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30-35,
*eizethebreeze
writes:I met my girlfriend over the summer, and we've had a long distance relationship for seven months. I love her a lot and we've had sex before. I'm so damn horny I have to masturbate everyday just to feel sane. I keep asking her if she masturbates, but she is too prim and proper to answer. She's 2000 miles away, and it would be nice if I could finally share a virtual sexual experience with her on a webcam or even phone sex, but she won't admit she masturbates! I see fine women everywhere everyday at college, and I get tempted to cheat on my girlfriend. I've never cheated because I hold myself back and end up just masturbating. It's like this everyday, and it's driving me nuts!I have three options:-not cheat and continue masturbating by myself and be miserable-cheat and not tell her and have that hole in my conscience.-cheat and tell her, which means it will be over. she won't visit me for this coming summer, thus eliminating unlimited sexual opportunity with her for the summer-make her become more sexually open, so we can have phone/webcam sex, but how do I do this!?!?
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (5 March 2009):
 You can't. You can not (and should not) make her anything that she is not comfortable with. It is called respect, and caring about her feelings.
You are doing fine right now, why mess it up? You know that is what you are going find yourself in, in a hole, if/when you messed it up, right?
So here's my suggestions:
(1) the next school break/holidays (before summer) , if it is a week or a bit more, fly out and visit her.
(2) when you meet her in a couple of times, ask if she would try a "phone sex" or "cyber sex" with you, with you and her in separate rooms (for instance, she in her bedroom and you in the living room)
(3) if after she tried, she still did not like it, then I'm afraid it is back to you going solo again
You are a fine man if you can continue to respect her :-)
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (5 March 2009):
 Allright allright I like your style....I dentify your options and go for one!
You and I both know the right option!! You cant cheat on her...that would F your life up. Bad Karma. So what you gotta do is...draw out her sexual goddess! Yeah thats right, you have to make sure she knows that she is super hot, and you are super hot for her! You have to call her and beg her on the phone telling her how much you want her and how you love her...and then tell her that your going to guide her through the process of a really invigorating experience...You gotta take the reigns here brother and guide her through it. Start slow, and help her out along the way, constantly affirming how amazing she is and how turned on you are!!!
If she doesnt wanna help you out, its better just to break up with her. Long distance relationships are pretty much not relationships at all. It has nothing to do with sex. Its all about timing bro. Your young. Break up BEFORE you have sex with another girl.
PEACE
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