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writes:My husband has on occasion said some things without thinking them through. Years ago, he told me the space between my breasts was too big and that a cosmetic surgery could fix it. Never thinking there was anything wrong, I became self conscious about it. I actually went to a doctor, with him. I was told, the spacing was normal. He explained to my husband that all women were different.Last night, I was getting ready to go to dinner with him. I was wearing a strapless shirt and put on some adhesive silicon nipple covers instead of a bra. Under the shirt, the diameter of the covers were visible. I told him, " I don't think I should wear this, they make my nipples look really big." His response, " Well, they are big." I didn't know that he thought so. I told him it wasn't the nicest thing to say but, he didn't see anything wrong with the statement. He said it's all relative. In light of the fact that I'm a 34D, I would think the would appear smaller (relatively speaking).Truthfully, I didn't think they were big, not tiny either. I'm like most women that are aware of how their body racks up in the scale of perfection of airbrushed magazine to a size 40 . I thought I was realistically somewhere in between. The point is, I can't seem to not feel self conscious about it and my feelings are hurt. Am I being hypersensitive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): While the first comment about the spacing between your breasts was pretty stupid and unfeeling, I don't see why you'd be upset if your nipples are somewhat big and he tells you. Nothing wrong with big nipples and frankly, a lot of men find large nipples a turn on.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (27 August 2012):
 The man is a fully signed-up, card-carrying MORON!
There is nothing for you to feel diffident about; what is wrong with large nipples (drool....)?
If he cannot see and appreciate what he has in you, tell him to stop thinking with his (way too small) penis!
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (27 August 2012):
 I've got to agree with Sage, Any man who thinks you can improve on a 34 D needs his head adjusted.
I'm trying to think of a reasonable suggestion for you. I suppose You could tell him you feel insecure about your breasts so you will be keeping them undercover now.
Women have enough trouble comparing themselves to other women with out guys doing it for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2012): "Damn... what IS it with these young guys?????"
They get their "ideals" about what boobs should look like from porn. If they would just use common sense, they would realize those women have all had some type of surgery done, either implants or a lift. A lot of them have also had their nipples reduced in size. Think about it, her husband even suggested she should have surgery. The doctor said she was normal, but that wasn't enough. I guess the doctor also needed to tell him that what you see on the internet is NOT normal. Too many young men have been brainwashed, that is the sad truth.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 August 2012):
 "Sounds" to me like your self-consciousness/self image are about as ANY woman might be.... but your hubby is an unthinking/unfeeling idjit!!!
Cripes!!! Remind him that OOODLES of men would be ecstatic to have a warm, loving, and - apparently - tolerant wife... and, if HE doesn't appreciate you (and stop with the "breast" bullshit) then YOU will be perfectly happy to dump HIS sorry bottom and go out and get on with one of those OOOODles of men who would cheerfully sell their souls in exchange for spending some quality time with you!!!
Damn... what IS it with these young guys?????
Good luck...
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