My pregnant girlfriend left me
Q. Ok here is my situation. My pregnant girlfriend has left me and is claiming that I verbally and sexually abused her. We had been together 8 months and she was 2 months pregnant when she left. She is 24 and I am 34. She has a four year old son from a ...
A. 8 March 2009: Ok all of you posters are dead wrong! Please understand the nature of people....This woman, as touching as it may be that she has a baby in her belly (wow a baby justifies all of her meanness right?...not!!!) never liked John very much. As the aut... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend left me
Q. Ok here is my situation. My pregnant girlfriend has left me and is claiming that I verbally and sexually abused her. We had been together 8 months and she was 2 months pregnant when she left. She is 24 and I am 34. She has a four year old son from a ...
A. 8 March 2009: Wow I am answering again after reading the last answer again! Your behavior was not abusive as long as you were being honest with her at all times. She took it the wrong way, simple as that. I am sorry you are getting mixed ideas here from di... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend left me
Q. Ok here is my situation. My pregnant girlfriend has left me and is claiming that I verbally and sexually abused her. We had been together 8 months and she was 2 months pregnant when she left. She is 24 and I am 34. She has a four year old son from a ...
A. 8 March 2009: Wow I disagree with both answers here! I have done extensive research on relationships, love, freedom, being alone, growth, pyschology etc. I dont believe that you abused her at all! I believe she was relying on you for her happiness, and yo... (read in full...)
Highschool girlfriends
Q. Alright so i was in highscool 2 years ago. Senior year all is nice popular doing mma keeping in shape. I find this girl she was 16 i was 18 we became friends. After months we decided to start a relationship. Everything was going nice took her to ...
A. 5 March 2009: Well man, you are going to the Air force so how serious do you want this to be? Why not just tell her the truth...tell her you love her but the timing is wrong and you should just have fun together, maybe the occasional shag if you are both mature, ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to have phone/webcam sex?
Q. I met my girlfriend over the summer, and we've had a long distance relationship for seven months. I love her a lot and we've had sex before. I'm so damn horny I have to masturbate everyday just to feel sane. I keep asking her if she masturbates, but ...
A. 5 March 2009: Allright allright I like your style....I dentify your options and go for one!
You and I both know the right option!! You cant cheat on her...that would F your life up. Bad Karma. So what you gotta do is...draw out her sexual goddess! Yeah tha... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend's 19 year old sister is getting in over her head
Q. So me and my girlfriend have a great relationship and have been together for awhile and are even considering marriage but are waiting till we are more financially secure. This is regarding her sister and some of the foolish decisions she makes. ...
A. 4 March 2009: How do 35 year old divorced men with three children pick up 19 year old girls over the internet via myspace, when I cant even get a date at the local bar? J/K
But yeah...this is completely insane...i would strongly urge your GF's sister not to g... (read in full...)
I'm a hopeless romantic...but I feel like I'm being used.
Q. Is there a difference from being "in love" with someone, and "loving" someone? i ask this bc I'm in a very difficult relationship. My best friend and I have been dating for a little more than a month and she is now back living with her ex bf. She ...
A. 4 March 2009: Hey no worries bro. You are obviously in a very hazy state of mind.
This one is easy. EASY. Break up with her!!!!! NOW QUICK. She is full of SH*T and is using you and her ex at the SAME TIME. How does that sound? Your dating an insecure girl who... (read in full...)
Having a very hard time getting over this broken relationship. any tips for healing?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up and we had a pretty good relationship, but a pretty bad break up.. its been a month and some any tips or stories of how anybody else got over there break ups.. and moved on would be appreciated im hurting really ba...
A. 4 March 2009: Wow me too kiddo!
I am hurting soo bad right this instant as well. My g/f crushed me today by telling me all sorts of insulting things, totally out of nowhere.
Heres the wisdom of the ages for you to think about: PEople change, and sometimes re... (read in full...)
Need to hear from people who have broken up with their first love and re-connected after many years?
Q. Has anyone broken up with their first real love only to get back together for good later on in life? I love him with all my heart and Im finding it possible that my heart keeps breaking more and more every day he's not here. its been seven months ...
A. 4 March 2009: Hey honey!
Dude I was totally there when I was 19 as well. I thought she was the one, we were getting married, grow old together and everything. It took me a year to get over it, and it took me meeting my next girlfriend a year and a half later to... (read in full...)
Do you think he will call or is completely over me?
Q. Hello, I just got out of a 2 year relationship. The guy I was with claimed to truly be in love with me and even proposed to me this past October. We have gone through ALOT during those 2 years. 2 weeks ago we broke up for 3 days and he tells me...
A. 3 March 2009: You know, it sounds like you want him to call you so badly, that I think you need to take the initiative if you want to talk to him. But if you dont want to lose your dignity, try moving on. The best advice for moving on i have found recently, ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her out of anger and now I want her back!
Q. I made a huge mistake! I am really really in like with this girl (she is awesome its only been two months dating). We have been having a great time, great sex, getting really close. The problem is communication. She ignores me sometimes when we...
A. 3 March 2009: One more thing! On one other occasion, I left her from a concert in town unexpectedly when I was feeling ignored. I aapologized the next day and she told me "not to do that anymore" because apparently it hurt her. Well, I did it again, like a d... (read in full...)
I'm 8 months pregnant and my boyfriend won't quit lying or seeing girls.
Q. I am almost 8 months pregnant with my first child. I have only been with the father for 10 months. I know it happened fast.. but I wanted to keep the baby and I couldn't be happier. It's a girl. :) Since i've been with Richie he has done nothing but ...
A. 12 November 2008: This is a tough situation.
Has he always been like this? It sounds like he may have been different in the past, and is now "checking out" of the relationship. This might be because he is afraid of his new responsibility as a father. He is running ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to start off in sex!
Q. I don't know how to start off in sex! How do you start off, do you just start making out and then let it unfold or just let him lead you, or should I even lead him?...
A. 11 November 2008: I wouldnt have sex until it feels natural, not forced. If you force it, it will RUIN it. I would recommend waiting in your case, and that is coming from a guy with a lot of life experience, and I wish I would have waited! ... (read in full...)
Why did my guy friends stay up until 3 to talk about me?
Q. My two guys friends did not sleep until 3 o'clock because they talked on phone to each other about me. I'm really surprised to be their topic. I am wondering in what case guys talk about girl? Do you think that they stayed late to talk badly abou...
A. 11 November 2008: Yeah Id say one has a crush on you
Which one could it be?
Guys don talk about girls on the phone for any significant length of time unless A. They are much older than you, B. They BOTH have a crush on you and were hashing it out to see who g... (read in full...)
After a year and a half, is our future still uncertain?
Q. Things have been shaky with my current gf. We met over 2 years ago and went out for I think a month or two before I found out I was the boyfriend "on the side". I confronted her and told her to choose; she decided to dump the other guy. But I felt ...
A. 11 November 2008: Dont get the whole "product stealing" issue...
Why do you need to steal products as opposed to just buying them at the store.
Sounds like you dont know her as well as you wish you did. Get to know her better as a person, and dont assume she ... (read in full...)
Something came out of my vagina..after we had sex!
Q. I had sex with a guy without a condom while I was intoxicated. I went to the bathroom after and went pee, and after I pee'd something came out of my vagina. He claims he didn't cum, and he promised if he did that he would pull out. I'm kind of ...
A. 11 November 2008: Totally possible, sounds like he came.
Get the "morning after" pill. ... (read in full...)
Can't reach a climax...help!
Q. I just became sexually active about a month ago. The problem that I am having is that, I am totally turned on, and it feels really good, but I can't get off before he does, even if he is pleasuring me in other ways, I still can't reach climax. ...
A. 11 November 2008: I work at my school in the Sexuality Resource department at the health center, so trust me I know:
Orgasm is elusive for girls just starting sexual activity, and sometimes elusive for alot longer.
If it feels really good, you are on the right... (read in full...)
Is talking about your marital problems with a male friend "cheating"?
Q. Is talking about your marital problems with a male friend "cheating"?...
A. 11 November 2008: The big question that you should ask yourself to find out if your cheating is this: "Am I cheating?"
Be honest with yourself. You know deep down in your heart if you are using this conversation to grow closer to this other person romantic... (read in full...)
My gf needs time to think as she still misses her ex bf! Do I give her the space?
Q. So my girlfriend says she needs time to think about things because she still misses her ex. She says she loves me more than she has loved anyone but she still thinks we can't be together. I just found out that she has been calling him and meeting ...
A. 28 October 2008: You are very astute and observative in realizing what she wants! Go with your gut feeling!!
She wants options...let her have options. If you dont want to be with a girl who wants to play around with two boys, then move on and find someone who want... (read in full...)
Why do people get jealous of other people?
Q. Why do people get jealous of other people?...
A. 28 October 2008: Because people are insecure of their worth and afraid that they may not find love again.
The cure for jealousy is to develop a bulletproof love for yourself. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if my wife and I will ever have sexual relations again
Q. Well,Cupid, I doubt that even your strongest arrow can solve this problem. Oh. I hear the reply. "Whatever could be wrong?" It's kind of straight forward. The usual, man meets woman, woman and man marry, woman all the sudden doesn't want to ...
A. 28 October 2008: Is it possible to take a break from this marriage for awhile and see if "distance will make the heart grow fonder?"
Stand up for yourself and get what you want! If this relationship isnt satisfying you anymore, why subject yourself to the hurt and... (read in full...)
I have a second cousin and I really like him more than a cousin.
Q. I have a cousin. Well he isn't my blood cousin. His mom is married to my cousin. So I didn't know what to consider him. I just say he is cuz I've known him since we were kids. Until a few months ago tho we have become really close. We talk a lot and ...
A. 28 October 2008: Family is off limits as far as romantic relationships go! I would just move on and find another fish in the sea! I think you would regret it if you pursued this ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm doing anything wrong?
Q. Hi me and my husband got into it last night. I just recently got a facebook account. I mainly got it to keep in touch with long distance family since i moved out of town. However i saw a lot of people from my old middle and high school and i ...
A. 21 October 2008: You can do whatever you want. Dont let him control you. In order not to feel bad about what you do, make sure you are honest about your intentions for doing it. If you do something out of spite, it will haunt you.... (read in full...)
Partner looks at freaky and/or gay porn. What gives?
Q. I've been dating a great guy since the beginning of May. We get along very well and are currently living together. I have known from the start that he likes porn. I made an assumption that since he had been single for a while he looked at it to ...
A. 21 October 2008: It sounds like you dont like his behavior, and trying to make him change is not respectful of him as a person. If you dont like him for who he is, time to move on to someone you do like. ... (read in full...)
Is my sex problems wiuth curent boyfriend due to an abusive ex?
Q. I don't understand what is going on with my body. My boyfriend insists that it is him, I keep telling him that it isn't him. When I was with my ex-husband he wanted me to have sex with him every night or he wouldn't let me go to sleep until he got ...
A. 25 April 2008: I doubt anything is wrong with your body.
Sounds like post traumatic stress from years of sexual abuse by your ex husband. You may benefit from therapy of some sort...really letting out all of your emotions from the marriage.
I am sure you... (read in full...)
I need to feel safe in a relationship so I need help on this!! PLEASE...
Q. how to even ask, okay here goes well im engaged underage and in love with my boyfriend on the side which is more than my long distant fiance. im 17 years old my fiance is 21 which knows im 17 then my boyfriend is 35 and thinks im 20 i...
A. 9 April 2008: Allright..since im a guy I will give you two opinions!
1. My friend Erika (name changed)has these types of relationships and is now 20, always giving out false ages to her boyfriends, but totally rad girl, just lots of drama. After last summer s... (read in full...)
Should I bust out the question and ask her out or take it slow and see if we vibe better?
Q. Theres a girl who I am totally attracted to. We just met a few days ago but we seem to have so many things in common: our hobbies, books, movies, lifestyles etc. Last night after we saw a concert I asked her if we could kiss...we did for awhile i...
A. 8 April 2008: Thanks for the help.
I asked her out and for whatever reason, I think it backfired. She said she would answer later that evening, and when she called me back that night, she avoided the subject and said she couldnt hang out that night because ... (read in full...)
When you love somebody, do you set them free or never leave them?
Q. Is it true, if you love somebody, you set them free? or is it if you love somebody you never leave?...
A. 5 April 2008: The actual truth is: If you love somebody, you give them space and freedom and respect more so than you impose your will upon them in the name of "love"... (read in full...)
We had a one time passionate kiss. If I see him again should I pursue him or forget it?
Q. About a week and a half ago I was at a conference, followed by a pretty posh dinner followed with a pretty good afterparty. All the way through the conference, I kept making eye contact with a guy, we'll call him James. Kept catching him looking ...
A. 13 December 2007: Sounds like a scene from a movie!
In the movies, at this point, the lady, You, would probably play a bit hard to get next time you see him, but still flirtatious in your smart, wicked way. That way, the passion will be just as intense next tim... (read in full...)
My ex seems to expect me to simply be her friend after all the hurt she's caused me... But her Father died today. Now I have the chance to be a friend, but I'm worried that I may hurt myself. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I posted a question earlier today, but there has been a serious and tragic twist since this morning. My girlfriend broke up with me almost 6 months ago after she decided our long distance (240 miles) relationship was too much to bear...
A. 9 December 2007: Heres my only advice and you may not like it:
Know that if you comfort her as a friend, you are becoming extremely vulnerable again and if it doesnt work out in your favor again...think of all the heartbreak you will go through again.
BUT..I ... (read in full...)
My girls wants a threesome!
Q. My girlfriend wants us to have a threesome with another woman and I'm not sure if I want to. I think it would be fun, but I'm quite a jealous person when it comes to her, and I think I might even get jealous of her with another woman. She really ...
A. 6 December 2007: I dont think you should compromise your values to make her happy. If you think it would add too much drama, possibly hurt you seeing her with another girl, then that is a valid feeling. I use to listen to alot of loveline with Dr Drew and Adam ... (read in full...)
I messed around all night - could I be pregnant?
Q. i am a college student and one night a little over a month ago, when i got beack to my dorm room, my roommate had some of her friends over, there wsa this really hot guy and we messed around all night and we were drinking too...but im worried about ...
A. 6 December 2007: I think you need to figure out as soon as possible if you were raped. You seem to be hinting to us that you think you might have been raped. You should probably go to a planned parenthood type place and pick up a free pregnancy test, and talk to a ... (read in full...)
I've got two babies, and I'm married to an alcoholic, how can I escape this mess?
Q. I have been married for just about three years, and they have been the worst years of my life. My husband is an alcoholic, and very verbally and emotionally abusive. He gets drunk EVERY day. He drinks in the shower, any where he can. I find ...
A. 26 November 2007: Cool so you recognize a problem and want to change...that means your healthy and still alive and still capable of having a HAPPY life. Yes its true, if you change your current situation, your life will become happier and better each day. The change ... (read in full...)
How did she get over me so quickly??
Q. My ex and I broke up three weeks ago. She started university in Sept and became more and more distant. I got insecure which pushed her away. She said when we split that she didn't want to lose me completely and that she still loved me. We still ...
A. 25 November 2007: Yo man im going through the EXACT same thing with my g/f right now.
I went away to school and she stayed behind, but she still seems so happy and like she doesnt miss me at all. I on the other hand, am super bummed and suffer every day.
But,... (read in full...)
I'm a married man but became utterly obsessed with a young co-worker. We've been friends for a while but I just can't stop thinking that I'm destined to be with her
Q. Hi, I am a married male with children, and I love my wife very much. I hired this girl (who has a boyfriend) who was almost 20 years younger than me for a 1 year term. She is extremely sociable, and has a good relationship with almost everyone she ...
A. 25 November 2007: Has the girl given you any signs she is interested in you? It seems your imagination might be making you feel she likes you, when in reality she just doesnt know how to deal with an older man developing an obsession for her in a work environment. O... (read in full...)
How can I make the day after we make love a romantic one?
Q. I want to plan a romantic day for my boyfriend to follow after the night we first make love. I could use your advice. After waking up next to him in the morning how can I suggest taking a shower together and making breakfast together in the nude? Sh...
A. 25 November 2007: Do you guys already live together? Making breakfast in the nude might be kinda weird for him...would be for me :) Showers are fun though....have sex in the shower!! As far as activities the next day? How bout something athletic to get the sexu... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that I'm going to lose my first real relationship because I'm so shy
Q. My relationship of about 4 months is probably about to end, but the thing is that i believe its all down to my massive shyness problem. Due to this problem, this has been my first real relationship, however recently she said that it "doesnt feel ...
A. 25 November 2007: No worries bro. Heres your options: Be more assertive and tell this girl how much you like her! Take control of your reality and just be scared and go tell her whats up. Or just let it fade away and lose the girl you still obviously like. ... (read in full...)
I've nowhere to go or have anyone to turn to. What should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I am 22 and I have a 16 month old baby. I am with my baby's father almost 3 years. I love him so much. But he is always leaving me home with the baby and going out and partying and drinking all the time. That is not the kind of ...
A. 16 November 2007: The guy must listen to you and work with you or else how will you be able to effectively raise your child? You must be strong and be reasonable with your expectations for what you need him to do as a parent. If he decides to not be a reasonable ... (read in full...)
How I can overcome jealousy/envy? How can I stop comparing my life to other people's?
Q. hi people! I know this is a common question on here, I just wanted to know how I can overcome jealousy?its a horrible feeling n its effecting my life..I also have a problem with comparing my life to others n finding how much more better their life ...
A. 16 November 2007: Hey First know that these feelings are normal and MANY other people experience this type of feeling on and off throughout their lives. I struggle with it personally very much. What helps me when I start comparing myself to others is to... (read in full...)
Give me some perspectives on 'what love really is'?
Q. I would like people to explain to me what they think love is, how they feel when they are in love, what they think love is...? How different is love from when you were together 6 months to 6 years to 60 years? I would just be interested in pe...
A. 6 November 2007: I think Love is more of its own entity....it comes and goes and there is nothing we can do about it. If we try to control love, it wont be love anymore. Love is completely giving regardless of return...and it has no expectations. Love celebrates ... (read in full...)
I had a same sex dream, I loved it but its against my morals, is this wrong?
Q. I am 100% straight female, but last night I had a disturbing dream...I was about to go girl-on-girl in my room in my bed! And I was actually turned on by it which was the weird thing. My beliefs teach me that homosexuality is wrong and I would never ...
A. 4 November 2007: Everyone has these dreams...its the brain playing out subconsious ideas and its healthy...maybe now you will have a great empathy and tolerance to homsexuals right? Not a bad thing!!... (read in full...)
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