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Lmichelle
writes:Hello everyone,I am 22 and I have a 16 month old baby. I am with my baby's father almost 3 years. I love him so much. But he is always leaving me home with the baby and going out and partying and drinking all the time. That is not the kind of life I want for my son. He is very controling. He never listens to anything I have to say. When he ask whats wrong and I try to tell him he flips out so I can never talk to him. I cry all the time.I am very depressed on alot of meds. I love him so much, but he is much different day to day anymore.I feel my life is to short, but I dont know what to do. I have no friends. No where to go. I left last night but ended up coming back because I had no where else to go. He knows that to. Can anyone help me? I am so lonely.
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reader, ariel  +, writes (17 November 2007):
I am sorry you are having such a hard time,when its suppose to be a happy time.I don't think leaving him will solve any issues.You say you are depressed and on a lot of meds,it sounds like your poor man does not know how to handle what is happening at the moment.Hence his flight reaction of going out and having fun.Maybe the reason he flips is because of the way you respond to his "whats wrong" question.
You say you are lonely,are there any mums a tots groups you can join or any groups of interest to you.Sitting at home crying is only going to make you feel worse.You seem to have lost yourself.What were you like before? and when did you become depressed? and When did your man change?
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (16 November 2007):
 The guy must listen to you and work with you or else how will you be able to effectively raise your child? You must be strong and be reasonable with your expectations for what you need him to do as a parent. If he decides to not be a reasonable parent then you should not be with him, because his influence will hurt you, which will in turn hurt the child.
Its hard for guys to change.
Clearly lay out what it is you want him to do...dont be idealistic, be reasonable. This is his child too and his life...he has a right to live how he wants and parent how he wants.
The question really comes down to you and him unfortunately. He can raise his child however he wants, but if you arent happy in the relationship you must be honest and tell him then take action.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): listen honey...just leave him and stop being an emotional wreck. you deserve better and don't let him walk all over you like this. you've got a life to live as well. dont put yourself down for him i love you
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