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writes:Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up a while ago. We've been separated for the past 6 months due to job relocation. He's back. We've seen each other. I haven't gotten over him. I can't tell if he's gotten over me but I do know he doesn't want to get back together.He told me he'll always want me near him and around him despite not wanting to get back together. He told me he's still attracted to me and loves me but doesn't want to get back together.It's obvious he has some feelings on some level. Does any one know how I can "channel" these feelings into getting him to look at me or the situation differently? Listen to what he says yet he doesn't want to get back together. How can I guide those feelings into us getting back together?Any helpful suggestions, please.Please don't reply if you're going to tell me to give it up. I know what I'm up against and I hear what he's saying but if anyone has any suggestions on how to go about this situation to get him thinking, I'd love to hear!!Thank you!!
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reader, applebite8821 +, writes (3 January 2010):
 I totally agree with Emily. Those are the exact words I'd say too.
If you want him back, it's either he will want to get back or you're gone. Don't give him what he wants from you. Make him commit before you give anything. If not, leave.
I know this so hard to do, I have been in this situation too. But that is the only way he can realize your value to his life.
Be prepared for his answer and be strong.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 January 2010):
If you get into the friends zone or ever WORSE the friends with benefits zone then you will never get him back.
He'll have everything he wants from you so why commit when it's simpler to just keep things as they are.
If you want him back then tell him how you feel and tell him you can't be his friend as you will always want more.
Tell him to call you if he ever changes his mind, but if he doesn't want to be with you then he needs to leave you alone.
If he's faced with losing you then he MIGHT come to his senses and give things a go. If he doesn't then you know you don't have a chance and can move on in peace.
Good Luck!! xx
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