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No replies yet... 1 January 2009: Happy Newyear everyone. and so a new year begins, take a moment and reflect on what you have done this past year. now think about your plans to do this year. we have hit the point thats almost like starting over. this is a time when you can take a ...
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8 June 2008: I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
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He says I ruined his New Year and now I feel so guilty and don't know how to make it up.
Q. I've been seeing this guy for 2 months and after a month of being together he asked me to spend New Year with him. The plan was to get ready together, go to his best friend's gathering (there were about 6 of his best friends there) then go to a ...
A. 1 January 2009: well thats easy, ask him what he wants, and then when he tells, if your ok with it, then take it one step further then what he asked for.... (read in full...)
I always get panic attacks because I have the constant fear that he will leave me.
Q. Ok well. My boyfriend and I have been Dating for almost half a year. The way we met should be explained. (it'll proly help with providing answers to the question.) To start we met when i was a freshman and he was a junior. I hated him from t...
A. 1 January 2009: well of course your afraid, the man has already cheated on you. the only reason your still in this relationship is because you want to believe he has changed. so if your not willing to talk to him about it then you have two options, either you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend's girlfriend and don't know what to do.
Q. I am in love with my best friends girlfriend and don't know what to do. They have been dating for 4 months. I want to confront her but it may get round and affect my friendship with my best friend what should I do?...
A. 1 January 2009: leave it alone, shes taken and its by your best friend, thats two no's right there. even if you got her to leave him for you, you would never be able to trust her, because she could always leave you for someone else. so just look for someone else.... (read in full...)
My guy friend is so overprotective of me! What is up with him?
Q. I have a guy friend whos really protective of me, and he always tells me not to hang out with certain guys or if I mention a guy he doesn't like he always calls the guy an idiot. I'm kind of getting tired of it, he doesn't even want me to like his ...
A. 1 January 2009: you are his friend so he dousnt want you to get hurt, and if he knows a guy is no good then he adviously wouldnt want you around him. not only that but if its a guy he dousnt like and you started going out with him thenit would make it harder for ... (read in full...)
How long do you have to pray to find God?
Q. What's the longest time somebody has prayed to find God? What if someone gave up 3 seconds before God was to answer his prayers? Would he be a fool?...
A. 30 December 2008: when it comes to god you have to be patient, it kinda reminds me of that joke. a man says to god, "lord to you how long is a 100 years", the lord replies "about a secound." then the man asks "lord to you how much is a million dollers" the lord ... (read in full...)
Arranged marriage
Q. Cut a long story short, i had arranged marriage, i agreed to it, i'm happy, etc..... n i've gotten to know my partner betta he'z great i've fallen 4 him etc.. etc.... Love him 2 bits but i'm not ready for sex yet, yes i havent done it yet, and just ...
A. 29 December 2008: well the first thing you should is find the right time and kiss him, if you love him then give him a kiss that shows you love him. just stay with kissing for awhile and then when you feel more ready, take off some of your clothes, not all of them, ... (read in full...)
We love each other but she wants a break! What can I do?
Q. I have been seen this girl (I am white she is nigerian), for a year now and we grew to love each other, I gave her everything and we joked together and the sex was amazing. I live with my parent at 29 (i know it sux but property in ireland is ve...
A. 29 December 2008: oh thats not good at all. you need to tell her that you know shes the one for you and the idea of her with another guy is breaking you up inside. that you can wait for her to be sure if your the right one, tell her that you love her and that you ... (read in full...)
What's my sexual orientation? Am I gay?
Q. ok, so since last year i met this chick who is like around her 20s and we 've been talking on msn ever since. but a few months when i first met her, i noticed tat i wait for her to come online and when she does, sometimes she doesnt talk to me so i ...
A. 29 December 2008: i wouldnt say your gay, maybe bisexual, or maybe just bi curious. if youv never felt this way with any other wemon, then it could be that you are just attracted to who she is, which means it wouldnt matter whether she was a man or a women you would ... (read in full...)
Can we ever be equal?
Q. Can we ever be equal? in the beginning of our relationship me and my boyfriend had an argument and he said we were over because i was having a few drinks with my ex and our mayte, just as friends, my mayte went home because she lived around t...
A. 29 December 2008: you both ahve put yourselves in a very bad situation, one that cannot be easily fixed. because you both cheated then it will be difficult for either of you to trust each other. in my opinion you would be better off letting him go, but i understand ... (read in full...)
She is so shy so how can I tell if she likes me?
Q. Hello, ok I'll explain my situation, there's this girl I know, she's really cute and well she's fun to talk to, and I don't know how to tell if she likes me because, she's painfully shy, the only guy I KNOW she thinks is cute is Edward Mccullen. ...
A. 29 December 2008: you could ask. i know thats a little easier said then done though, but it is the easiest way to tell. i would suggest you ask her and if she says no, you could alway pretend you were jokeing. but only pretend you were jokeing if it was a strong no. ... (read in full...)
One boy always on my mind...
Q. I fancy this boy and I think he fancies me and I am meeting him on Saturday at a football game. I really want to kiss him, shall I ask him if he will kiss me or just wait? Please help anyone please x...
A. 29 December 2008: the two of you should start dateing befor you start kissing. so at the game ask him to be your boyfriend, then after that you can start decideing where you want your first kiss to be.... (read in full...)
My 17 year old boyfriend wants to have sex...I'm afraid!
Q. hi,i'm 14 years old and my boyfriend is 17 he's always asking me if we could have sex but i'm afraid!! should i or not at this age?...
A. 28 December 2008: you only lose your virginity once, do you really want him to be the one? and do you really want to lose it so soon? im 21 years old and still a virgin and so is my fience. theres nothing wrong with waiting.... (read in full...)
Finding inner peace without God..advise please!
Q. It is a spiritual question, and I hope I can get some opinion. I'm not a religious person on this point, but I wish to reach out for some spiritual answers and help. It is difficult ,as I can't pray to a God I don;t believe in on this point. I ...
A. 28 December 2008: we have inner peace because we believe we dont have to worry because a higher power will take care of us, inner peace can often come from feeling safe and sucure with your life. so if you can not look to a higher power then you need to look to ... (read in full...)
Sleeping with the boss
Q. hi everyone, i want your opinion in this matter. i work in a small firm and just lately i got into an affair with my boss, she's a really nice girl. i started to hear multi reviews about this realtionship, some say that i might lose my jop if any...
A. 28 December 2008: well first of all, its not a good idea to work with someone your in a relationship with. but as for your question both are probably right. being in a relationship with your boss could get you promoted faster but if things go bad in the relationship ... (read in full...)
Does it seem to you like he's cheating? Opinions please!
Q. Hi I'm 22 nearly 23. I'm a mother of 2 and third one is on the way. My fiancee is nearly 30 and I think my husbund is cheating on me. I'm 7 months pregnant and he hasn't touched me since he found out bascially. He goes out till late, not callin...
A. 28 December 2008: you need to calmly sit him down and ask him what you need to know. Dose he still love you? dose he still find you attractive? is he really going out for drinks at work? you need to find out these answers from him and then you need to tell him how ... (read in full...)
Friends don't like my guy
Q. This isn't an omg question maybe not even a question but i really need some advice. I have an incredible boyfriend. He's sweet,nice,and he cares so much about me. We've been dating for 3 months. Don't worry it's not a sex question haha. It's just i ...
A. 27 December 2008: so is there only reason for not likeing him is because hes not the best looking? if theres something that they dont like about the way he treats you or the way he treats them then you should hear them out but if there dislike for him is only based ... (read in full...)
Should I just try and forget these feelings I am having??
Q. I am 24 yrs old and married since 5 yrs quite young and 10yrs with my hubby ,i dont have any kids. We were in love since i was at school ,our married life is very nice its just hubby works a lot so do i and we don't have enought time together but ...
A. 5 July 2008: these feelings your haveing will only hurt your relationship so it would be best to avoid them. whens the last time you and your husband went on a date? i believe that its very important to have a date night at least every 2 weeks. me and my fience ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 5 July 2008: wow thats awsome. im so proud to have been a part of this. i know this site has helped me and allowed me to help others, thats what makes it so great.... (read in full...)
Please love me
Q. I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
A. 5 July 2008: thank you to everyone, im glade you all liked it. its never easy to watch our freinds get hurt but it can be even harder to tell them that there in a hurtful relationship.... (read in full...)
I have NO facial hair! Is that a turn off to the girls??
Q. Ok, I'm 16 years old, and basically my problem is that I currently have no facial hair!... I know i was a little behind my mates when it came to pubity, but now I'm pretty much the same as them; I have a reasonable amount of pubic hair,...
A. 28 June 2008: i wish i didnt have facial hair, my job requires me to shave and my girl says that the hairs poke her when i kiss her so she dousnt like it. i guess it depends on the girl but what i know for sure is i havent found a girl yet who thinks my hairy ... (read in full...)
I've started feeling really paranoid about him checking out 'XXX' sites
Q. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19 and i just needed some advice. Is it ok if he browses for girls to check out on sites such as myspace? And he also goes on a site where people put up sexy videos and pics. I have a feeling he gets off to them. I dont...
A. 24 June 2008: i dont think thers anything wrong with him looking up porn but if he is going on myspace and specificaly looking for hot girls then that is a problem because he actually has the ability to talk to these girls. with porn he has no way of talking to ... (read in full...)
I feel like there are three people in the relationship and it's making me insecure!
Q. Dear Cupid I have been dating the most amazing guy for 6 months. He is wonderful kind, and we are madly in love. However during my previous relasionships ex boyfriends were unfaithful to me on more than one occation. I've come to terms with the p...
A. 24 June 2008: i think you just need to relaxe. if he wanted to be with her then he would be with her but hes not, hes with you. there is often a big differance between frinds and girlfriends, now by this i dont mean to say that men arnt friends with there ... (read in full...)
My love forever...
Q. Well people. Here's my story. I'm 16 years old and I met my love nearly a year ago. Even though we've been together only 2 months. I met him at my schools "75th" annual pageant. I saw him hanging out with a crowd of guys and I couldn't help but ...
A. 24 June 2008: youv got my attention. how does the rest of the story go?... (read in full...)
Know who it is you think you love!
Q. About a year ago, when I was 14, a girl found out that I liked her. This goes back to almost four years ago; when I first met her, thoughts went buzzing to my brain: "she's beautiful... she's smart... she's cute... she's funny... she likes to ...
A. 24 June 2008: i know how you feel. i hate poeple that cant keep there mouths shut, or people who turn emotions into a joke. it was a good artical.... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he come back to get his things?
Q. he went to his exwife of 2 yrs when i kicked him out we were fighting and i told him to go, he was living with me, the next day i was not angry anymore and sorry, i called him he cried and said he wanted to come back that night but then his cell ...
A. 19 June 2008: i would say he hasnt come back for his stuff because he doesnt want to see you, which is either because A)hes afraid that you will ask him to come back B)hes just really mad at you C)he still loves you so its hard for him to see you.... (read in full...)
Move in or not?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him at the end of the summer.. I really want too but I know my family would absolutely hate the idea and would disown me if I did. I truely do love him and would do anything for him, and I know he feels the same ...
A. 19 June 2008: right, i completly agre with eyes. i do feel like we dont have enough of the story to judge correctly though. exactly how old are you? and how old is your parents? do you have a job? does he?... (read in full...)
When you have sex do you have to shave your pubic hairs or not?? Answers wanted ASAP!!
Q. um....i really dnt know how to saii this but...when havin sex, must you shave the area by your vagina or is this a major turnoff, or do guys like it when you have shaved there??? ...
A. 19 June 2008: well it all depends on your partners preferances, some like it one way and some like it the other, so just go with whatever you like, or ask him. but if you are between 10-12 like it says then you really shouldnt be thinking about sex, your way to ... (read in full...)
After my husband cheated I don't believe men are nice... can I really trust someone?
Q. Since my husband cheated me, I am unable to trust any other men. I see all men in the same eye.Everyone is same. They all are shits! But I want to live a happy life. How can I see others in a different way? Or are there anyone who is good? Can I get ...
A. 19 June 2008: i hate that. one big jerk ruins every other guys chances with a girl. it happens way too often. i dont blame you for your trust issues but you need to know not all men are pigs, some of us have morals and we stand by them. but sadly, there are less ... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign or is it even a sign?
Q. its been a little over a month since my g/f broke up with me. at first i admit that i did the worst thing that many guys do; i continued to call and text her throughout the day to try and get her back. the first week she would always ans. my calls r ...
A. 19 June 2008: well its hard to say, but to be on the safe side you should call her every other day, or sometimes more often if you have something important or interesting to talk about.... (read in full...)
Help, I don't know what to do with my crush and my boyfriend...
Q. k, well, i hav this boyfrend rite?and im onlii 12 but were pretty serious as ive already met his mom and dad and sister but the thing is, wayyyyy b4 that, i had this crush on a boy thats still in my class but i never thought he liked me, so anywayz, ...
A. 19 June 2008: well, im sure you already relize that you cant break up with you boyfriend and emediatly start dateing your crush, that would ruin everything, but if you want to be with your crush then you can break up with your boyfriend and wait a few mounths ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he isn't in love with me any more. Should I keep trying?
Q. Ive been with my partner for 5years. The last 6months ive had depression and i didnt no, but in that time i said nasty stuff to him that i didnt mean. Last weekend we broke up over the phone as we live with his parents in their garage and it was ...
A. 18 June 2008: he loves you but hes hurt, so you have to try your best to mend those wounds. whens the last time you two went on a date? a night out every couple of weeks is good for the relationship. and if your madly in love with him then make sure you show him ... (read in full...)
Long-distance confusion... I feel like I'm settling for being second-best, should I walk away?
Q. I met this woman almost a year ago thru work. We live in diff countries. She came to visit here in the US and stayed for a week. Amazing sex, conversation, etc, we got along fantastic. She came to visit for 2 more weeks and another amazing visit. ...
A. 18 June 2008: if you can shorten the distance then everything can work out. it seem like she likes you more then her boyfriend so if you were there then it would only make sence for her to choose you. so if you have a way of shortening the distance then it can ... (read in full...)
Is anyone else like this or am I obsessive?
Q. is anyone else like this or am I obsessive?? My boyfriend of nearly a year sometimes does a 2-10 shift - getting home about 9.45. I find that I have to have him come to bed with me at the same time (i.e. 11pm) otherwise I can't sleep anyway. I ...
A. 18 June 2008: what is your problem exactly? is it the fact that he looks up porn? i think you need to just calm down and get some sleep. it sounds to me like your your own worst enemy, like is everything usally good until your alone and have time to think, and ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering why she calls and tells me all these things because I still care about her a lot ?
Q. ok i dated this girl for over 2 years and i can't seen to get over her.okay this is how it started we first started dating and she asked to to come her friends b-day party with her so i agreed and went but it was the biggest mistake i ever made ...
A. 18 June 2008: well the reason she tells you these things could be any one of these reasons. 1. she sees you as a friend and just wants you to know whats going on in her life. 2. she wants to make you jealouse. 3. shes trying to convince herself that she doesnt ... (read in full...)
Help! We're across the country from him, we're friends, but I want to tell him might mess that up!
Q. Ok, So of course.. there is this guy i like.. we dated on and off for about a year... (mostly on if your wondering). and we broke up like five months ago.. i was dating another guy and he was dating another girl. well me and him remained friends and ...
A. 18 June 2008: if he is already in a relationship then there is no point in telling him. you know you dont want to ruin his relationship or your friendship just because you want to be with him, so try and let it go. if somewhere down the line you both end up ... (read in full...)
Is this normal playing for a straight girl and her gay friend? I'm annoyed!
Q. My gf was a dancer in college. They toured a lot so partied in hotel rooms quite a bit. She has never elaborated on those parties one time in our five years. A few times she has mentioned how close she got with them and how the gay guys loved to ...
A. 18 June 2008: i can understand why your annoyed. the big problem is that if you tell her your annoyed she will just say well hes gay so theres nothing going on. your in a tough spot and believe i got annoyed too when my gay friend was "playing" with my girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Our friends are getting us together, I think we're both a little interested in each other, but I'm not sure how to show her. Help?
Q. im 19 just graduated high school. this girl is 16 and in high school. shes heard about me in high school and my friends are hooking us up to hangout.. think shes a lil intrested as i am.. but im not sure how to show her.. i just got out of a long r...
A. 18 June 2008: well after you hang out with her one time ask if shed like to go out to dinner, a movie, or something sometime. you can work from there.... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with this guy? Help!
Q. hello I am kind of confuse with this guy i am dating, he does everything to please me, we have never fight, we have develop feelings for eachother, he is always trying to see how am I feeling ( because I have a little bit of bad health), he even...
A. 18 June 2008: well i think hes starting to fall in love with you but he wants to be cautiose because hes afraid of getting hurt. it sounds like someones broke his heart befor and he doesnt want that to happen again so dont let things like that freak you out. just ... (read in full...)
I've dug a hole for myself, what do I do now?
Q. So I started dating this girl in December and over the course of a couple months I have led her to believe that I spent some time after high school travelling because I was extremely insecure about entering University as late as i did...I was ...
A. 18 June 2008: if you feel bad about it and you want this relationship to work then you need to tell her, because if you dont and one day she finds out you lied and never told her then she will never be able to fully trust you. all secrets come out in the end so ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to focus on ME and my lips not just my boobs?
Q. hey guys, I have a boy problem. There is this guy that I have liked for almost 5 years on and off and we have a lot of history. He was my first kiss. He and I have been there for each other growing up as our parents got divorced and we ...
A. 18 June 2008: well i think that the first thing you should do is get a relationship started, if he doesnt want to be in a relationship with you then he deffinatly doesnt deserve to touch your boobs. but if your going to ask him out, then do make sure you do it on ... (read in full...)
Risks that come with often masturbating?
Q. hello i have heard that when you masturbate a lot and you do it more than once a day your penis could bleed and hurt when you urinate. Is this true? And is there anything close to that which could happen?...
A. 15 June 2008: well you wont piss blood from masturbating but if you do it often and are kinda rough on "yourself" then it is possible to tear the skin a little bit which will make hard to masterbate for a couple of days until it heals up, unless of course your ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to focus on ME and my lips not just my boobs?
Q. hey guys, I have a boy problem. There is this guy that I have liked for almost 5 years on and off and we have a lot of history. He was my first kiss. He and I have been there for each other growing up as our parents got divorced and we ...
A. 14 June 2008: so dose that mean you two arnt going out yet... if thats true then you should find out if he wants to go out, also if thats true he shouldnt be trying to grabe your boobs yet. i dint fondle my girlfriends boobs until we were going out for like 6 ... (read in full...)
Please love me
Q. I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
A. 10 June 2008: i was hopeing more people were going to comment on my article befor i said my thanks, but your the only one to comment so far and its been a couple of days. so thank you for reading it LJ001. im glade to see that someone liked it.... (read in full...)
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