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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 November 2008):
 I think your friend is coming on to you and I think you that also. The question is what do you think you should do about that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. I think that during our conversations he would give advice and tell me that I should seek happiness- and not spend the rest of my life wondering. What are your thoughts on that?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 November 2008):
I definitely agree with the aunts...these discussions should ONLY be with your husband, a marriage counselor, or both. It is a huge violation of his privacy.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (11 November 2008):
 if you are talking as in asking for advice then i say no.
If thats all then ill say its ok, but remember that somethings should be kept private for your husbands privacy
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Well, it depends on how sensitive your husband is but I would imagine the majority of men would be horrified if they knew that their private lives had been discussed by their wives with another person - especially so if the other person is a man. It is a betrayal of trust, as is cheating. Anyway, you should be discussing problems with your husband, the only way to possibly solve them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): If it was just talking, then whether or not this counts as emotional cheating would depend on the circumstances. But what you should really be thinking about here, probably, is why you feel you can discuss your marital problems with a friend but not your husband. Start from there. If you and your hubby can't communicate about what's wrong, it is only going to get worse. Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 November 2008):
Were you having sex with him while you discussed your problems? If so then yes it is cheating.
Were you talking about problems and then developing feelings and a real emotional connection while using him as a shoulder to cry on?
There is such a thing as an emotional affair.
If it's bothering your husband that you are spending so much time alone with this guy then you should think about stopping, or at least meeting with other people there and in public places.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (11 November 2008):
 The big question that you should ask yourself to find out if your cheating is this: "Am I cheating?"
Be honest with yourself. You know deep down in your heart if you are using this conversation to grow closer to this other person romantically (cheating) or if you are using his conversation as a true information session to help you and your spouse grow closer (Not cheating).
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