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writes:Ok, so, last week I told my exboyfriend that he had to choose, I said "If you want friendship we can do that, if you want a relationship we can do that, if you want to not talk to me at all, we can do that, but I can't do this FWB's thing anymore." I got an answer of, "We will see what happens."... A few days later I got an e-mail saying, "I only wanted sex, you wanted the friendship so I compromised, but you can't have sex, and I didn't want to be friends anyway." I was then dragged by a very close friend to a psychic reader for the 5th time since my ex and I broke up. Everytime I have gone (and it has been different psychics every single time, and have made a point of not telling them anything at all), they tell me by mid/end of July, he will be coming back asking for a relationship. Ive been told by many people that he will come back, including some of his friends. My main question is, what would you believe? I really do love him with all my heart, and want him back, but I am currently trying to give him his space. Im lost as to what I should believe. Also, could you please provide some advice as to how to just get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): In the possibility that the phsyicics are wrong, you should not get your hopes up. We can't really tell you why is he acting the way that he is, but we can tell you how to deal with it for now. And it seems like you already have a pretty good idea. To stay busy and try to get your mind off him. Friends, this site, more hours at work, argueing with family can take up a lot of time and brain power (you say they're worthless), movies, hobbies...
Maybe he'll come back one day but if not.. then keep doing these things. In a month, maybe it'll be easier. A month after that, you'll think of him less. A month after that, you'll miss him but he won't burdon your mind. And from there it's all downhill.
~SY.
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reader, MetalGirlForLife +, writes (11 June 2009):
MetalGirlForLife is verified as being by the original poster of the question I am actually a female. The stupid thing I can't change. Don't know how.
I asked the question, because while we were doing the FWB thing, he kept sending me completely different signals through out the process. My feelings became developed again, so I put my foot down. I don't know if he's just so badly hurt that he's acting like an ass.
Im trying to keep myself busy and just look to my friends for support (my family is a little bit on the, worthless side). My confusion is just so great. I would like to believe that the psychic will be right, but I just don't know if I can put my faith into something like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): I believe he's asking because he's confusing his own rationalizations with the conclusions of the psychics with the words of his ex. (Are you male, by the way? it says you are, but your screen name appears female)anyway.. And he wants someone to help him straighten out the three confusing sources in his head. Could his ex be saying something and meaning something else? That's what the psychic says, so should he believe him? Or is he being too superstitious?Also, he wants to know how he can get over his ex if he doesn't get the relationship he wants.And now on to my advice: I would believe the words that came from your ex's mouth. He says he's not interested so assume that he's not. Try to move on by staying busy and not thinking of him and occupying your mind with other things and don't get your hopes up for his return to you. But if it comes one day, then how wonderful for you. ~SY.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (11 June 2009):
 You went about the wrong way entirely to get him back. Sleeping with him creates a perfect world for this guy. Not only does he get free and easy sex, but he doesn't have to be tied down with you at all! You're there when he wants you and gone when he's bored. Now that you've given him that ultimatum, of course he's going to get rid of you! Why put up with a relationship when he was so content with what you two had? It's a bit silly really, what you're asking from him. I mean would you pay for a whole cake to stare at when you can get free pieces every time you're hungry? Nope. :) Forget the psychics, forget the dumb friends, forget what everyone says. Trust your common sense. Leave this guy. Stop talking to him. Ever. If anything will get him even thinking to asking you for an actual relationship (which I doubt he will at this point), that will. Pretend he doesn't exist. Make him work for it. Stop being that easy fix and start with some pride! Start seeing OTHER people. This guy treats you like crap, and no one deserves that. You need to remember that. Love isn't built around rejection and using others. That's not love. Get over it and move on, or at least stop allowing him to treat you so bad and make him work for it.
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