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writes:I would like people to explain to me what they think love is, how they feel when they are in love, what they think love is...?How different is love from when you were together 6 months to 6 years to 60 years?I would just be interested in people'd different perspectives and thoughts on what love really is and what it really feels like. Reply to this Question |
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reader, Fade878  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 The falling in love is a marvelous time.
It requires two people willing to overlook flaws, have a more understanding and accepting heart, a greater ability to listen to the other, the desire to get to know them. It requires two people wanting the other to see them as good, loving, ideal. It requires friendship and trust. It seems effortless or natural.
Being in love requires dedication, work, sacrifice, the same effort of wanting to listen and validate the other, to understand, not react, work to forgive, ask for forgiveness, work to change the mistakes we make that cause misunderstandings and heartache, admitting when you are causing problems be it through being prideful, angry.
Being in love is more than a feeling, it is living and showing how you love. By using kind words, learning to communicate in a way the other can hear. It is by helping the other when they are feeling low, helping out around the house, working together. Making and keeping promises.
I don't understand why people think falling in love just ends. It can be an ongoing event. It takes the same attributes as in the beginning. You just have to work at them continually.
If you catch yourself being lax, rededicate, get back up and commit once more.
Time and events test the validity of the love and commitment.
True love is willing to put the other first and make them happy trusting and knowing the other is doing the same.
It stand the test of time. Hard work pays off.
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reader, Yos  + ♥, writes (6 November 2007):
 This is the best lecture on love I've seen. Watch it...http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/view/id/16
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reader, enjoimx  + ♥, writes (6 November 2007):
 I think Love is more of its own entity....it comes and goes and there is nothing we can do about it. If we try to control love, it wont be love anymore. Love is completely giving regardless of return...and it has no expectations. Love celebrates difference, diversity, variety, and change. It celebrates growth and challenge.
In terms of relationships, love exists when there is no fear of losing someone. When you are afraid of losing someone, you are inherently already under the false assumption they they are YOURS to lose. LOVE DOES NOT POSSESS. A lover will set his or her lover free if they want to be set free out of a committed relationship. The love will remain, but the relationship will be a sweet memory.
Read this book by Osho..."Love, Freedom, Aloneness".
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): Its when you can't stop thinking about someone and you see them in your future and in everything you do.You care about them more than you care for yourself, and even though you really want them you want them to be happy more than anything in the world. Its difficult because you still do alot of jealous things in a relationship even when you are in love but the thought of ever making them upset is the worst feeling. When you love someone ultimately you accept them for everything they are and have to offer.
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (6 November 2007):
 To me "love" is exactly what I feel for my boyfriend of 18 months. I can't bear to be away from him. I constantly think of him. Most things remind me of him. When he's on his way to meet me I get the most unbelievable butterflies just at the thought of seeing him and when I am with him I can't even imagine wanting to be anywhere else in the world than right there with him. When I look into the future I can't see myself with anyone else other than him. The thought of spending the rest of my life with him is exciting rather than frightening. Before I met him I thought I would never want children as I have never liked them at all but I would simply love to have his children.
I would do anything that he asked me to if it made him happy.
I hope this helps with the "what love is" issue! :)
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