Friends don't like my boyfriend but I feel hurt and in love
Q. I need help! a lot of help. Well me and my x bf have been on and off for a year. my friends hate it but im really happy even though im hurt when we break up. He says the sweatest things and i feel like my friends dont see the side of him that i do. ...
A. 2 April 2009: Seems like an emotional rollercoaster that might be more trouble than its worth. Maybe take a longer break this time and see what happens. Focus on your own life and not your dating life, and you will be more clear headed about whether or not to ... (read in full...)
I need help!!! I'm on birth control but don't use condoms... is this bad!
Q. Ok.. so my boyfreind and I have been together 7 months and we are sexually active.. I'm on birth control and we don't use condoms.... he cums in me every time. We are protected with the birth control but are we still at risk??? I need help!...
A. 2 April 2009: According to this website http://www.fda.gov/Fdac/features/1997/conceptbl.html
You have a 5% chance of getting pregnant assuming you make the occasional mistake in taking the pill. Kinda scary because that means theorectically, after 100 times of... (read in full...)
I just want to feel neutral towards him! Why haven't I moved on?
Q. I really don't understand what is wrong with me! I just can't get over this guy! We were only together for a matter of months but I really fell for him in a big way! It's been 1 and a half weeks since it ended really badly (his fault-he cheated...
A. 2 April 2009: Time and distance.
It takes much longer than a week. Even if the relationship only lasted a couple months, you admittedly fell for him, gave him your trust, and he broke it. So feel the sadness, write what you feel, talk to friends, get alot of ... (read in full...)
Is swinging booming in real life?
Q. is swinging booming in real life or does it only sounds like that in the web but in real life it is not that much?? and is it true that most swinger couples practice interracial sex??? i mean the wife or th GF especially??...
A. 2 April 2009: My ex/gf swung a bit while we were dating. It didn't bother me because it didn't seem to affect our relationship. She was soo committed and wonderful to me it was ridiculous. She had complete honesty with me and I with her. I think swinging is all ... (read in full...)
I'm not IN love with my boyfriend anymore & Not fully over my ex either...
Q. I and 22 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. However I have been confused about my feelings for him. I feel that I love him, but im not IN love any more. I have wanted to break up many times but have never found the courage to do i...
A. 1 April 2009: Easy baby....break up with him! Why prolong this relationship that will lead nowhere....honest brutal truth here....LOVE comes and goes, realize that fact and it will set you free...some love lasts a lifetime, other love teaches you for a season and ... (read in full...)
I need advice please. She is the one that I need!
Q. Alright, my name is "D". Me and this girl used to date a long time ago back when we first started talking everything seemed to be going fine and it was. After maybe a month of getting to know each other we started dating and i thought that she woul...
A. 1 April 2009: How DO you feel man? Be honest with yourself before talking to her. It may just be that your just not that into her which is FINE!! The fact that you dont return her calls or call her that much is just an indication that you arent that into ... (read in full...)
Why do women prefer being on the top?
Q. Well, i have a simple question which i couldn't find the answer by myself. I hope your answers will help me... Do the women have more pleasure and have orgasm when they are dominant? I mean when they are riding or when they are controlling the ...
A. 30 March 2009: Yeah girls like to be on top, sort of riding the horse, helping themselves out if you know what i mean.
I think girls in general though want a guy who will take control and make sure they are feeling good thoughout the sex experience!
good l... (read in full...)
I just have a feeling he doesn’t like me like that
Q. So there's this guy that I met about a year ago and in that year we have became very good friends. I believe I can say he is one of my best friends and recently I've developed a huge crush on him. I denied it to myself for a while, but finally gave ...
A. 30 March 2009: Im going to give you a interesting reply here....one that might not be accepted by everyone!
Let him make the first move! ...you like him alot but arent sure if he likes you, why not play it the old traditional way and let him make a move if he li... (read in full...)
Will this stop her from being pregnant?
Q. We have had lots of problems, all of them stopped =]. Last night we had sex for our first time and we were drunk, i came in her but she is on birth control, will this stop her from being pregnant? She had just got off her period the day before and ...
A. 29 March 2009: Birth control, depending on what kind she uses, is 80-90 % effective, by itself.
So there is a small chance that she could get pregnant, sorry to break the bad news, but its reality. You should see if she would be willing to take a pregnanc... (read in full...)
I found out that he's telling other girls that he is single
Q. I started dating this guy 3 years ago and everything was great. We loved each other's company, so after 1 year we decided to move in together. Everything was good in the beginning, he would cook, clean make breakfast, and cuddle everynight. Th...
A. 29 March 2009: He wont get it even WHEN you leave him. Don't leave him in order to try to win him back. It will make you look like a fool when he goes back to his old ways. His ways are indicative of a person who doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't know he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't touch me
Q. my boyfriend dont like to be touched. what do i do? he dosnt even like to talk to me i been asking questions then talking. he makes noises when i talk or touch him. what do i do?...
A. 29 March 2009: He seems very disinterested in you if all he can do is make noises when you try to communicate with him.
Just end it with this guy. You want to find someone who is willing to have a conversation with you, at the very least. ... (read in full...)
How to interpret the way a woman rejects a man's advances
Q. Hi. A quick 'Mars' vs 'Venus' question. If a man asks, via e-mail, a woman out on a date knowing full well that she read the e-mail as soon as he sent it, if he is rejected 100 minutes later via e-mail then does he read into this A) She hesitated, ...
A. 29 March 2009: Tell him right away, god, why would you string someone along?
And he might read into it or he might not care, depends on the guy and if he actually liked the girl or if he was just interested in a casual date....... (read in full...)
I lost my temper, she ended things..I want her back!
Q. I recently realized how bad my temper can be. I have a very short fuse and I blow up. I came to realize this when I scared the girl I wanted to propose to, the love of my life. I didn't harm her in any way, or touch her in any aggressive way. I was ...
A. 29 March 2009: You say you "did this to yourself"
I disagree...the blame game is pointless. Dont blame yourself. Your behavior in this relationship was natural. The anger was a sign that you two were not compatible. It sucks that you verbally released your ang... (read in full...)
I'm a hopeless romantic and I need some birthday ideas!?
Q. My girlfriend's birthday is coming up soon and i want to do something very romantic for her. She and I are hopeless romantic but i am not sure what to do for her. I know different girls like different things but i am just asking your advices to help ...
A. 20 March 2009: My suggestion is to pay closer attention to your g/f's habits, needs, desires etc. Birthday ideas should be obvious if the relationship is going splendidly.
Your best bet is to personalize something for her. What is she into?
What kind of ... (read in full...)
I'm not getting pleasure from masturbating any more. Help!
Q. Hi, I've had no problem masturbating in the past but lately I've noticed I'm not getting intense orgasms. This has been happening about 6 months now and I get nowhere. I'm basically not getting any pleasure from it whatsoever. I have went on one ...
A. 19 March 2009: Take a break from masturbating. That's the surefire way to fix this. Also, try doing a lot more physical activity, which will increase your sex drive. ... (read in full...)
How can I explain to my boyfriend that me and Ty are JUST friends?
Q. So here goes, I have been best friends with this guy Ty since we were around 2 years old. His mom and my mom are BFF we spend thanksgiving and vacations together stay at each others homes blah blah blah you get it right? Anyhow I had a huge party...
A. 19 March 2009: Mr. Me nailed it actually quite nicely. But consider this:Do you have feelings for Ty? You love him right? You cant see yourself advancing that relationship? Oftentimes as we mature, we start to realize that those people who we have amazing frie... (read in full...)
Its really bothering me that she doesn't want to talk to me
Q. So the past few days, umm monday tues and tonight, have been awkward, she usually calls me at night, we usually tlak every night, but the past few nights i text her yo su should callme, and she ask why? and for what? and idk why shes being liek thi...
A. 19 March 2009: Take a step back from this relationship and you will see that she either regains interest in you (because she misses you and genuinely wants to talk to you), or she might just start being more distant, at which point you know shes just not that into ... (read in full...)
Could use a shoulder to lean on
Q. First of all..... Holy shit. Where to begin... I left my job for another in another overseas. My fiancee ( almost 6 years together) had wanted us to end up there eventually... Sacrifices had to be made in order to achieve this. Let m...
A. 19 March 2009: Wow crazy im sorry to hear that!!
That sounds way more intense than anything I have been through. I cant imagine that kind of stress, and still having to study!
Get some excercise, consider your personal and mental health more important than t... (read in full...)
She's very stubborn and doesn't know what she wants, meanwhile I am in so much pain!
Q. Hello Everyone. I'm not in a good place right now, and could really do with some help and advice. Basically, I met my girlfriend about one year ago and we fell in love so fast, we were practically inseparable. All was perfect throughout the s...
A. 17 March 2009: Hey bro, me and you have a VERY similar personality. I went through the same thing as you about 2 years ago....EXACTLY. Im going through it again RIGHT now but to a much lesser extent because of the lessons i learned and the wisdom I gained. Read ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to have sex or should I just move on??
Q. I have asked all of my friends so I guess I will ask and wait for a random person to give me the answer. I'm still in high school and my gf is older than me but she is a virgin and I want sex but I don't want to cheat on her.... she avoids the ...
A. 16 March 2009: Basically, if you want different things then you have an option, either wait till she comes around OR break up with her. Nobody is at fault here, I dont blame you for wanteing sex, and I dont blame her for holding out. Its a simple case of people ... (read in full...)
Does "sleeping over" bring a couple closer?
Q. Ok, so what is behind the whole reason why my boyfriend wanted me to sleep over on Saturday night.. He gave me a tight hug and didn't want to let me go. Jokingly of course but kept insisting it was late and I should just spend the night.. I didn't ...
A. 16 March 2009: Sounds like he wanted to have sex with you! Just because you werent feeling it, doesnt mean he wasnt either!
Also, just sleeping in the same bed with someone, of course that brings you two closer!
It feels really good cuddling and sharing a be... (read in full...)
Can you really just be friends? Opinions on crushes, the attraction zone
Q. Your opinion on crushes, attraction and the friend zone. This question is mainly directed at guys, but women can answer too. So if you were once attracted to/ interested in someone but then became good friends, does that feeling of attraction ev...
A. 16 March 2009: Heres an interesting idea: Maybe you can be friends DESPITE the fact that you still have feelings for the other person.
I still have feelings for my ex, but she is in a great new relationship, and the guy is a great guy, so I stay away, dont int... (read in full...)
Did I find my soulmate?
Q. So... a few things... I am an attractive guy, one night stands never did it for me so after the few that I had, I stopped them. I can't stand girls who do have them a lot. I met this girl.. and she is the sweetest thing on earth, we are madly ...
A. 16 March 2009: That question "doesn't just come up." It's because you are insecure and are seeking validtion from her. I've never asdked my girlfriends that question because I don't care. What does it matter? The past is the past. "she's my everything...",... (read in full...)
He's trying to convince me to come back and I'm considering it
Q. Hi, I am 25 years old.I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years. He is the only man I have slept with. He has cheated on me many times during our relationship. Since finding out about his cheating in December 2008, I have broken up with h...
A. 15 March 2009: Yeah thats natural, I say move on. I dont think he will stop cheating if he has already done it multiple times.
He doesnt really love you, he is using you.
... (read in full...)
Tell me how to move on, please tell me how to live a life!
Q. Dear Cupid, It's been a month since my ex of a year and half broke up with me. I've tried to move on so hard, but I can't. I can't stand her absence in my life. I gave her everything I had. I gave up on everything for her. I've gaven u...
A. 15 March 2009: Its all part of life man. Breakups happen and they hurt very bad. You need to build some self esteem and not put all of your hopes and dreams into a woman, and not expect a woman to make you happy.
If you want the blatant truth on how to heal, ow... (read in full...)
I find it a turn off that he's pushy about sex!
Q. I have been going out with this guy now for 9 months, in the beginning things were great, it was so good I thought he was 'the one' until I started to get more tired as was suffering from a lot of stress in work. I told him I can't have sex cos I ...
A. 15 March 2009: "He only drinks when he is really depressed about the relationship"
Classic sign of alcoholism. You dont have to be drinking a 20 pack a night to be an alcoholic. Any time you use alcohol to try to fix a problem, and it negatively affects your lif... (read in full...)
I find it a turn off that he's pushy about sex!
Q. I have been going out with this guy now for 9 months, in the beginning things were great, it was so good I thought he was 'the one' until I started to get more tired as was suffering from a lot of stress in work. I told him I can't have sex cos I ...
A. 15 March 2009: I am really sorry this is happening to you, it sounds like he is in a relationship based on fear not love. Sure what he is doing hurts you, and you should probably end the relationship as it is a way of controlling you. You and him are going back ... (read in full...)
I lost my temper, she ended things..I want her back!
Q. I recently realized how bad my temper can be. I have a very short fuse and I blow up. I came to realize this when I scared the girl I wanted to propose to, the love of my life. I didn't harm her in any way, or touch her in any aggressive way. I was ...
A. 13 March 2009: The problem here is that your trying to fix your anger for the wrong person! Why would you want to fix it for her? Fix it for YOURSELF. Because projecting anger out of your soul will only hurt YOU.
You are living in fear, not in love. You said you... (read in full...)
Any advice for peaking a girl's interest when I randomly approach them?
Q. I have been dating a girl for 4 years. She broke up with me and I'm trying to move on because she already has. Since more guys approach girls she beat me to the punch. Any advice or tips to meeting new girls. I have a co-worker I am interested ...
A. 13 March 2009: Good for you for getting back out there!
Realize that a rebound hookup by your ex with someone knew is not going to make her forget you! Just because girls get hit on more doesnt mean she has moved on. Not that your trying to prevent her from movi... (read in full...)
5 year marriage and my love is fading
Q. Ok, here it goes. I have been married for almost five years. For those past five years, my attraction to my husband has faded. I have tried so many different things to spice up our relationship. Nothing has worked. During those five years, I have ...
A. 13 March 2009: No there is nothing wrong with you AT ALL. But before something happens with this new guy, you should take a good hard look at yourself and figure out what you want. My guess is, if you have an affair, it will be a fleeting experience and will ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of this temptation of having fantasies with hot guys who are not my boyfriend?
Q. So I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. Before I got into this relationship I was pretty promiscous. I have never cheated on my boyfriend and do not intend to, but the problem I have is the temptation when other guys look at me with ...
A. 13 March 2009: You cant really get rid of them...your 18 or 19 and its pretty normal to fantasize, especially since youve been with the same guy for 3 years.The worst thing you can do would be cheat...trust me it will haunt you if you do!
Just let them be fanta... (read in full...)
Could she be waiting for me to say something?
Q. Hi folks, I've been racking my brain over this and I can't make my mind up so hopefully some of you may be able to help me. My best friend is a woman, she is the same age as me (27). We are always going out for drinks, the cinema, something to eat...
A. 12 March 2009: Dont say anything Bro!! Just keep on keeping on! She likes you for you!! which is amazing and worth your timE! She is hinting that she really likes you! All you have to do is take is slow, show her some affection and love, be her friend, keep going ... (read in full...)
Do I act like I have moved on?Or let her know that I still care?
Q. So, my girlfriend left me back in January. We talked here and there for about 5 weeks afterwards. It was killing me inside that we were no longer together and talking at her convenience so I gave her a letter saying I had to walk away from the ...
A. 12 March 2009: Be honest with your feelings. Dont make a point of telling her. Only tell her if she cares, if she asks, or gives you a slight hint that she wants you back. Just her picking up her stuff is not a sign that she wants you back.
Assume she doesnt w... (read in full...)
How can I move on knowing what I am doing to him?
Q. I recently posted a question... I just broke up with my boyfriend about four days ago. We had been dating for a year and a half with a brief break up period around 8 months. Everything was great at first and I thought that I might actually spend t...
A. 9 March 2009: I am the guy in the same situation as your ex right now. I would still recomend you move on, break all contact with him.
You are not responsible for his well being. That is his way of controlling you, trying to get you back. He is depresse... (read in full...)
Open up the relationship due to long distance?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now but for the past year, we have been in a long distance relationship. Although at time it has been extremely tough, we have managed to sustain our relationship. Lately, we had discussions abou...
A. 9 March 2009: Sounds like you guys may be able to pull this off because of your great communication skills. By being honest and talking about it, you seem to be making it transparent that you love each other but want each other to be free to move on if it happens ... (read in full...)
Try to rekindle things with her? Or continue play the waiting game?
Q. I began dating my now ex-girlfriend in December of 2007. In June of 2008 we decided to move her in with me because we were very much in love and we were driving 40 miles 2 or 3 times a week to see one another. She was having a hard time finding a ...
A. 9 March 2009: Leave it be. Move on. Its interesting how we read the books that will help us get the results that we want!! I am sure the book was great, and occasionally there are successful reunitings of estranged lovers....but in reality, I tend to feel tha... (read in full...)
My lying and drug usage has hurt her and now it is hard for her to trust me.
Q. Hi, my beautiful wife and I have been married for 3 and a half years now. We have a 3 year old daughter. Having that said, I have been smoking marijuana for nearly 6 years habitually. When we started dating she knew of my usage but it never changed ...
A. 9 March 2009: Thats awesome that you stopped using....Mary J is a pretty shitty substitute for reality after awhile. I quit and my life has been better in a few ways because of it. But i am sure that if you just show her you care for her in all of your actions,... (read in full...)
Multiple choice question: Guy A or Guy B?
Q. I’ve been having trouble deciding between two guys for months, and this weekend has brought me to the point where I really need to make a final decision. Guy A and I have been dating for nearly 4.5 years, starting when I was 17. Things went very...
A. 9 March 2009: Sounds like your relationship with Guy A has truly run its course./ The love that once existed has moved on like the breeze, which is what love does sometimes. Change is a fact of life. Dont pass up your feelinfs for guy B, it doesnt matter which ... (read in full...)
Is being long distance really worth breaking up over?
Q. hello. Well, long story short; I am leaving for college in 2 months. A different country (and continent) and all. I have been dating a FANTASTIC guy for 4 months now. he is perfect, i have never had such a perfect bf in my entire life. But I ha...
A. 9 March 2009: Go for it....might as well try to make it work, but realize that it will end in heartbreak for one of you, as the other person meets someone new. Its a risky endeavor to stay together, but worse things have been done in the name of love. Take th... (read in full...)
This girl means the world to me, and I can't let her be the one who got away...
Q. Ok, I have been seeing a girl for 4 years. Things were great. After graduating college we moved to different cities and accepted jobs. Anyway things were going well for the first several months. Then all the sudden she started to become distant. ...
A. 9 March 2009: What I have learned, as I was in this situation 2 years ago with an amazing girl, is that you have to let her go. As much as you love her, she is saying through action and some words that she is ready to try someone new. Actions speak louder than ... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend left me
Q. Ok here is my situation. My pregnant girlfriend has left me and is claiming that I verbally and sexually abused her. We had been together 8 months and she was 2 months pregnant when she left. She is 24 and I am 34. She has a four year old son from a ...
A. 8 March 2009: Ok all of you posters are dead wrong! Please understand the nature of people....This woman, as touching as it may be that she has a baby in her belly (wow a baby justifies all of her meanness right?...not!!!) never liked John very much. As the aut... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend left me
Q. Ok here is my situation. My pregnant girlfriend has left me and is claiming that I verbally and sexually abused her. We had been together 8 months and she was 2 months pregnant when she left. She is 24 and I am 34. She has a four year old son from a ...
A. 8 March 2009: Wow I am answering again after reading the last answer again! Your behavior was not abusive as long as you were being honest with her at all times. She took it the wrong way, simple as that. I am sorry you are getting mixed ideas here from di... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend left me
Q. Ok here is my situation. My pregnant girlfriend has left me and is claiming that I verbally and sexually abused her. We had been together 8 months and she was 2 months pregnant when she left. She is 24 and I am 34. She has a four year old son from a ...
A. 8 March 2009: Wow I disagree with both answers here! I have done extensive research on relationships, love, freedom, being alone, growth, pyschology etc. I dont believe that you abused her at all! I believe she was relying on you for her happiness, and yo... (read in full...)
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