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8 June 2008: I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
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Q. I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
A. 5 July 2008: thank you to everyone, im glade you all liked it. its never easy to watch our freinds get hurt but it can be even harder to tell them that there in a hurtful relationship.... (read in full...)
How do I get him to focus on ME and my lips not just my boobs?
Q. hey guys, I have a boy problem. There is this guy that I have liked for almost 5 years on and off and we have a lot of history. He was my first kiss. He and I have been there for each other growing up as our parents got divorced and we ...
A. 18 June 2008: well i think that the first thing you should do is get a relationship started, if he doesnt want to be in a relationship with you then he deffinatly doesnt deserve to touch your boobs. but if your going to ask him out, then do make sure you do it on ... (read in full...)
Risks that come with often masturbating?
Q. hello i have heard that when you masturbate a lot and you do it more than once a day your penis could bleed and hurt when you urinate. Is this true? And is there anything close to that which could happen?...
A. 15 June 2008: well you wont piss blood from masturbating but if you do it often and are kinda rough on "yourself" then it is possible to tear the skin a little bit which will make hard to masterbate for a couple of days until it heals up, unless of course your ... (read in full...)
I feel ready to get married but she doesn't... any advice?
Q. ok well im not sure why im writeing this because i dont really think anyone can help, mabey im just looking for someone to talk to me about it. i asked my girlfriend to marry me back in december and she said yes so now were engaged. well you see the ...
A. 15 June 2008: (talking calmly and pleasently)well rhythmandblues2 i did state that i think her fears make sence, i dont blame her for feeling the way she feels and she dousnt blame me for feeling the way i feel. my fience would agree with you more, while i would ... (read in full...)
My best friend just moved and I miss her... will I get over it soon?
Q. well i have a freind who is like my best freind in the whole world but something bad just happend my freind moved away going to a new school. she is gone now :( and i will probably never meet her again all i ahve to member her is the yearbook i h...
A. 14 June 2008: it will be a long time befor you stop missing her, even years down the road you will see something that reminds you of her and you will miss her. i know it sucks but you cant really help how you feel. with time it will get easier and eventually it ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 14 June 2008: oh geeez, i just read all of that. do you have any idea how long that took. especially considering i had to take bathroom breaks so i didnt wet myself. thats some good stuff.... well not all of it but most of it. well actually it was all of it but ... (read in full...)
I will be staying a week with my boyfriend and want to make love for the first time!
Q. On the 20th I'm due to go down south to see my boyfriend for the week. His parents will be away for the week too. So we'll be home alone. Now my dad thinks that we'll be doing something and keeps asking if he should get me some protection, just...
A. 14 June 2008: well since your going over to his house i would hope that he has made some planes to make it romantic. if you dont think he has anything planned you still have time to make a suggestion to him befor you go there. now i wish you two the best but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not talk about our relationship!
Q. Why do guys have a hard time expressing themselves? Every time I would ask my bf where this relationship is going or what he thinks of it, he says, "it is what it is". What does that mean? He shows a lot of affection towards me and treats me very ...
A. 14 June 2008: well men have a hard time expressing themselves because of how life treats us. we have to be macho, which means were not supposed to have emotion. all our lives we are taught this. as children we cry and our dad tells us "stop crying, men dont cry". ... (read in full...)
I think we could work but he doesn't agree! What should I do?
Q. Here goes... I love to give advice I'm really good at it but only with other peoples problems! ... My problem - I started meeting a guy about 4 months ago and we started seing each other but argued so called it a day but then started seeing e...
A. 14 June 2008: why dose he have to ask you? i think you should tell him how you feel and then ask him out, and tell him you wont take no for an answer. ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to focus on ME and my lips not just my boobs?
Q. hey guys, I have a boy problem. There is this guy that I have liked for almost 5 years on and off and we have a lot of history. He was my first kiss. He and I have been there for each other growing up as our parents got divorced and we ...
A. 14 June 2008: so dose that mean you two arnt going out yet... if thats true then you should find out if he wants to go out, also if thats true he shouldnt be trying to grabe your boobs yet. i dint fondle my girlfriends boobs until we were going out for like 6 ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting this way?
Q. Last weekend I was with my friend. He is male we have been friends for a year now. We went in a relationship then he went back to his ex then broke up with her and we waited for 2 months then got together again and have spent time together, but ...
A. 14 June 2008: tell him your haveing a hard time with this relationship, and you dont feel wanted so your leaveing unless he can give you a reason to stay. based on what he has to say, you can judge for yourself whether or not you should continue in this ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 years old and I'm still single!
Q. Hi, I've been single my whole life and I what out. My friends and family say that I'm beautiful and that guys are just nervous. If thats the cause then why do guys go out with girls that are prettier than me? ...
A. 14 June 2008: DocDell not all guys are dogs.
now on to the question, i understand how you feel. when no one asks you out and see other people in relationships it makes you feel unwanted and lonely. many of us just want to feel loved or at least wanted. and when... (read in full...)
What Does taking things Slow really mean???
Q. my bf and I were broke up for almost a month now, but we have been hanging out the past few days, and chatting..We were together for 3.5 years, and broke up because of communication basically. Anyway we had a lot of fights, and we both know we need ...
A. 14 June 2008: he dousnt want to rush things out of fear that the 2 of you will end up exactly where you left off. thats what takeing it slow means. lets say you quickly put together a doll house, well because you didnt take you time and check for mistakes that ... (read in full...)
Am I just being pathetic to be jealous when he says 'we' in referance to his ex?
Q. Is it wrong to feel annoyed if your boyfriend of 10 months (serious relationship, living together) says things like "us" and "we" regarding his ex wife. Let me explain. He left his ex-wife over 11 years ago. They have a boy aged 12. He needs a l...
A. 13 June 2008: he only says we and us because hes talking to you about her. i mean you cant expect him to say "me and my ex" ever time. it is a "we" and an "us" because it is "there" son. i think you might just feel better if you had a child with him, but im not ... (read in full...)
Have I made a mistake?
Q. A guy and I work at the same company different departments. Ok, he asked me out 2 years ago, I couldn't accept. So, we have been speaking in the hallways and I finally asked him out Monday and he said that if he wasn't working 2 jobs and going to ...
A. 13 June 2008: geez this is like the 3rd time iv completly agreed with smiles today, how am i supposed to be helpful if you give the good answers first lol.... (read in full...)
He wants to take my virginty during our outing with his parents!
Q. ok, so me and my boyfriend are going to a monster truck show and he wants to have sex during our outing (6:00 PM- about 1:00 AM) He says that he loves me and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I just feel like losing my virginity ...
A. 13 June 2008: how long have you been going out? in my opinion, couples should wait at least 6 mounths befor there first time. also in my opinion, anything less then 17 is too early to be haveing sex. as a test i think you should tell him, that you dont want to ... (read in full...)
How do I shake this grabby guy?
Q. umm so this guy asked me out and i sad no right so then he texts me and says ok but can we kiss a few times at this b-day party and i didnt say anything all i knew is that i did not like him and i knew that he was a creep so at the b-day party ...
A. 13 June 2008: i completly agree with tremor. when someone dose somethingyou dont want them to, that harrasment. if you chose to, you could get him into some pretty big trouble.... (read in full...)
How can I reconcile things with her when I come back home?
Q. Hi, I met this girl just over a month ago, I was at a friends party and we chatted a little and she gave me her number. We had a few dates and after about 6-7 dates became an "item". After about another week she broke it off because "She doesn't ...
A. 13 June 2008: right, its possible that her feelings will have changed by october. on the other hand though you will be out of exam sesion. so i would say that you should see where she stands in october, and if she dousnt want you, then move on.... (read in full...)
I'm stuck in the middle of a love triangle!
Q. Basically last year me and girl x had a bit of a thing going on throughout summer. for some reason though it went awry and we didnt speak for a while and hated each other. Then around christmas we sort of rekindled again. its the sort of friends ...
A. 13 June 2008: i completly agree with smiles, but make sure you try and keep girl x as a friend, dont cut her loose unless she really interfers with your relationship.... (read in full...)
Any advice on what we can chat about?
Q. Well I've been talking to this guy since the middle of March and we talk everyday..however lately there has been a lot of silence on the phone its like me and him don't know what to talk about anymore.I was wondering if people could suggest things ...
A. 13 June 2008: i agree with tremor. me and my fience have been haveing the same problem. i think about all the stuff we used to talk about... and then i realised that it was all odd stuff. that if people would have heard us, they would have thought we were nuts. ... (read in full...)
There is a big problem with his ex...what should I do?
Q. Well My boyfriend and I have been getting on great, there was a bit of a rocky start on my behalf due to my relationship before, but thts all finished! Now four months down the lines things have been sed tht i find a bit hurtful. My partner w...
A. 13 June 2008: youv only been dateing for a couple of mounths, these things take time. if things go well he will love you even more then he loved her. because he loved her there will always be a peice of her that is engraved on his heart but that dousnt mean that ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend constantly talks to her ex!!! What should I do...?
Q. My girlfriend is constantly talking to her ex. I mean all the time. We had an argument about it and it seems she would let it get to the point where we break up rather than stop talking to him. She is going somewhere with him and his mates soon and ...
A. 13 June 2008: youv been going out for three years, ok so did she just start hanging out with him all the time or has this been going on for the whole three years. because if it just started then thats something to worry about but if they have always hung out like ... (read in full...)
We haven't spoken in a week!! Does he see me as being too 'easy'???
Q. i feel that i am in love with this guy. but the thing is, the first time we ever met we slept together. he said to me that he likes me and that i would make a great gf. we have been talking on msn, and by texts, but in the last week we haven't ...
A. 13 June 2008: its possible. if hes just another scum bag then he probably feels that he got what he wanted and moved on. if thats the case you should move on too and be more carefull next time. however it is possible something else is going on. i once had a ... (read in full...)
I want to say to all you "guru's" well done!!
Q. Okay this is not a question! I am very new on the site and have been reading following some of the questions and answers. I want to say to all you "guru's" well done, I do enjoy reading your answers and comments, some I agree with, some I don't...
A. 12 June 2008: yay someone apprieciates me! lol.
im pretty new to this site as well, i think i started like june 1st or something. but i already feel like iv helped people and iv noticed that helping people on here has made me feel better about the way my rela... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to marry my fiancee and keep things as they are with my boyfriend?
Q. I am not sure what i am doing anymore. I am due to get married very soon, but although i love him in a way, i am having an affair with another man. To make it all worse, it has been going on on and off for 8 years, the other man is married, and ...
A. 12 June 2008: cheating is wrong. your fience isnt seeing another women, so you shouldnt be seeing another man. if you want to marry him then leave your lover and get married but dont hurt your fience if you dont love him. besides if you dont want your fience ... (read in full...)
Betrayal: An Emo Girl Heartbreak , How Should I Seek Closure?
Q. I just had a breakup with my boyfriend, he did some things that were hurtful, that I will forgive then forget who he is. He let two of his friends talk about me , his female friend said that I was fat, and one of his boys said that I was ugly. He's ...
A. 12 June 2008: how long wereyou together? the longer you were together the harder it will be to get over him. iv learned that the easiest why for people to cover up feelings of love is with hate, im not saying this is a good thing but it happens. considering the ... (read in full...)
I think my bf cheated on me, we have split up but I cant move on!!
Q. Hello everyone. Im sorry if this is so long, but I need help and some advice. Ok so i split up with my guy over 3 months ago ( we were together for 2 years) and I know it needed to happen and I dont plan on getting back with him again, but theres s...
A. 12 June 2008: sounds to me like hes a playboy, he wants to be surrounded by women and not tied down to just one. i could be wrong but thats what it sounds like to me.... (read in full...)
Can anyone advise on how to talk to my mother without her moans or attacks?
Q. My mum and dad are really controlling, well mostly my mum. I'm 19 years old and I have to be home at half past 10 every night apart from weekends. She says I cant be trusted and she thought I was going "off the rails" when I started seeing m...
A. 12 June 2008: i tink it would be a very good idea for you to move out. i would also suggest that you move out while no ones home, to avoid any trouble.
now on to your question, i think you should sit them down and tell them you have somethings on your mind tha... (read in full...)
I am married and started an affair with a married man... I was booking a room for us and he said he had to think about it!! Is he not up for it!?
Q. I have been married for ten years, not always happily although things are ok at the moment. I have recently started an affair a married man. We have only met twice and all we have done is kiss. I feel like I have really fell for this guy after just ...
A. 12 June 2008: cheating isnt right, people get really hurt. if you dont want your husband anymore then get a divorce. and if he dousnt want his wife anymore then he should do the same. if you continue with this, then eventually your husband will find out, and you ... (read in full...)
I really like him, but, will he continue to be a flirt if I keep giving him more chances although he knows he is hurting me bad?
Q. I really like my boyfriend, and as far as i know he really likes me. We waited about two years before we could start going of for certain reasons. We have been going out 3 months. I don't get to see him very often because of both of us have busy ...
A. 12 June 2008: you need to tell him that if he keeps flirting with other girl while hes in this relationship then its just not going to work. if he continues to flirt as bad as he has been then you should look for someone else. you dont want someone who will hurt ... (read in full...)
How can I ask my husband for sex?
Q. Hi I feel too shy though I need sex. How can I ask my husband for sex? ...
A. 10 June 2008: i agree with rcn, sex is something that just happens, like a kiss. not very many people ask for a kiss, they just go for it and hope for the best.... (read in full...)
Three's a crowd
Q. I have been 'shacking up' with my boyfriend for the past 6 months and for the most part things have been going well. Except one major thing. He loves to have his friends over, and it has gotten worse since they have all now recently graduated. ...
A. 10 June 2008: yeah thats not good at all, if hes not willing to talk with you about the problems your haveing then i would say its time to look for a new guy, because your right, thats not the way relationships work. either he talks with you or you should get ... (read in full...)
I was horrible to a relative when I was young, how can I convince him I'm much nicer?
Q. When i was very young i wasn't so nice to one of my family members because i was afraid of him. Since i'm older i am actually a kinder person. Now i've been really nice to him, but he is not being nice to me.I don't know why? He's been giving me ...
A. 10 June 2008: you already know why hes not being nice to you, its because you were mean to him in the past. even if you say that youv changed and your not going to be mean to him anymore he propbably wont believe you and will think your trying to trick him, it ... (read in full...)
Please love me
Q. I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
A. 10 June 2008: i was hopeing more people were going to comment on my article befor i said my thanks, but your the only one to comment so far and its been a couple of days. so thank you for reading it LJ001. im glade to see that someone liked it.... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity. I'm ready...
Q. I am a 16 year old teen who lives in London, I am actually from India and I am not used to talk to girls that much I am finding hard to talk to a girl, but I really want to have sex with a girl, I watch too much porn and ready for everything. I ...
A. 10 June 2008: well theres part of your problem, you sound like you only want a girl for sex. there is a lot more to life then sex my friend. and i dont think you should ever have sex with someone that your not in love with, especally when its your first time. ... (read in full...)
Three's a crowd
Q. I have been 'shacking up' with my boyfriend for the past 6 months and for the most part things have been going well. Except one major thing. He loves to have his friends over, and it has gotten worse since they have all now recently graduated. ...
A. 10 June 2008: well first of all i think it would be important for you to set a day of the week for just you two. tell your man that you want need one day with him with no interuptions. which should be a day that you both dont have to work. believe me a date night ... (read in full...)
I'm confused by this break up, all he said is he doesn't deserve me and that I can do better!
Q. I need advice please, i am a 27 yr old female and have just broken up with my boyfriend of 3 years a week ago. We were living together for 2 years. I happilly gave up my job and former life to make a life with him. I am at a job i enjoy, i passed ...
A. 10 June 2008: right, more then likely theres a bigger reason for him leaving then that you are too good for him, but you do have the right to know what that reason is. so i think it would be a good idea for you to talk to him on this subject. find out the truth. ... (read in full...)
Should we wait until we're teens?
Q. There's this really cute girl at my violin class (I'm home schooled so i don't see many girls) and I'm 12 and she is 10. My friend Jason who is 30 (met online) says since she is still basically a child I should wait a few years. Do you think i ...
A. 10 June 2008: i think hes just asking if he should wait to start dateing until hes in his teen. well once again i think your a good age to have a girlfriend, besides its good for yourself esteem. i didnt have my first girlfriend until i was.... well actualy now ... (read in full...)
Is his mom being selfish or am I?
Q. now i have a problem i come on this site to help other people and i seem to have found myself in a horrible situation ever since i started dating my current boyfriend we have been together for a year things have just been messed in my opi...
A. 10 June 2008: i think his family just needs more time. if things work out then they will see that your not going anywhere so then they will become more excepting of you. i had the same problem with my feiances family, they didnt like me much, and some of them ... (read in full...)
Is his mom being selfish or am I?
Q. now i have a problem i come on this site to help other people and i seem to have found myself in a horrible situation ever since i started dating my current boyfriend we have been together for a year things have just been messed in my opi...
A. 10 June 2008: he sees you 5 out of 7 days, if not more right? your getting the majority of his attention so you are being a little selfish. im sure you understand though that theres no avoiding a death in the family, he dousnt even have a choice in the matter. ... (read in full...)
I want to ask a girl out again, but I'm not sure how long I should wait!?!?
Q. hello, since me and my g/f broke up a few weeks ago, the other day me and another girl i met started talkin to each other. i asked her if she would let me take her out on a date one nite and she well no im really not lookin to go on dates rite now, ...
A. 10 June 2008: i met a girl once, and we sorta became friends. after i knew her for about 2 mounths i asked her out and she said no but kinda seemed like she wanted to, so almost everyday i at least told her she looked nice. and exactly one mounth after i asked ... (read in full...)
She's not answering me -- Help!!
Q. my g/f broke up with me 3 weeks ago. we still talk every day mainly through text mess. she always ans. my text back but lately she doesnt always ans back. she does have a 2nd job that causes her to work late, but she starts a new one next week at ...
A. 10 June 2008: i still sorta stick with my first answer but im betting that it would be too much trouble for you to get her back. like its been proven, she dousnt want to get back together yet, which means it would probably be awhile befor she would take you back. ... (read in full...)
Is he only with me because I'm curvey? I'm insecure about his porn watching, should I give him a chance?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over three years and throughout the relationship I've made it clear that I'm a bit insecure about my body and that if I found out he'd been looking at other women it would crush my confidence. I rece...
A. 10 June 2008: i agree with talbott, hes with you because he loves you. and porn is just there for us to look at when our significant other is not around. theres a good chance that if your boyfriend had naked pictures of you then he wouldnt need porn. thats what i ... (read in full...)
She's not answering me -- Help!!
Q. my g/f broke up with me 3 weeks ago. we still talk every day mainly through text mess. she always ans. my text back but lately she doesnt always ans back. she does have a 2nd job that causes her to work late, but she starts a new one next week at ...
A. 8 June 2008: it swounds like she wants to give it another try but she dousnt want to yet, and she dousnt want to talk about it. she just wants to go out and have fun with you. why did she break up with you in the first place? if you dont know, then dont ask her, ... (read in full...)
Should we wait until we're teens?
Q. There's this really cute girl at my violin class (I'm home schooled so i don't see many girls) and I'm 12 and she is 10. My friend Jason who is 30 (met online) says since she is still basically a child I should wait a few years. Do you think i ...
A. 8 June 2008: i think she might be a little young but your a good age to have a girlfriend, so if shes the one you want then i guess theres no reason to wait till shes older.... (read in full...)
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