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Why do guys feel the need to lie?

Q.   Ok,so i just started dating this guy. Granted I have been seeing him for almost two years, but we finally said we would try a "serious relationship". Everything was going good, up until a few days ago, when we had a date planned. So he calls in ...

A.   29 August 2010: Talk to him, ask him to be honest. Just make sure you don't sound dramatic or angry, because he'll back off. Just tell him you're OK with him hanging out with his friends, you totally understand his needs and such. Don't try to point out "YOU lied... (read in full...)

We had sex but she cant remember her last period

Q.   hi i had sex with my gf,but i didnt use condom.i didnt ejaculated in her.i gave her "ipill"a emergency contraceptive pill within 30 mins. i had some secretion on my penis when i entered her is it possible that she can get pregnant. plz. tell i m ...

A.   29 August 2010: That secretion is called pre-cum and can also get her pregnant. The best would be, if you don't want babies, to use a condom or at least, she should use pill. And she should also keep track of her menses. Anyway, she needs to take a pregnancy ... (read in full...)

How do I dump my violent boyfriend?

Q.   Hi, my boyfriend is a farm boy. He is stuborn very traditional with diffent backgrounds. He knows that a man is a man no one can stand before him. He is aggressive with high temper, when ever we have an argument he will start beating me up. When ...

A.   29 August 2010: "When ever i dump him he will beat me up" - what exactly do you mean? Mean you dump him and you GO BACK TO HIM? He's treating you like this because you allow him, getting back to him every time. He thinks you tolerate his behavior and no wond... (read in full...)

Dancing dilemma!!!

Q.   hey people!!! Ok so i asked my boyfriend to my school dance, i am excited but also nervous becuase i suck at dancing, I really dont want to embarrass myself... what should i do???? :(...

A.   28 August 2010: Just dance the way you feel. What kind of dance it is? Club dance? Blues? Cheek-to-cheek dance? Don't worry, just have fun no matter what. I'm pretty sure your boyfriend will find it cute. ... (read in full...)

Is it a problem to not like French kissing?

Q.   is it normal i dont really like french kissing? i mean i like snogging, and would do anything "sexwise", i just dont really like tongue kissing. is anyone else like that? does that make me strange and will stop me from having sexual partners?...

A.   28 August 2010: Yeah, like they invented the French kiss! Anyway, it's not a problem if you don't like it. I have the same problem, I hate to feel a wet tongue rolling like a snake deep down my throat, and my boyfriend is OK with it. He's more of a romantic... (read in full...)

Internet girlfriend not making any sense and I don't understand what is going on?

Q.   ok well i met this girl a year ago on youtube and we would talk everyday sending messages through utube well after about 4 or 5 months of knowing this person i found another sight she was on where she would wright a diary mostly everyday or a few ...

A.   28 August 2010: I'm sorry, I stopped reading after you said that actually it was her sister... This girl is ATTENTION SEEKER! There are so many NORMAL girls out there, if you go out of the house more often, forget about utube and online messages. You do... (read in full...)

How can I stop worrying about my boyfriend's "big night out"?

Q.   My boyfriend is going on a massive lad's night out tomorrow. I'm really nervous about it and how he might meet some new girls etc. How can I stop worrying?...

A.   28 August 2010: Go out with your friends too, have fun together, go to a movie, focus on some fun activity. If he ever gave you reason to feel insecure, mean something's wrong with this relationship and maybe needs to be reevaluated. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend didn't seem too thrilled to hear from me after her vacation--WHY?

Q.   Hi, I'm just really confused right now. And I really miss my girlfriend. My girlfriend and I are both 20 years old, and we were doing very well before she left for a week long vacation. We've been spending nights together, sharing a lot of ...

A.   27 August 2010: UniverseMan-- I didn't manipulate him. I was too chicken to tell him that I don't want him anymore. I've been tossing and turning because of "how can I make this easier to him? oh I know: I'll act like a bitch, so HE can dump ME". I knew how much... (read in full...)

My girlfriend didn't seem too thrilled to hear from me after her vacation--WHY?

Q.   Hi, I'm just really confused right now. And I really miss my girlfriend. My girlfriend and I are both 20 years old, and we were doing very well before she left for a week long vacation. We've been spending nights together, sharing a lot of ...

A.   27 August 2010: I've been through something similar 2 year ago, with my boyfriend. He left country for 2 weeks of vacation, he went to see his mother, who's working abroad. We were together for 3 months. So he'd calling me, telling me how much he missed me and t... (read in full...)

My Ex-Fiance left me but I want her back!!!!!

Q.   we were engaged for about 2 years and we were together for 6 years and one day my fiance just told me that she could not be with me anymore because of trust issues. i was devastated i couldn't eat i couldn't sleep i was so depressed i had moved all ...

A.   27 August 2010: Well, you've broke her trust. This is extremely hard to regain. If she's insecure about your behavior, it takes a lot of time and effort to convince her that you've changed. Maybe she decided to remain friends and talk and treat you like a friend... (read in full...)

How can I 'Wow' my boyfriend while giving him oral?

Q.   My boyfriend really enjoys me giving him head, but I'm not too good at it and don't really enjoy doing it. Please can you give me some tips on how i could improve my technique or is there any throat excercises i could do to improve it?? ...

A.   26 August 2010: Why don't you enjoy it? Does it make you feel inferior? Does he smell down there? Anyway, you could ask him to put a flavor condom on, if you're not comfortable with it. As for exercises, I think the best performance is "do what you feel like, be c... (read in full...)

Online date doesn't look at all like her photos. I'm not attracted, even a little repulsed by her appearance!

Q.   I met this woman online, very quickly the relationship escalated emotionaly, we exchanged many pictures and shared with eachother about our feelings, hopes and fears on a very deep level. We decided to meet, so i went down to where she lives ...

A.   26 August 2010: Pictures are modified to attract men, that's the trap in online dating. You'll never be certain on how she looks like unless you meet her. I'm confused about "I can see that she is the person i was attracted too in the pictures (and the pictures... (read in full...)

Are most men lazy?

Q.   I am looking for a second opinion due to the lack of male influence growing up in my life. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2years. We are living together and discussing marriage. I am starting to question some issues regarding housework ...

A.   26 August 2010: Try to make a schedule: Situation 1: "Today since I'm not working, I'll do the cleaning around the house." Situation 2: "(Next time you're not working), please don't forget to vacuum and throw away the garbage, and, oh, don't forget to wash... (read in full...)

I'm self conscious about myself and when he looks at other girls it upsets me!

Q.   My eating disorder is ruining my relationship. I have been with my boyf for two years now and we have some problems, but it all comes down to my insecurity. I'm 20 and he is 23. He has known about my issues with eating for around a year. I was re...

A.   26 August 2010: He loves you no matter how you look. If he didn't love you, he wouldn't have been with you in the first place. You know, when a guy doesn't like a girl, he turns his back immediately on her. Most male friends told me so. I once asked one of my ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is mad at me because we can't have sex!

Q.   He and I have been together for almost 3 years. This is not the first time this happens. I can't go to his house and he can't come to mine. We have to pay for hotel rooms to be alone together. I am a college student so I am not working right now. He ...

A.   26 August 2010: I don't understand why you're still with this guy in the first place. The fact that he's threatening you with cheating should indicate you how low he considers you. He has no respect for you, plus, he is a jerk by making you bring money for his ... (read in full...)

Bad acne! What can work?

Q.   Hi, i need help. i have bad acne, we've tried everything. i dont know what to do anymore, mum doesnt have the money for proactive and a friend of ours said it made her face swell and she was allergic to it, and because i have sensitive screen...

A.   25 August 2010: If you can't afford medical treatment, try to change your lifestyle. Eat less fat and more fruits, veggies and drink a lot of water and tea. This acne thing it's related to hormones and it's quite normal at your age. You could try homemade camomille ... (read in full...)

I had a dream of my boyfriend getting married to another woman. Should I read into it?

Q.   I don't usually read into dreams, I've had a lot of nice dreams, but also unpleasant ones, like any other person. Thing is, last night I dreamed that my boyfriend was getting married, IN MY HOUSE, with another woman (she was brunette, but then she...

A.   25 August 2010: CaringGuy-- Yeah, that would definitely be something stupid. I don't usually coordinate my life according to dreams, because even I think that dreams are irrelevant in a person's life. But this one seemed creepy. Indeed, I should carry on with my ... (read in full...)

I had a dream of my boyfriend getting married to another woman. Should I read into it?

Q.   I don't usually read into dreams, I've had a lot of nice dreams, but also unpleasant ones, like any other person. Thing is, last night I dreamed that my boyfriend was getting married, IN MY HOUSE, with another woman (she was brunette, but then she...

A.   25 August 2010: Thank you, Phoebe Halliwell. I guess you're right... Thanks for reassuring me :)... (read in full...)

Am I asking for too much from my mum?

Q.   Hi, Im 23 Married and I have 2 kids. I dont drive and my husband works all sorts of shifts hes very helpful with our kids, ive currently got my learners permit and recently got myself a car. But today the weather is horrible, its raining with ver...

A.   25 August 2010: Well, since you don't let her babysit your kids, she feels offended and that's why she refused to pick up your son from school.... (read in full...)

Why is my period taking so long to come?

Q.   i started my period in december of 2008 and most of the time i'll have my period every 1-2 months. but i haven't had my period for about4 months. i know that about 2 months is normal but its never been so long. so what my question is why is it ...

A.   25 August 2010: Missing period might be organic cause, so go as fast as you can to take a medical check-up, the gynecologist or the endocrinologist - your hormones might be unbalanced. Also, from your post I presume you haven't have unprotected sex, but if you d... (read in full...)

Is this period schedule normal?

Q.   [Moderator's Note: OP's own title] I'm 13 years old and I have had my period for about 3 years. I got it very young. I'm a little worried because it a still very off schedule. Some months it will be the 13th or the 29th or the 5th. And the even wei...

A.   24 August 2010: Go take a medical exam, it might be something wrong with your hormones.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is controlling me, even to the point where he gets annoyed if I spend my own money!

Q.   My boyfriend tries to control everything i do. I have been working full time in my career as a conference coordinator for about 5 months now, and i have been told i will be promoted at 6 months. For the past 4 years i have had to use public ...

A.   23 August 2010: Congrats. Young and yet so successful! So, basically, you keep your boyfriend back and belly. It's obvious that this guy doesn't appreciate you at all, since he's the jobless one, and from what I can tell, he doesn't even think about working.... (read in full...)

How am I supposed to deal with this?

Q.   Whenever I try and say something honestly to my partner, they get upset immediately and get in a mood with me. How am I supposed to deal with this?...

A.   23 August 2010: Well, it's not WHAT you're trying to tell him, it's about HOW you put it. I know that being honest is very important, but more important is how you approach the subject. It doesn't have to sound like you're blaming him or you don't have to soun... (read in full...)

13 and may have missed a period......I'm so scared of being pregnant!

Q.   Ok so im 13 and me and my boyfriend had sex,we used the take out method and now theres only 1 week of august left and i still havent had my period.I dont want to tell my mom that me and my boyfriend did anything but i did tell her i think i missed a ...

A.   23 August 2010: I'm sorry to hear that. So, your boyfriend is THAT poor, that he can't afford buying a condom? You see, pulling out method is not 100% secure. Pre-cum can get you pregnant too, the same as sperm does, it's the same "material". But a pregnancy test ... (read in full...)

Is he just here for a place to live and sex?

Q.   I have been with my husband for probley 18 yrs. an have been married for 5 of those years and have 2 kids a 15 yr. old and a 13 yr.old. during this time he has had 2 affairs that i know of an 1 of the 2 has resulted in a child being born he lives ...

A.   21 August 2010: Well, from what I can tell, your husband has a deformed view towards reality. Spending time on porn sites, masturbating probably to some artificial boobs, when having a caring wife, who, aside sex, offers love too, it's the most pathetic behavior ... (read in full...)

I'm scared of losing him because we never do anything physical

Q.   hi ! I have had a boyfriend for the past 6 months and still counting... I have had a few problems before with him! it is basically that whenever we wanted to do something physical it has never happened... and both of us regret it.. I am very...

A.   21 August 2010: You're very young, and, indeed, at this age, losses are real deathblows, but you have a life awaiting for you, and losing this guy just because you couldn't have sex with him it's not the end of the world. If you feel that something's coming i... (read in full...)

Is this height difference ok?

Q.   Is 26cm or 10inches difference too bad between couple? What are some adventages and disadventages in this? Would you, guys, be mind to have a girlfrient who is too short( 5'1)? ...

A.   20 August 2010: There's a 30 cm difference between me and my boyfriend, he's 30 cm taller than me. It's nothing to worry about, short girls are cuddly :)... (read in full...)

How do I tell my ex I'm pregnant? Is it okay to write a letter?

Q.   I split up from my ex in February. It has taken 4 months for our solicitors to try to resolve our seperation and as yet it is not complete. Since February I have met an amazing new guy, unexpectedly I have become pregnant. We were obvioulsy shocked ...

A.   19 August 2010: If the baby is your ex's baby, just go personally and tell him, he's all the right to know about it. If the baby is of your current partner, your ex has nothing to do with it. You should just forget about him and carry on with your life, without ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has let me down again. How do I handle this?

Q.   I think im at the end of my fuse! my boyfriend has let me down again tonight.... hes off to v festival tomorrow and when i last saw him on monday he said he would call round even if it was just brief to say hi before he went. well i had to text him ...

A.   19 August 2010: Make him miss you. DO NOT send any text until he does. Move on with your life. ... (read in full...)

He is keeping his plans secret -- I'm afraid he's cheating

Q.   Im worried my partner may be cheating. His told me tht he wants some space from everyone around him this weekend and that he has no plans. I tried making plans with him and well i just get, 'i need time to myself' tho just the other day he was...

A.   19 August 2010: Maybe he wants to give you a nice surprise. OK, wait until this weekend, and if nothing happens, that is if he doesn't show any signs, talk to him about it. In that case, he might wanna break up with you. So if he doesn't invite you anywhere... (read in full...)

My Girlfriend hides me from her parents

Q.   My Girlfriend and i have been going out for 1 year and 7 months, were both on our second year of college but the problem is that she still hides me from her parents, we live together and everything but as soon as her parents call, i have to even ...

A.   19 August 2010: I'm sorry to hear that. I've lived with my aunt for 4 months and I know it's a living hell, so I totally understand the situation. It's scary how I find my own experiences in this story. But anyway, being in the top of the class has nothing to d... (read in full...)

Music to turn him on?

Q.   What music would you advice to turn a man on? or maybe for strip tease,,, ??? Something so erotic......

A.   19 August 2010: Art Of Noise - Moments In Love Massive turn on for me :)... (read in full...)

Am I pregnant?

Q.   Hi Everyone!I really need all your opinion about my problem now,i missed my period this month got my last period last july 8 then after one week me and my bf had unprotected sex im really worried now because i feel sick and tired and hve ...

A.   19 August 2010: The symptoms might be misleading, but the best is to take a pregnancy test. If you had unprotected sex and/or he came inside you, it's most likely that you got pregnant. ... (read in full...)

My Girlfriend hides me from her parents

Q.   My Girlfriend and i have been going out for 1 year and 7 months, were both on our second year of college but the problem is that she still hides me from her parents, we live together and everything but as soon as her parents call, i have to even ...

A.   18 August 2010: I've been through something similar, my mother didn't like my ex-boyfriend because he had no college (she has weird standards), but he was a very good guy. When we were talking on the phone, I had to hide from my mom, because she kept telling me "I ... (read in full...)

How can I avoid mother-in-law conflicts?

Q.   My boyfriend wants to marry me and and wants us to live with his parents, all together. His parents like me, but I have a prejudge concerning the "mother-in-law/son's wife" wars, I'm afraid she might start to hate me. I have concrete examples in my ...

A.   18 August 2010: Thanks everyone for your answers. Indeed, I should start to learn basic things like cooking or laundering, but I'm just not ready, at least not now, thus I'd be an obnoxious wife & daughter-in-law. I really need to focus on my exams. My boyfrien... (read in full...)

Why do men lie about small things?

Q.   Today is my boyfriend's mom birthday. I didn't know until now, even if we've been going out for a year. He invited me to his place to celebrate his mom, but I couldn't be there, since I'm out of town, so I asked him to tell her "happy birthday for ...

A.   17 August 2010: Well, we've had communication problems, like many couples at the beginning, I guess. He thinks that no one says that a relationship must flow in a fast pace, but in the meantime, he wants to go fast, that is getting married. He became more open to ... (read in full...)

Why is this boy sending me mixed signals?

Q.   I met a boy recently, very randomly who asked me for my number while I was browsing the CD section at the library. That same boy proceeded to ask me out on a date to which i cautiously accepted as I had not been in the dating game for a year after...

A.   16 August 2010: My boyfriend never did that, and we're still together for a year now (can't say I was pleased back then, I wanted to dump him, because I thought he was uninterested in me). He's just enjoying the time spent with you, if he likes you and he's able to ... (read in full...)

Why is this boy sending me mixed signals?

Q.   I met a boy recently, very randomly who asked me for my number while I was browsing the CD section at the library. That same boy proceeded to ask me out on a date to which i cautiously accepted as I had not been in the dating game for a year after...

A.   16 August 2010: My boyfriend never did that, and we're still together for a year now (can't say I was pleased back then, I wanted to dump him, because I thought he was uninterested in me). He's just enjoying the time spent with you, if he likes you and he's able to ... (read in full...)

I just don't want to be with my boyfriend anymore!

Q.   Should I leave my boyfriend? I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year now, and despite him being what alot of people would describe as the 'perfect boyfirend' all i can think about is how much i don't want to be with him anymore....

A.   15 August 2010: Then how did you manage to stay with him for over a year? Being honest with him would break his heart, but it's the best he can do. I'm sure he puts up with you not because he can't get a girlfriend, but he thinks you have anything he's ever asked ... (read in full...)

Should I tell b/f I looked at his messages?

Q.   I looked at my bfs texts when he was out of the room and I found one that upset me a bit. Nothing drastic, just a not so nice comment about me. But shall I just get over it or shall I tell him I did it? ...

A.   15 August 2010: If the comment was made by him, dump him before he gets away with it and starts to disrespect you more and more. Does he have a real reason to criticize you in any way? Did you ever tread away by doing or saying something inappropriate that he may ... (read in full...)

My Girlfriend hides me from her parents

Q.   My Girlfriend and i have been going out for 1 year and 7 months, were both on our second year of college but the problem is that she still hides me from her parents, we live together and everything but as soon as her parents call, i have to even ...

A.   15 August 2010: After 1 year and 7 months she should be able to introduce you into her world. But maybe her parents are extremely severe with her, maybe they think she's too young to be involved in a relationship. BTW how old is she? If you say you're livin... (read in full...)

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