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8 June 2008: I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
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He wants me to just forget about his cheating...
Q. my husband of 13 yrs, had an affair with someone I know, lasting 18 months. I always knew there was something going on, but was told bt=y him, that I was mad. He physically abused me, continued to want sex, and told me I was ungrateful, and had ...
A. 7 June 2008: if you forgive him then theres a good chance he will do it again.
if you steal a cookie and your punishment is just someone saying it was bad you will likely do it again but if you steal a cookie and your mom chops off your hand you wont ever stea... (read in full...)
Would my erotic show help put a spark back into our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend seems to have a porn habit and says he enjoys the visual stimulation he gets out of it. Problem is, over the last few years our sex life has dried up - to the point where we both don't even make an effort for each other anymore. I ...
A. 7 June 2008: well if it helps any that would turn me on. hes lucky to have you. i think that you might be right, this really could help your sex life but its hard to say for sure because i dont know your boyfriend. i recall telling my girlfriend once that i ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have to make the first move I'm scared of rejection!
Q. Ok, so I've got it bad. I've liked him since sept. '07, We're friends and go to church together. We usually hang out in groups after church and stuff and he's not really shy but when it comes to girls...He is! His sister told me he's never dated a ...
A. 6 June 2008: he said he likes you..... well there you go.
so go ask him out already.... (read in full...)
I have trouble with new relationships after my ex and I broke up!
Q. After my ex ended the relationship with me even though I was deeply in love with him, I can't have a normal relationship with any guy. Now it has been almost a year since I broke up with him and all the relationships I have ended very quickly. In ...
A. 6 June 2008: ok lets just take this one at a time. first the easiest way to forget about someone is to not see them anymore, do you still see your old boyfriend? secound its a bad idea to date multiple, it can get messy. now i dont know these people and i dont ... (read in full...)
Not enough time in the day for each other!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating now for a year. Recently I got a job (I never had one before so it was sorta new) I also go to dancing school 4 days a week (Tuesday wednesday and thursday at night (typically 7-10) and on saturdays in the ...
A. 6 June 2008: me and my fience have the same problem, what we did to help it is we made one day just to spend with eachother, i told my work that i wont work on sundays anymore because thats my day with her. try haveing a date night set, haveing dinner together ... (read in full...)
Will I ever find that special girl, who's never had sex with anyone before me??
Q. Why does it seem like the whole world is having sex, when I've lived for 19 years and am still a virgin? My friends that I've known for many years are all in these serious relationships with girls that they liked for so long, and are now constantly ...
A. 6 June 2008: hang in there man, most of these people dont understand what it means to stay a virgin. and you have every right to want a girl whos still a virgin. you dont want to look like you dont know what your doing when she does, but if your both virgins ... (read in full...)
In love with my boyfriend's friend...
Q. i think im love with my boyfreind's best freind. and i know this is bad. he says that hes in love with me but i only like him but a whole lot.. what should i do. i want to forget about my bf's friend and move on but i cant. HELP!...
A. 6 June 2008: you have 2 options either stay with your boyfriend and hope you can forget about his friend, or you can leave them both behind, because your boyfriends friend is not an option. that would cause a lot of problems and ruin there freinship, not to ... (read in full...)
Am I seeing something I want to see? Is my friend gay?
Q. Hi, Heres my problem, sorry if this is very long , its my first time posting..... A friend of mine who i work with and also see outside of work alot, seems like he could be gay, but i think alot of it is the sterotype stuff. he was married fo...
A. 6 June 2008: i think revealing to him that your gay is the first step. if your good friends and it turns out hes straight he probably wont care if your gay. now i know from experience that sometimes its easier to talk to someone thats gay, because theres certian ... (read in full...)
I'm 10. How can I impress my girlfriend?
Q. im 10 and i have a gf, she likes me as well, but the thing is that i think i need to impress her more, how can i impress her? please help! ...
A. 6 June 2008: one thing that all girls appreciat is a gift, it dousnt have to be expensive, especially considering your age. just something small that she can ware or carry. then when people ask where she got it she can tell them it came from you. but remember ... (read in full...)
He told me he wanted to be with me, and hasn't spoke to me since!
Q. hi all this is quite a long story but ill cut it short. theres this lad who i was texting about a year ago, we were going to go out for drink and get together basically. but then people (both his friends and mine) starting talkin and stirring, so we ...
A. 6 June 2008: hmmm thats really weird. i dont think hes just playing you so i guess you just have to wait for him to get ahold of you and find out whats going on. i could be wrong though....... (read in full...)
How important is being true to yourself when it means loving someone who says they don't want you?
Q. How important is being true to yourself when it brings you pain, for example when it means being in love with someone who says they don't want you? Is it fair to be with someone, knowing that you love another? I split up with a girlfriend of fi...
A. 6 June 2008: a person should always strive to make themselves better, but that is a better version of you not a carbon copy of an angel. if she dousnt want you now, well you can try to improve yourself but you dont want to change who you are just so she will ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make me want me again and know I'm not going to leave him?
Q. I am a several years longer than my husband and we have been married for almost a year. it will will be a year the 23rd of June. He seems to have lost intrest to me though. I do have everything he has said he likes, and we don't have any kids. I've ...
A. 6 June 2008: what things have changed since the begining of the relationship? what were the things that made him fall in love with you in the first place? have you talked to him about how you feel? men just like women like to be surprised, it might be a good ... (read in full...)
I am confused as to why my bf broke up with me...
Q. I am confused as to why my bf broke up with me. He didn't give me a real reason, just a text messaging saying its over. My ex bf's friend (who I met him through) told me that the reason he ended it was becaused he wanted to go clubbing and partying...
A. 6 June 2008: i dont think thats the reason. i do believe thats what he told his friend the reason was but more then likely there is something that goes a lot deeper, something that you probably could only find out from him, but my bet is he wont want to talk to ... (read in full...)
Is 5 years a big age gap?
Q. i am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 25 years of age..so do u think 5 years of age gap between us makes a difference..do u think he is too old for me????...
A. 6 June 2008: the older you are the smaller the gap looks, so if things work out in a couple years no one will see a problem with it. besides you are out of school now right? so its not like something creepy where a 25 year old is dateing a highschooler.... (read in full...)
What's with his disappearing act?!?!?!
Q. So...long story short, I was dating this guy (Y) since end of Jan. We had been friends first for a couple years, but we met through my ex (they are friends). My ex started dating a girl that I thought was a friend of mine (note: I don't care they ...
A. 6 June 2008: i personaly think he just cant make a decision. i think he wants you and he wants his friend to not be mad at him, which he also dousnt want you to be mad at him. so im guessing that hes trying to figure out what he wants to do, and if he cant ... (read in full...)
Do people who cheat change?
Q. hi, my question is basically this, do people ever change ? for example if they have cheated on you, what is the likelyhood of them doing it again ? and are they really genuine when they cry and cry, and tell you how sorry they are ? thanks :)...
A. 6 June 2008: yes people do change, and they can mean it when they cry and cry, however if they get away with it once and the relationship starts going bad they will likely do it again. it is likely that if you broke up with this person and stayed broken up that ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and a virgin my boyfriend want's sex!
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend. He always asks me to have sex with him. but i really don't want to. I'm only 13 and I want to keep my virginity for a while. I've told him no so many times and I keep telling him no. It's so annoying. What sho...
A. 6 June 2008: a boy at that age only wants to have sex with you so he can go brag to all his friends and then he will likely leave you. you need to tell him that you want to wait until your at least 17 and that if he cant wait that long then he should just leave. ... (read in full...)
We stayed virgins, and now the relationship is going nowhere!
Q. Me and my gf have been together for over 4 years. She wanted to wait till we got married before having sex which is fine with me, thus we are both still virgins. The problem I'm having is that the relationship isn't going anywhere. She so afraid o...
A. 6 June 2008: i apprieciate the advice but i think i need to specify that the waiting for sex isnt whats bothering me, its the fact that we dont do anything physical. im fine with waiting for marriege, i think its a great thing. i guess im concerned about jumping ... (read in full...)
They make fun of me because I don't share their vice... is this not childish?
Q. everyone makes fun of me because i dont smoke weed,do you think thats childish?...
A. 6 June 2008: there are a lot of people who dont smoke weed. you shouldnt let yourself feel pressured, if its something you dont want to do then dont do it. besides its an expensive habbit, and its illigal. just be strong.... (read in full...)
Should I leave him, he a child with someone else?
Q. am in a relation ship for the past six years i do love my bf there isn't anything i would not do for him u see we have a long distance relation ship and everything was going well i would often save up for my vacation and spend it with him you see ...
A. 6 June 2008: long distance relationships have a hard time of working out anyways and considering that hes saying he dousnt love you anymore most likely means you should give up. if you wanted it to work bad enough its possible to get him to forgive you but it ... (read in full...)
How can some guys be so cruel?
Q. How can some guys be so cruel. I know this girl who was telling me about an incident that happen three years ago. She said she went to look for a friend who was working in a mall. she said both of them were walking looking at pictures and she said ...
A. 6 June 2008: that type of stuff makes me so angry, its perverts like him that make the rest of us guys look bad. no guy will probably ever be able to have a good relationship with her because of what that man did. i agree that he really needs to be reported ... (read in full...)
My friends keep pressuring me and she's not worth the wait!
Q. I've been talking to this girl that I met online for more then 4 years now, and practically our relationship is maxed out. But she lives in a different state, and I've never met her. Yet we really really want to meet, we don't talk anymore because ...
A. 6 June 2008: well this is sorta a tough subject, how far away are you from her? is it one state over or acrossed country. are you willing to leave your friends and family behind to live with her, is she willing to do that for you. long distance relationships ... (read in full...)
Help - Trying to work things out with my ex!
Q. How hard is it to try to work things out with an ex? I love my ex a lot, but it seems every time we talk the past is always brought up, I flirted and lied about it thats the reason she left me, but were taking things slow again, and we both want to ...
A. 6 June 2008: well the fact is that when someone hurts you there is always a part of you that cant trust that person. even if the 2 of you get back together she will prabably doubt you or ask you if you have been doing anything wrong, in the end you will likely ... (read in full...)
My husband is making me have too many children!
Q. I need some advice. I am 8 months pregnant with my 5th child. my other children are 7, 5, 4 and 18 months old. My husband works extremely long hours and spends every second week working in another state. I was done having children after our t...
A. 6 June 2008: what you need to do is tell him that you need his help if your going to have all these kids. he wants the big family so he needs to be around to help with them. if he is unwilling to make a carrer change that brings him closer to home then you have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not get a divorce!
Q. Hi, I'm 43 and my boyfriend is making me crazy!!! We have a two year old daughter and we've been living together for 3 years. My problem is my boyfriend has yet to get a divorce from his wife and he pays her half of his paycheck every week(not...
A. 6 June 2008: dose he have kids with her too? mabey thats why he wants to stay married, and why are you going back to a man whos refuseing to change? from the sounds of it if you left him i wouldnt be suprised if he gave you the other half of his paycheck. not to ... (read in full...)
She's pregnant with her ex and I'm going to prison in July. How should I tell her I like her?
Q. HELp!!! I've known this girl for 14 yrs. we've been pretty good friends. In the past 4 yrs we have lost touch. she's had a boyfriend then and I was married. My wife cheated on me so we are going through a divorce and around the same time my friend's ...
A. 6 June 2008: theres a lot of stuff that can happen in 15 mounths so it kinda sucks knowing that even she feels something for you now she might not when you get out. but putting that aside, i say just tell her how you feel, if she dousnt feel the same, well im ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to stay with me?
Q. Where I live circumcision is uncommon and most girls think it's disgusting. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months now and we had talked about having sex soon. I know that she will find my circumcision disgusting, and I'm worried ...
A. 6 June 2008: i basicaly agree with everything that everyone else said,
the way i see once its inside her shes not ganna be able to tell whether or not its been circumsized. besides at the age of 17 how many penisus has she seen anyways, the less shes seen the ... (read in full...)
My man is perfect and I still have doubts!
Q. A man who promise to marry me and did it. A man who help me in everything, a man who support me emotionally and physically a man who always say he love me, a man that is my husband now who is always there for me to cry on. Why I have a doubt in...
A. 6 June 2008: are you afraid because you think he deserves better than you? because you believe he could get better? he married you, and hes still there for you when you need him. your the one he wants so dont scare him away with doubt and distrust. be confident ... (read in full...)
Now my best friend has a boyfriend she treats me like crap. I don't know what to do.
Q. My best friend has now got a boyfriend and she now treats me like crap. I just dont know what the hell to do. When me and her are together were happy and laughing and enjoying life and university but then when she gets home and gets online to talk ...
A. 6 June 2008: iv been hurt by this befor too. my best friends old gf hated me and so we could only hang out when she was busy. the best advise i can think of is make a night out for you two, one day that she can tell him she will be busy hangin out with you, its ... (read in full...)
It's his ex. And it's his ex. And it's his ex again. I don't know what to do.
Q. Argh, I am so confused and there probably is not answer, but maybe someone can share something? I began dating my boyfriend casually, we live in separate cities and so communicated alot through email and sending things in the mail and stuff. He wa...
A. 6 June 2008: i believe hes a good guy but i dont believe your going to be happy with him. this is about you not him, if you feel hurt by this relationship then its not good for you, if you feel like you cant trust him then its not good for you, if the thought of ... (read in full...)
Want relationship with childhood friend!
Q. Ok so my best guy friend I knew him since kindergarten. We were always close we both moved to different states and went to different schools after 4th grade. Now I'm moving back to NYC where he is. And he is dropping little hints that maybe he likes ...
A. 6 June 2008: well a good start would be to causaly say something like "did you know i had a huge crush on you back in school?" know that wont tell you exactly how he feels now but knowing that he at least had feelings for you before and mabey even now will ... (read in full...)
I found out my fiance of 14 years has just slept with his cousin - can they be charged for incest??
Q. i have just found out that my fiance of 14 years, has just slept with his cousin - who he has been re-united with after 20 years. i am very hurt and sickened and want to know if they can be charged, by Law for Incest. Please advise...
A. 6 June 2008: if you take out the whole cusin issue, i think we can see some other issues here. 1st why did he? has your relationship been bad. 2nd is this the first time he cheated and for that matter was there something going on between him and his cousin 20 ... (read in full...)
We've been together 4 months, is it too early to think about babies?
Q. me and my partner have been together for about 4 months and want a baby is it to soon and am i too young ...
A. 6 June 2008: now i dont think your too young but it is way to early in the relationship. my mom always used to say that people show there best side for the first 6 mounths of the relationship. i think you just want to have a baby and not that you want to have a ... (read in full...)
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