A
female
age
51-59,
*inavonj
writes:A guy and I work at the same company different departments. Ok, he asked me out 2 years ago, I couldn't accept. So, we have been speaking in the hallways and I finally asked him out Monday and he said that if he wasn't working 2 jobs and going to nursing school, he would like to go.Ok, I have let this guy know that I am interested, he has my number, home, cell, work and I have told him that it is ok to call me. I told him to let me know when he is available. Well, I am tired of waiting and I told him that I was going to back off. He had the nerve to look hurt.I really like the guy. I want to explain. Should I leave it alone? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Ginavonj +, writes (17 June 2008):
Ginavonj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo Deejuliet,
So far he has not blown me off or ignored me. I appreciate you honest response. Thank you.
A
female
reader, deejuliet +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Ok, that makes a lot more sence. From your post it looked like you only waited 4 days, not a month. I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt and say it is just cause he is so busy. After all, working 2 jobs and going to school (and at least one of those jobs doesnt give you any 'free time' cause it is all patient contact like you said) would take up a considerable amount of time. If you have been talking occasionally, once a week or so and he maintains that he is interested, but too busy, I would cut him some slack. If it just that you upset that a date hasnt happened yet, I would say give it a bit more time. If he is ignoring you, not calling at all and blowing you off when he sees you, then it is time to forget the guy.
...............................
A
female
reader, Ginavonj +, writes (13 June 2008):
Ginavonj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionResponse to deejuliet,
This has been going on for a month now. I call him, no return call. He says he will call and he doesn't call. I understand that he is busy, but, I feel like he is leaving me hanging. When he does call, it will be once a week. He tells me to call him, I have, but, he has lots of patient contact and I don't, so its better for him to call me, that way, I won't interrupt him taking care of a patient.
...............................
A
female
reader, deejuliet +, writes (13 June 2008):
Did I miss something here? You asked him out on Monday and gave him your phone numbers and told him to call and now 4 days later you are tired of waiting? You really didnt give him much of a chance did you?
...............................
A
male
reader, jay12toes +, writes (13 June 2008):
 geez this is like the 3rd time iv completly agreed with smiles today, how am i supposed to be helpful if you give the good answers first lol.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Well you have given him the opportunity and left the door open for a future date when it suits him; now leave him alone; the next move must come from him; stay friendly but do not mak any other gestures or moves.
He must make the next move;
If you are tired of waiting, move on!
...............................
|
