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writes:My boyfriend and I broke up and we had a pretty good relationship, but a pretty bad break up.. its been a month and someany tips or stories of how anybody else got over there break ups.. and moved on would be appreciatedim hurting really bad right now
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your help !
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (5 March 2009):
 I am going through a break up right now as well so I know how you are feeling. Unfortunately mine just happened about a day ago so it's still fresh and very painful. What helps me is to keep busy. It sounds cliche but it really is helping me now. Watch new tv shows or new movies, anything to keep your interest that will keep your mind off of him. I dated a guy about 2 years ago that I thought I could never get over. It actually took me a full year. In that time I got a new job, picked up a few new shows to watch, kept busy hanging out with family, wrote in a journal everything I was feeling... You know I read the journal the other day and it was amazing how much i was in love with this guy and how I feel nothing for him now. I can hear songs that used to make me cry over him that I feel nothing now. You will move on. Just like I need to remember I am going to move on from this one. It just takes time. I wish you the best of luck. Remember to keep busy and time heals all wounds. All the old cliched sayings are true and work. I met someone after my ex who I thought I could never get over. But I did, and so will you. What is meant to be will be. Feel free to email me anytime since we are going through something similar together. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): I agree with the above answers... The end of a relationship is a death of dreams and hopes.. You have to allow it to pass through you. Anyone that tells you not to cry and go out and have fun has never been inlove.. Those things won't help the pain, it will only coat over it for now. You need to give yourself time. Cry about it, write about it. I write poems and some of my best work came from the loss of my relationship.
But make sure and do some serious thinking. Try to understand why it ended. Sometimes people are only in your life for a reason. Maybe he was there to teach you something or help you go through something and if it was a good relationship someday you'll be able to look back on it as a fond memory.. I know it's not possible now, but one day.. Listening to music also helped me alot because it makes you feel you're not alone. Everyoe has gone through it and one day you'll feel better..
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reader, mace  +, writes (4 March 2009):
 i have had bad relations in the past the bests thing to do is get out the house go to town dude et talk with freinds every thing will sort its self out after time there is still a lot out there you still have to experience
mace
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (4 March 2009):
 Wow me too kiddo!
I am hurting soo bad right this instant as well. My g/f crushed me today by telling me all sorts of insulting things, totally out of nowhere.
Heres the wisdom of the ages for you to think about: PEople change, and sometimes relationships are out of your control. People are going through their own process, apart from you, and you cant change them.
So, heres what you do: feel the pain, write down how you feel, and go through the motions of life, and every morning you wake up, you are a small step closer to being happy again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): I feel for you as I have been there recently. I thought that the solution was to go and meet someone new... I was WAY wrong. Ending a relationship is a loss just like any other. You have to allow yourself to grieve, its a process. Just try to make each day better than the last and maybe try new things to fill you days. Like take an art class or start walking pick up a new book, or learn a new skill. Yes it really sucks that you have to go through this, but why not come out of it a better, happier person?
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