having sex! What should I do now?
Q. omg im so embarressed,my grandparents own this truck stop and i kinda forgot that we had eight cameras that show the whole yard well me and boyfeiend didnt want to get caught so we went under the truck and had sex well now everyone one who works at ...
A. 1 September 2009: i can understand your boyfriends concerns and can imagine how embarassing it must be for you but what has happened has happened and there is nothing you can do about it in time itl blow over... (read in full...)
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