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How do I not jeopardize our friendship?

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Question - (26 December 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 5 January 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

ok so ever since my friend and i got drunk, i've started to have feelings for her. we've gone as far as fingering each other, but we were both drunk when we did it. my trouble is i don't know if i should tell her i'm starting to have feelings for her, because we've been friends since the beginning of high school i really don't want to jepordize our friendship. on the other hand i've told her that i want to have sex w/ her, and she says she's all for it, but i don't know if she's saying that because she really wants to or because she think's i'm joking around. as mean as this sounds i don't want to be in a relationship with her, because romatically speaking we're almost complete opposites, and i don't want either of us to get hurt. So in the end, my question is should i go after her, even though it might jepordize my friendship with her or should i just try to move on?

(the feelings i have for her are pretty strong. everyime she talks about someone else iget really jealous and i think she's noticed)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010):

i would hold off for someone you really want to be in a relationship with. your basing your feelings completely sexually.

i would say move on, find a girl you really love and have sex with her not just your friend you got drunk with.

you might be great friends but sex with her could ruin everything honestly, just stay friends.

And if she is just saying sure why not! then i would definately not give it a shot cause she doesnt really care either way. i think you should try to move on it would be the best thing for you.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (30 December 2009):

Yeah, but I'm into a lot of sex, until I meet someone I like and then I am romantic because I actually LIKE that person.

It's worth asking how she feels about it and if she'd be willing to take a chance.

If she says no and it gets a bit awkward then you can take a bit of time to get over her and then be friends again after that.

If you try and stay close with her you'll not get over her.

Good Luck!! xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009):

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romatically complete opposites. she's into a lot of sex with as many people as she can and i'm more of a romantic

thanks for the advice though :)...really :)

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2009):

So if you are complete opposites, why are you such good friends?

It seems to me that you have a good friendship and sexual attraction so you'd be great together!

Why not just go for it?

Good Luck!! xx

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