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anonymous
writes:I've been sexually active for over 10 years now and I am still not able to orgasm thru intercourse. I do it each time I receive oral sex but not when I make love. It is very furstrating because men think that I am not enjoying it because I don't cum. It happened only 1 time a long time ago and I don't know what was different but it never happened again. How can I make it happen???
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Somewhere around 70% of women can't orgasm through intercourse alone. That's a LOT of women (only ONE of my friends says she can and I suspect she's making up the frequency)! The fact that you can orgasm through oral is a very good thing though. It means your partner can please you. It can help you to have one through sex if you have an orgasm before having sex. Also, find positions where your partner (or you) can reach your clit so you can add that stimulation. You can also try these little vibrating rings that go at the base of the penis. Don't stress not orgasming with sex. Focus on how good the sex does feel and then find other ways to finish after (or before).
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 June 2009):
 You're not alone. Some gals I'd been with have the same issue. So, I give the oral, make sure they have a couple, then close to another one when intercourse begins. Doing that, they have at least one there too. People are sensitive in different ways. Being with someone who takes the time to find those sensitive spots is important.
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reader, tired of dating  +, writes (11 June 2009):
First, make sure you are having sex with a man you actually love. If you can orgasm during oral sex and not actual intercourse it could be that your most sensitive to gentle touch. Try having sex extremely slow and firm all the way through it. Let him get on top, then close your legs really tight and tighten up your vaginal muscles. Allow him to slowly but firmly stroke and make sure when he strokes in, his pelvis is slightly higher than yours, this creates an intense feeling for your clit. I hope this helps alittle.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (11 June 2009):
 It's not unusual that you can't orgasm through sex alone. In fact, I think the percentage of women who can't orgasm just through intercourse is close to seventy percent. I certainly can't orgasm just through sex, I have to have stimulation elsewhere during the act. It's normal. Tell these guys that everything isn't about them, and maybe if they used other ways of stimulation except what gets them off, you'd experience an orgasm more often. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Heya, I dont think you should worry too much about it. Lots of women dont cum during intercourse and only do so when their clit is stimulated. However, next time you're with you're man guide him a little bit, if hes hitting a spot in a certain way tell him to continue with that and you should get there. Also G-spot stimulation will help u over the hump! Best of luck!!
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