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Why is my boyfriend so angry and why did he stop responding to my messages?

Q.   know it sounds childish but Need advice to handle this prickly situation...wid my bf..? ok my bf and me have been dating for 10 months...and yes he has some trust issues cos he has been cheated on before.He is pretty quick tempered..and moody at...

A.   29 September 2010: OK, he's tendentious and can't tell you straight what's bothering him and can't be honest to tell you it's finished. You're humiliating yourself in front of him too much. Having financial issues doesn't make an excuse for his behavior. I think he's ... (read in full...)

I don't want anything inside me! How am I ever going to have sex?

Q.   I'm 24 n a virgin, yet i have urges like everyone else. I have one problem ... I am scared of anything going inside my vagina. the mere thought of it makes me squeeze my legs together. Ive had a boyfriend before n I only let him go as far as playing ...

A.   29 September 2010: OK, your problem is a psychological one, not clinical. You can't put a small tampon in because you're too tense and think about the fact that you actually can't. The vagina's muscles contract involuntarily when you're cold or scared. So in order... (read in full...)

What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking?

Q.   Hi all. I'm an ugly bloke (I think so anyway) and I have never had a girlfriend before, and I want an honest answer on this question...What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking? Most guys who are not good-looking gro...

A.   27 September 2010: Ok, let's see: an ugly guy proposed me twice, but I refused mostly because I didn't like him. I found him ugly (fat too). I thought (and I still think) he's repulsive by his physical appearance. Later on, I realized that he's sarcastic and can be ... (read in full...)

How do you tell someone you don't like them anymore?

Q.   So, there's this guy. I admitted to him that I liked him around August, and he said he liked me too. Thing is, I don't like him like that anymore, and I don't know how to tell him. I want to tell him face-to-face, because I think I have th...

A.   26 September 2010: No matter how you put it - into nice words, a break up is always painful. Just tell him that you're not ready for a relationship. Maybe he's gonna react OK. If he really loves you, he will understand that you're happy this way. In the inside, ... (read in full...)

Why is my boyfriend so angry and why did he stop responding to my messages?

Q.   know it sounds childish but Need advice to handle this prickly situation...wid my bf..? ok my bf and me have been dating for 10 months...and yes he has some trust issues cos he has been cheated on before.He is pretty quick tempered..and moody at...

A.   26 September 2010: Maybe you've done something wrong and he found out about it? Or maybe he's just having too much free time and he's VERY bored and he's having, oh, so much fun doing this to you. He's kinda pulling your leg, he's not into anything serious w... (read in full...)

He says we are just mates but I want more

Q.   dear cupid I found this website on being noisey on advice things and now its my turn lol Basically ive got a f**k Buddie and recently we have gotton on really well, basically i prob see him most days and have a little kiss and thats it, ...

A.   26 September 2010: No, he doesn't hate you, he's just not interested anymore, so the best for you is to stop humiliating yourself like this and move on with your life. the fact that he didn't reply should give you the answer. Men like to chase women, so the more... (read in full...)

Why cant my man express his feelings to me

Q.   hi there hoping someone out there can give me some advice on my question i am asking. I am in a LDR and we are committed, we see each other when we can txt, go on MSN every night but gets quite quiet on MSN, cause i am not a chatty person an...

A.   26 September 2010: "how can i help my man tell me how he feels" - He won't. He will NEVER say that he loves you or talk about his feelings over the internet. Usually actions speak louder than words, so if he's loving towards you when you're together, everything's ... (read in full...)

Husband says I'm the reason we fight and I should just be quiet

Q.   Should I leave my husband? My husband and I have been married for 4 years and we have one daughter. First of all I love him very much but it has been getting increasingly difficult to stay. About a year ago he lost his job which made our already...

A.   26 September 2010: And if he lost his job, why isn't he trying to find something else to work? ANYTHING. These are the moments when you have to be a team, you have to find a solution together. Being angry won't change anything. The fact that he lost his job is n... (read in full...)

Do guys pay attention to how fat or skinny we are when we have sex with them?

Q.   Hello! All my life (or at least a majority of it) I've been self-conscious about my body because I have a lot of body hair, small breasts, and have a little pudge (not fat but just a little belly). Well up until just recently, I've thought of how ...

A.   24 September 2010: My breasts are average - small and my boyfriend once admitted that he'd like them if they were bigger, but he knows that isn't possible (i'm totally against implants + i can't afford them anyway), but he still loves to touch and play with them. I'm ... (read in full...)

Second life is real life to my boyfriend

Q.   I have been involved with a man for 7 years. In that 7 years I have found that he lies to me many times, changing his stories and says that I am remembering things incorrectly (which I know is bull). Because we live apart and neither of us ma...

A.   22 September 2010: "Second life" is much more than a simple role-playing game. On long term, in can seriously affect interpersonal relationships. Anyway, just google it and se what's it about. Long story short: you create your own (virtual) reality. As for your boy... (read in full...)

Why did my husband lie?

Q.   Six months ago I found my husband on MySace, Facebook, Tagged, Yahoo personals, Fling, and a few more like that. At first he claimed someone hacked his email and it wasnt him. Then he claimed he did not remember and didnt know about them. Finally ...

A.   21 September 2010: He claims he was lonely while you were working? That's unacceptable! So meanwhile you were working, he was wasting time on the internet, looking for "fun" with random girls. Even so, he has no right NOT to work. I think he's a very bored person and ... (read in full...)

Is it all women, or just my wife that have boring sexual fantasies?

Q.   So, my wife really gets off on hearing about my sexual fantasies. She often asks me to tell her, " what were you thinking about last time you masturbated.". Then I will tell her, WHATEVER it was, be it having sex with our next door neighbor, the ...

A.   21 September 2010: It depends on each woman. I'm keen on telling my boyfriend about my fantasies and we talk about it a lot. As for your wife, maybe she doesn't tell you because she thinks you might have a certain reaction, like you are now: "What do women think ab... (read in full...)

Does wearing a bra to bed, help your boobs grow?

Q.   Ok so usually I wear a bra to sleep. I hear that if u do your breasts won't grow. Mine are not the biggest so I'm wondering if that's true and if not, what are some ways that I can help them grow? Love, A...

A.   20 September 2010: You're still very young and your boobs are still in developing process, so what's the rush? :) Growing boobs have nothing to do with bras or tight t-shirts or whatever. It's not ok to sleep with a bra though, because of the pressure against ... (read in full...)

Did fingering injure me?

Q.   My boyfriend fingered me and I think my vagina ripped a little into the space between my anus and vagina. What do I do and how do I know if its really ripped?...

A.   19 September 2010: Yeah, but that's not the zone you're talking about. Maybe it's something from the inside of your vagina. My advice: go see a doctor, before you get an infection. Good luck!... (read in full...)

I want to keep my friends but don't agree with their lifestyle

Q.   My friends- girls and guys- love to party but I think it can really waste time because I have goals and I want to make sure I am spending my time on those, doing my homework, exercising, eating right, and sleeping. What do I do? I want to keep ...

A.   19 September 2010: If their habits don't interfere in your daily life, it's Ok to stick to them. People are different, so it's not a rule to be like them. If you don't like their lifestyle, you're not forced to hang out with them. If they party and have fun with... (read in full...)

How do I convince my girlfriend to go topless?

Q.   my girl frnd is a shy type. how can i convince her to get nude or topless or even braless in front of me. she is indian and u know that most of the indian girls fear to expose and a little conservative type. please suggest how to convince her. she...

A.   19 September 2010: For how long have you been together? Why do you want her to go topless in front of you? If you want to have a nice image in mind about curves and nice boobs, go to a porn site. There is plenty of it. If she's not OK to show you her boobs, she will... (read in full...)

How to get my virgin girlfriend to have sex with me?

Q.   Dear Readers, I would like to have some advise on how to convinced my girlfriend to have a sexual intercourse with me... Since she is still a virgin, it is extremely complicated to convinced her.. She always tells me to wait and wait and wait......

A.   19 September 2010: With your attitude towards her, you'll remain abstinent. Don't force her into making something she doesn't want to, because, even if now she might like it, in the future, she will feel grossed by only thinking about the act of sex (with you or s... (read in full...)

Did fingering injure me?

Q.   My boyfriend fingered me and I think my vagina ripped a little into the space between my anus and vagina. What do I do and how do I know if its really ripped?...

A.   19 September 2010: I doubt that the zone between your anus and vagina was damaged with the fingers, because it takes a tank to rip it. Many women go through this when they give birth. It's most likely he ripped your hymen, if you're (were) still a virgin. ... (read in full...)

Online romance and fake pictures?

Q.   me and my boyfriend started dating online we've been together for 2 months now and he has faked many pics, i have asked him before if he was lying to me but he has said that his friends just put them on the internet. how do i know if he's lyi...

A.   18 September 2010: This guy could be anything - ugly, handicapped, mentally unbalanced, pedophile, rapist, pimp, ANYTHING. And he's just having fun with you. Online relationships are meant to fail sooner or later, because nothing compares to the real thing - a real ... (read in full...)

My virgin girlfriend wont have sex with me

Q.   Im a virgin and so in love with this girl who is also a virgin,recently i talked to her about having sex but she wont give in,she belives in no sex before marriage and it rilly bothers me coz she is only 16years.she lets me touch her private parts ...

A.   18 September 2010: What could possibly a man aged 22-25 want from a 16 y/o girl? Don't tell me you love her for what she is, because she's a child, she doesn't know what real love is, so aside sex, she can't offer you too much. If she wants to stay virgin until ... (read in full...)

I had sex on the first day of my period, could I be pregnant?

Q.   Okay. I had sex on the first day of my period. Me and my fiance had sex like 3 or 4 times that day. And he didn't pull out or wear a condom at all. Is there a possibility that I am pregnant? Like for sure for sure? Cause I'm 17 about to be 18 and ...

A.   16 September 2010: How can you have sex without knowing basic stuff such as: -having sex during periods can get me pregnant -having unprotected sex can get me pregnant AND get me STDs -pulling out method can ALSO get me pregnant, because it's not safe. Having s... (read in full...)

He wants to marry me but how am I supposed to live with this?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are being a couple for a year now. A few months ago we had a little fight and I told him, in my anger and between the lines, that if he wants to leave this relationship, he's free to do it. He said that he'd be OK whether he...

A.   15 September 2010: My friends circle is pretty restrained to almost inexisting, otherwise, I wouldn't have come here to ask for help. That's mostly because of me, since I don't trust people around, I tend to reject them and to believe that they are mischievous and ... (read in full...)

Son looking at pornography on the computer?

Q.   I recently caught my son on the computer looking up pornography and masturbating, i sent him to his room and told him not to ever again, and that it was wrong. i think i did the right thing, but I'm not sure. he's only 11 and it seemed like he was ...

A.   14 September 2010: I saw a romantic movie on TV, with making love and kisses & all that stuff when I was 10 and the next day I told one of my friends that "i got an itchy feeling down there when I saw those images". You scared him, because now he will probably... (read in full...)

He wants to marry me but how am I supposed to live with this?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are being a couple for a year now. A few months ago we had a little fight and I told him, in my anger and between the lines, that if he wants to leave this relationship, he's free to do it. He said that he'd be OK whether he...

A.   14 September 2010: Thank you for your answers! Those links helped me a lot. I mean I knew there are great differences between male and female communication, but after reading these, I'll just try to change a bit. Not change myself for him, because that would make him ... (read in full...)

Not experienced enough in the bedroom department and it's holding me back from asking her out!

Q.   What is wrong with me. I like this girl I work with not sure if she likes me. I want to ask her out but im not experienced at all in the bedroom what should I do?...

A.   8 September 2010: Uhm, you want to ask her out just to get laid with her? You know, not all the girls want to have sex on the first date, so go ahead, ask her out - unless she's that type of girl. But don't worry, as long as you don't pretend being an expert in... (read in full...)

I did everything he wanted, and find out he's seeing another girl

Q.   My ex boyfriend sent me a text sayin that he misses me and that he loves me so i went to see him he told me he wanted to get back together so i ended up staying with him for the night and we had sex now i really wish we hadnt because the next ...

A.   7 September 2010:  It's obvious that this guy used you for sex. At your age, you're extremely easy to influence, and the bad part, you get the negative behaviors. Anyway, just mind your serious stuff, such as school. If you want a boyfriend, at least find someone... (read in full...)

How do I tell mom that I want to be on birth control?

Q.   I'm 15 and I want to go on birth control, but I just don't know how to tell my mother. I want to be straight up with her but I'm scared that she will think I'm actually having sex when I'm not. I just want to be sure there aren't going to be any ...

A.   7 September 2010: Birth control pills are not like candies, so you can take them just like that. Birth control pills are taken in case of unwanted pregnancy, when you start your sex life - but the mighty condom protects you waaaay better - or hormonal unbalance. A... (read in full...)

Help! How can I stop becoming so wet?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for well over a year, before anyone starts going all judgemental on me- I've had my hands down his pants, he's had his hands down mine. No biggie... Just lately, he's been commenting on how wet I am down there, and how ...

A.   6 September 2010: You CAN'T stop it. It's psychological. And absolutely normal, means you're aroused and, well, in most cases, it's a good thing. It's equal for the situation when a guy gets a hard-on from touching/kissing/hugging you. Means your body is exci... (read in full...)

My fiance insults my appearance

Q.   My Fiancee often insults mt appearance, telling me that i have a double chin, and he likes thin girls. he also tells me i look fat in certain clothes. he will give me backhanded comliments like" you look so nice today i wish you'd look like this ...

A.   6 September 2010: If he's not ok with you, he shouldn't be with you in the first place. You know what? He is a jerk. Even if he thinks that his words motivate you to lose weight or change your appearance, to you, they're great kicks. He might pull the "I'm jus... (read in full...)

I need to always have attention from men

Q.   I have a need to always have attention from men. No matter what I am doing, or who I am with I feel like I must be the center of every man's attention in the room. It could be guys I know or complete strangers. I don't even care what they look ...

A.   6 September 2010: Look up "Histrionic personality disorder". I have the same problem :)... (read in full...)

I think my cousin's boyfriend likes me what do I do?

Q.   ok am 15...and i move with one of my 20 year old cousin becuz o got in a fight with my mom.so i came to live with her.and i met his bf,(sorry)but he is kute.anyways and their going 2 have a bby.but i been noticing dat my cousin bf likes me.cuz (idk ...

A.   3 September 2010: Honey, you SHOULDN'T, for ANY reason, interfere in your cousin's relationship. BUT, if he keeps hitting on you, you need to tell your cousin. Her cousin has the right to know what kind of man she's gonna have the baby with. I understand, you're a... (read in full...)

Long distance skype hookup advice

Q.   my girlfriend just left for college about a month ago and we decided to have a long distance relationship. I am a really sexual person and not seeing her in person has been tough. I want to try sexually experimenting with skype. I think it might be ...

A.   2 September 2010: And HOW are you supposed to experience sex over Skype? Virtual sex? Masturbation on cam? Is she gonna stick the microphone into her pu**y? How far from you is her college? You could pay her visits once in while, in weekends, considering the phys... (read in full...)

Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history

Q.   I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...

A.   31 August 2010: I think you're worried over nothing. Plus, he's a MAN, of course he's watching the most perverted porn :). As long as he's loving and caring towards you, you have NOTHING to worry about. Maybe he has some creepy fantasies and that's all. ... (read in full...)

Leaving my wife for someone prettier?

Q.   I grew up with a childhood fantasy of marrying a blond blue eyed girl, and instead I married a beautiful dark hair and eyed woman. We've been married for several years, and we have just one tween daughter... but now I want to pursue this idea...

A.   30 August 2010: I think you're not able to dissociate reality from fantasy. Maybe you'll never meet that blond girl you're dreaming about. Of course, it's another thing that you don't get along well anymore with your wife, which is more reasonable. Just talk to ... (read in full...)

My Boyfriend wont change his facebook status to "in a relationship"

Q.   Living in this era everyone who is in a relationship would like to put their relationship status as in the relationship with your partner right? I have been with my boyfriend for 6months now and whenever I ask him to declare as "in a relationsh...

A.   30 August 2010: I'm just curious... Why do give Facebook so much importance? If in real life, your boyfriend gives signs that he loves you, if he respects you, if he's showing you, which is most important, then why are you worried that he might flirt with other ... (read in full...)

We had sex and now he treats me like crap

Q.   Ive got a problem with a guy im seeing but and i really like him but he doesnt show any interest in me. The second time i slept with him he wanted to do what they do in da end of a porn movie in my mouth so i said hell no next day i called him he ...

A.   30 August 2010: How about STOP LOOKING FOR HIM and move on with your life? It's obvious he used you for sex and he's a jerk. Of course he's not interested in you anymore, since you can't do what he want you to do. He himself said that he isn't into emotions... (read in full...)

Boyfriend says he has waited long enough but I don't want to lose my virginity

Q.   what should i do?i dont wanna lose my virginity. i am 22 years.and i am in relationship from past 5 years.me and my b.f have done oral sex many times.but now he wants me to lose my viriginty for him and i dont wanna lose it before my marriage...

A.   29 August 2010: "he always says that everyone lose their virginity in our age then why dont we?:(" - BULLS**T. He's desperate to get into your pants. This shows how immature he is, maybe he's being laughed at by his friends because they already had sex, and he's ... (read in full...)

Big tummy equals small penis?

Q.   Dear cupid.please give me a clarity of this: are men with bigger bellies/tummy/stomach have a small penis size?the reason im asking is i hear people gossiping about it and a boy who is 'into' me now has a biger belly.whats yo experience on ...

A.   29 August 2010: Body shape, weight, height, long fingers, big nose etc, have NOTHING to do with a man's penis size. Also, a big penis doesn't necessary mean extreme pleasure, au contraire, sometimes, a big penis might cause real pain by trying to fit inside y... (read in full...)

Boyfriend says he has waited long enough but I don't want to lose my virginity

Q.   what should i do?i dont wanna lose my virginity. i am 22 years.and i am in relationship from past 5 years.me and my b.f have done oral sex many times.but now he wants me to lose my viriginty for him and i dont wanna lose it before my marriage...

A.   29 August 2010: Well, it's easy, you have 2 possibilities: Either you marry him, or you make him marry you, so you can have sex with him, as a married couple, either you dump him, for another guy, who's more appreciative towards your personal boundari... (read in full...)

Why do I enjoy cheating on my boyfriend?

Q.   I'm 16 and I've been with my boyfriend (23) for 7 months and in the past 2 weeks I've cheated on him 3 times with 2 different people. Once was just kissing, 2nd time was kissing and "touching" and the 3rd time I had sex with someone else... I don't ...

A.   29 August 2010: You like to try different sorts of guys, that's why. It's not necessary a bad thing, but if you do it, make sure you're using protection and be discreet. You don't want to be known as the "universal girl". Anyway, at your age, I think you should b... (read in full...)

Why do guys feel the need to lie?

Q.   Ok,so i just started dating this guy. Granted I have been seeing him for almost two years, but we finally said we would try a "serious relationship". Everything was going good, up until a few days ago, when we had a date planned. So he calls in ...

A.   29 August 2010: Talk to him, ask him to be honest. Just make sure you don't sound dramatic or angry, because he'll back off. Just tell him you're OK with him hanging out with his friends, you totally understand his needs and such. Don't try to point out "YOU lied... (read in full...)

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