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No replies yet... 1 January 2009: Happy Newyear everyone. and so a new year begins, take a moment and reflect on what you have done this past year. now think about your plans to do this year. we have hit the point thats almost like starting over. this is a time when you can take a ...
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8 June 2008: I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
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He's going into the marines, should I end it now or wait till he leaves?
Q. I'm in a realtionship that's not that serious yet, but he is going to the marines in a few months and we aren't going to continue this. So should I just end it now, or contiue with him until he leaves, and break up with him then?...
A. 19 February 2009: You should end it now, the last thing you want is for him to be lonely and heart broken when he goes.... (read in full...)
I know he loves me but I don't think he loves me whole heartedly like he says he does.
Q. So my boyfriend and I just made 6 months. We've been through more then the average couple would go through in this time period. I love him with all my heart. I don't have to think about it I just know. I know he loves me but I don't think he loves ...
A. 19 February 2009: Well for one thing you've only been together for 6 mounths, which is enough time to be in love but not enough time to be fully devoted. So he loves you, and he will come back for you, but for it to reach that type of devotion that newlyweds have ... (read in full...)
I think I might love this girl but my sister says I'm a psycho!
Q. Hi, I just need some help on what to do with my current situation. You see, there is this girl that's somewhat friends with my sister. I really like if not love her, however I've only met her once. Also, I'm a fifteen year old boy and she's a twenty ...
A. 19 February 2009: well if you like her then you need to start hanging out with her, you have to build a relationship, you cant just expect things to turn out if youv only met her once. but i have to say that unless shes in to younger guys then things wont be in your ... (read in full...)
I need some "first time" advice.... quick!
Q. For the past year my best friend and I have been getting closer. We have decided to have sex for the first time this Friday, so in two days. Is there any advice somebody can give on what to do and what not do? This is my first time but not hers. So ...
A. 19 February 2009: i dont think you guys are being very helpful, i understand you concern but he wants sex advise. i dont think he should go through with it either but if i had some advice i would share it. everyone knows to ware a condom, thats not what hes nervice ... (read in full...)
I read about sex all the time but actually doing it terrifies me!
Q. I am a virgin at 21. Am I a freak? I read erotic fiction books, own several toys and think about sex all the time but actually doing it terrifies me!please help....
A. 19 February 2009: i myself am also a 21 year old virgin, so i know how you feel. im nervouse about my first time... and im afraid of screwing it up, but because iv learned about passion and about what my girls body is like {more or less} i feel confadent that when ... (read in full...)
Should I listen to my friends or stay with my man?
Q. I'm going out with a older guy and all my friends don't like him. I'm not allowed to date everyone, so I kept it a secret, but we got into a huge fight and broke up for 2 days, which a few friend found out we were together in the first place and ...
A. 19 February 2009: if you think its right then stay with him. but im left wondering what the fight was about.... mabey its something that should make you reconcider your decision.... (read in full...)
I love him but he loves someone else...
Q. My name is kareena. I love this guy. his name is shahid. He is my cousin. He is 16 and I'm 14. I love him loadsss but he luvs this other girl. Her name is amrita. I just hate it when ever shahid talks about her. Me and shahid used to be very very ...
A. 19 February 2009: You can't make him not go to college, but you can go with him. As for Amrita, just get proof that she's cheating on him!... (read in full...)
My family has disowned me for no reason... what can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm really confused at the moment. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have 2 children together. I have never really been close to my mum but my nan and grandad have always been like a mum and dad to me. I live fairly close to my ...
A. 19 February 2009: you need to get your family together and you need to tell them that you love them but that you cant deal with this anymore, tell them to ask themselves if they really want you out of there lives. ask them if they will miss you when your gone, just ... (read in full...)
Do we love again? Is it different with someone else?
Q. My girlfriend of four years has dumped me, i hurt bsadly and have spent 8 weeks either crying or fighting back tears. My question is does the first love always hurt this much or do you miss that great loving feeling forever? I loved her like i've ...
A. 19 February 2009: i will never forget my first love, and how torn up i was when she left me, but i found someone that loves me and that i love more then i ever loved my first. apart of me will always love them both, which shows that there is always room to love again ... (read in full...)
My friend is planning on cheating on his girl..what am I supposed to do?
Q. My friend started dating a girl i sort of have known for a while a month ago. They seem to be getting along fine, but recently they haven't been spending to much time together which is mainly because they are both pretty busy which is ...
A. 19 February 2009: theres not really much you can do in this situation, without getting someone hurt. just keep trying to convince him. tell him that you think its a really bad idea and that if he goes through with it, that you dont want to know. that way you wont ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped and attached with this married man, how do I get out of this?
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship with a married man going on 6 years I always hoped that we would become a permanent relationship. I gave this man my heart and soul and just knew that one day we would go further as being a couple and that he was ...
A. 19 February 2009: you need to be strong. i think you already know that hes not going to change for you, i know you probably wanna believe he will but more then likely he wont. isnt getting out of this relationship whats best for you? then you need to get out. make ... (read in full...)
Is this not something that should have happened for me by now??
Q. I won't go in to too much detail coz I'll be here all night. I was just wondering if it's weird that I'm 21 and never had a relationship. Sometimes I think I don't have time for a boyfriend but a lot of the time I feel really lonely and wonder why I ...
A. 19 February 2009: i understand how it feels to be lonely but if theres no one your interested in, then theres not much point in starting a relationship with them. one day you will find someone your really attracted to, until then be patient.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the "fill in guy"
Q. For a couple of years I have had very strong feelings towards a friend of mine. However I never tried to push this feeling, and so we remained "just friends". I would occasionally drop in a cheesy line, or a small flirt, but nothing serious. ...
A. 18 February 2009: theres nothing you can really do but talk to her about it, if you wait then she will think its ok. but you have to be very carful with what you say and how you say. you need to let her know that you were hopeing for a seriouse relationship, and that ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to not like porn?
Q. Is it normal to not like porn? All my friends always talk about the porn they watch but whenever I try to watch it... I didn't find it very interesting or arousing, I prefer to just use my imagination when I am masturbating. Is there something ...
A. 11 February 2009: no thats not really wierd. when it comes to porn im very picky, there are specific things i want and specific things i definatly dont want so it would make sense that some people dont enjoy watching at all.... (read in full...)
In-love-with-a-dork
Q. I am in such annoying situation with a guy right now. he's really cute and funny and always really nice to me, i only met him last month but one of his friends is my best friend. i told my best friend that i liked him, which she told him after h...
A. 11 February 2009: simply ask him if hes interested. dont make a big deal about it just casually ask him, i mean he already knows you kinda like him right?... (read in full...)
Who needs men right?
Q. Oh boy so the big question of what do I do? I like this guy but I don't know if he likes me?? But what I would say is just ask him out. The worst he could do is say no but you never know maybe he actually likes you or he will be shocked that you ...
A. 7 February 2009: phew, when i saw the title i was afraid it was some kind of man hateing artical. glade its not. you have a good point, people need not be afraid to go out on a limb and find out how someone else feels. but of course the closer you are to them the ... (read in full...)
Love Cheat Sheet
Q. Okay, okay - here's a cheat sheet. If four or more of these are true, then your boyfriend's being sincere: 1) He calls you as much as you call him. (Or texts you or IM's you or whatever.) If you're the only one initiating the convos, he doesn...
A. 7 February 2009: i like the list but remember that just because you dont check them all dousnt mean he dousnt care. i think that as long as you can check off at least 4 of those your doin ok.... (read in full...)
No affection this week
Q. so me and my man are going through a hard time right now. i am thinking about ending it with him, but i really truly want to contuine 'us', but aparently this week wasnt are week. he was sick, so maybe that has to do with it, but in the whole we...
A. 7 February 2009: just give it a little bit of time, if it might be because hes been sick, then wait for him to get better, if things dont improve after that then you should end it.... (read in full...)
My b/f won't talk about our troubled realtionship
Q. My boyfriend avoid us at chrismas. My Mother died just before. He has been very supportive with my older son who is not his. His son phoned to say it was his birthday. He arranged to pop round. We were not always available. He popped around a ...
A. 7 February 2009: just tell him that you need to know if hes going to be there for you and your familiy, and that if he cant be there then your going to move on.... (read in full...)
Help! My jealousy and insecurities are out of control!
Q. Ok so i've been dating my boyfriend for 9 months when we first meet we rushed into it but it was amazing we planned getting married kids and everything we went on vacations it was just perfect until oct he broke up with me a week after our vacation...
A. 7 February 2009: of course its not easy to trust someone that has betrayed you. if you feel like you cant ever trust him again, then you should end it now, trust is an important part of any relationship. but if you fell like maby one day you could trust him, then ... (read in full...)
I have a feeling he doesn't care about me as much as I care for him? Please advise.
Q. Hi, I have been dating a guy for a couple of months and we have gotten close very quickly. I stay over his place everyday and spent all our free time together. He is caring, generous and sweet to me. The sex is great. We have yet to argue. He has...
A. 7 February 2009: if you dont believe that the two of you can remain faithful to eachother and live with out eachother for 6 mounths then yes you should break it off, but as for the rest of your concerns, i think your probably overreacting.... (read in full...)
LDR is difficult for me and I have many doubts/questions
Q. Hiya On holiday last summer, I met this really lovely guy. Even though I haven't done much with guys before, I ended up going topless for him, which was completely out of character. Only thing is, he lives at the other end of the country to me. We t...
A. 7 February 2009: well first off, long distance relationships have a hard time of working out, sad but true. secound, if he has had gf while you guys were talking then shouldnt you be out getting yourself a bf. third, if you guys arnt really together then no you ... (read in full...)
He's coming back here again to visit and I'm all confused.
Q. Well, there is this family friend of mine who stays in some other country. We met like after a really long time and we liked each other, a lot. He spent a lot of time here but was busy with relatives so we hardly got to meet but we talked a lot on ...
A. 7 February 2009: just ask him if hes interested.... (read in full...)
How do I make him realize what I feel for him?
Q. hi a couple of days ago,i told the guy i am in love with that i love him(u guys might remember that question..).he is 11 years older to me,but ilove him. we are family friends,and so he considers my mom like his mom,and all that.so he told my m...
A. 7 February 2009: he has to figure things out for himself, its probably hard for him to talk to you because he still dousnt know what to do. just give it time, just like a week, so he can figure some stuff out.... (read in full...)
How to finish off a great day????
Q. Valentine's Day, HELP! Ok, so my boyfriend and I are going to watch a live sports game! That's at 1:00pm. I'm thinking it will end about 3:30pm. Any good ideas on what to do afterwards?!? I haven't had sex with him yet. I wanted to go out o...
A. 7 February 2009: are you very good at skateing. ice skateing and roller skateing is always kinda fun and romantic. oh and you could always try and watch the sun set. It will probably be a bit cold but if your prepared for it, then its nice. hmmm im trying to think ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him or her?
Q. I had a crush on this boy for almost 3 years. Well his step-sister is in my class and she knows i like him. She keeps telling me things like that he does like me or that he says hi or the she will see if he can call me. Then i put on my myspace that ...
A. 6 February 2009: its hard to say... what i would suggest is that you should ask him. say something like "i heard you want to go out with me? which would be cool if you want to." and if he says no just be like oh well.... (read in full...)
I can't trust him any more. Should I stay with him or move on?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for three months now. And he broke up with me once because he had "confusion" in his life according to him. We got back together now. But I still can't trust him. When he told me that he wants to keep th...
A. 6 February 2009: i think your probably freaking out over nothing. if you guys are back together then that means your the one he wants to be with. but if its bugging you this much, it would be a good idea to ask him how he really feels and to tell him how youv been ... (read in full...)
Why can't men stay sweet and charming like they always are in the beginning of a relationship?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year. I'm 19 and he is 27. I know there is quite and age difference but when we met i just fell in love with who he was. Sometimes he acts like he's 12 though. He's very stubborn and can't ever admit to ...
A. 6 February 2009: well first or all, he probably wont change, if you two keep breaking up then chances are you will still keep breaking up in the future until one of you gets sick of it. secound, people put there best side out there during the begining of the ... (read in full...)
I want to cheat just to get back at him...
Q. I don't trust my husband, I've tried to... I think he cheated. He said he never did but I'm at the point I wanna move out, take my baby and go. I wanna cheat just to get back at him, I know it's not right and I love with all my heart. I don't know ...
A. 6 February 2009: Well first of all, you should never cheat on someone, if they're cheating on you then you should just leave them. Second, you don't even know for sure that your husband is cheating on you, so don't do anything rash. If you don't feel like you can ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me after my mum made this scene, should I wait longer before telling him I miss him?
Q. My dad past away 4 month ago. He was always there for me through all my relationships. When he passed away, they said I have to come live with my mother, who i havent seen since she left me at age 8 years old. Well i started living with her, she's ...
A. 3 February 2009: i would give it like 2 weeks. so his problem is basically with your mom right? then justnever hang out with him around her. also you probably wont see her like hardly at all once you move out right? if thats true, does he know that? im just saying ... (read in full...)
My ex is now my sister's boyfriend but tries to get me to me to sleep with him! Any help?
Q. I have a bit of a problem. I have a boyfriend and have been with him for seven months now and hes amazing. I would never in a million years cheat on him but my sister has been engaged to this man, we'll refer to him as Dan for five months and they ...
A. 3 February 2009: thats a very tough question. well guess you should tell him something kinda harsh like, "I would never sleep with you again in a million years, those days are over and im not looking back." and then decide for yourself if you want to tell your ... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 2 February 2009: its an honor to be apart of this site. congratulations to everyone who is a part of this site. together we all made this happen. yay!... (read in full...)
How to get rid of hickee fast
Q. The other night me and my fiance were makeing out when she decided to bite my neck, which really drove me wild. the problem is that it left a hikee (im not sure if thats how you spell that) Im a manager at my work so i cant have marks on my neck, ...
A. 25 January 2009: Thank you all for your help. i hope it works out becuase i cant ware a turtle neck to work, and i dont own one. im not too worried about getting rid of this one, every one i work with has already noticed it, but i want her to bite me in the future, ... (read in full...)
In FWB with Ex, now he wants a relationship again?
Q. I'm 17 years old and in a fwb relationship with my ex, who has now become one of my best friends. he calls me almost every night and we see each other as often as we can, and most of the time its just to hang out and talk, not to have sex. in the ...
A. 24 January 2009: Can you trust him? do you really believe hes changed? do you really want to be in a seriouse relationship with him? you need to think about these things. just completely forget about what your friends might think and decide if its really what you ... (read in full...)
I don't feel that "spark" any more between us.
Q. I'm engaged to a great guy. Treats me better than I feel I deserve sometimes. We've been together for 5 years. We met when I was 19 he was 21. He had been engaged to a girl he had dated sense high school. She cheated on him and they broke up. Not ...
A. 15 January 2009: You've left him waiting for 2 years? That's kinda harsh. I can understand why you're scared, you've basically only been with him so you feel like you haven't really lived right? You kinda wanna know what else is out there but if you love him then ... (read in full...)
I just need some advice about this situation and about relationships and dating in general.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 11 months now. In the beginning we took things really slow, we knew each other for about a month in half before we became a couple. We were doing so well until maybe 3 or 4 months into the relationship. ...
A. 10 January 2009: the only reason your still with him is because your afraid to be without him, right? well then you have to leave him. if you dont love him then theres not much point in staying in this relationship. besides, i can tell that he is makeing it harder ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with my online long distance girl?
Q. im 14 and i met a girl on msn and iv been talking to her 4 a few months and we are sort of going out on line like but she lives in London and i live in Bilston and she said she wants to meet me but i dont think i should and if i do i think i should...
A. 8 January 2009: well i guess it woudnt be too bad as long as you can except that you wont see her very often. and i think it would be a good idea to bring along your brother. but i wont lie, long distance relationships have a hard time of working out, but if its ... (read in full...)
I'm on the verge of cheating! HELP! So confused!
Q. I need some advice...I've in a serious relationship for 7 years, married 2 1/2 out of those 7. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship. The 1st year we started dating he took me home to meet his family (on west coast). As soon as I met his ...
A. 8 January 2009: you cant go though with it. first of all, cheating is wrong. second, its with his brother. its not a good idea, and going though with it will only end up hurting people. think about it, if you do this and you decide that you want to be with his ... (read in full...)
She touches me, sings to me, does she like me?
Q. ok im new here and i have been searching for some answers in my problem..please help me. im a boy..17 years old and i have been dating someone i just met past 2 weeks ago. i met her in a bar in she was really gorgeous and she was 17 too. i asked ...
A. 8 January 2009: i think it would be too early for you to tell her you love her, it might scare her away, so for that give it some time. as for whether or not she likes you well, i would say that i dont think she would continue to go on dates with you if she didnt. ... (read in full...)
Am I developing normally for my age?
Q. hi my name is pete im 14 and i have some pubes but no arm pit hair my penis is around 3.5 inches and when erect 6 inches am i normal for my age...
A. 1 January 2009: yeah that sounds normal to me, besides you dont want a lot of hair anyways, most wemon dont find it that attractive and it makes you swet more.... (read in full...)
He says I ruined his New Year and now I feel so guilty and don't know how to make it up.
Q. I've been seeing this guy for 2 months and after a month of being together he asked me to spend New Year with him. The plan was to get ready together, go to his best friend's gathering (there were about 6 of his best friends there) then go to a ...
A. 1 January 2009: well thats easy, ask him what he wants, and then when he tells, if your ok with it, then take it one step further then what he asked for.... (read in full...)
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